Weekly Rants (2/19)

izza2

What's got you hot and bothered this week?

lisa2589

Thanks to my cat, I’ve been awake since 4:30. 

izza2

@2589 - MH woke me up at 3 because apparently he grabbed my boob half-awake and it was cold, which apparently meant I needed to be told my boob was cold...
I was pretty much up from then on.

catlady1215

our thing anymore is falling asleep on the couch then my internal alarm clock waking us up at 230 to move to the bed. I get there and my little pregnancy pillow is missing. its just alittle slanty one I use behind my back to help stop me from full on back sleeping/staying on my left side alittle. but I was so annoyed. we looked around our whole room, DS' room, the baby room, bathroom... no where to be seen. DS probably hid it somewhere.

oh also, I wanted another choc shake yesterday. thought about it all day. dh stops last night and their choc shake machine was down I kinda sorta wanted to cry.

Amphibious22

So we got chipotle for dinner last night and I spent the better part of the evening throwing it back up. Not feeling great obviously. I was then woken up at 4am by our upstairs neighbors playing music so loudly, the bass was shaking our bedroom. I was so frustrated that I moved to the couch. My alarm for work just went off and I so badly want to just call out. I'm exhausted and it's my last week of work. And I'm not even working my actual department, I'm helping out the petting kraal which is likely going to be a shit storm since it's president's day and everyone is off. Am I a terrible person if I do it? 

ramennoodlegif

@Amphibious22 You are not a terrible person for calling in.

stephcat421

@Amphibious22 I'm so sorry about your rough night! You've got to take care of yourself, so I'm in agreement you should take the day off to hydrate and recuperate!

dinodna3

We made an impromptu trip to my ILs yesterday. This is going to be the last time we make this 4 hour drive for a long time. The kids start to melt down after 2 hours and it’s a complete shit show of tears and potty breaks for the rest of the ride. AND now that we are here, we are not doing anything! DH is still sleeping and the kids are just running around like maniacs. 

Amphibious22

@kfren love that meme and @stephcat421 thanks. I did it. I feel kinda guilty but not even that bad. Oh and also my neighbors are still playing the music. I honestly might leave a complaint with the main office even though we're moving. I also kinda want to Mr. Heckles them and bang on my ceiling. 

ramennoodlegif

@Amphibious22 Good-sounds like you need the rest.
Instead of complaining about the music, you could always wait until it stopped and give them some time to get ready to sleep, and turn on your own music. Just sayin'.

krash_

Back to the rants about MLM...a friend recently started selling Usborn books (even though she only had one of their books before "starting her business") and she just got my shower invite. So she messages me asking if I want to host a pre-shower online book party that way all my shower guests could get books to give me at my shower. 

Are you kidding me!?! It would be so tacky to be like "hey I know you are all already invited to my baby shower and will likely be getting a gift for that but please buy books from this facebook party to give to me at my shower too!" It's gift grabby and like she is trying to make money off of my baby shower. Not to mention that most people that give books at showers want to give their childhood favorites not random books. 

Lastly, maybe I am a naive FTM but I don't get this obsession with having shelves upon shelves of books. I mean I would rather they be books than toys but I don't want hundreds of toys either. A kid will focus on maybe 10 or so different books at a time and for the most part they will want to read the same one over and over again for awhile. Then when they start to get more advanced you cycle in new more challenging books. 

kmurdock925

krashke - umm that party suggestion is mortifying.  No- just no.

For me- our book collection has grown massively mainly in part because 1)I started to feel like DD1 needed more variety and 2) for my own sanity.  I couldn't deal with reading the same stories over and over and over again. 

doxiemoxie212

@krashke unfriend unfriend unfriend omg that’s terrible on so many levels 

bearmoons

@krashke I always wonder....how do people get so sucked into these MLM things that they completely lose any tact? It's the same with LLR, R&F, etc. Please don't guilt me into buying stuff I don't want just because you are now trapped. Ugh.

AFM: I cannot stand when other providers consult our service (on the inpatient side) and then do not call me. So hours later when the RN or maybe even the secretary sees the random consult in the chart, they call me. And they usually have no idea why or only a vague idea as to why we are consulted....So then I have to dig through the chart to figure it out, hunt down whoever consulted me, and then go see the patient. Things would be much more smooth if whoever puts in the consult would just pick up the phone and call me.  Or text me. Anything. I'm really easy to get ahold of. You can even dial "zero" and have the switchboard connect you to me. Sometimes I don't find out until the next day when the person who consulted me calls me to complain about me not seeing the patient yet. HELLOOOOooo, I'm not psychic....

MoonOverGoldsboro

@krashke WTF. I do not understand what the hell people are thinking. When you join an MLM, do you lose the ability to recognize appropriate human conduct?

And I'm with @kmurdock925...our book collection is big so I don't lose my goddamn mind reading the same things over and over again. We have a library bin with maybe 20 books in it in the play area, and my son needs to flip through the pages of every. single. one. multiple times a day. I need to cycle in new ones so that we don't all die of boredom.

lisa2589

@bearmoons omg omg I am totally the random RN who gets stuck trying to explain to you why you were consulted when the consulting provider didn’t even tell me why they did it  Even worse is when the provider doesn’t tell me he did, the secretary doesn't tell me she paged it, and then all of a sudden I’m on the phone trying to figure out who/why even paged you let alone what the deal is with the consult. This shit should be outlawed. 

bearmoons

@2589 hahaha. Exactly! How hard is it for the person consulting to just CALL? It would save about 5 people a lot of headache. I always feel bad for the secretary or the RN trying to help out....my old partner would always be a total snot to them when they weren't really sure why we got consulted....dude, they are just the unlucky middleman. 

May14th2011

Mlms are a big thing among military spouses, so I'm constantly getting approached about things I don't want. Why are they so pushy?? I considered selling pampered chef, but I hate hounding people. 

stephcat421

@krashke wow! That's some nerve about the pre shower book party. Aside from asking guests to attend that it's just another stress you certainly don't need!  

AFM, I really feel guilty for this rant but it too is regarding our baby shower. My MIL has been planning it with next to no help from my mother(she'd rather write a check and be done with it).  Anyways, I really don't do well with planning things like this and become burdened with stress very quickly so DH helped fill in the blanks.  Today I get a text from my cousin saying, "I can't find your registry on Amazon is it set private?".  Come to find out MIL put we were registered there too on invite! So I call DH and he was like I may have mentioned that in the beginning when I was playing around on Amazon. Ummm what? Now I've got to scramble to throw some hsit together for my guests to have that option. I don't want to duplicate what's already on my 10 page registry with BRU.... Just so annoying because aside from gift cards we only have a monitor and baby carrier off the registry. I told DH he was fixing the mess and making another registry cause I didn't sign up for this lol! I'm just feeling like a basket of bitchy hormones lately!

krash_

@stephcat421 that would be frustrating. I totally get it and I'm even worse; I was slightly perturbed that the shower invites that my step mother sent out said we are registered at "target; amazon; babylist.com" and not with proper grammar like "Target, Amazon and Babylist.com." I'm glad YH is going to take care of it though. You can always double up on the essentials like diapers, wipes and basic onesies. 

stephcat421

@krashke eek, I don't blame you! I'm a stickler for proper grammar... Maybe not here but surely on an invitation! No shame for any cringe you may have had. Good idea on essentials, can't go wrong there! I definitely want to give budget friendly options on Amazon as well so that'll be perfect.

lisa2589

@stephcat421 the other thing I thought of for your Amazon registry, if you don’t want to duplicate the major items, would be bibs, burp cloths and little teething toy types of things- mostly because they’re super easy to re-gift if necessary 

bearmoons

@stephcat421 my MIL did the same but with Buy Buy Baby....so I had to make ANOTHER registry. She said she just assumed I'd register there because it's got everything and is so convenient. I thought Amazon and Target were easier and more convenient, but whatever. 

stephcat421

@bearmoons Ahhh isn't it frustrating! Maybe it's my meticulous nature but it takes time to make these registries, I can't just slap on together! But again I feel awful for complaining, it's like looking a gift horse in the mouth!

@2589 more great ideas! These are the suggestions that may make it not so bad

aharv77

@krashke +1 to the massive book collection! My mom is an K-5 librarian so she's always hooking us up with the latest and greatest books but DD is a big reader. Some nights we'd read 2 or 3 books just because she loves her stories! We did go through phases of where she'd only want the same few over and over and over and over again but it's always nice to have such a big selection. We're doing chapter books right now so I read her one or two chapters a night but I'll find her in her room going back to her old favorites and reading out loud to herself!

doxiemoxie212

@stephcat421 @krashke I finally 100% agreed to let our friends here throw us a baby shower (they kept bringing it up) since we decided we're going to stay in NYC for the birth. The date we've all decided on is March 25th because my mom and best friend will both be in town from CA. But like, it's February 19th and they won't even tell me if I need to give them snail mail or email addresses for the invites...? I mean... I don't just have those sitting around for everyone. I will need to ask people, especially for snail mail addresses. I think I'm already regretting agreeing to this lol, and I haven't even encountered inevitable weirdness like wrong info or whatever going out. Siiiiigh. 

kmurdock925

doxiemoxie212 - eek...I would probably start getting the list of contact info ready because when they ask for the info it will probably be needed like, yesterday.

doxiemoxie212

@kmurdock925 that's what I'm doing, but I'm just annoyed that I basically have to track down BOTH instead of just one or the other. I mean, I'm not crazy, right - you should send out formal invitations to something like a baby shower 3-4 weeks before? Or am I nuts? 

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 for showers I go with 6-8 weeks in advance. You're not nuts. If it's more casual and they do email invites I can see them coming out with less notice but you want to make sure you give people enough time to get it on the calendar and get a gift. I would maybe reach out and just say that you're so happy that they want to do this for you and it is so generous and to let you know if they need anything from you like addresses or email addresses. 

doxiemoxie212

@krashke I did! I was looping in my BFF with them on FB because they aren't FB friends with her, and I said, "Do you guys want me to remove myself from this group chat now? And if so, before I do, do I need to compile email address or snail mail addresses?" And they said, "No, it's not a secret." Like wut. I'm really trying to push down the controlling beast within me, but I am struggling. I feel like they are thinking they'll just send a FB invite out like 4 days before, and I really don't want that. 

kmurdock925

@doxiemoxie212 - Yeah- I think it depends on the audience...it sounds like it will mainly be friends and not 60-70 year old aunts that may not have/check emails so email invites may be fine?  Even still...people need some notice.  like what @krashke said- I think per technical etiquette rules 6-8 weeks is kind of standard although I feel like I usually see invites more in the 4 week range? Schedules start booking up quickly though in the spring.  Yeah- you may have to let some of the beast out, lol...like maybe just enough to keep them on their toes, ha

katie121209

I can’t remember when paper invites for DDs shower went out but I did text my close friends the date earlier so they had the best chance of being there. 

I have had lots of people asking me if we are having a shower and I keep saying no since it’s our second. I did make an amazon registry for some things I need to transition DD to a big girl room so I can get the discount lol! 

To whoever posted about the book party, I did host one for a friend a few months ago and I often buy the usborne books for kids bday party gifts because I love them so much but that was very forward of her to suggest it to you. We spend about an hour reading every day so we have a huge collection. 

sabby2

I must look super awesome today since over 3 people asked me how I was feeling today...


Granted I was up with a legit panic attack for a good amount of the night so probably do look like death warmed over.  I need to make sure to address the ppd/ppa at my next appointment. I guess I need to start something sooner than I was thinking.

Austenista

@sabby2 no shame in that game. I just resumed my buspar this past weekend due to anxiety. It was something I dealt with last pregnancy too. Talk to your doctor and do what you have to do to feel better. 

sabby2

@Austenista I was on Buspar prior to this pregnancy.  I think some of the symptoms I had last time post partum were more indicative of ppd though so I want to talk through that thoroughly because that was so not fun.  I *know* I have anxiety though and Buspar did help.

stephcat421

@doxiemoxie212 I'm so excited you're going to have a baby shower! I know you were hestitant but you guys deserve to celebrate your little lady!

Our shower will also take place 3/25! Don't feel bad, our invites just went out from MIL in Iowa to WI family last Thursday. We received our copy of the invite only on Saturday! The rsvp is by 3/15, which I feel gives people plenty of time! I'd say you have some time, but surely the hosts really need to get on the invites. Do you know if the hold up is the venue? Have you registered? If so, will that be listed on the invite?

doxiemoxie212

@stephcat421 so we're the only ones with an apartment building here in NYC that has a resident lounge/roofdeck you can reserve, so the shower is going to be here (no one's apt is big enough to host a party in, and it will likely be too cold to bank fully on outdoor), I guess. That was one of my questions - do they want me to reserve the space? I just don't think my friends really know what they're doing, and I feel bad because they're all so busy (one lawyer, one neurology resident, one girl works full-time while getting her MBA, and one is a product manager or whatever at a major tech company), but this wasn't my idea. I'm sort of starting to feel like they kept bugging me about it, but maybe I was supposed to just keep saying no? Like, I'm in the group chat. There are no plans made other than the date. Not even the time. 

That's fun it'll be the same day as yours, though! (...if this ends up happening, lolz)

sabby2

I love Usborne books. They are some of our faves ad I love that they can grow with a child through different developmental stages.

Re: MLMs... I have a business because I wanted the discount on products I use all the time.  I love my Jamberry products.  That being said, I'm not pushy. I almost never post on my personal Facebook page about it.. I hate messaging people out of the blue about it. Not my style.  I HATE when consultants encourage people to add 100 people to the group to get entered for a prize, ect.  That so rude!  I personally invite via fb message, text, call, or email and encourage anyone who hosts for me to do the same for invites.  This is actually how Jamberry trains it's consultants as well. 

stephcat421

@doxiemoxie212 well, the space is the hardest thing to get locked down so that's awesome it's settled.... Assuming by the time they tell you to reserve the space it's still available.  They all do sound busy but also sound very capable so hopefully they pull it together! Keep us posted!

lisa2589

I’ve actually had 2 complete and total strangers in recent months friend request me on FB, I would see we had like 1 friend in common so creep their page to see if maybe I somehow knew them, nope BUT they have a million posts about xyz MLM BS they distribute and obviously are just trolling for new customers. SO. RUDE. 

amys614

I just need to get this off my chest. My SO ex-wife makes me bat shit crazy. 

When they were married, she didn't work, which is cool. Most of their fighting stemmed from him working 2 jobs so she could stay home but everything involving the home life was falling apart--the mess, feeding the kids, the kids homework and grades. She had more interest in being on social media 24/7 than making sure kids school work was done for the day or making sure they had clean uniforms. She has an obsession with buying things. She thinks objects provide happiness and their overall differences in those topics were things he just didn't want to deal with anymore....exceptttttt he still is. 

Now that they aren't together, she still doesn't work. Again, fine. If you can make it on whatever you're getting, props to ya girlfriend. BUT this woman's sense of entitlement makes me see red. She gets a very cozy amount of money per month, which in itself doesn't bother me. We are doing fine, his kids needs are being met. Everyone is good. The part where I lose my mind is that she spends it on shit like another new pair of $$ shoes (so she can show them off on social media, duh) and then runs out of money. Any normal person would be like oh well, that's her problem if she runs out because she's dumb. Except it's not. Guess who's ordering $30 worth of pizza for delivery for them when his son texts him on Friday night.  Or transfers $60 so they can go to the movies today since there was no school. Obviously mom is going with. They are 11 and 7. Guess who pays for their ubers around the city for everyone when they go anywhere. Oh yeah bc she also doesn't have a driver's license or a high school diploma and has no motivation nor drive to obtain either one. 

And he will give in every single time bc he feels bad for the kids that their mom is such a financial train wreck. 

I'm just so tired of rolling my pregnant ass out of bed everyday and busting my hump, cooking us dinner so we don't eat out a lot, etc etc and this B is over here not doing jack shit besides standing there with her hand out. 

Oh and then she has the audacity to pull the following types of shenanigans: NYE we stayed in and I cooked steak and lobster, potatoes, broccoli and we had a glass of white wine. I was so proud of my fancy pants meal, I posted a picture of it. She, being the stalker she is, sees it and tells their son, who then makes a comment to his dad about how we had steak and lobster and he had just pizza and that's not fair. This was obviously his mother talking bc this kid loves pizza and chooses it over everything. We were both saying to each other, well if she wasn't so damn lazy, she too, could shop for ingredients and make a $30 fancy pants meal instead of $30 worth of crappy pizza delivery but that's her choice. She wants us to feel guilty for the life we live, yet we both work really hard and make wiser spending choices than she does. I won't feel guilty. The kids also go to a very nice, private school, no thanks to her. But then she has the nerve to tell him he's a crappy dad whenever she doesn't get her way, just bc she knows that's the only thing that can get under his skin.  

I have just never met someone with such a sense of entitlement, willing to do so little for anything she has or wants. I think it set me off bc after he transfers the $60 and sets up the uber today, they get there and find out the movie is sold out, so they are just going to walk around the mall---and undoubtedly spend the $60 on crap--I'm sure. Five below is favorite stop. So they can collect more crap that's going to break in 3 weeks. Their house is out of room from all the crap they buy. The worst part is that the kids are being raised to think that objects bring happiness and that every time they are out, they should get something. No value or worth or appreciation in anything. When we have them, we make a point to DO things rather than BUY things and sometimes those things are free. Maybe we just sit outside and color with chalk or have a water gun fight or play board games. And you know what, they are just as happy.  

Sorry guys. That was a boatload of a midnight rant, probably filled with typos.