Oooo! Just decided to lurk this board tonight. I'm actually due at the end of August, but that BMB died about a month ago when everyone went to Facebook. They were sorta snotty and unnecessarily rude to newbies/lurkers, which rubbed me the wrong way, so I didn't follow.
FTM, 27 weeks, 34 years old, hope yall don't mind me crashing!
The only reason we’re doing the 18 months is because financially we can’t do daycare until the second kid is cheaper. Plus I’m super nervous about daycare to begin with. I think most of the people I know ended up being SAHMs, so they aren’t much help either. And if this pregnancy is any indication of how tired I’ll be with two kids, I don’t think this night gig is going to work out after anyways. I might just end up going back to dairy farms, but I have some time to sort that all out yet.
@rachel1008 hello, and welcome to likely the chillest of BMBs. I was sometimes lurking on the August board and was shocked that they all went to Facebook so early. Feel free to jump right in!
@rachel1008 Hi there from a former August lurker. My edd is 9/2 so I was on the fence about which board to join when I joined TB in early January. I did like this board more. Like Erin said, just jump right in and make yourself at home. Looking forward to getting to know you.
Thank you, ladies!!! It was an odd vibe there. I was never a target of any of the rudeness, but if an infrequent poster had an unpopular opinion or asked what they considered a dumb question or spoke out of turn, they were all like, "Who are you?!" I'm assuming raging hormones, lol. You all seem super welcoming and knowledgeable. I'm adopting yall!
Thank you, ladies!!! It was an odd vibe there. I was never a target of any of the rudeness, but if an infrequent poster had an unpopular opinion or asked what they considered a dumb question or spoke out of turn, they were all like, "Who are you?!" I'm assuming raging hormones, lol. You all seem super welcoming and knowledgeable. I'm adopting yall!
We can get pretty "who are you" ish as well. I think it depends on the nature of the post really. One offs can get flamed pretty hard (we don't like being used as a Dear Diary or Google service either) but everyone, newbies, lurkers, whomever are welcome and strongly encouraged to join us and jump in on ongoing threads! So join us! Jump in! The more the merrier!
Hi all! I feel like my work life is a whirlwind right now, so I come and go. Sometimes I log on and see really long posts and get overwhelmed. But I'm here and will try to jump in as much as I can.
@Wishilivedinflorida Well you can have babies as close together up here as ya want but you have to worked a certain number of hours ( about 7-9 months worth I think ) in order to get the government maternity benefits. Most people I know usually come back for a year ish in between kids. @mrsman2018 2 years! aww that's rough. Wait lists here arn't too bad in my area, about a year.
Me: 34 DH:33 TTC since Oct 2016 DX: Undetermined possible PCOS+MFI July 2017-Dec 2017 Letrozole+TI Dec 2017 CP Jan 2018 BFP:EDD 9-25
@Wishilivedinflorida it depends a little on your delivery. I don't remember for sure but I think my RE said to wait till 6 mos PP if vaginal, or 9-12 months PP if delivered via c-section. But. You also need to be done *breastfeeding... :/ So I'm hoping BF will work out well enough that I can nurse for a year, (or 6-9 mos with a good freezer stash?) and reassess. I don't really think nursing through 18 mos is crazy if it works out, but then I start to feel like the longer we wait between transfers, the harder it's going to be to actually transfer all five we have remaining.
That is seriously the primary reason I would try to go back / stay working either F/PT, to keep our IVF coverage. :/ I mean with 5 embies, we're talking a good $6,000 OOP per transfer, plus x no. years of storage fees... I'd be getting the lion's share of that covered, plus the actual income. So I mean, a part of me feels like even if it's not ideally what I would have chosen for our family, not much about our journey to bebé would we have chosen. Sigh. So we'll see what happens.
@BusinessWife That's hard for sure. I didn't realize you had to stop nursing to do another transfer. I wasn't thinking about the hormones, though, just the idea that nursing while pregnant is generally OK.
Sticking with your job for coverage for that makes a ton of sense to me! Now here's to hoping that it will be clear to you guys when it is the right time to start for number 2.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@BusinessWife Hopefully it'll fall into place. Like little things will help you decide what pace feels right for your family. Great breastfeeding relationship? Then longer been transfers will be the right fit. Finish breastfeeding early or just don't ever like it so forget it or get an amazing freezer stash built up quickly? Quicker transfer turn around time. I know with my kiddo a lot of things just kinda worked themselves out to be the way they were going to be and none of it was what I would have planned on paper but it felt right when it actually happened.
Re-intro...my name is Megan...I’m from Louisiana. I have 2 girls ages 6.5 and just turned 2, with #3 due 9/2. I’m hardly ever on to post because I feel like I’m busy with work, momming, or just life in general, so I try to hop on here when I can and catch up. I’m pretty much an open book, so I tend to just spew out anything if someone asks.
Thanks guys @stothi @pourmeamocktail ❤ Yeah, for the time being, I'm trying not to stress about it, trust the process etc., that it will all work out just the way it's supposed to. ;) I guess it does bum me out tho, that we have to include in our long-term family planning such an enormous albatross. Grateful that so far it's worked!!!! Don't get me wrong. So maybe we can just focus on that. When (and if) we are lucky enough to have our second successful transfer, that means being blessed with a second beautiful baby, that would not have otherwise been possible At. All!!! So I mean, it really is miraculous. And also a profound niusance. Lol
I’m great. Trucking along. Shit’s getting real when I realized the other day that I only have 7 (working) weeks of work left.....I work 7 on/7 off. No more trips to early labor evaluation....knock on wood!
Hi! I'm usually just a lurker but thought I'd introduce myself. 28 years old, married 3+ years, Occupational Therapist, FTM, waiting until the arrival of my sweet baby to find out the gender, currently 24 weeks along, due 9/14. So excited! Nice to meet and learn from all of you.
Wow... just lurking August makes me sad. It's like a ghost town over there, plus drivebys and maybe a few last holdouts? :/ but no more ticker changes for weeks, or randoms. Just the high-risk check-in thread. Unreal.
Eh, my previous BMB had a bump “secret” group and then moved from that to fb by month 5. We weeded out a lot of people with each migration. It just depends on the group of ladies.
@BusinessWife Ugh Mobile...so much for notifications this weekend. But just wanted to say that I hope you find whatever method works for your family. But I completely understand wanting those benefits...the whole process is so damn expensive and it’s so rare to have so much of that covered! I’m a little surprised they want you to be done breastfeeding, but I’m sure they have their reasons. I mean, this pregnancy dried me up so fiercely that DS self-weaned before a year, and I was not prepared for that. Maybe its to ensure the last kiddo has had their “full run” of breastfeeding nutrition before possibly cutting them off substantially? Anyhow, I know you’ll figure out what works for your family. Everything’s always a balance, right?
I was a hardcore August lurker because of my early September EDD and it seems like they all jumped to FB when the app got super glitchy that one time. It is so sad. And kind of strange given I believe they had someone outright admit they post under an AI and weren’t even pregnant. Scary stuff.
Oh wow! @Wishilivedinflorida that is so creepy about the rando! :# very weird... as for transfer, I'm not entirely sure, but I'm pretty sure it's just related to BF hormones (prolactin) potentially inhibiting transfer. They go to a lot of trouble to have you inject the progesterone, plus I took oral estrogen, and my transfer protocol was very simple. Some women take all kinds of other drugs to prevent an immune response, prevent inflammation etc. So I think they just want to give your body chemistry the best chance possible.
I lurked August a lot/participated some too since I appreciated the high risk post when we were first dx. However, there were a few personalities on there that reminded me of the drama-creators of my F17 BMB. F17 migrated to FB with about 60 of us a month before delivery, and managed to stay together until Decemberish when 45 of us broke off to get rid of a few of those drama-creators. It wasn't so bad (and was mildly entertaining) when they'd flame drive-bys and randos on TB, but it wasn't so fun when they started flaming our own girls on FB.
Hello again! I’m Brie and I live in Evans, GA. I’m a stay at home mom to three boys (4 yrs, 3 yrs and 20 months). I’m also a nurse but put that to the side (keeping up my license) for later. We found out we are adding a little girl (Caroline) to our family and I am scheduled for a c section on September 17! I would love to be more active I just haven’t found my niche yet. Maybe I’m old (only 33 haha) but I have a hard time maneuvering this site!!!) would love to get to know some other mamas.
i joined a May 2014 mama group here on the bump and we all became rly close - I still keep up with a lot of them, and would love to meet some new awesome mamas!
Hello Everyone, I'm from the October board. I'm due mid-October. So, I lurk on yours in case I'm due in September plus to pass boredom. So far, pregnancy is smooth no bad symptoms . Best of luck to all.
Hi!! I'm a FTM and I'm 31 yrs old in Atlanta area. I am a teacher so I'm happy to have the summer off now. My mom says I complain too much but she asks how I'm feeling and I tell her. Lol. I have numb fingers, bloating, rapid, strong heart beat that I can now hear in my left ear. Lol. I haven't had too much morning sickness so I guess I'm trading off. For about a week now I've been able to definitely feel baby and it is sooo cool! Oh yeah my Dr says Ive been gaining a lot. Smh. I'm looking for someone who can watch my LO in their home. I meet with a highly recommended amd certified lady next week. Hopefully she's a match. I hope everyone's pregnancy is going well.
Hi everyone, not sure if you remember me. I stopped posting around Jan/Feb when my mom and I got into a fight and she tried to choke me out because my kid’s dad claimed them on his taxes. I had to move into an extended stay hotel with him, and left him last Friday to go to a domestic violence shelter. He has been violent with me before in front of our older kids (who are currently living with his mom due to a previous fight I had with my mom).
My life is such a mess. I don’t know how it got like this. My mom and I are trying to work out our issues (she’s a completely different person when she drinks) so that the kids and I can move back to her house. I can not afford a place on my own. She’s been in counseling and I can tell it’s helping. We are going to start going together. My case worker with CPS is the one who suggested it, as the kids’ dad isn’t really taking initiative to do his court ordered counseling to get them back with us. Our next court date is two days before my scheduled c section.
Sorry for the word vomit. I feel so alone and I miss my kids’ dad and I hate myself for it. Every day is so hard. I miss my babies so much. My son graduates pre K Tuesday, and it breaks my heart that I’ve missed so much time with them (they’ve been with MIL since October). I feel like I don’t even know them anymore
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I do a lot of lurking but I've been trying to post more on the threads and get more involved because I do believe this helps me with all my questions. You ladies are awesome! As a FTM I've been trying to take all the information I can in and it can be overwhelming...
@smsaulino I too am looking into being a full time SAHM and I'm excited to be able to stay at home with my girl. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I would like to know if any of you ladies that are SAHM do anything on the side to make some extra money? H and I have been talking about starting to sell tea blends that I can make from herbs and different plants that I grow at home but it's still in the design process.
Thought I’d join in too. I’ve been here from the start but my participation has been spotty to say the least. I have been doing better these last few weeks now that I’m finishing my training / will be changing jobs for a significantly better lifestyle after baby. Anyway, I’m a 30 yo 4th time mom. I have two girls who are 7 and 5 and then a 1.5 year old boy, expecting boy #2. I am going to be undergoing a huge life change as I go from working 65-80 hours a week to just 20 so I’m hoping you guys will keep me!
DD1 6.2011 DD2 4.2013 - vbac DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green Baby #4 due 9.2018
Hello beautiful pregnant ladies! I've been lurking mostly so far. I am pregnant with #6 and due September 12th. My last two babies were about a week late, so I am curious to see what this little one does. I'm seeing midwives and planning a hospital birth. My other kids are 10, 8, 7, 4, and 2. Looking forward to getting to know you and reading your birth stories!!!
Hi! New to this BMB! I’m due Sept 21 with my second (a girl). I haven’t really lurked at all but just jumping in now, or trying to because the bump app sucks.
Re: Hello Lurkers and Newbies! Come say hi!
FTM, 27 weeks, 34 years old, hope yall don't mind me crashing!
The only reason we’re doing the 18 months is because financially we can’t do daycare until the second kid is cheaper. Plus I’m super nervous about daycare to begin with. I think most of the people I know ended up being SAHMs, so they aren’t much help either. And if this pregnancy is any indication of how tired I’ll be with two kids, I don’t think this night gig is going to work out after anyways. I might just end up going back to dairy farms, but I have some time to sort that all out yet.
So join us! Jump in! The more the merrier!
@mrsman2018 2 years! aww that's rough. Wait lists here arn't too bad in my area, about a year.
TTC since Oct 2016
DX: Undetermined possible PCOS+MFI
July 2017-Dec 2017 Letrozole+TI
Dec 2017 CP
Jan 2018 BFP:EDD 9-25
That is seriously the primary reason I would try to go back / stay working either F/PT, to keep our IVF coverage. :/ I mean with 5 embies, we're talking a good $6,000 OOP per transfer, plus x no. years of storage fees... I'd be getting the lion's share of that covered, plus the actual income. So I mean, a part of me feels like even if it's not ideally what I would have chosen for our family, not much about our journey to bebé would we have chosen. Sigh. So we'll see what happens.
Sticking with your job for coverage for that makes a ton of sense to me! Now here's to hoping that it will be clear to you guys when it is the right time to start for number 2.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
BFP#1: 11/15/2010 * Missed M/C 12/28 * D&C 12/29/2010
BFP#5 12/26/2017 *SURPRISE* Due 09/02/2018
ETA @megnwingate. Hey! How've you been???
I miss catching up with everyone here.
BFP#1: 11/15/2010 * Missed M/C 12/28 * D&C 12/29/2010
BFP#5 12/26/2017 *SURPRISE* Due 09/02/2018
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
I was a hardcore August lurker because of my early September EDD and it seems like they all jumped to FB when the app got super glitchy that one time. It is so sad. And kind of strange given I believe they had someone outright admit they post under an AI and weren’t even pregnant. Scary stuff.
https://www.yourivfjourney.com/what-is-prolactin-and-how-does-it-affect-ivf/
https://www.olivefertility.com/blog/breastfeeding-and-ivf
i joined a May 2014 mama group here on the bump and we all became rly close - I still keep up with a lot of them, and would love to meet some new awesome mamas!
TTC since Oct 2016
DX: Undetermined possible PCOS+MFI
July 2017-Dec 2017 Letrozole+TI
Dec 2017 CP
Jan 2018 BFP:EDD 9-25
I'm from the October board. I'm due mid-October. So, I lurk on yours in case I'm due in September plus to pass boredom. So far, pregnancy is smooth no bad symptoms . Best of luck to all.
My life is such a mess. I don’t know how it got like this. My mom and I are trying to work out our issues (she’s a completely different person when she drinks) so that the kids and I can move back to her house. I can not afford a place on my own. She’s been in counseling and I can tell it’s helping. We are going to start going together. My case worker with CPS is the one who suggested it, as the kids’ dad isn’t really taking initiative to do his court ordered counseling to get them back with us. Our next court date is two days before my scheduled c section.
Sorry for the word vomit. I feel so alone and I miss my kids’ dad and I hate myself for it. Every day is so hard. I miss my babies so much. My son graduates pre K Tuesday, and it breaks my heart that I’ve missed so much time with them (they’ve been with MIL since October). I feel like I don’t even know them anymore
@smsaulino I too am looking into being a full time SAHM and I'm excited to be able to stay at home with my girl. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I would like to know if any of you ladies that are SAHM do anything on the side to make some extra money? H and I have been talking about starting to sell tea blends that I can make from herbs and different plants that I grow at home but it's still in the design process.
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018