WTO Mon 3/19

crookshanks10

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Month/Cycle:

CD:

WAYDTGKU:
 
R/R:

CS/Q:

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of?

catlady2015

Month/Cycle: 6/7

CD: 14

WAYDTGKU: pnv, charting, temping, opk, b complex, coq10
 
R/R: getting a massage today! I have been so sore and stiff lately. hope to come home all fluid and relaxed. 

CS/Q: nope, temp rise this morning. Just want that temp to continue going up!

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? I have lots of fears, a more innocuous one is spiders and snakes. Really, anything slimy/slithery/creepy/crawly is a no-go. 

crookshanks10

@catlady2015 I'm getting a massage today too! Yay for us!! 

Month/Cycle: 5/6

CD: 11

WAYDTGKU: OPKs super early because I'm bound and determined to catch my O this cycle! 
 
R/R: Rant: No rants today ! Rave: DH is doing his second SA today.. fx for better motility this time! 

CS/Q: None at the moment.

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? I don't like spiders.. at all! Too many legs! 

rosebud332

@catlady2015 and @meladams10 Massages sound sooo nice! I’ve actually never had one because I feel weird about strangers touching me haha

Month/Cycle: 2/2

CD: 19

WAYDTGKU: Opk, pnv, preseed 
 
R/R: I got a new phone over the weekend but I lost the last 3 Year’s of everything on it because we backed my old phone up wrong. It’s like going back in time! Lol I have a bunch of old videos and stuff I keep looking at. 

CS/Q:

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of?
The usuals...definitely bugs. I can handle ants and verrry small spiders. Anything with a shell I’m not going near period. I don’t even really like butterflies because let’s be honest, it’s just a bug with really big wings.

crookshanks10

@rosebud332 Last month was my first one ever and I was nervous I'd feel weird but it's very relaxing! I just make sure to have a woman do it to make me feel more comfortable. You should try it sometime! 

Stargazer1lily

Month/Cycle:??

CD:10

WAYDTGKU:bbt,cm,opk,hio
 
R/R:Did a lot of walking this weekend so I feel like my ankle is getting stronger but I still can`t do lunges yet 
I`ll just do what I can for now.

CS/Q:nope

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? Fire. I worry about it every summer when it gets to dry.

prpl11butterfly

Month/Cycle: 8/5

CD: 19

WAYDTGKU: Temping/charting, coq10 (which I'm not even on for fertility so completely forgot it *helps*), will do opk after i get a period
 
R/R: Rant - spring is tomorrow and it was 3° when I left for work this morning. Rave- we finally got and installed a new bathtub after 3+ years of needing it

CS/Q: How many attempts at O before my system gives up this month? I think I'm on 3rd try....chart screen shot in spoiler. 

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? Spiders. I can tolerate little wirey ones but if they've meat to them, I'm gone. And jumping ones put my in hyperventilate/pass out mode. It's not pretty. Also, potato/veggie peelers. I prefer them over knives but I'm always afraid I'm going to get my fingers.

Eta I am super jealous of the massages your ladies are getting. I really could use one myself.

darkstar42

@catlady2015 Enjoy your massage! That sounds awesome.
@meladams10 Fx for good results with the repeat SA!
@Stargazer1lily I've been MIA, and clearly I missed something! What happened to your ankle?
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Month/Cycle: 13/15 (2 benched)

CD: 2

WAYDTGKU: bbt, opks, pnvs, ubiquinol, acupuncture, Chinese herbs
 
R/R: The emotional side of TTC has been really rough lately, so I'm shopping around for therapists. I have one appointment this afternoon, and another in a couple of days with a different provider. Hoping I can get some good support and guidance and find someone I mesh well with. We're trying this month on our own and then doing another IUI next month. In other news, I have a TON of papers to grade and it's really a pain!

CS/Q: Nada right now.

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? Failure/letting other people down.

AdorkablePixie

@catlady2015 and @meladams10 Enjoy your massages! I am a bit jealous.

Month/Cycle: 4/2

CD: 11

WAYDTGKU: BD, CM, OPK, BBT
 
R/R: Rave: Had a great weekend! Rant: DH wouldn't get up and go with me to Bible Study and church yesterday, his loss.

CS/Q: *TMI* I had some EWCM! BUTT we can't BD today because DH works from 4:00pm-close. Hopefully we are good with last night and hopefully this means I will O soon.*end TMI*

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? HMMM.. I don't like spiders or snakes. I have this irrational fear of me or DS being bit by a black widow or brown recluse. Which, I guess, isn't all that irrational since we have both where we live. Ugh. *shutters*

crookshanks10

@Stargazer1lily I'm glad your ankle is continuing to heal! 
@prpl11butterfly 3 degrees?! Oh my goodness! Where is spring?! I'm really ready for some flowers! 
@darkstar42 Thank you!! I really hope so! I'm sorry you're having a hard day today. TTC is so so emotionally and physically draining. I'm really glad you're going to talk to someone. 
@AdorkablePixie Thank you! Girl, spiders are so creepy!! We have black widows and recluses and eeek!!

LJMoon6

Month/Cycle: 12/12

CD: 10

WAYDTGKU: Sexing
 
R/R: I’m exhausted this morning! The long weekend really threw off my sleep schedule.  I walked away from my appointment on Friday feeling emotional. I don’t really know why.  She thinks I’m ovulating just fine (since I have a typical LH spike every cycle that lines up with my BBT) so she doesn’t want to do CD3 bw for now. She did order thyroid and testosterone bw and (only after I asked for it) progesterone for 7dpo. She’s not really concerned about all those, she’s more concerned about blocked tubes or a septum or a misshaped uterus or something. So she wants me to get an HSG and a hysterosonogram but she can’t order them. She wants to send me to an OB/GYN. At this point I would just rather go to an RE. Why bring yet another person into this. Plus it looks like this last appointment was coded as infertility testing so insurance won’t like that. Ugh I’m frustrated. Plus I asked her about MH SA results because I noticed that he only has 5% with a normal form. She goes, “Oh ya I guess I didn’t notice that before, that could be an issue…” are you kidding me!

CS/Q:

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? Snakes. Keep them away from me. I don’t mind insects at all but snakes and lizards are a no go.

@catlady2015 I’m so jealous of your massage! I know I keep saying I want to book one but I never get around to doing it. Enjoy your relaxing day!

@meladams10 FX for YH SA today! I’m wondering now if we need to get another one done too. Ugh the stresses of this.

@rosebud332 I love butterflies!!! They are so beautiful! There are so many different kinds. Have you ever been to a butterfly garden? It’s so much fun.

@stargazer1lily Fires are definitely scary. There was just a house fire down the road from us a couple weeks ago. About half the house is gone.

@prpl11butterfly Sorry about your cold temps this am. It sucks that spring feels so far away. I just wish it would rain here! But it looks like it might snow instead tonight.

@darkstar42 I’m so glad you’re off the bench!!  I’m sorry you’re having a hard time but I’m glad you’re getting the help/support you need.

crookshanks10

@LJMoon6 Thank you! You got it right, it's all so stressful! UGH! I'm sorry you're having to go through all that. I swear... these doctor's can be so frustrating! I have really learned that we have to be our own advocates. I'm surprised she didn't order a second SA. Typically if there's one thing abnormal, they will have them do a second SA just to be sure it wasn't a fluke. Semen changes many times a day for men, so going off one test isn't really accurate. Maybe you should ask for a second one?

LJMoon6

@meladams10 Everything else on his SA was excellent. It was only the % of normal form that was low. But everything that I read online, before I talked to my doc, made me think that this was normal. They use a really strict evaluation and anything between 4-14% is normal. So his 5% is still within that range but on the low end. That's why I didn't say anything sooner. But then after asking my doc about it she did seam to think it might be a problem. And then she went on to say that we might do really well with an IUI. I don't think I want her to order another one, I'd rather have a future RE do that. I'm starting to slowly lose confidence in her ability to treat my IF.

AdorkablePixie

@meladams10 They're so creepy! I knew someone who got bit for a recluse once and I saw the wound. It was enough to scar me for life. Seriously, it's what nightmares are made of.

@LJMoon6 Can you ask her to just refer you to a RE? Does your insurance required a referral? I know some don't. My insurance now doesn't, but my previous did. I think an RE would be the better person for all that testing anyway.

crookshanks10

@LJMoon6 Hopefully you can get to an RE sooner than later! Honestly it seems that OBs don't really know much about fertility... so I would take her opinion with a grain of salt. 

Kath525

Month/Cycle: 15

CD: 14

WAYDTGKU: BD, PreN V, bbt, charting, opks, preseed
 
R/R: rave: i got my paperwork in finally so i can start substitute teaching!
Rant: another dr apt today to come up with a New plan to attack this eczema.

CS/Q:

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? Sharks, alligtors... I have frequent nightmares about being eaten by these devilish creatures. And my house catching fire. I have 5 fire extinguishers in the house.

@catlady2015 @meladams10 I'm so jealous of your massages! Man i need one.

@rosebud332 your butterfly comment made me giggle!

@darkstar42 I'm glad you're taking care of yourself! I hope you find someone that clicks with you!

@LJMoon6 ugh. Sorry your appointment didn't go as well as you would have hoped. Not knowing about dhs SA would have really bothered me.

Stargazer1lily

@darkstar42 I sprained it while jogging a few weeks ago.

AdorkablePixie

@Kath525 Good luck with the doctor appointment. Oh wow, a fire extinguisher is something we don't have! I should probably buy one or two. Yikes.

LJMoon6

@adorkablepixie If I stay within the same provider system as my pcp then I don’t need a referral, but if I want to go outside of the system then I do need one. I need to do some research and find a few options in my area.

@meladams10 Ya I don’t think she really knows much either. She thought we could test the progesterone at any time in the cycle and I had to tell her I thought it was 7dpo. I’m nervous to be moving on to an RE but I think that’s the best option.

@kath525 Yay for getting your paperwork in! I didn’t really think the % normal was a problem, just that it was low. I’m more freaked out now after asking her about it.

crookshanks10

@LJMoon6 OMG my OB did the same thing with the progesterone test! I'm so surprised at how they don't know the basics of women's hormones and fertility. I'm glad you'll see an RE who knows what they're doing!

AdorkablePixie

@LJMoon6 I hope you can find someone good soon. There are so many options in some places. Where are you located? Do you have a Shady Grove Fertility? That's where I went and they are AMAZING.

LJMoon6

@AdorkablePixie I'm in the Twin Cities. There are a bunch in the area, so I definitely have options. No Shady Grove Fertility though.

catlady2015

@meladams10 - enjoy your massage! FX for YH's SA to come back normal!
@rosebud332 - I get not liking others touching you. I requested female therapists for that reason, but it felt so good after i got started that it really became a non-issue for me. Everyone's been super professional and focused on only touching what's needed to help you feel better. You can start with a short chair massage - they'll work on your back/neck, etc through your clothes. it can be super relaxing, even if you don't do the whole table thing. 
@Stargazer1lily - glad your ankle's recuperating!! 
@prpl11butterfly - i have nothing to say about your chart, but hugs, friend. can you fit in a massage, something nice for yourself? b/c that's just icky. also, yay for new bathtub!
@LJMoon6 - keep us posted on the RE situation! She should refer you, esp. since she can't do the testing you need anyway. it shouldn't have to go up a ladder from her to a gyn, to an RE. like @AdorkablePixie said, do you need a referral for insurance, or can you just make an appointment yourself? 
@AdorkablePixie - do you typically get a lot of ewcm, or does yours show up just before O? at any rate, hope it means your O is imminent and you guys have good timing this month!
@Kath525 - GL at your appt today!

AdorkablePixie

@catlady2015 - I actually really don't ever get EWCM. I got it twice last cycle, a very little bit, nowhere near ovulation. I had watery cm before I Od and when I got my positive OPK last cycle.

lin0442

@prpl11butterfly Yes with the veggie peelers! I feel the same way about them and cheese graters. 

@LJMoon6 it’s so frustrating to deal with dr’s who either aren’t very involved or don’t seem very knowledgeable. Sorry. 

Month/Cycle: 24/17

CD: 15

WAYDTGKU: starting RE workup, temping, pnv etc.
 
R/R: I slept *so* badly last night, not a great way to start the week. 

CS/Q:

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? I get really freaked out about damaging my fingernails- like if they peel or break it’s so gross and unpleasant and I immediately need to go buy nail clippers and fix it or it’s all I can concentrate on It’s weird and I have no idea why it messes me up so much. I’m generally cool with bugs, though. 

nasah15

Month/Cycle: 9/9

CD: 5

WAYDTGKU: PNV, opk, bbt
 
R/R: rant: Having a very crappy day. Got into a huge fight with DH last night. He just doesn't listen to reason sometimes. Hopefully he'l come around but I do hate it when we fight. On top of that even work has been sucky. A colleague totally dumped his work on me and didn't like it when I confronted him. Did it twice in the last week and was totally unapologetic about it. 

Rave: none today. 

CS/Q: -

GTKY: What's something you're afraid of? to lose the people I love.. oh and bugs. All the creepy crawly variety.

nasah15

@meladams10 good luck for YH's SA. Hopefully it will be normal.
@Stargazer1lily I'm glad your ankle is doing better. Hope you'l be back to doing lunges in no time
@lin0442 lol I thought I was the only one who did that. I feel the same about my fingernails. I always have to keep clippers handy!  

darkstar42

@meladams10 Thank you!

@LJMoon6 YGPM. But also, 5% morphology is over the “minimum” criterion. How were the other numbers? If count and motility are normal or high, 5% morphology might be just fine! It’s so hard to know with this stuff.

@Kath525 Thank you! Finding a good therapist is challenging, but worth it. What do you teach?

@Stargazer1lily Ouch! Glad it’s feeling better. I know sprains can take forever to heal.

@nasah15 So sorry for the crappy day. *hugs*

AdorkablePixie

@nasah15 I'm sorry about the argument with your DH. That's never a good time.