I love my MIL. Honestly. She's in town visiting for 10 days and it's great to catch up and for her to spend time with the boys. But, this morning I had a few WTF moments.
She came in my room while I was stripping the bed and said, "Oh! That reminds me, I have some laundry to do. I'll go put it on." Umm...ok...I was kind of about to use the washing machine, but whatevs.
Then, I had to run to the store (H was out). When I returned she was vacuuming our hardwood kitchen floors (fine - we do that before we mop). But, then I saw that she vacuumed the living room, too. Only, I could see the path she took and it was only like 3 strips of our entire carpeted living room. Not sure what her intention was there...?
Wtf. SIL. Never attends anyone else’s events. Like kid birthdays or showers or anything. Pouts when we decide not to go to hers. And is throwing a hissy fit because I’m not on board with making sure LO is walking well by November ‘19 for her wedding. She wasn’t joking. My kids are late walkers. And trying to get a new walker to go down an aisle in front of strangers with a basket of flowers. No. A flower girl should be 6-12 years old. Not 1.
@dirtanddiamonds yeah, it’s just not going to happen. I had my two young cousins as ring bearers. One made it down with his older cousin, the other just refuses.
I mean, at least suggest a wagon or something, SIL. How exactly are you supposed to “make sure” the baby is walking? That’s absurd.
@dirtanddiamonds Maybe this is a dumb FTM question, but how can you make sure your LO is walking by a certain age? I thought in general kids kind of walk when they get around to it? Her request seems pretty bridezillaish.
WTF to this baby. I feel like I’m getting punched in the gut, bladder, and the crotch. I’m not sure if he’s kicking my organs or what, but it’s very uncomfortable.
@melbel0824 you can’t, babies will walk when they want to lol what a bridezilla!
My WTF is to one of my managers who gets super defensive every time you try and give him feedback, sorry dude you are not perfect and just listen to what I am saying.....I can’t wait until review time since we get to review them!
@dirtanddiamonds She sounds like a complete idiot. DD is supposed to be a flower girl in a wedding this fall and she'll be about 20 months.......likely still going to be awful and someone will have to carry her.
@dirtanddiamonds Our flower girl was just over 2 years and her mom (my SIL) had to walk down the aisle with her (and even that was iffy so we were totally flexible about it), I definitely can't see a 15 month old walking alone!
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Mine isn't so much of a WTF as a Waahhhh but it starts with W so I'm rolling with it. DH didn't get the job he interviewed for last week. I'm so bummed for him. He's already got another interview lined up but it's really hard on him. So I'm having a wah Wednesday.
@dirtanddiamonds - good for you for standing up to her! Has she been a nightmare about other aspects of the wedding as well? (don't mind me - I love some good 'zilla drama!)
My niece was my flower girl when she was not quite 2, and she did an okay job. She carried a sign instead of having to deal with flower petals but she basically ran down the aisle into her grandma's arms. Totally fine, but she was clearly a little freaked out and didn't really smile.
@dirtanddiamonds kind if lol at your wtf. I had no idea you could pressure a kid into walking?! 1+ for the wagon idea... WTF to this “spring” break weather. What a waste
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@dirtanddiamonds Maybe this is a dumb FTM question, but how can you make sure your LO is walking by a certain age? I thought in general kids kind of walk when they get around to it? Her request seems pretty bridezillaish.
That’s just it. You can’t. My first born walked on her first birthday. My second was 16 months. I don’t remember when my third one walked lol. Bad mom. This one having three much bigger sisters will likely walk late, too, because she’ll be babied. A lot.
SIL is a nut. She’s the baby of the family. And used to pouting to get her way. I’m just ignoring her for now. She has no clue that I’m not joking. Baby girl will not be in her wedding. She has six other nieces from 4-14. Pick one. Lol.
Mine isn't so much of a WTF as a Waahhhh but it starts with W so I'm rolling with it. DH didn't get the job he interviewed for last week. I'm so bummed for him. He's already got another interview lined up but it's really hard on him. So I'm having a wah Wednesday.
@dirtanddiamonds - good for you for standing up to her! Has she been a nightmare about other aspects of the wedding as well? (don't mind me - I love some good 'zilla drama!)
I’m staying out of it a lot.
I will say that her fiance is on his second marriage with her. He’s made it clear that he didn’t want to get married. But HIS mom and SIL have pushed him into this. And they have a year and a half left to plan.
I’m sure it will get more interesting. Lol. Insert evil laugh. Lololol.
@dirtanddiamonds I'm kind of an ass, so I'd probably be like 'Well, incase she's not walking, I saw this custom made motorized Cinderella carriage we can put her in. It's only $6K, but I think it's totally worth tacking on to your wedding budget since she HAS to be the flower girl'
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@dirtanddiamonds wait, they've already been married or he has already been married to someone else?
I have an amazing, awful story about my husband's friend who married the same chick twice. But they never got divorced. She's just a diva who wanted two weddings because the first wasn't big enough for her. She's not allowed to come to our house, ever.
Our niece (BIL's daughter) was our flower girl at not quite 4 and while she get down the (very short) aisle with help from her mom there was a total meltdown not long after. She's holding a half eaten apple in almost all our photos and there is an amazing picture of her having a tantrum. You've just got to know what you are asking for when you choose littles for your wedding party.
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@dirtanddiamonds We got L walking a bit earlier than I think he would have on his own. We just would always make him walk 2-3 steps before letting him crawl, or he had to stand up if we were handing him something. Not that it was super fast compared to normal, but he was walking at 10 months instead of the 12 it most likely would have been. HOWEVER, your SIL is being a twat. Good luck keeping your cool and not murdering her.
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Our niece was our flower girl for our wedding at 3 years old, she did really well and was totes adorable. She even had a dress that matched mine. But I think it depends on the size of your wedding and who all attends. Ours was just family and a couple of close friends, so it wasn't a ton of strangers to freak her out. Plus, all kids are different, some are super shy and some are little hams basking in the attention. heh
@dirtanddiamonds I'm kind of an ass, so I'd probably be like 'Well, incase she's not walking, I saw this custom made motorized Cinderella carriage we can put her in. It's only $6K, but I think it's totally worth tacking on to your wedding budget since she HAS to be the flower girl'
@dirtanddiamonds wait, they've already been married or he has already been married to someone else?
I have an amazing, awful story about my husband's friend who married the same chick twice. But they never got divorced. She's just a diva who wanted two weddings because the first wasn't big enough for her. She's not allowed to come to our house, ever.
He’s been married before. She has not.
Your husband’s friend sounds fun. I don’t understand people like that. I know in ransoms we were talking about wasting money on cars and that’s how I feel about your friend. What a waste of money. Ridiculous.
@dirtanddiamonds that is hilarious. DS1 was a ringbearer in my besties wedding when he was 15 months old and it was a disaster. He could walk just fine but had zero desire to actually go down the aisle. At least he looked cute in a baby tuxedo.
@dirtanddiamonds DH & I had two flower girls in our wedding, his 2.5yo niece and my 2.5yo cousin. They both walked down the aisle, but my cousin freaked out when she forgot to throw the fake rose petals. DH’s niece made it to the end, sat down with MIL, climbed onto the back of the church pew, and rode it like a horse. We just laughed. They were cute.
DH’s other niece was barely 1yo at the time, and she wasn’t in the wedding. She wasn’t a steady walker, and we had two other willing, excited flower girls.
DH’s niece was our flower girl at 6 and walking our well-behaved small dog down the aisle. Except she kept jerking the leash and yelling at him exasperatedly. It was really annoying, but goes to show there’s always something. Maybe one of the other nieces could pull her in the wagon?
WTF calf cramps! Woke up the morning to an incredible Charlie horse, thankfully DH was right there and was able to help me stretch it out.
As as far as kids are wedding party members, I think people have way too high of hopes! My nephews were in our wedding at 3 and 5 yo, but Grandpa walked with them down the aisle and their Dad was staged if they wouldn’t walk. They both did, but that was the extent of their participation. Trying to force a baby to walk is just crazy!
I didn't plan on having a flower girl at all, but my 4 year old niece showed up and assumed that she was going to be a flower girl since she had been at the previous two weddings she'd been to. She let me know she was available if I wanted I, of course, said she absolutely could, and she walked down the aisle with my step daughter/maid of honor with a small bouquet that my friend put together for her. We had a tiny wedding party of just SS and SD as Best Man/MOH, but my niece got to stand up there on my side and seemed really excited to be a part of it.
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I didn't plan on having a flower girl at all, but my 4 year old niece showed up and assumed that she was going to be a flower girl since she had been at the previous two weddings she'd been to. She let me know she was available if I wanted I, of course, said she absolutely could, and she walked down the aisle with my step daughter/maid of honor with a small bouquet that my friend put together for her. We had a tiny wedding party of just SS and SD as Best Man/MOH, but my niece got to stand up there on my side and seemed really excited to be a part of it.
@lalala2004 YES! I was just thinking I was going insane. But there's always some weird little glitch here. Like no profile photos or broken links or whatever.
I have a big WTF and it's to my sister who is the most manipulative, lazy, insane person there is. She lives with my grandparents because she can't "leave the nest." My mom and stepdad literally moved an hour away to get away from her. She is SOOOO dependent on others. This weekend, my mom and stepdad are going to see my stepbrother play baseball (he's in college) and they want to go to a winery and do some other things because their anniversary is next weekend.
My sister is so miffed that they aren't inviting her that she is threatening to DRIVE DOWN THERE AND SLEEP IN HER CAR. She forced them to take her with them 2 weekends ago and slept in their hotel room.
She's 25.
My mom always wonders how one child turned out so normal and self-sufficient and the other is a complete idiot. I have no answers. We were raised exactly the same but somewhere along the way she learned to be manipulative and everyone started coddling the shit out of her and now she's ruined.
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i stayed home with DS today who said he wasn’t feeling well. Now I feel kind of Pukey but can’t tell if it’s real or imaginary lol
She came in my room while I was stripping the bed and said, "Oh! That reminds me, I have some laundry to do. I'll go put it on." Umm...ok...I was kind of about to use the washing machine, but whatevs.
Then, I had to run to the store (H was out). When I returned she was vacuuming our hardwood kitchen floors (fine - we do that before we mop). But, then I saw that she vacuumed the living room, too. Only, I could see the path she took and it was only like 3 strips of our entire carpeted living room. Not sure what her intention was there...?
I mean, at least suggest a wagon or something, SIL. How exactly are you supposed to “make sure” the baby is walking? That’s absurd.
My WTF is to one of my managers who gets super defensive every time you try and give him feedback, sorry dude you are not perfect and just listen to what I am saying.....I can’t wait until review time since we get to review them!
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@dirtanddiamonds - good for you for standing up to her! Has she been a nightmare about other aspects of the wedding as well? (don't mind me - I love some good 'zilla drama!)
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WTF to this “spring” break weather. What a waste
SIL is a nut. She’s the baby of the family. And used to pouting to get her way. I’m just ignoring her for now. She has no clue that I’m not joking. Baby girl will not be in her wedding. She has six other nieces from 4-14. Pick one. Lol.
I will say that her fiance is on his second marriage with her. He’s made it clear that he didn’t want to get married. But HIS mom and SIL have pushed him into this. And they have a year and a half left to plan.
I’m sure it will get more interesting. Lol. Insert evil laugh. Lololol.
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@dirtanddiamonds We got L walking a bit earlier than I think he would have on his own. We just would always make him walk 2-3 steps before letting him crawl, or he had to stand up if we were handing him something. Not that it was super fast compared to normal, but he was walking at 10 months instead of the 12 it most likely would have been. HOWEVER, your SIL is being a twat. Good luck keeping your cool and not murdering her.
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Our niece was our flower girl for our wedding at 3 years old, she did really well and was totes adorable. She even had a dress that matched mine. But I think it depends on the size of your wedding and who all attends. Ours was just family and a couple of close friends, so it wasn't a ton of strangers to freak her out. Plus, all kids are different, some are super shy and some are little hams basking in the attention. heh
He’s been married before. She has not.
Your husband’s friend sounds fun. I don’t understand people like that. I know in ransoms we were talking about wasting money on cars and that’s how I feel about your friend. What a waste of money. Ridiculous.
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DH’s other niece was barely 1yo at the time, and she wasn’t in the wedding. She wasn’t a steady walker, and we had two other willing, excited flower girls.
As as far as kids are wedding party members, I think people have way too high of hopes! My nephews were in our wedding at 3 and 5 yo, but Grandpa walked with them down the aisle and their Dad was staged if they wouldn’t walk. They both did, but that was the extent of their participation. Trying to force a baby to walk is just crazy!
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DSS: 18
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I have a big WTF and it's to my sister who is the most manipulative, lazy, insane person there is. She lives with my grandparents because she can't "leave the nest." My mom and stepdad literally moved an hour away to get away from her. She is SOOOO dependent on others. This weekend, my mom and stepdad are going to see my stepbrother play baseball (he's in college) and they want to go to a winery and do some other things because their anniversary is next weekend.
My sister is so miffed that they aren't inviting her that she is threatening to DRIVE DOWN THERE AND SLEEP IN HER CAR. She forced them to take her with them 2 weekends ago and slept in their hotel room.
She's 25.
My mom always wonders how one child turned out so normal and self-sufficient and the other is a complete idiot. I have no answers. We were raised exactly the same but somewhere along the way she learned to be manipulative and everyone started coddling the shit out of her and now she's ruined.
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