@nancysimp Unpopular Opinion and Flame Free Friday Confessions
UO: I'm disappointed that we've had a 3rd (!!) Facebook exodus. I know I've said it before, but I'm disappointed again. I felt like we finally had a good core leftover group here and then there was another exodus and now it's, like, just 5 of us, it feels like. I really like you 5! But very few of the people who said they'd participate in both actually have consistently and I wish other folks had stuck around. No hard feelings, just sucks. I get some people are just hanging out with their babies, as they should. But I bet a lot of ppl are active elsewhere right now. And as a FTM I could have used more of you veterans at this time!
I totally agree that the last Facebook exodus sucked. I won’t go still.
@DDRRT1982 I hate those carts. They have ruined my shopping experience. My 4 year old loves them but it was so much easier when I could put her in the cart and give her my phone to watch and not have to worry my ankles are going to be run over or for other people’s safety.
I'm still here! Just been busy between the toddler and baby. But there are quite a few people that I wonder about - like if they're okay or if they just moved to Facebook.
I'll edit to add a FFFC and stay on track - my almost 3 year old has had an obscene amount of tablet time lately. But it allows me to nurse the baby in peace and make some meals, soo... I dont really care.
I’m still around, more so lurking. I wish there was a better way to stay in touch, the app is a nightmare for me. Every time I try and post I realize I’m signed out AGAIN. So irritating!
Even with the technical glitches this app has, I still prefer it over Facebook. Maybe because we’re always warned of stranger danger on the internet, but my Facebook has a lot more personal information on it. But I feel like I also can’t always share the same stuff on Facebook as I can here- I’m sure there’s a lot of my FB friends who don’t want to hear the nitty gritty details of my labor stories or hear about my cracked nipples. Plus I know I’m verbose and sometimes preachy with my responses on here, so I’m sure I’m probably not everybody’s favorite person on here.
Due to my being overweight before pregnancy and still only being just over 2 weeks postpartum, I’m still regularly being mistaken as still pregnant (we keep DD under a car seat canopy while out and about so most people can’t tell she’s little). My FFFC is that rather than correcting them, I’ll seeth about it for about 15 seconds then use it to my advantage- I haven’t opened the door for myself in months. And people offer to help lifting heavy things at the grocery store. I can manage on my own but it’s nice sometimes not having to worry about letting go of my toddlers hand to open the door (she’s a runner).
@maelily15 I totally get what you're saying--I'm not on FB anymore, but when I was there was more personal info there and real pics of myself, but here I share intimate stuff I would not want to be connected to my IRL self (I guess with the exception of maybe 3-4 people on TB who know my real life identity).
Also I'm probably mistaken as pregnant too, in part because I'm still wearing my maternity clothes at 6 weeks PP. I'm starting to venture into looser non maternity shirts, but the pants are staying until further notice!!
I am in the same boat still wearing maternity clothes. With DS1 I was right back into normal clothes. With DD I had to buy smaller clothes- started at 175 and ended at 155. Then ballooned up to my heaviest weight before this one at 210, went up to 216, and now am at 196 and none of my clothes fit right with all the extra skin I have going on. I wish it would get warm here so we could start walking.
Ever since my leave started I've been reading along here on the March board. I entered an introduction back in June or July when I downloaded the app and discovered I was pregnant.
I was too busy with work to really keep up with anything back then, but I have been reading along - lurking perhaps to put it in a negative way, but learning a lot - the last few weeks.
I would love to start writing along, and wouldn't mind answering any questions you have about me to bridge the knowledge gap. I'm a FTM, so I don't have much experience to share, just what I come across myself.
I'm 32, my husband is 31. It's our first for both of us. She'll be a girl. She was supposed to arrive March 27th, but we're still waiting. If she doesn't come along naturally before then, I'll be induced Tuesday. First they'll try to strip my membranes tomorrow, but only if there's any dilation, which I haven't had so far.
I realize this is not where an introduction should be made, but since the discussion about the Facebook exodus was here, I thought I'd give it a shot.
If you feel like no longer feeling like welcoming new people I understand, otherwise I'd love to tag along. Feel free to ask any questions!
@vflux33 - I agree with wishing more had stuck around. I didn’t become “active” here until the last few months before our babies were born. My husband previously lost a daughter (with his ex wife) born at 7 months pregnant due to a tumor developed in utero and with our son I had a placenta abruption. The doctors did not expect him to make it, but thankfully he did! So for me, it is difficult until we get past those points in my pregnancy where I felt “safe” to contribute.
@DDRRT1982 I know a few April folks from PGs and TTGP who lurk here a bit because their board is apparently even more dead than ours. I totally support combining months if they want to come hang out with us.
We'll wait to see what others say, but I am all for seeing if they want to join us if they want. It's always possible they won't, but many seem to be going through the same things we are with babies and recovery.
I’m totally on board with inviting April to join us- I know with the FB exodus and some of us returning to work soonish, our board might become even quieter.
Hey March! I'm a FTM from April. I was contributing there at the very beginning of my PG but then we had two deaths in the family that really took me out, and when I came back to April everyone had peaced out to FB already. I'd be down to join you in March! I lurk you all the time (even my husband read both your bf and sleep threads cause they were so helpful). I was due yesterday and feel like I'll be pregnant forever.
I’m in the same boat as @satafer I didn’t discover this community part of the app until Late February and you all really helped me through the last month and the insomnia of waiting for the baby to arrive. I’m a FTM and never participated in anything like this before but would really like to see it keep going because I have found a lot of comfort here. I’m 34 and DH is 30. Our little girl, Maeve was born via c-section on 3/27. Anyway, I felt weird about jumping in so late - but then I realized what do I have to lose by trying? I’m happy to answer any questions and really hope this group keeps going. Thank you all for your time and for sharing Your experiences.
Although it's Saturday, here's my FFFC and UO all wrapped up in one.... motherhood is totally different than I thought it would be and I miss our old life. Flame me up ladies, I miss y'all
Welcome @looeeze & @shoretobe & @satafer! We are glad to have you. I enjoy reading/responding and even though I’m a TTM - I still reach out with questions. We are glad to have you!
@cford08 - I totally agree. I don’t know what I was expecting, but it is different then I imagined. I also keep waiting to get a day to sleep in again which I know won’t be happening for years.
@shoretobe I don't really have a clear vision of what I thought it would be either. But I'm sure this wasn't it I would do anything for this kid but man has my life flipped.
@ashleyf911 I miss y'all alot. I think once I'm able to figure out a schedule with this little guy I'll be able to be more active on here. I really enjoy my TB mamas!
Hi! I was originally an April mom but my due date was moved up to March and I never introd on this board but I come on and lurk daily. I would love to be able to join in now on the board if that’s cool?
Some background information on me is that I am a STM. We were team green turned team blue on March 29. We have a daughter who will be 2 this month! I am a professional counselor, my current job is doing home based therapy with children and their families.
Any other questions for me just ask!
If nobody objects I can start an invite over in April. Maybe we should do a roll call and reintro so we can all get to know each other. I don't want to overstep, so please tell me if this is not ok.
Welcome to all the new mommas! i haven’t had much time to be on TB recently, but I’d hate to see this group die down even more...it’s a lifeline for me!
I'm a lurker on this board! April 12th due date with identical twin boys, thought we'd deliver in March and they arrived February 27th at 33w5d. We are just out of NICU. I dislike Facebook and would love to keep support on TB. Lots of good info and support!
Heeyyyyyy @looeeze! I can personally vouch for @looeeze being awesome.
Yes, more April folks! Come on in!
@DDRRT1982 YES. This is my main pumping activity and I'd be lost without it! We gotta keep it alive!
@cford08 Not flame-worthy at all. It's important to be real with ourselves about such a big change. Even if you love it you can't love every single minute.
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Re: UO/FFFC
UO: I'm disappointed that we've had a 3rd (!!) Facebook exodus. I know I've said it before, but I'm disappointed again. I felt like we finally had a good core leftover group here and then there was another exodus and now it's, like, just 5 of us, it feels like. I really like you 5! But very few of the people who said they'd participate in both actually have consistently and I wish other folks had stuck around. No hard feelings, just sucks. I get some people are just hanging out with their babies, as they should. But I bet a lot of ppl are active elsewhere right now. And as a FTM I could have used more of you veterans at this time!
Edited to add more
@DDRRT1982 I hate those carts. They have ruined my shopping experience. My 4 year old loves them but it was so much easier when I could put her in the cart and give her my phone to watch and not have to worry my ankles are going to be run over or for other people’s safety.
I'll edit to add a FFFC and stay on track - my almost 3 year old has had an obscene amount of tablet time lately. But it allows me to nurse the baby in peace and make some meals, soo... I dont really care.
But I feel like I also can’t always share the same stuff on Facebook as I can here- I’m sure there’s a lot of my FB friends who don’t want to hear the nitty gritty details of my labor stories or hear about my cracked nipples.
Plus I know I’m verbose and sometimes preachy with my responses on here, so I’m sure I’m probably not everybody’s favorite person on here.
Also I'm probably mistaken as pregnant too, in part because I'm still wearing my maternity clothes at 6 weeks PP. I'm starting to venture into looser non maternity shirts, but the pants are staying until further notice!!
Ever since my leave started I've been reading along here on the March board. I entered an introduction back in June or July when I downloaded the app and discovered I was pregnant.
I was too busy with work to really keep up with anything back then, but I have been reading along - lurking perhaps to put it in a negative way, but learning a lot - the last few weeks.
I would love to start writing along, and wouldn't mind answering any questions you have about me to bridge the knowledge gap.
I'm a FTM, so I don't have much experience to share, just what I come across myself.
I'm 32, my husband is 31. It's our first for both of us. She'll be a girl. She was supposed to arrive March 27th, but we're still waiting. If she doesn't come along naturally before then, I'll be induced Tuesday. First they'll try to strip my membranes tomorrow, but only if there's any dilation, which I haven't had so far.
I realize this is not where an introduction should be made, but since the discussion about the Facebook exodus was here, I thought I'd give it a shot.
If you feel like no longer feeling like welcoming new people I understand, otherwise I'd love to tag along.
Feel free to ask any questions!
We have to keep this going. This is what I do when I pump and nurse. I'd die of boredom without TB if I didn't have this group.
I didn’t discover this community part of the app until Late February and you all really helped me through the last month and the insomnia of waiting for the baby to arrive.
I’m a FTM and never participated in anything like this before but would really like to see it keep going because I have found a lot of comfort here.
I’m 34 and DH is 30. Our little girl, Maeve was born via c-section on 3/27.
Anyway, I felt weird about jumping in so late - but then I realized what do I have to lose by trying? I’m happy to answer any questions and really hope this group keeps going.
Thank you all for your time and for sharing Your experiences.
Edited because I still don't know how to type!
@mmom3 - thank you so much.
@looeeze the bf and sleep threads are pretty good! This group is pretty good sharing info. Welcome!
@ashleyf911 I miss y'all alot. I think once I'm able to figure out a schedule with this little guy I'll be able to be more active on here. I really enjoy my TB mamas!
i haven’t had much time to be on TB recently, but I’d hate to see this group die down even more...it’s a lifeline for me!
Yes, more April folks! Come on in!
@DDRRT1982 YES. This is my main pumping activity and I'd be lost without it! We gotta keep it alive!
@cford08 Not flame-worthy at all. It's important to be real with ourselves about such a big change. Even if you love it you can't love every single minute.