Sex or lack there of

joco617

Hey Ladies!

Today I am 6 weeks and feeling great! Im on estrogen suppositories 3xs a day. Im not sure if that effects anything or if its just my body changing but I sure do miss my husband. We have tried to have sex twice in the last couple weeks and both times were bad. I was dry (we even used our pre-seed lube) and it kind of hurt because of it. He felt it too and was not enjoying the desert like feel and we ended up stopping. Its hard enough for me to get into the mood so when we try I would like it to be at least somewhat enjoyable for me so that its enjoyable for him. Any lube recommendations or other ways to help?

knottieamusements

I don’t think you need to continue to use Preseed once you are pregnant; it is just to make a less hostile environment for the swimmers.

Personally, I found Preseed to be one of the worst lubricants I’ve ever tried. It is super runny, and doesn’t really lubricate. You might try a gel or a spray instead. Currently, I’m using Pink. 

nayyohme

Pure romance makes a good gel lube but it's like $20. Granted it's lasted me like 2 years. Worth it.

northbeach3

my gay best friend swears by EROS body glide -- it's silicone based, not water-soluable based... so it keeps lube-y and doesn't dry out.  might be a bit messier, but if you're hoping for smooth gliding... it's definitely the one.

kudos to you for being in the mood... my nausea has been cray and i'm very much STAY AWAY or risk barf in the face!   please get down for all of us who are too sick to be into it. haha

sammierose464

nayyohme said:

Pure romance makes a good gel lube but it's like $20. Granted it's lasted me like 2 years. Worth it.

Pure Romance's "Just Like Me" is my go-to. And I use their gel one too.

concreteayngel

 We used Uber lube for a long time. It’s a bit spendy on Amazon, but is great stuff! Never dries out or gets sticky! Gun Oil also makes a good one that’s less expensive. 

I believe both are silicone based. 

cdepperschmidt

I’m surprised anyone even fees the desire for sex. Even when I do feel okay, the drive is not there.

concreteayngel

@cdepperschmidt   It’s been a daily struggle since I had my BC implant removed years ago. That thing was straight up poison. Anyway, hormonal BC left me severely depressed with zero drive. It got a little better, until I got pg with DS. Then PPD took its toll, got a little better. And now I’m pg again. Poor DH!

jynjer4

Props to anyone who still gets “in the mood”! Poor DH..we used to be an at least once a day couple but lately, nope. Nada. He’s been very understanding. Thankfully. 

knottieamusements

@cdepperschmidt

My horomones are whacked up by the pregnancy. I’m asexual, which means I don’t normally experience sexual attraction, but it doesn’t mean I don’t get horny and the pregnancy hormones have definitely messed with that.  This has resulted in a couple of things for me- a temporary renegotiation of my physical boundaries with one of my partners (my relationships are atypical; I’d be happy to explain that offline) and wet dreams as one of the types of vivid dreams I experience. 

It doesn’t mean I’m not also exhausted and nauseous, just that there is one more factor in the mix. 

Add onto that- physical intimacy is an important part of many relationships. Making sure that you don’t entirely lose that part with all the other changes going on makes a lot of sense- just like continuing to do date nights. 

sammierose464

I still get turned on, but I have no desire for actual sex. It's been mostly some one-on-one time.