Stabby Saturday

knottieamusements

knottieamusements

Stabby at the Bump for making me do math on a Saturday morning.  I woke up to this tidbit:



Intuitively, I knew it was wrong, but I had to sit down and calculate it.  Long hand.  Do you know the last time I did division long hand?

The correct answer (assuming that “first day of week 4” means 4w1d) more like 21w6d.  

Damn you Bump.  Thousands of women the world over are incorrectly celebrating a halfway point!

(FYI - I’m 18w3d).

coffee-saur

Ugh I get grouchy when someone makes me do math! It was not my strong point in school. 
I really, really, need to give my cat a haircut. It's not really the easiest thing to do in the world and I've been putting it off for weeks already. We've had really nice days lately, and she's starting to get knots in her fur, so I need to bite the bullet and do it one of these days!

chopchop25

Stabby that my hairstylist had a different date than I wrote down and it screwed up our plans for the day.
Woke up early to work out for, now, no reason, and then we were going to go for a breakfast date near the salon at my favorite coffee house, but no point in driving all the way downtown just for that. And now my hair is gross bc I showered without washing it, figuring he would in an hour. Stabby and now we have nothing fun planned for the day and I’m too cranky about it to even want to turn the day around. Now it’s just errands and maybe some work.
Also stabby bc I feel like a whale from all the crap I’ve been eating. But that’s on me.

DunkinDecaf

@knottieamusements also, I got my BFP at 3w4d sooo... get your facts straight, TB.

mytrueloves

So my stabbiness is actually from earlier in the week. I found out that my medicaid was cut suddenly and wasn't given a reason why. It was cut for both me and DD and I received no notice, no letter, no phone call, nothing explaining the decision. I found out because I called to check the status as I do at the beginning of every month so I can make sure we're all set for our appointments. Who cuts a pregnant person's medical care without explaining why or notifying them???

chopchop25

@mytrueloves I feel like that should be illegal. Anything you can do about it?

mytrueloves

@chopchop25 I decided to just reapply rather than try to get ahold of my worker, who is impossible to get ahold of. I got word back today that I was approved and have coverage until the end of my pregnancy. It ended up working out but I'm annoyed that I had to redo the process again for no reason. 

chopchop25

Glad to hear it is all worked out @mytrueloves! Sorry you had to deal with that, though

jwebbbber45678

Ugh, we just need universal health coverage, it's just terrible in this country!

I got the same strange daily fact today, pretty confusing and useless. Just wait until 20 weeks and say you're half way there! That makes sense up me. I did appreciate yesterday's fact, hamster baby! 

It's the first day in awhile I don't feel like garbage. We were thinking of bringing our 2 year old to Seaworld for the first time or the beach. Instead we spent the whole morning cleaning the dirty house. Booooo. I'm glad the house is clean now but I was looking forward to doing fun things again in the weekend.

mytrueloves

@jweber4747 I would be upset about spending one of my good days cleaning too!

jynjer4

I want to stab cinco de mayo in the face. I worked all day (waiting tables at a nice Mexican place) and ran my ass off. Our busiest day of the year so it was awful and tips were crappy. Not even nearly worth the exhaustion. Now I still have to go get groceries and cook dinner. All I want right now is a good margarita and my bed but I get neither!

purplegoldfish2

Me too @jynjer91 only for different reasons. I really didn’t anted enchiladas for dinner and because of the day, the employee that answered the phone was extremely rude and it was going to be at least an hour just for pick-up, so we didn’t get it.

Also stabby because MH leaves for that job that I didn’t want him to go to (because a guy died doing the same job at a different site) on Mother’s Day.  I’m feeling better about him going because he isn’t actually doing the job they thought he was - he is just overseeing it. The place also has some crazy ridiculous safety policies (such as everybody in the place wears fall protection, even if they stay on the ground all day, because they might go on a ladder and would need it for that). His flight leaves at 8am Sunday.  Happy Mother’s Day to me! 

coffee-saur

Oh snap! Is it Mother's day tomorrow??
ETA: phew! It's next week.. It's not a big deal to me, but I'd want to do something for my mom. 

sammierose464

@purplegoldfish2 it sucks that he's still going, but hopefully the role he has is safer! 

krzyriver

I was so stabby yesterday! It was Es prom. *I’m* the one who took him to get fitted for his tux and paid for it. *I* helped him get ready. His mom came for pictures and she had a fit that I was taking pictures of him while she was setting up shots. 

E got annoyed and asked why he had to take so many more pictures than the other kids. I said “Becuase you’ve got two moms who want pictures. Shut up and smile.” She GLARED at me. Seriously lady? He’s got two dads too, I say it all the time.

Then she wanted to pose for a picture with E and my H. My H looked like a deer in headlights. He did NOT want to take a pic just the three of them. He thought it was super inappropriate since they’re both married now. But we brushed that one off by saying that it’s for E.  

Then her and E had their arms around each other while we all walked to the party bus. It was sweet and I snapped a pic for E. She was PISSED that I took a picture of her ass. She went on and on about it. I was done trying with her at that point. I wanted a shot from my nieces flask SO bad. 

sammierose464

What a piece of work! 

mytrueloves

@krzyriver I admire your patience. I can't imagine being that jealous and petty.

knottieamusements

@krzyriver - Wow.  Way for her to make the evening all about herself.  That would make me stabby too.  

cjx95

@krzyriver I hope E enjoys prom! It's too bad his mom made such a big deal about pictures and everything you were doing. She's definitely jealous which is crazy. I hope you got some nice pictures with E as well!! 

krzyriver

I really thought I was immune to her, but man she made me mad last night. Step parenting sucks sometimes y’all. 

krzyriver

@mamabearcj He had a blast!! I’m so glad becuase he never goes out with friends or does stuff at school. They were out allllll night.

sammierose464

krzyriver said:

I really thought I was immune to her, but man she made me mad last night. Step parenting sucks sometimes y’all. 

Yes it does. I would have been so ticked. And in the end it's just bad for E.

mamab723

Stabby at the random lurkers/newbies who don't read the welcome thread and proceed to post threads of their sonograms, old wives tales, etc. Just seems like it has gotten worse over the last few days. Totally grinds my gears. 

tlmill

Stabby because DS has pinkeye, I have laryngitis (and the majority of my job requires that I talk on the phone so tomorrow will be fun) and DD just spiked a fever.  Oh, and I told DH that he'll have to stay home with DD tomorrow if she's still sick (because she can't go to daycare with a fever) and he said he can't miss work.  Even though I took off work two weeks ago when DS had a stomach bug and left early this past Friday to take him to the doctor for pinkeye.  

nmadjeski

@krzyriver I'm glad E had a good time and I'm sorry she acted so immature on what should have been a fun time for all of you. Clearly she's jealous and it is only going to make it hard on E. Being a step parent an be is so hard sometimes!

She sounds a lot like my SO ex wife. Even after all the time we've been together (almost 9 years now) and her being remarried for almost 4 of them you'd think she'd stop with the petty nonsense. But nope. Their kids are all grown and she STILL has stuff to say. We do our best to ignore it, but sometimes she can really get under my skin! 

@tlmill I hope you guys all feel better soon!

cjx95

Stabby because DH suddenly has an opinion on the one part of this pregnancy I wouldn't have asked.. 
We were talking about our friends whose due in 2 weeks, and I asked if she was having a c-section and he said she wanted to have an all natural labor "which is so dumb" curious I asked why he thought that and he says he thinks it's dumb not to get an epidural. So I said I didn't plan on getting one and the look I just got. He proceeds to sat I'll regret it and it's a huge mistake and this and that. I said I forgot he had his doctorate and that it was my choice but I'd be happy to discuss it. So of course he's in a grumpy mood because he thinks he's right and that's that. He based all this off of a few friends and coworkers opinions.... 

coffee-saur

Ah bummer @tlmill! Hope you all get better soon! 
@mamabearcj grrr! That makes me so stabby when DH does that! Just says nope, end of discussion... Oooook... Can we at least talk about it?? You know, come to an agreement, or something?? 

rabtaido1214

@mamabearcj argh! That would frustrate me too. I’ve been in plenty of similar situations with my DH on unrelated topics where we just don’t see eye to and and he just doesn’t communicate well. It’s possible your DH is just unable to contemplate seeing you in pain and can’t understand why you would want to go that route. My DH is so squeamish about blood and pain that we haven’t even talked about delivery yet lol. Even though I’m the worst at understanding the background into some of my own DH’s opinions, I’m guessing something deep down behind his opinion is based off fear of seeing you in pain. Obviously you have every right to choose how you want your birth plan, but maybe having that in mind can help you with an approach to the next discussion about it. Good luck, hopefully a new day and several more months to go will give you both more patience to discuss again!

jynjer4

@mamabearcj I decided and announced to everyone that would have an opinion that I was the only person pushing this baby out of my vagina so I would do it however and wherever I pleased! So far nobody has dared argue...

DunkinDecaf

@mamabearcj yeah your DH is making me slap happy, and I’m as pro-epidural as can be. To quote the great Jennifer Aniston..

cjx95

Thanks ladies! We just dropped it last night but if it comes up again I'll have him come to my next appointment and we can talk pros and cons with my Dr and make a better decision from there. But essentially I agree with the gif. No uterus no opinion! Lol

knottieamusements

@mamabearcj - late to the party, but yeah- not his choice.  I think it is worth taking the time to discuss (as long as it is a discussion, and not a one sided lecture) so he is comfortable with your choice, but it is your choice.  

It might also be worth having him read some of the experiences and reasons why women choose to not have an epidural.  

cjx95

@knottieamusements I am going to look up some people's bad experiences and if any of them had lasting affects. I think he just sees it as a pain blocker and doesn't realize how much can possibly go wrong, granted they could go fine. But we both need to be better educated for sure on it, though it will be my choice in the end

sammierose464

@mamabearcj I would tell him you are willing to discuss his concerns. I'd come prepared with all of the reasons you're against it. And in the end, sorry but you're the one pushing this baby out. 

I told my DH last night I wasn't planning on having an epidural. He basically told me it was whatever I wanted.

mytrueloves

@mamabearcj You can tell him how even a completely normal epidural delivery with no complications comes with side effects. The back pain from my epidural was the worst part of my recovery, even more than my episiotomy. 

krzyriver

@mamabearcj I am fairly pro-epidural and had a perfectly fine experience with it... but I can totally understand someone not wanting it. I wish I could have gone without during Z's delivery. I was so miserable and the epidural just pushed me into this totally groggy, fuzzy state. I barely remember giving birth to him or holding him for the first time. I'm trying to be realistic about my pain tolerance for #3's delivery, but I really hope I can go without this time because I will be crushed if I have a similar experience with my last child.

cjx95

Yes! I plan on having a list of side effects, and as many possible outcomes I can find! If it comes up again anytime soon which I doubt it will I want to be prepared! Thanks ladies

SweetSweetTooth

I am no epidural but since our child is involved I want to hear what my husband thinks. While yes my body and uterus is involved it is also his child as well. Mutual decision in my book, though I think DH thinks my opinion has a bit more weight as my body is involved in the process. Can of worms here... not trying to start things! really! Circumcision... will be a mutual decision if we have a boy... we still need to hash this out. While DH has the parts himself it is still a mutual decision for our child and again, DH opinion will probably have a bit more weight into the decision as he has the parts and 'deals' with it. 

cjx95

@SweetSweetTooth I agree it should be a mutual decision, especially a circumcision because I don't have those parts I can't fully make that choice. And DHs input will be greatly appreciated there.

pajamstagrams

@SweetSweetTooth @mamabearcj ohhh the circumcision decision...it's part of the reason I'm hoping this one is a girl, so I can put off having to make that choice (stupid, I know). But most likely I will let DH's opinion weigh more, because I don't have a penis.