UO Thursday (3/8)

mytrueloves

Let's hear 'em!

princessandthegator

I actually mostly hate maternity pictures. It's cute when people post one picture but I don't want to see an album of 35 pictures of you lovingly looking at a bear. 

knottieamusements

mrsmartinez16 said:

I actually mostly hate maternity pictures. It's cute when people post one picture but I don't want to see an album of 35 pictures of you lovingly looking at a bear. 

Ha!  The friend I’m planning to ask to do a maternity shoot with me would die before having me look lovingly at a bear.  I’m hoping for hard, gritty, industrial. 

While we are on maternity photos- I feel like the weekly bump photos are over done.  I know my body is changing- I don’t need to copy everyone else’s photo shoot to see it.  

I think perhaps I lack baby-enthusiasm?

princessandthegator

@knottieamusements OMG YES! I'm a real a$$^%&* when I'm pregnant though so I'm full of unpopular opinions. I'll probably take a couple of pics at 8,12,16,etc just to compare to DD pregnancy and see how much more I'm showing but I think I'm steering away from social media belly posts this time around. It feels like every time I get pregnant like 15 other girls from my graduating class get pregnant and I don't want to have people comparing their bellies to mine

purple_2012

Gender reveal parties! I don't understand the need to invite everyone you know to this!! 

Disclaimer: I do think they're fun and I do think they have a purpose, but the amount of people some invite to theirs is ridiculous. We did reluctantly have one with DS because of our parents. But the only people invited were our parents, siblings, and grandparents, so an entire 8 people. 

jengibre_zorro

@purple_2012 I agree about gender reveal parties, but i am also super into cake, so i think by default, my opinion is neutral.  

princessandthegator

@purple_2012 Oh god, this is so true. I know people who had like catered menus and stuff at reveals, people who threw them in banquet halls. It's overkill and tbh your kid having a penis doesn't mean he's going to love baseball. 

muchwanted

I like the weekly belly pics bc I think the changes are amazing to see, but I hate super cheesy staged shots.

My UO: I do not get the Disney obsession, especially paying $10K for a vacation there. 

KFrob

@purple_2012 I'm with you on this over invitation thing.  I also feel the same way about kids parties.  When did it become a thing to have a $500+ party for your kid for every birthday and invite everyone you know and every kid at daycare/school?  Maybe I'm debbie downer but I find it annoying to be expected to send my kid to 20 birthday parties a year and I'm sure as heck not having a huge party every year.  I know I could decline the invite, but then I feel like a jerk for not letting my kid have fun at someone's party.    

acciocoffee

I think baby showers should only be for your first kid. Yes, a "sprinkle" is still a shower. Stop asking your friends to buy you stuff. 

Lisa3379

acciocoffee said:

I think baby showers should only be for your first kid. Yes, a "sprinkle" is still a shower. Stop asking your friends to buy you stuff. 

Agreed. Even the shower (at least the gift part) was kind of awkward.

concreteayngel

My UO is I’m definitely not in the leggings club. They look ok with some outfits, but they aren’t PANTS. And I despise lularoe, and MLM scams in general. 

mytrueloves

The term "pee-pee" is immature and gross and grown adults need to stop using it like yesterday.

concreteayngel

@mytrueloves I’ve never in my life heard an adult say that (unless talking to a child about going to the bathroom). That is so weird. Though I’m guilty of sometimes saying “tinkle” lol. 

norahkate

@mytrueloves at our ultrasound with our first the tech actually referred to his penis as his wee-wee. and then there was a student there (which we okayed) and he was super uncomfortable about it so we thought he would just use real words, but he referred to it as his man parts. right...my fetus has man parts.

mytrueloves

@concreteayngel You'd be surprised how many people I've seen use it exclusively instead of penis.
@norahkate That's annoying. Medical professionals of all people should be able to use the word penis.

knottieamusements

@mytrueloves - totally with you- for both sexes. 

I also resent that so many people don’t seem to know basic female anatomy.  No dude- unless you have a speculum, you won’t see any vaginas.  

DunkinDecaf

I don’t like Dr Who. Tried but totally failed to get into it. No one hate me

pebbledam

Not a fan of big gender reveals, either. 

I'm torn about the baby shower thing because this is my first, but my husband's second. I think if it's done right, I would enjoy doing a shower, but I don't know if it's tacky. 

AFM, my completely off topic UO is that I don't find David Boreanaz attractive. Like, at all. He looks like a caveman. 

mytrueloves

@knottieamusements that is a huuuuge pet peeve of mine. Your genitals are called your vulva, your vagina is just one part.
@DunkinDecaf I couldn't get into it either. And my BFF is a massive whovian

SweetSweetTooth

@DunkinDecaf I have never tried to watch it. There is so much hype but I haven't tried. Not a British TV fan

kimberbeep

@acciocoffee and @lisa3379 - I think "showers" are awkward in general. I didn't have a wedding shower, and I don't really want a baby shower. My mom really wants to throw me one and my husband thinks we should have one, too. I really don't want to play awkward games, and I don't want people to watch me awkwardly open gifts. *whines*

@concreteayngel - I have never owned a pair of leggings and I would be happy if I does never owning leggings. I don't even really like yoga pants unless they are on the loose side and then I may as well just be wearing PJ pants.

And on that note - I am NOT looking forward to "maternity pants" at. all. I am an ultra low rise pant fan and HATE when pants ride up on my hips. No thanks. The idea of pants going up and over my belly sounds like the most uncomfortable thing in the world. 

Lisa3379

kimberbeep said:

@acciocoffee and @lisa3379 - I think "showers" are awkward in general. I didn't have a wedding shower, and I don't really want a baby shower. My mom really wants to throw me one and my husband thinks we should have one, too. I really don't want to play awkward games, and I don't want people to watch me awkwardly open gifts. *whines*

I insisted on no games. We just had food, cake, and people hung out and visited, kids played... it was pretty low-key. I was torn on opening gifts in front of people, but I felt like people  want to see someone open it - like bringing a gift and not knowing if they liked it was weird, too. It was ok. You don’t have to open them in front of people - sending a personal thank you card afterward would be fine I’m sure. 

knottieamusements

@kimberbeep - Two suggestions - 1)Have a mixed gender baby shower because people don’t seem to try to make men play stupid party games.  2) Make your husband open the presents while you make the thank-you list, or don’t open presents at the shower at all.  

Also I’m with you on anything going up over my belly.  

acciocoffee

@kimberbeep Agreed. We had a "Baby-Q" which was super casual. We invited men and women so it wasn't just a bunch of women sitting in a circle. We grilled hot dogs and hamburgers and played zero games. We did open presents which I hated, but we did it anyways. I actually think DH liked being a part of it all and I loved not having all of the attention on me. 

sammierose464

purple_2012 said:

Gender reveal parties! I don't understand the need to invite everyone you know to this!! 

Disclaimer: I do think they're fun and I do think they have a purpose, but the amount of people some invite to theirs is ridiculous. We did reluctantly have one with DS because of our parents. But the only people invited were our parents, siblings, and grandparents, so an entire 8 people. 

I agree. I don't get the point of a big party if you're going to have a baby shower. Although, I can somewhat understand if you're not having a baby shower.

We will know gender by the 28th hopefully. We don't have my SS for Easter, so we are thinking of having our parents/siblings over on the 30th or 31st and doing a small reveal. We will know the sex, but no one else will. I just want to do something fun for my son more than anything.

blee530

I generally dislike all pregancy "things" showers,  gender reveals, showing u/s photos,  maternity photos, big annoucements etc. I think I'm just getting crotchety in my old age,  lol. I don't think I was so cranky about this stuff when I was pregnant 8 yrs ago. 

kimberbeep

Thanks for your input ladies. I really hadn't given it much thought until reading some earlier posts. If it was up to me, really, I wouldn't have a shower. My nieces/nephews were all born overseas so this is the first baby my mom gets to be involved with. She said it's like a first grandchild - but don't tell my sister and her 4 kids that!! 

sliztee

I fiercely despise the band U2. 

knottieamusements

@kimberbeep - for my Mom it is the first (and likely only) grandchild.  She is organizing shower whether I like it or not.  I am with you on being the center of attention.  

I actually asked baby’s guncle to come to my work shower so it would be less awkward for me. My boss is also inordinately excited about throwing me a baby shower- and my boss is a guy!

Sometimes you just have to suck it up and be gracious.  (I imagine that is also an unpopular opinion.

chyvie

One of my friends did a coed baby-Q shower and it was so much fun! It is a fun excuse to get your group of friends together and the guys really loved it too. We played some fun games: pin the sperm in the womb, pop the balloon belly (sumo wrestling like), and fastest baby diaper changer.  Most of our friends already have kids so there has been a lot of showers, so we feel like we will do one but make it coed and family friendly.

mytrueloves

I guess another of my UOs is that I think most baby shower etiquette is outdated and silly. I get why people think a second shower is tacky because of the gifts, but gifts are optional and I don't think it's that big a deal. That being said, I'm not having a shower this pregnancy but DF's family wants to throw him one since it's his first kid and his mother has wanted grandkids forever lol. I'm also more of a fan of sip 'n sees than showers in general.
Also love the Baby-Q idea. That sounds so cute and fun.

jynjer4

@muchwanted   Amen on the Disney thing. Even as a kid I never cared about it! It probably sounds awful but I hope I never have to take my kids there. I’d rather go camping. Sorry not sorry. 

kiwi2628

@muchwanted and @jynjer91 agreed. If I am gonna pay 6-10k for a vacation, I would rather my kids experience the world- we will head to Ireland or Germany or Croatia or Japan, not a theme park

pebbledam

@muchwanted, @jynjer91 - I'm not like one of those Disney-obsessed people, but I do LOVE Disney. Maybe it's because I was born 5 miles from the gates of Disney World, I dunno, but it's magical. 

theglitteredpterodactyl

I can't stand gender reveal parties. Babies don't have genders, just social expectations. I also thoroughly roll my eyes at "gender disappointment" but I'll keep my mouth shut on the forums when that time rolls around. I have a trans/gender neutral partner and knowing all the things they've gone through in their life combating expectations and having their identity ignored and invalidated makes it a sensitive subject for sure. 

mytrueloves

@theglitteredpterodactyl both my partner and I are trans and I'm with you 100%

muchwanted

As a social scientist all the talk of gender for unborn babies makes me cringe. I've given up correcting people, but it's definitely wrong wrong wrong. 

spartan4life

@muchwanted I also agree with the Disney thing, I am not a fan. Although, I have never been there so maybe it is worth it, I just don’t know that I will ever care to experience it. 

My UO is that I hate going to the movies at the movie theater. Yes I love the popcorn, but sitting there for 2-3 hours, not being able to pause it when I have to go to the bathroom is just annoying. Not to mention everything is over priced and if I take a nap in the middle of it I can’t just go back and rewatch what I missed.

theglitteredpterodactyl

@spartan4life oooh yes! Sitting through a movie at the theaters is near torture for me. I'm a really fidgety person and usually doing something with my hands like crocheting or drawing. Sitting still for an entire movie is legit straight up painful lol

pumpkinpancake

@spartan4life I’m the opposite!  DH and I literally used to go to like a movie a week when we were dating and married pre-kids, but we haven’t been in almost two years (since our son was born!) I miss going to the movies so much!!