Second Time Mom Check In - w/o 5.2

maureenmce

Hey STMs! Are you hanging in there? One day closer to the end of first trimester! (I literally need to remind myself of that every day, haha.)

Anyway, let's check in! Here are some questions (hopefully these aren't repeats) but feel free to talk about whatever you want too!

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?

maureenmce

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?
9 weeks and 1 day! My DD turned 2 in early Feb.

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
OH MY GOD. This is why I selfishly started this check in - is anyone else dealing with 2 year molar teething? Or have you dealt with it in the past? Can you tell me how long it lasts? Because I am d-y-i-n-g over here. It started Tuesday and I have been up with DD between 2 and 5 hours every night since. And the nausea at night is awful when I'm awake, so it's been really, really tough. I just need to know roughly how long I'll have to deal with this because between this and my 11 hour work days I am struggling. (Also, in a normal world, I would have my husband take these wakeups, but if my DD is actually sick or in pain she will NOT allow dad to get her back to bed, it is mama only and she will *scream* for me until I come get her, so that's not an option, sadly.)

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
Nope! She's still pretty little, I think I'm going to tell her once I actually have at least a little bit of a belly and maybe get her some books to explain it. Her best friend is getting a sibling in June, so I think that'll help make things click, so maybe I'll time it around then.

wickedtiny

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?
6w5d.  My daughters are 7 and almost 11.

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
Not really; my LOs are doing fine.  They're older and in school all day so it's not like I am chasing toddlers around. haha  

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
Not yet.  We're thinking some time after 12w, once we have NPIT results and are prepared to tell everyone else. 

kristah2

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?
9+3 today. 1 DS who is 18 mths. 
2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
DS is going well. He's currently testing boundaries by refusing certain food and screaming for other things he likes better and it's driving me batty. between 5:30-7:30 is a nightmare. But morning times he's so cute and makes it worth it. He stayed at my moms last night so I'm looking forward to seeing him this afternoon!
3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
He's too young to really understand so we talk about it openly but there's not really any telling as such. 

texas_t

@maureenmce Molars are rough! We had a patch where I wasn't sure why he was in such terrible mood, then I realized it was molars.  Tylenol or Advil were the only things that helped! I think it was about a week and half?

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? They are 9 weeks 3 days.  I have one son who is 2 years 8 months

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? My kid is adorable  He's been having a rough time in the morning at daycare drop off and been crying when I leave.  It makes me sad

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to? I haven't told him yet! I think we plan to tell him when we go to San Francisco.

AGK2015

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? 9 weeks today. I've got one daughter, who just turned two last week; I've referred to her as "Nugget" here repeatedly, but that's also her nickname at home (in fact, she wavers between calling herself her actual name and referring to herself as Nugget). "DD" just seems too cutesy to describe her stubborn, hilarious, adventure-loving self.

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? We just started back up with train/bus/walking home from daycare, which has helped a little bit with her over-the-top energy levels. I felt like I needed to up my activity level a bit now that I'm knocked up (I've been all but sedentary all winter), so it's perfect timing. 

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when do you plan to? We told her pretty much off the bat, but I'm not sure whether she really understands yet. She likes to talk about Mommy's "baby stomach" but doesn't seem to understand that there's actually going to be a legit baby in the house in a few months. We'll get there. She's still a bit small for abstract concepts like that, and we have time.

maureenmce

@texas_t Okay, a week and a half I can handle! Yeah, we've been doing motrin and tylenol but as soon as it wears off she's screaming. But my husband's cousin was saying if she's in that much pain (literally yelling "MY MOUTH HURTS") it means we're close, so hopefully it's nearly done! (Please god, lol.)

gorgeousariel

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? 4+6. My daughter will be 2 on the 11th. 

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
She just came out of a leap. Thank goodness! 

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to? I told her mommy is going to have a baby and she said "no". I'm not worried as I don't think she fully understands. 

mckcak23

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? Who knows. I think we are going with 6+3 now but we have our next dating ultrasound on 5/7/2018. I have a son who will be 2 at the beginning of June. 

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? He is doing so well. He is SUPER independent which is really helpful. Last night when I got home late I brought him a treat and he was sitting at the table eating it when he got up and started to go outside. I was like hey dude where ya going? He just kept going (because hello mom, dont bother me), went outside and got his water from where he left it, came back in, closed the door and got back into his chair to finish his treat. Oh, ok kid, do whatcha gotta do I guess. 

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to? He has no concept. I have been trying for weeks to get him to point at my stomach and say baby because I think that would be cute for my parents but he just stares at me like I have issues (i do). This morning I got all excited because I walked into his room to get him dressed and he was saying baby over and over but it turns out there was a photo of boss baby up. 

runrinserepeat

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?
Today would be 8w 2d, I think. We've got 2 other kids, DD is 6, and DS is 3. 

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
DD lost her second tooth last night, so the tooth fairy came. I freaking hate teeth. Blech. 

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
The kids won't be able to keep a secret, and since I'm not ready to tell family yet we haven't told them. DS did ask out of the blue this morning, "are we getting a baby?". He has never asked anything like that before, and DH and I are careful not to discuss the pregnancy around them. It kind of freaked me out. 

Jens_Hoes

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? 9 weeks 3 days today; my daughter is 11 months on Sunday

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? It is just exhausting to keep up with her. She is crawling all over the place and wants to walk around so I get happy when it is bedtime, which I then feel guilty about because I only see her for 2 hours a day during the week. 

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to? Considering she'll be 18 months when this baby is born, she won't understand a thing... so we're not saying anything to her specifically lol

@maureenmce is it possible to give her medication while she is sleeping before it is supposed to wear off? Like would doing that wake her up too much?

maureenmce

@Jens_Hoes I think our problem is that we're waiting *until* she wakes up in pain to give her medicine. By the time she's in so much pain she's awake and screaming, she also has to wait for the medicine to kick in, and then fall back to sleep and I think that's what's not going well. I think we need to preemptively give her the medicine at bedtime and then have a dose of tylenol prepped in case she wakes in the night when it wears off. I think I should have realized this earlier, lol, but I have not been sleeping (clearly) and I don't think my brain is properly working, haha.

mckcak23

@maureenmce my dr. is a big fan of Motrin for teeth because it supposedly decreased inflammation as well as reducing pain so that ideally by reducing the inflammation the teeth will break through faster? I have no clue if that is true but that what I was told. 

Jens_Hoes

@maureenmce maybe see if you can squirt a syringe full of ibuprofin in her mouth while she's sleeping before it wears off    I have also heard similarly to @mckcak23 that ibuprofin is better for teething pain, and it also lasts 6 hours instead of 4.

Whitmore1027

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? I am 4w2d and my DS is 20 months old.

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? I gotta say, I am SUPER nervous for this pregnancy and chasing a toddler around. I am happy for the exercise that I didn't get my first pregnancy haha, but I also had a super rough first pregnancy, so I am super worried. I had to go on modified best rest at 30 weeks due to irritable uterus, and I am just scared that life is going to get super hard once all the bad symptoms hit. I am really hoping this pregnancy will be completely different and I will be able to handle it. DS is doing awesome. He is so freaking smart, he loves everyone and is always sooo happy. Hopefully since he is so easy going, and sleeps amazingly that this will make it easier on me.

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to? I have told him, but of course he doesn't really understand. We keep telling him "Your going to be a big brother!". And he repeats "baby" anytime we say it, and he points out pictures of babies.

CecilB93

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?
8 weeks today, DS turned 2 at the end of Feb

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
I don't think so? I just can't believe how grown up DS is in general! We probably do need to get him potty trained before this one is born, but we're not pushing him and he doesn't ever tell us until after he goes, so idk that he's truly ready yet.

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
Yea, I've tried but idk if he understands. Or maybe he does. But he keeps saying, "no baby" or "no baby brother/sister" so...yea...he does cry if I'm holding another kid so I'm feeling a little nervous about having another, but hoping he'll come around to the idea!

runrinserepeat

Two-ish must be the age to start thinking of having another, it seems! 

texas_t

@maureenmce Yeah, If it's that bad, I'd consider waking her up and giving it to her.  Poor thing

snugglyduckling25

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? 7 weeks today.  I have a son who will be 9 at the end of this month and 6 year old identical twin boys

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? I'm so proud of all of my kiddos right now.  Friday DS 1 has a student of the month breakfast at school.  My 6 year olds are finishing up Kindergarten and the growth in their reading is amazing!

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to? We told them about a week and a half ago, they are all excited.  My middle son is the most interested.  Every day he takes my phone, opens the pregnancy app and asks what "Snuggles" (the name he has given the baby) is doing today and I read him the developments. 

maureenmce

@snugglyduckling25 Omg, your son calls the baby Snuggles??? I'm gonna die from the cute overload. That is so sweet.

trucksntutus

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? 
I am 5 weeks ish. My first appt is next week so I'll have a more accurate date to go off of after my first visit. But my own calculations I'm about 5 weeks and change. 

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? 
My DD is almost 2, and fiercely independent and wants to do everything herself, which is nice in some ways but awful in others. She's overall doing great! Getting her molars finally as she took forever to get any teeth.

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to? 
YES! Not that she actually understands though. We tell her she's going to be a big sister and point to my belly and tell her there is a baby in there. She loves elephants; baby elephants to be specific. She wants to have her own baby elephant and I think she thinks that's what I'm having. Hahah. 


@texas_t  - my daughter would LOVE your siggy 

rosebud332

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?
7w5d. My little one is 14 months.

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
She’s doing great! Very independent. She’s learning a lot lately. She seems too be starting that “sponge” stage. She still won’t say mama though.
3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
She would pretty much understand zero of that conversation so probably not. She’ll be almost 2 when the baby is born so maybe close to the end?

@snugglyduckling25 I second your son calling the baby “Snuggles” is about the cutest thing ever.

@maureenmce Ack sorry about molars! Hope that pain is over with soon!

mamaabc

1. I’m 5w+3 and new around here so

The app keeps eating my post, so I give up.

texas_t

@rosebud332 Your LO is a little stinker!! Come onnnn, just say mama!

Gwyneddlesliegrace

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? 7w 2d (likely not accurate). I have 4 bio kids and a teenager who joined our family 4 years ago. Ages 17, 9, 6, 4, almost 2.

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? My kids are happy now that the weather is nice. They spent the morning in the mud. Glorious. 

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to? We have not. We won’t tell them for a bit, though I’m sure teenager knows. No clue how we’re going to tell them.

rosebud332

@mamaabc I’m sorry but your post made me giggle! If you are trying to use emojis from your phone that might be your problem. It only accepts the bump emojis and will eat your post if you try to use others.

snugglyduckling25

@maureenmce and @rosebud332 He does!  It's actually what he wants to call the baby for a real name since "it's a good boy or girl name". I told him we can call the baby Snuggles for now, but it will probably not be the real name, but I would take it into consideration.  

texas_t

@snugglyduckling25 I have a friend of the family who called baby "Biscuit" in utero. Guess who's still called biscuit and she's 4    Here comes Snuggles!

PensiveCrayon

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? 8 weeks today, 1 son who's about a week away from 16 months.

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? I have many rants. Where do I begin? In addition to my terrible day (I think I'll post the whole thing in WTF Wednesday) my son is currently 50 minutes into not taking his second nap, so that's awesome. He gets another 10 minutes or an early bedtime. (It's probably past time to transition to one nap, but he has PT at 1 p.m. three times a week. I need to switch that and get started on the one-nap thing.)

On a more positive note, this squeaky wheel got some grease re: his OT referral that was taking forever and a day to straighten out. The place finally called me today to let me know they'd gotten the correct thing from the pediatrician; his evaluation is tomorrow morning! Phew!

@mckcak23 Has YS always been super independent? I'm at that awkward stage of trying to figure if my kid is just super independent or has other issues going on... In any case he's always been a super easy kid, which I think will make having a new baby a lot easier in our house. But I would like a few snuggles every now and then.

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to? No, he wouldn't understand. I mean, I've "told" him he's getting a sibling but he just stares blankly at me.

mckcak23

@PensiveCrayon He has always been super independent. The only time he will sit next to me is if I put on a movie he wants to watch. He has recently found fun in playing with my husband but I think he just kinda figured out how to play with someone else vs by himself. He has been in daycare since 9 weeks old so he is excited to see us when we pick him up but even on days where we are gone all day he is totally chill being independent at home. 

We transitioned to one nap a few months ago and his nap is in the morning. He usually wakes up around 6 am for the day but takes a nap from like 930-12ish when at home. At daycare they have him nap in the afternoon like the other kids but at home he takes that one nap and is good until bed time around 7-730ish. 

pickle-chips

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?
6w2d. One other kiddo who is 14 months.
2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
@kristah2 5:30-7:30 is a nightmare at our house, too. He pretty much just screams through dinnertime. Unless I give him yoghurt and bananas. And even then he'll sometimes still scream with a mouthful of banana.  
He has also decided that 4:30 a.m. is a perfectly acceptable time to start the day. I disagree.
3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
I mean, yes, hah. We said "you're going to have a sibling!" We don't expect him to spill the beans, since his vocabulary consists of mama, dada, wow and doh (dog). 

katy0990

@snugglyduckling25 That nickname is adorable!

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?

I am 5 weeks 2 days. My son turned 2 in March.

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?

He is great! I can’t wait to be home for the summer! My awesome in laws have been watching him 4 times a week since our babysitter is on maternity leave. They live 20 miles from us and an additional 20 miles from work. So, I’m spending over 2 hours in the car each day and not getting anything accomplished

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?

We plan on telling him after my ultrasound on Friday. I don’t think he will understand, but he is very chatty and I don’t want him to spill the beans until we are ready for my in laws especially to know.

flamingomomma

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?
7w5d DS(4) DS(2)
2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
DS2 is getting molars as well. I’m sofa king tired. He’s a clingy mean mess my 
3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
I haven’t. I plan to do it once I have another ultrasound. I am hoping to wait another month or so, because then everyone will find out. 


@maureenmce I’m here with you. DS2 has been such a grouch. 

kuailanikaleo

@Whitmore1027 I sometimes wonder the same thing: How will I cope with chasing my little one around while being the size of a small whale? Or chasing one around while trying to breastfeed the other? I guess well figure a routine out, like all the other moms did! They survived, so we will too!

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?
8w 5 days, my DS is 11 months

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?
He is doing great, were working on not hitting lately. He tends to LOVE hitting others. He lights up, giggles and smiles when slapping someone in the face so Im working on channeling that into something else lol. Ideas anyone?? He doesnt know it's bad, thats just how he says hello, and Im over there like "sorry, that means he likes you" to strangers after seeing their shocked faces. I usually just say no gently and push his hand away when he raises it, but I feel like Id have more progress If I could teach him to replace that with another gesture vs just telling him to stop.

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
Um, I did tell him the other night.....I pointed to my tummy and said "Baby!" And he just slapped my stomach.

texas_t

@kuailanikaleo at least that means he likes the baby? 

misscheapandchic

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones? 6 weeks, I have a son who’s 5. 

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing? My kiddo is super well behaved and pretty laid back so behavior wise he’s great, but I’m pretty sure he’s sick again and I think it might be fifths disease so I have to call his ped and my obgyn tomorrow.

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?
No, we won’t tell him until we want everyone to know. He’s been asking for a baby forever so he’ll be very excited. 

whaat

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?

5w5d. My son is almost 18 months.

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?

We are thinking about starting to potty train this summer because I’d love to not have to do that with a newborn. We’re going to start a little before 20 months, and I’m taking off a few days for it around July 4.

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?

We mention it randomly, but he really doesn’t understand things that far in the future. I think he’ll be more likely to get it closer to the end.

kristah2

@ay-eff while I don’t wish the 5:30-7:30 nightmare on anyone else it does make me feel a lot better to know that it’s not just my child who just wants to eat his favourite foods all the time and sometimes has meltdowns for no reason!

katy0990

@whaat Good luck potty training! It’s definitely a challenge, but it will help that you are planning on taking time off to tackle it.

katy0990

I had my betas done again yesterday due to brown discharge. Thankfully it has stopped! My HCG is 3643 up from 134 9 days prior, but my progesterone dropped from 27.4 2 weeks ago to 21.4. I’m waiting on a call back from the office. Does anyone have any insight on the progesterone dropping?

Katzalia

1. How far along are you and how many other kids do you have? How old are your other little ones?

I’m 6 weeks today. I have an almost 4 year old girl. 

2. And STM related rants or raves? How are your LO's doing?

Sleep. Or lack thereof. With my first, during the first tri, I would come home from work and fall asleep. Now, I come home, do the whole evening routine and by the time Poppy (not her real name - nn from my last pregnancy) is tucked in at 8:30 or 9, I’ve missed the window and can’t fall asleep myself. Luckily so far I can still drink coffee.... 

3. Have you told your little ones yet? If not, when/how do you plan to?

Not yet. I want to wait for the first scan at least. But let’s be real — she’s at the age where she tells everybody *everything*, so once we tell her, we’re going to need to be ready to announce it to family more generally.