Okay, so my rant is long. But I would love your opinion.
The week we found out we were pregnant, I walked into my daughters daycare and the infant teacher walked out of her classroom, looked at me and asked "ARE WE EXPECTING?!" and points at my stomach. First of all let me say, I dont love this woman. She is incredibly rude and outspoken. She took great care of my daughter when she was in the infant class but we do not share a lot of the same opinions. She gets on my nerves. She caught me so off guard- luckily I was able to think kind of quick and luckily I still had my daughter in my hands and used her as an escape. I responded -NO, but thanks for making me feel awesome about myself today and walked away. I had JUST found out I was pregnant- anything she saw was fat. She yelled after me "well I had a dream you were!" (she always says that when she realizes she's offended someone).
This all happened on a Friday. It bugged me all weekend. Yes, I had gained weight was not pleased with the way I looked, but mostly- she doesnt know what my husband and I have been through or how long we've tried or what issues we have experienced. It's none of her damn business. So Monday, I took my daughter to daycare again and after I dropped her off, I went into the infant room and asked if I could talk to her for a minute. I know it wouldnt change her mind or actions because she's the kind of person that does what she wants and is always right. But I wanted her to realize that she cant just ask that question to anyone! She doesnt know what people struggle with! So I told her that her question on Friday really hurt my feelings. She didnt know what my husband I had been through or how long we had been trying, and it's a rude question to ask to someone you dont know well. She was all "Ohh- I'm sorry. I've experienced a loss too, I know what you're going through." First- I didnt tell her we had a loss (this is important later). Second- why the hell did you ask me that question then if you know it can be painful? Then she pointed to my stomach again and said- well it just looked like it. WTF. So I was like- thanks. I've really been struggling with my weight lately, I dont need to be called out on it like that. Then she asked forgiveness, blah blah blah. She's completely insincere. But whatever.
(Let me side track here and say I had a chemical pregnancy back in October and I was incredibly nervous about this baby sticking)
Well I go to pick up my daughter that afternoon and her teacher asks me if I'm okay. I was like, yea...why? She was like- oh I heard you had a miscarriage and you yelled at the infant teacher about it. OMG. All the fury. Why was she telling people about our convo? and I didnt yell. I was actually way nicer than I should have been. Then I cleared things up with my daughters current teacher and she let me know that the infant teacher had shared my information with most of the teachers in the building and told everyone I went and cussed her out. This lady is a piece of work. So, I didnt know what else to do. I went to the office. I went to the office because I didnt want the office to think I was going around and cussing out teachers. I love our daycare and I would love to stay there. They were really nice in the office and said they know how the infant teacher can be (that's another story for another time) and that they loved having us in the daycare and as far as they were concerned everything was fine. They knew I wouldnt yell at any teacher and the infant teacher likes to tell stories.
While all of this is happening, all I can think about is- holy crap this has gotten way out of hand- I really AM pregnant. But I was literally 4 weeks pregnant. I was NOT ready to share the news with anyone! and I wasnt about to share the news with daycare first.
So, now I dont know what to do. I'm clearly pregnant and everything is going so so well. We've shared with our family and friends but have yet to tell daycare. I've already popped, so I cant really hide it well for much longer. What do I do? What would you do? Ugh.. I feel like this is so much drama and I HATE drama. I also feel like a jerk for all of it, but we were really nervous and I just couldnt share that early.
Go in and tell the office, but not the infant teacher; let them disseminate the information as appropriate. If the infant teacher says something to you, tell her that you are still upset about her behavior, at the time she asked, it wasn’t clear whether you were pregnant or not, and reiterate that it is none of her business.
Also, I would consider looking for a new daycare. Kids pick up on this kind of thing, and it sounds like the daycare is more interested in protecting her that taking care of your family.
@wolfpackgrl718 Whoa! That is appalling on many different levels. So sorry you had to deal with that.
As far as advice goes? I don't know. Do what you're comfortable with. I guess if you're second child will be attending that same daycare, they'll need to know at some point so you can be put on a waiting list? Otherwise, it's none of their business.
WTF child, how do you knee yourself in the face hard enough to give yourself a bloody nose while trying to fall asleep? He was on his side and trying to curl up to sleep and brought his knee up too high/fast. Definitely my kid.
Wow, the pregnancy brain is real. I was reading through these and had one to post about people saying dumb things. And then as I went to start typing I completely forgot what it was. Now I have no earthly idea what I was about to say. Sigh. I'll come back when/if I remember.
@hannaht8516 This has been happening to me all week, in meetings...with like...important people. I'm talking and then all the sudden, BLANK. It's soooo embarrassing.
@hannaht8516 This has been happening to me all week, in meetings...with like...important people. I'm talking and then all the sudden, BLANK. It's soooo embarrassing.
I’m speaking at a seminar tomorrow and most of my part is responding to what other people will be talking about. I am making detailed notes for the opening part since I’m on first, but I also go up after every speaker and can’t really prepare for that. So hoping my brain functions at least a little (& I warned my husband that he may end up doing the majority of the speaking because of the baby brain).
WTF Bump App? I used to be able to go back to the message board by clicking “October 2018” at the bottom, but you took that away. Now I have to use the back button which never works...
Ok I seriously thought I was going crazy! Glad you guys noticed that change over night! Also the website version doesn't have it anymore either! So annoying!
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@hannaht8516 I had a pretty big visit at work with my boss and our regional director and I felt like it was my first day. I literally didn't know anything and couldn't even try to fake it. In the 5 years I've been here I've never had a visit like this. So embarrassing.
WTF Bump App? I used to be able to go back to the message board by clicking “October 2018” at the bottom, but you took that away. Now I have to use the back button which never works...
YES!!!! Of all the changes to make... seriously? The one that helped us? Great job TB.... really innovative sh*t going on back there.
@sliztee@purplegoldfish2@nmadjeski It's so bad right now. A client just called asking something and now I can't for the life of me remember what this material is called. And the other day I was leaving a voicemail and completely blanked in the middle of it and left the super awkward like 10 second pause (it felt more like 10 minutes). So embarrassing.
And last week. I was cooking and turned toward the stove and just froze because I couldn't think of what I was trying to do next. It's the weirdest thing.
I left a patient a voice asking them to call me back and that my phone number is phone number. I'll be honest some stuff I don't think is baby brain. I can't answer all my co workers questions at once while I'm already doing one task. So if I have to stop and think about what they said cause I wasn't paying attention they're like oh baby brain! And I'm think no...I just wasn't paying attention to you cause I was busy.
@nayyohme It definitely isn’t all baby brain. I do plenty of stupid things, but it’s the dramatic increase in frequency of the things that’s baby brain.
@hannaht8516 Don’t feel too bad about that. When my sister was pregnant with my niece she pulled a pizza out of the oven and put it directly into the freezer. Her husband came in and asked where dinner was and she just stood there looking at him. They also found milk in the cabinet one morning after she had used it the night before.
WTF Bump App? I used to be able to go back to the message board by clicking “October 2018” at the bottom, but you took that away. Now I have to use the back button which never works...
My first appointment the nurse was asking me the million questions that they need to ask. She asked me how long each labour was... I stared at her, mind blank like “ummmm”. So I had to throw in a guess.. and also I couldn’t remember how much my second child weighed... WTF. I felt like a horrible mother lol. This brain....
Re: WTF Wednesday
The week we found out we were pregnant, I walked into my daughters daycare and the infant teacher walked out of her classroom, looked at me and asked "ARE WE EXPECTING?!" and points at my stomach. First of all let me say, I dont love this woman. She is incredibly rude and outspoken. She took great care of my daughter when she was in the infant class but we do not share a lot of the same opinions. She gets on my nerves. She caught me so off guard- luckily I was able to think kind of quick and luckily I still had my daughter in my hands and used her as an escape. I responded -NO, but thanks for making me feel awesome about myself today and walked away. I had JUST found out I was pregnant- anything she saw was fat. She yelled after me "well I had a dream you were!" (she always says that when she realizes she's offended someone).
This all happened on a Friday. It bugged me all weekend. Yes, I had gained weight was not pleased with the way I looked, but mostly- she doesnt know what my husband and I have been through or how long we've tried or what issues we have experienced. It's none of her damn business. So Monday, I took my daughter to daycare again and after I dropped her off, I went into the infant room and asked if I could talk to her for a minute. I know it wouldnt change her mind or actions because she's the kind of person that does what she wants and is always right. But I wanted her to realize that she cant just ask that question to anyone! She doesnt know what people struggle with! So I told her that her question on Friday really hurt my feelings. She didnt know what my husband I had been through or how long we had been trying, and it's a rude question to ask to someone you dont know well. She was all "Ohh- I'm sorry. I've experienced a loss too, I know what you're going through." First- I didnt tell her we had a loss (this is important later). Second- why the hell did you ask me that question then if you know it can be painful? Then she pointed to my stomach again and said- well it just looked like it. WTF. So I was like- thanks. I've really been struggling with my weight lately, I dont need to be called out on it like that. Then she asked forgiveness, blah blah blah. She's completely insincere. But whatever.
(Let me side track here and say I had a chemical pregnancy back in October and I was incredibly nervous about this baby sticking)
Well I go to pick up my daughter that afternoon and her teacher asks me if I'm okay. I was like, yea...why? She was like- oh I heard you had a miscarriage and you yelled at the infant teacher about it. OMG. All the fury. Why was she telling people about our convo? and I didnt yell. I was actually way nicer than I should have been. Then I cleared things up with my daughters current teacher and she let me know that the infant teacher had shared my information with most of the teachers in the building and told everyone I went and cussed her out. This lady is a piece of work. So, I didnt know what else to do. I went to the office. I went to the office because I didnt want the office to think I was going around and cussing out teachers. I love our daycare and I would love to stay there. They were really nice in the office and said they know how the infant teacher can be (that's another story for another time) and that they loved having us in the daycare and as far as they were concerned everything was fine. They knew I wouldnt yell at any teacher and the infant teacher likes to tell stories.
While all of this is happening, all I can think about is- holy crap this has gotten way out of hand- I really AM pregnant. But I was literally 4 weeks pregnant. I was NOT ready to share the news with anyone! and I wasnt about to share the news with daycare first.
So, now I dont know what to do. I'm clearly pregnant and everything is going so so well. We've shared with our family and friends but have yet to tell daycare. I've already popped, so I cant really hide it well for much longer. What do I do? What would you do? Ugh.. I feel like this is so much drama and I HATE drama. I also feel like a jerk for all of it, but we were really nervous and I just couldnt share that early.
If you made it to the end, thanks for reading!
Also, I would consider looking for a new daycare. Kids pick up on this kind of thing, and it sounds like the daycare is more interested in protecting her that taking care of your family.
As far as advice goes? I don't know. Do what you're comfortable with. I guess if you're second child will be attending that same daycare, they'll need to know at some point so you can be put on a waiting list? Otherwise, it's none of their business.
WTF child, how do you knee yourself in the face hard enough to give yourself a bloody nose while trying to fall asleep? He was on his side and trying to curl up to sleep and brought his knee up too high/fast. Definitely my kid.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
And last week. I was cooking and turned toward the stove and just froze because I couldn't think of what I was trying to do next. It's the weirdest thing.
I'll be honest some stuff I don't think is baby brain. I can't answer all my co workers questions at once while I'm already doing one task. So if I have to stop and think about what they said cause I wasn't paying attention they're like oh baby brain! And I'm think no...I just wasn't paying attention to you cause I was busy.
@hannaht8516 Don’t feel too bad about that. When my sister was pregnant with my niece she pulled a pizza out of the oven and put it directly into the freezer. Her husband came in and asked where dinner was and she just stood there looking at him. They also found milk in the cabinet one morning after she had used it the night before.
This brain....