@mrslittlemac I fully plan on going through all of DS’s clothes and using what I can for this baby girl. I am not into frilly stuff and most of it will end up stained anyway. I freakin’ loved dinosaurs when I was little. DS had so many adorable clothes; no reason why little girls can’t wear dinosaurs and monsters!
@mrslittlemac I fully plan on going through all of DS’s clothes and using what I can for this baby girl. I am not into frilly stuff and most of it will end up stained anyway. I freakin’ loved dinosaurs when I was little. DS had so many adorable clothes; no reason why little girls can’t wear dinosaurs and monsters!
DD1 is OBSESSED with dinosaurs right now. I got her some shirts from the boys section figuring I'll be able to reuse them on this baby eventually, if she doesn't destroy them.
I want nothing to do with the mirror. It’s painful enough and I don’t need to see the process.
I definitely want to do placenta encapsulation this time! I thought growing that organ and seeing it afterwards was one of the coolest things! If it helps, it helps; if it doesn’t, oh well, I’ve probably eaten worse.
Also I’m in the minority on this, but I love last names as first names. Bonus points if it’s uncommon!
I have zero desire to look at the mirror. My husband described me as looking like a really angry Buda/Yoda while pushing for hours so seeing a huge vagina would probably not have made me feel better.
Anectdotal or not, if you've ever experience severe ppd/ppa I bet you're willing to consider SOMETHING to help avoid it. Whether that be medication, not breastfeeding, etc. I'm definitely willing to give it a try this time. I don't want my only memories of newbornhood to be the worst thoughts/feelings I could imagine a mother to have. Give me all the coping tools I can have. If they don't help, I don't have to continue to take them. But to me it's the same consideration as experimental treatment. If your (and possibly even others) lives could be significantly improved, to the point of helping with ideations, to me it's worth a consideration.
I don't mind last names being used as first names, but within reason. We fully plan on using 2 of DH's grandmother's maiden names when/if we have a boy (Hayden Cole). Also, his grandmother's maiden name on his father's side of the family was Jackson.
@ecwk with you on the potluck! Anytime someone left cookies in the break room at work I wouldn’t touch them until I know who brought them in. If it was a friend, give me a damn cookie. Someone I barely know or I deem as dirty?! Out of my face, cookies!
I wanted nothing to do with the mirror the first time around. Granted I never got to that point thanks to a c/s, but even if I had a big fat NOPE.
Encapsulation - it kind of sounds intriguing, but I'm also in the camp of I need firm results and proof for me to do it myself!
DS has a last name for a first name and I love it. Flame away I do think there are some that are a little more far fetched than others though. His name always got flack on the baby name threads on here as trendy and definitely a surname, but I just ignored it. My grandma's maiden name was Bennett, and that's the name we chose for DS. She was an amazing woman and she cried when we told her his name after birth. That moment in itself was worth it!
Did anyone who used the mirror regret it? I can understand both not wanting to look and wanting to look but am leaning towards looking if I have the option so just curious if anyone chose to look and then was scarred and regretted it.
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
@legallykate I used the mirror to see DS1 crowning and that was it. It was exactly what you'd imagine it to be, a head in your vagina. It was cool to see and I don't regret it but I didn't have time to look with DS2 and if offered for this LO I don't think I'd take it.
I seriously miss drinking. A lot. Way more than I did when I was pregnant with DD. I'd kill for any kind of drink - beer, wine, champagne..........sigh.
@juliebird6 I feel the same! I'm not a huge drinker but definitely within the last year or so I have had a glass of wine at dinner a few nights a week and it was nice. I didn't do that really before DS so I am definitely missing wine a lot. Plus, I have a feeling once it starts getting hot, I will miss sangrias too haha
@scottishlass1213 I think maybe my feelings are fueled by the sunshine we've had this week, even though it's still cold here. It's giving me big time spring fever and I'm longing for patio season/sitting outside having drinks. Guess this year I'll sit outside and have milkshakes.
@juliebird6 I'm right there with ya lady. First time around I didn't miss it so much. This time? Whole different story. I have a feeling this summer is going to be rough. Most of our nights are spent sitting on our deck or around our firepit sipping a cocktail after DS goes to bed.
@juliebird6 I’ve had maybe two glasses of wine this pregnancy. I know that’s not for everyone, and I guess that’s another FFFC! I did the same thing with DS: only occasionally, would measure out about 3 oz., only had red wine and only did it after I was a few weeks into the second tri.
@lolog531 Same. We just had our firepit area refinished last year, and H is already talking about having fires. I am just throwing a pity party for myself every time I think about it.
I have been missing wine BADLY at the end of stressful work days. If I had had any at home last Friday, I would totally have had a glass, but we do not and I was too embarrassed to buy any with my bump, especially since everyone who works at the convenience store downstairs from us knows that I am pregnant. In retrospect I am glad I didn't (even though I rationally know a glass would have been fine), but at the time after working a 14 hour day and having to deal with my husband and brother being sloppy drunk, I was craving it so bad. I keep rubbing my bump and telling her she better be worth it
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
@juliebird6 I’ve had maybe two glasses of wine this pregnancy. I know that’s not for everyone, and I guess that’s another FFFC! I did the same thing with DS: only occasionally, would measure out about 3 oz., only had red wine and only did it after I was a few weeks into the second tri.
I'm the same way, I've had wine with both previous pregnancies and I probably will with this one. I haven't really wanted it yet but I still have 21 weeks and I know I will want a glass at some point and I will indulge when I do.
@calimom2524 I found it easier to go without this time around. When I was pregnant was DS, it was mainly when I had super stressful days at work that I would have one. This time, in the midst of dealing with my melanoma diagnosis and the biopsy, I definitely needed one.
@mrs_drc_rn We went to the grand opening of a brewery in town and I definitely tried each one of the beers DH got. I for sure think that I will indulge in a glass or wine here or there, but for some reason I just feel wrong about drinking a whole beer?
YES to missing alcohol. Just last night we went to an event that was open bar. I was almost unacceptably infuriated that I wasn't partaking. After a full day of toddler hood I looked forward to my glass or two of wine.
Regretting the mirror? I would regret it if I saw myself poop. Or had really bad hemrrhoids (I'm sure that's spelled wrong, I can never spell it right)
I didn't use the mirror because I've seen enough live births in person to appreciate it. If I hadn't seen one I would have used it.
I saw Miss Muffet crown and then wanted the mirror out. Good thing too because she waited another 2 hours before she came all the way out. I also saw the placenta and my little ninja had left a perfect foot print bruise on it. That was a first for that doctor. My kid never stopped moving and still doesnt!
+1 to missing alcohol. All the wine walks are starting up for spring here, and I’m so disappointed I can’t go to any. I did try an oz of mead in January at a tasting, and it was so good. I’m definitely buying a bottle to enjoy after I get this baby home.
As for a mirror, I was too out of it from the IV pain meds to even think about looking down when DS was born. I don’t really have a preference either way this time. If they offer I probably will look, but if they don’t it’s nbd.
YES on the missing alcohol! It's because wine is how I chalax after I finally get the toddler down at night and get to sit down for my 30 minutes of peace. Now I don't know how to chalax so I run on full speed constantly.
Me and my pregnant friend talk about how we miss alcohol like every time we are together and we talk all the time about partying it up for her birthday in September
Last names as first names are so popular now. I know a Nixon and a Jones who were both born this last year. I cringed both times I saw them. A friend has a McKenna (girl) which is her maiden name and I think it works pretty well, but it depends on your maiden name. Mine would never work as a first name for either sex! Harrison I don't see as a last name, though, I know way more first named Harrisons than last names!
Ew on eating your placenta. No thanks. My placentas have not been my friends, so no way do I want to then put them back in my body in any way shape of form. Thankfully I've had no PPD issues, or else I might think about it.
I'd consider looking in the mirror. Mainly because DH thought it was so cool when DS's head popped out, I would have liked to see that. But then they could take it away.
+1 on missing wine!! I've been feeling like a real failure of a mom right now with DS - he's just been such a bad listener and after we went out to lunch today I so badly wanted some wine slash somewhere to drop him off for the rest of the day so I could run away. A glass or two is how I'd wind down after after a stressful day, and since he turned 3 in February it's just gotten so much worse. I hate 3. I guess that's my FFFC. I really hate complaining about my kid because after our struggles I am truly so grateful that he's here and alive and healthy, but man it's hard some days.
April Siggy Challenge: April Showers
About me:
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
@elsieisamoocow DS2 is 3 right now and I often think to myself "wow, you're an asshole today" but obviously would never say that out loud. I think (hope) it's pretty normal 3 year old stuff. You'd think I'd know since I've already gone through 3 with one kid but they're both so different it's hard to compare.
@elsieisamoocow I agree with you. We have struggled for years to have children and DD is always pressing my buttons in one way or another and I always feel horrible after I get upset. We waited 4 years for her to come along and 4.5 years for this one. You have to remember that kids are just jerks sometimes lol
@scottishlass1213 I've totally been eyeing my favorite wine glasses and thinking that I should pour some juice or lemonade in them and pretend.
April Siggy Challenge: April Showers
About me:
29 y/o Married 6.26.11 BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14 BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now! BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17 BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
I hate potluck style lunches. I don't know what your kitchen is like. Did you even wash your hands? No thanks! *shudder*
Yes! Potlucks are so gross. I’m very picky about other people’s cooking and won’t touch anything that isn’t in a store bought container (cookies, hoagie tray, etc.)
Potlucks are amazing! They're good for giving your immune system something legitimate to work on, dontcha know.
Anyone like friend drama and want a new friend to inundate your life with it? *groans*
Just when I thought I got it calmed down from last month's insanity it rears its ugly head again. Although technically I'm not involved in any way, shape, or form this time though, so there's that.
Re: FFFC* 3/23
I definitely want to do placenta encapsulation this time! I thought growing that organ and seeing it afterwards was one of the coolest things! If it helps, it helps; if it doesn’t, oh well, I’ve probably eaten worse.
Also I’m in the minority on this, but I love last names as first names. Bonus points if it’s uncommon!
Anectdotal or not, if you've ever experience severe ppd/ppa I bet you're willing to consider SOMETHING to help avoid it. Whether that be medication, not breastfeeding, etc. I'm definitely willing to give it a try this time. I don't want my only memories of newbornhood to be the worst thoughts/feelings I could imagine a mother to have. Give me all the coping tools I can have. If they don't help, I don't have to continue to take them. But to me it's the same consideration as experimental treatment. If your (and possibly even others) lives could be significantly improved, to the point of helping with ideations, to me it's worth a consideration.
Encapsulation - it kind of sounds intriguing, but I'm also in the camp of I need firm results and proof for me to do it myself!
DS has a last name for a first name and I love it. Flame away
I do think there are some that are a little more far fetched than others though. His name always got flack on the baby name threads on here as trendy and definitely a surname, but I just ignored it. My grandma's maiden name was Bennett, and that's the name we chose for DS. She was an amazing woman and she cried when we told her his name after birth. That moment in itself was worth it!
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
DH suggested Jones as a first name. Now there's an example of a name that can't be a first name. Nope nope nope
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
DS: 5.28.15
DS#2: EDD 8.31.18
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
Regretting the mirror? I would regret it if I saw myself poop. Or had really bad hemrrhoids (I'm sure that's spelled wrong, I can never spell it right)
I didn't use the mirror because I've seen enough live births in person to appreciate it. If I hadn't seen one I would have used it.
As for a mirror, I was too out of it from the IV pain meds to even think about looking down when DS was born. I don’t really have a preference either way this time. If they offer I probably will look, but if they don’t it’s nbd.
Ew on eating your placenta. No thanks. My placentas have not been my friends, so no way do I want to then put them back in my body in any way shape of form. Thankfully I've had no PPD issues, or else I might think about it.
I'd consider looking in the mirror. Mainly because DH thought it was so cool when DS's head popped out, I would have liked to see that. But then they could take it away.
+1 on missing wine!! I've been feeling like a real failure of a mom right now with DS - he's just been such a bad listener and after we went out to lunch today I so badly wanted some wine slash somewhere to drop him off for the rest of the day so I could run away. A glass or two is how I'd wind down after after a stressful day, and since he turned 3 in February it's just gotten so much worse. I hate 3. I guess that's my FFFC. I really hate complaining about my kid because after our struggles I am truly so grateful that he's here and alive and healthy, but man it's hard some days.
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
August 18 Siggy Challenge: April Showers
About me:
Married 6.26.11
BFP 12.23.13, EDD 9.2.14 - baby girl, born too soon at 22w6d due to a placental abruption on 5.5.14
BFP 8.4.14, EDD 4.15.15 - rainbow son, born at 30w4d due to a placental abruption on 2.8.15, healthy 3 y/o now!
BFP 2.28.17, EDD 11.8.17 - baby girl, miscarried at 11 weeks on 4.21.17
BFP 11.28.17, EDD 8.8.18, delivering in July - another rainbow baby boy!
Anyone like friend drama and want a new friend to inundate your life with it? *groans*
Just when I thought I got it calmed down from last month's insanity it rears its ugly head again. Although technically I'm not involved in any way, shape, or form this time though, so there's that.