Feel free to follow these questions or not. I know a lot of us are worried about family dynamics changing and thought we could center this months discussion around that.
How far along are you? What size is baby?
How old are your other children?
How are you feeling?
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
Me: 28 | Husband: 39
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
Re: STM+ Check In [April]
29+5, some sort of squash I think?
How old are your other children?
DD 5, DS 2.5
How are you feeling?
Tired lol
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
My rant is that the speech pathologist can't see DS until June 8th, the day after I'm scheduled for a csection. It's not their fault, but still.. ugh.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
DH will bring them to the hospital and let them see the baby/sit with him and "hold" baby. Nothing super fancy or drawn out here.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
The snuggles. Least is probably waking up a million times at night and being tired. It's going to be rough with two other kids.
How old are your other children? DD will be 4 shortly after DS2 arrives. DS1 just turned 19 mos.
How are you feeling? I don't know if I feel better this time around than the others, or if I'm just kinda accepting that this is how it is, but I don't recall feeling this good this far along before (not that I feel great; I don't.) Sleep is starting to get rougher, but less because of pain and more because of hyperawareness.
Any Questions? Rants? Raves? DH has been super sympathetic in the past, but lately is cutting me very little slack and jumping all over me for little, stupid stuff. We got into it pretty good yesterday and I was so pissed, I said that I hoped his next wife had her ish together more than I do. I felt really bad after saying it and I knew it really hurt his feelings. Pregnancy completely removes my filter, especially when I'm rage-y.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids? Hopefully, DD will be well this time around. I plan on having them visit in the hospital and I will most likely do small sibling gifts from the baby.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least? I'm super excited and also sad about baby snuggles, since this will be our last baby. I'm kinda on the fence about BF, because while I do love looking down at babies while they're eating and just staring into your eyes, I really hate the worries that come with it (will I have enough supply, is this mastitis, why didn't I bring another shirt, etc.)
31+1, otter
How old are your other children?
DD will be 3 in July
How are you feeling?
Back pain, some newly occurring SPD pain, ribs starting to get sore. My feet and ankles feel tight in the morning and evening from swelling.
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
I’m just over people commenting on my body I guess. Over the holiday a patient asked if I’m sure it’s just one baby in there, among many other comments I’ve heard recently, and it really takes a toll on my self esteem.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
DD will stay with my parents once I go into labor so when we're ready they will drop her off, DH will meet her in the lobby and then bring her up to the room. I haven’t decided if I want LO in the room when she gets there, or if I should have a moment alone with her and then ask for LO to be brought in. (And now I’m tearing up just thinking about it. It’s been a rough morning y’all.)
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
Snuggling in with that sweet baby smell and squishy cheeks! I think I’m least looking forward to the leaving the house with diaper bag, extra clothes, bottles/formula if breastfeeding doesn’t go well... I’m always thinking worst case scenario so I over pack and spend more time thinking about what I need to pack than most people would.
When I went into active labor with DS1 (at 3 am.) DD had just stopped vomiting, so I didn't get to see her until the next night. I had her brought in while the baby was there, without even thinking about it. I kinda regret not having some alone time in the hospital first, but I missed her so much, I didn't even consider it. Plus, we had a lot of sickly snuggles just before. This time, I think I am going to try to make an effort to have alone time first.
30w6d
How old are your other children?
Just turned 15 months
How are you feeling?
I'm done being pregnant. Everything hurts and I can't breathe (or concentrate).
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
Just all of the 3rd trimester pregnancy symptoms. Everything hurts and I can't play with DD or pick her up as easily.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
So I've been reading a bunch of stuff on having 2 under 2 and it looks like 17 months and under and the older sibling is mostly oblivious to the arrival of the younger one. 17 months and older and there is some resentment and jealousy creeping in. DD will be right on the cusp of resentment and oblivious- so I'm kinda hoping that she stays oblivious. She will be staying with my parents while I'm in the hospital, so I'm assuming that they will bring her to the hospital when they come to meet DS. I'll probably just cuddling with her and show her the baby, but she's too little to hold him (and possibly even understand that he's her new little brother).
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
Looking forward to the most is just how tiny he'll be. We washed a newborn onsie with DDs laundry yesterday and it was just so teeny- and there was a dinosaur on the butt). I'm dreading the first month postpartum. I'm hoping (and praying) that my mom will be more help this time around and my adjustment period won't be so horrible. I did not do well when DD newborn. But I'm planning on having my mom watch her Mondays and Wednesdays and having her go to daycare Tuesdays and Thursdays, which should allow me to at least sleep during the day with DS. Hoping that my mom will watch her at our house at least for the first month (she's allergic to our cats so doesn't like being in our house for long periods of time), that way she can help me with both kids.
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
Holy mother effer, DD’s behavior this morning after being home with DH all weekend while I worked is appalling. I don’t get it because when we’re both home with her in the evening and she doesn’t listen to me, he has no trouble getting her to pay attention. But apparently when I’m not home he lets her run rampant or something because I have a very wild little person today who is telling me no and crying over every little thing I ask her to do.
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
How old are your other children? - 21 months
How are you feeling? - overall pretty good but the more I walk the more my hips hurt and I only remember to do stretches when I'm already hurting. I'm starting to get really afraid of all of the walking I'll be doing at Disney next week. ugh.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids? - still a work in progress, but I'm guessing just the normal visit in the hospital. I'll have my mom help her pick a gift in the giftshop to give to the new baby and I'll have a baby doll or something for her (thanks for the talk it out about this one last week)
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least? - I'm looking forward to the newborn snuggles, baby wearing, little baby noises- least looking forward to waking up all of the time and navigating going places with 2 carseats to coordinate buckling in, and just the general logistics of 2 so young.
I hate it when my 1 shift/week falls back to back like it did for the holiday weekend for this very reason! We had this issue a lot when I was still working full time and he was home with her 3 days... glad I’ll be home much more with this LO even after maternity leave so hopefully she doesn’t get so many mixed expectations.
28+5. Yay 3rd tri
How are you feeling?
tired and getting to the uncomfortable stage. Baby doesn't let me sleep well these days
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
I have 10 weekends left until baby is here, but due to my schedule and Dh's schedule we only have three weekends at home together. That is my biggest rant right now.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
Bringing DS to the hospital to visit mommy and sister. Older boys won't get to meet sister until she is about 2 weeks old.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
I want all the baby snuggles. I am not looking forward to nursing again. I want to do it, but not looking forward to sleepless nights.
30 weeks
How old are your other children?
DS1 will be 5 next month, DS2 is 3.5.
How are you feeling?
Exhausted. Ready to be off work, itchy (see my comments in symptoms), and did I say exhausted?
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
Rave - I mentioned this in Randoms, but my mom's birthday present to me is to have her cleaning ladies come clean our house. I can't wait!!
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
Nothing too elaborate. As long as things are ok, I'll have the kids come to the hosptial to meet their brother. I was thinking I'd let them each pick out a gift to present the baby.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
I'm looking forward to maternity leave and being home with the kid(s). Not looking forward to lack of sleep.
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
How far along are you? What size is baby?
31+4 romaine lettuce
How old are your other children?
ds 5 and a half
How are you feeling?
uncomfortable and large
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
Not really. maybe a concern. DS is going to want to be super helpful. but he truly doesn't understand how gentle you need to be with a baby. this part is going to be a transition for him.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
I've already told dh that I don't want anyone showing him the baby till I'm there. last time, the family saw ds as they were wheeling him from the recovery room where I was. and since ds will probably be there with family in the waiting room, no one better show him! I want it done in the room, with us, on video. wahhhh, I seriously almost just cried typing that guys.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
looking forward to baby snuggles! and definitely the sleepless nights. even more now cause I'll have an older child in the house so I can't just nap anytime I want.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
How far along are you? What size is baby?
30+4
How old are your other children?
DD will be 23 months on the 6th
How are you feeling?
Quite honestly I'm done being pregnant. The first part of pregnancy flew by being preoccupied with DD but these last few weeks have been dragging, my everything hurts, I get out of breath sitting on the couch and I miss wine. DD has also figured out I move slower than I used to these days and has been using it to her advantage.
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
Haha I guess I ranted a question early...
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
DH is going to pick up DD from my MIL house to bring her up to the hospital for them to meet in a less chaotic setting than with everyone around
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
I am super looking forward to snuggles and watching all the milestones again. I'm not looking forward to the pain of breast feeding or the never sleeping again...
momac1919 my dd1 turns 23 months on june 6th too!
I'm glad some of you mentioned having alone time with our current babes prior to the new LO being introduced...I kind of like that idea.
@kmurdock925 I think the younger LOs (that won't really fully understand that they are getting a baby sibling) will just be missing us and needing the alone time with us. Plus I miss DD so much when I'm away from her- I will need some DD cuddles too. I'm happy that my parents watch DD a lot so she is super comfortable with them, but I still envision her freaking out a bit to be leaving the hospital with them while I stay in the room. I might have DH take her back to my parents so she's at least with 1 parent. I'm 100% more anxious about her overall reaction than I am about anything related to this LO. I think it's because I'm already so in love with DD and haven't really met this one yet. I'm sure I'll love him just as much, but right now he's just not as real for me as she is.
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
I will say that while I don't enjoy being pregnant I am thoroughly enjoying being a mom. I am already daydreaming about my daughter being an outside baby and getting to watch her and DS grow up together.
Even when I was 37 weeks and miserable with DS, I didn't have this feeling so I'm going with it.
This pretty well sums up today...it's days like this where I feel like we may be done for good too after this one
@kfren I am right there with ya with BF. I definitely won't be putting so much pressure on myself this time.
@2589 I'm so sorry about people commenting on your body. I think that is the worse thing people can do. With DD I had a coworker make a comment like that. I was eating a muffin, one of the "giant" ones, and he said "Are you sure you aren't eating for 3 with that big of a muffin?" It took all I could not to throat punch him. I walked away and have YET to speak to him since.
@jsl82 Girl, I hate being pregnant too. Solidarity. And your hospital scenario is the exact reason I am debating about not having DD come and visit while we are there. Thats a great idea about having DH take her back.
@kmurdock925 I hope you have fun in Disney next week, even with the walking! And I legit give myself panic attacks when I think about putting two LOs in car seats and managing all that. Especially by myself.
@xtabbikatx Sorry to hear your next 10 weekends are crazy busy. Hopefully those three weekends will be relaxing and you'll enjoy the time together! Also, DH and I have an 11 year difference and we are on the same page as you. DH will get a vasectomy and I will be getting my tubes tied too. So. Done.
@mytinc IDK how I missed the cleaning lady gift! That is AMAZING! More people should give those types of gifts haha
@catlady1215 I'm so sorry to hear about how it went with DS. I hope you get the most perfect video this time around!
@momac1919 Add me to the so being done with pregnancy club. ugh.
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How far along are you? What size is baby?
28+2 - tropical coconut
How old are your other children?
DD is 20 months
How are you feeling?
My hips are killing me along with my back. He is sitting transverse, so Idk if that has something to do with it. Definitely exhausted and winded all the time.
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
I'm still on the fence between a VBAC and RCS. My doc was finally back today from maternity leave, and it was great talking to her, but now I feel more confused. They (she?) obviously agree it is a personal decision, and explained the benefits of both and even talked about how it differers relation to getting my tubes tied too - which I had no idea there was a difference. If I go VBAC, they will go in laparoscopically later and remove both my tubes in their entirety. If I go RCS, they only remove 3cm of each because of the bleeding. And she wanted to make sure I don't make my decision surrounding that too. IDK, I guess I have to make a good old pro/con list.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
I am not sure. (selfishly posed this question). DD will be 23 months when this LO is born, and currently is having attachment issues, so I am not sure if I want her to come to the hospital. I almost think it might be *easier* to forgo that step but I have NEVER heard of people doing it that way. What I do know is I think I am going to be SO UPSET seeing DD, and then watching her leave too. So, maybe its me being selfish?
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
I am definitely looking forward to the milestones. They were always such a big deal with DD, and it is so exciting. I am least looking forward to the night wakings, and the change in routine. We are in a great groove as a family of 3, and I worry about changing it.
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
28+3, eggplant (and I'm immature enough to smirk every time I open the bump app and it reminds me...)
How old are your other children?
DS will be 18 months in a few days
How are you feeling?
Depends on the hour...haha. Definitely getting more uncomfortable. I posted in symptoms about my lovely varicose veins, but I've also got sleep issues, a little back pain and heartburn is starting up. I feel like I get every pregnancy symptom but none of them really bad, if that makes sense...
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
I've mentioned this before, but I'm really nervous about DS during the birth. He's just a sweet little mama's boy and he's never been comfortable with anyone except DH or I. We've left him for a few hours a handful of times but he's always cried the majority of the time
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
Also not sure...As long as my mom or sis are here, I'm sure they'll bring him to the hospital. Then maybe DH go meet him and walk him in? I hadn't thought about it, but maybe give him a little time with us before introducing sister. Like others have said, he'll be so young I don't think he'll really understand.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
I love it when they're tiny and will fall asleep on you anywhere, and those little milk drunk sleepy smiles
During my VBAC, DS1 would not descend even though I was fully dilated. I spent hours with a ball between my knees, rotating from side-to-side, getting him to move down. At one point, one of the nurses came in and said that she wasn't going to be the one to make the call but that it looked like I would most likely not be able to do it.
I had my VBAC 45 minutes later; he was out in two pushes.
@2589 you're going to have to have a discussion with DH before the new baby gets here. Nip both of their behaviors in the bud!
@sunshineandwhiskey when do you have to make a decision about the RCS v. VBAC? I know a lot of STMs chose RCS simply to be able to schedule things rather then worrying about when the baby will be born. It is such a personal decision and hope you can reach a decision you are happy with!
To everyone feeling ready to be done - - I asked my other BMB because I was really struggling around 29 weeks. Everyone said that for the second, weeks 26-32 were the worst, and it started speeding up after that. I'm clinging to that hope.
How far along are you? What size is baby? 31+4. Asparagus, I think.
How old are your other children? 2.5
How are you feeling? Tired, stressed. I feel like I'm incapable of doing much these days (bending down, picking things up, putting on pants/shoes, chasing DS). I don't remember feeling like this until much later with DS. I don't think I'm much larger, but the pain in my hips / pelvis is not cool.
Any Questions? Rants? Raves? For TTMs (@kfren, @may14th2011, @mytinc), was breastfeeding easier the second time around if decided to BF?
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids? I haven't even thought about this. DS will get the baby a toy / stuffed animal and I've already packed his "big brother" gift from the baby to take to the hospital.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least? I am not looking forward to the sleepless nights. Breastfeeding was such a struggle that I'm so scared of this not going well. I supplemented with DS and it was hard for me to admit I needed to. It's going to be hard for me this time even though I know it is best for the baby and me and he is an amazing little boy. I wish the whole "breast is best" campaign would die.
With DD, I was constantly worried about low supply, so I drank a lot of Guinness, and Mother's Milk tea, and ate a lot of steel-cut oatmeal. I took several BF classes, and I think it helped to an extent, but sometimes I think I knew just enough to be dangerous. I remember several times when DD was less than six months old, telling DH that I could not do it and how much I hated it. I wanted to quit for awhile but put a lot of pressure on myself to stick with it.
With DS1, the only real issue I had was mastitis immediately after returning to work. Aside from that, I had very few minor issues, even after my low-producing side quit producing at all (around 7 or 8 months, I think.)
Don't stress yourself out about it; it will not help at all. Just know that you are an awesome mom and as long as baby is fed, all is good.
With DS1, the pain was horrible and seemed like it would never end (I had a cousin hat told me by 6 weeks I'd be pain free, so I kept it up with that goal in mind and she was right). After the beginning pain, chapped nips, etc., DS1 and I had a great nursing relationship. I went back to work at 3 months and pumped at work for his daycare bottles (which he took without issue) and nursed when at home. He nursed and I pumped until he was 11 months old and I was pregnant with DS2, which dried me up. I never had thrush or mastitis. I was lucky.
With DS 2, I had to do a lot more pumping because of his heart defect (longer details below in spoiler), but it definitely was easier on me as I knew how to pump and I knew what worked for me as far as nursing went (positioning, how much breast to get in his mouth, etc., knowing the initial pain would end, etc.). So while there was a rocky start, I was able to pump/nurse until he was 13 months and I weaned him in hopes of getting him to sleep better at night (which didn't work by the way). I did get mastitis when weaning as I tried to wean too fast.
Also, I know people stress over not supplying enough milk. There's also the issue of oversupply. Due to pumping my body didn't know how much milk to make and made WAY too much. I was engorged and it was awful. The lactation consultant at the hospital told me to be sure to pump every 2-3 hours to keep supply up. When I refused she gave me a hard time, but I knew my body. Pumping every 3 hours I was getting 60 oz, which is absurd for a two week old newborn who wasn't even eating an ounce per meal. So I didn't listen to her and dialed it back to pumping every 4 hours. My supply evened out but stayed around 60 oz through my entire time pumping/nursing him. Had I listened to her, I would have continued to increase my supply even more as I respond well to the pump. I'm glad I dialed it back when I did. Oversupply can lead to mastitis and a lot of other issues. Listen to your bodies, ladies.
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
28+5 (Eggplant. US yesterday said he was 2lbs 15oz)
How old are your other children?
DS is 16mos
How are you feeling?
Honestly, just kind of impatient and uncomfortable. Pelvis hurts a lot, all the usual complaints plus wanting a healthy outside baby.
Any Questions? Rants? Raves?
Asking questions about breastfeeding was a good one and I've appreciated your responses. I wasn't able to breastfeed at all last time, and once I got over the disappointment, it wasn't a big deal at all. Initially I was all about wanting to breastfeed this time if I could, and I still think I want to try, but a part of me is starting to feel like I want to do what worked last time and do formula. I guess we will have to see what happens.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids?
I don't have a set in stone plan, I'm just already dreading being away from my pumpkin to be in the hospital. I expect I'm going to be wanting them to bring him to see little brother pretty quickly.
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least?
Number one thing is holding him while he sleeps. I miss just settling in with a sleeping baby against me and snuggling on the couch. That and pulling out all of DS's cute baby clothes to use again. Least? Obviously I'm dreading being tired and the upset to our routine. I'm a little nervous about being the mom each one needs while their needs are going to be round the clock and so different. My sister is coming to stay and help this time and so I'm clinging to the knowledge that I'm not going to be figuring all this out alone while DH is at work.
How far along are you? What size is baby? 30+1. I have no idea what size the baby is, but big enough to pummel my insides pretty good.
How old are your other children? Almost 15 month
How are you feeling? Just big. I have a short torso for my height, so I can't really bend forward at all. I'm always reclined at least a little! It's really hard to drive right now, but luckily I don't have to do that too much.
Any Questions? Rants? Raves? Been feeling generally rave-y about my son lately, who has reached a particularly charming moment in his development. He is becoming very goofy! He has also been doing so well in PT and is getting so strong. Still keeping my fingers crossed that he'll learn to walk before this baby is born, though I know it's a long shot.
How do you plan on introducing your LO to your other kids? I've read similar information as @jsl82...my son is going to be barely 17 months when this one is born, so I don't think he'll really notice/care? He definitely has no idea what the F is going on right now, except that he thinks it's hilarious when I show him my big bare belly. He is pretty attached to me, so I'm worried he might be sad to not get so much attention, but I don't think he'll necessarily relate that feeling to the new baby. I guess we'll see!
GTKY: What is one thing you are most looking forward to again with a LO? And least? All baby snuggles, all the time. Seriously cannot wait. I am most worried about the lack of sleep and total destruction of our routine, which works really well right now.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
First Son - born 2013
Third Son - due June 9, 2018
Gift cards we can definitely help with. Didn't even think of food. I love the bear idea. I will have to reach out to her family and make sure no one else is planning something like that. DH will love being able to go over and help out with yard work. He likes manual labor when he is stressed.
We have been friends for about 6 years, but my DH and her DH shared an office for 3 years. They are very close.
I do know that her son will need about 5 surgeries between birth and adulthood. They said every time he grows a lot they will have to go back in.