FFFC* 2/16

spottedginger

*now with more flames. 

smsaulino

I hate the fact that I can't have any food or anything to drink except water until an ultrasound of my kidneys is done at 1pm today. The imaging center knows that I'm pregnant and still set me up with an early afternoon appointment. ugh. 

[Deleted User]

@spottedginger. Omg but that gif tho!  :D

adirat

@smsaulino That is just cruel! Good luck getting through the day!

megnwingate

@smsaulino FWIW my tech friends said they would scan as long as it’s been at least 4 hours. Don’t not eat because you will be nauseated. 

prpl11butterfly

I side-eye people who say they were not trying to get pregnant (no offense to anyone) because if you were not trying not to, you knew it was a matter if time. My BFF is one of those, but when people make comments to her the response is "well we were not trying not to". Not once has she said they were not trying.

Also, I just ate a Dunkin Donuts coffee roll for breakfast because. That is not a place a pregnant woman should be every morning (dropping niece off with my mom in between her bus routes)

spottedginger

FFFC: since Fridays are special we take DS to Dunkin for donut Fridays. DH is traveling today so I took DS this am. He ate seven munchkins. Mom of the year over here. 

yosemite2018

prpl11butterfly said:

I side-eye people who say they were not trying to get pregnant (no offense to anyone) because if you were not trying not to, you knew it was a matter if time. My BFF is one of those, but when people make comments to her the response is "well we were not trying not to". Not once has she said they were not trying.

To me, ntnp is trying. Having unprotected sex is trying. If you were on birth control (and using it correctly) and still got pregnant, then I will agree you weren’t trying.

southernlady07

FFFC: Some of our friends (not close, but the guy works with my DH) are having a housewarming party tomorrow and I RSVP'd "maybe" because we have a birthday party to go to right beforehand that might run long. I looked back at the invitation the other day and they are providing chips and salsa and some soft drinks and are asking everyone attending to bring a dish to make up the rest of the food. I told my DH I'm not going now because a) I think it's rude to expect people to bring the majority of the food to a party and b) these friends have been to at least 10 parties at our house where we provided all of the food and alcoholic beverages and they have never once reciprocated. I plan to go home after the birthday party and take a nap instead. 

southernlady07

@spottedginger My DD and I LOVE going on DD dates! Seven munchkins basically equals one donut anyway 

JLyn821

@spottedginger seven munchkins? Sounds like he ate breakfast to me. That’s a win in my book!

SkilledSailor

I just ran payroll on time for the first time since getting pregnant. Whoops to the other two months I ran it late. Luckily none of my employees are full-time so they didn't even know but I felt like a slacker. 

FFFC 2: Last weekend H was sick with a stomach bug. I only felt the teensiest bit sad for him when he complained about still needing to do some chores since I was also sick (MS). Um, dude. You've felt bad for 24 hours. I've felt bad for 6 weeks so.....

ashh2018

Ooh you’re all making me miss Dunkin’ Donuts. I moved from the east coast to NorCal and they don’t have dd over here  

My FIL is visiting and I feel terrible that I’m not happier about it. He provided very short notice that he wanted to stay here instead of a hotel, so Wednesday night was spent frantically cleaning the guest room (he’s allergic to cats so everything had to be thoroughly cleaned). Also had to move the litter box from guest room to our bedroom bc it’s a small apartment and OMG I think it’s just revolting. I love him but he’s rarely considerate of DH’s feelings and that bugs me. I feel like a terrible ungrateful bitch for complaining but hey, it is what it is. 

MandyMost

When I hear someone is pregnant and says they "weren't trying to get pregnant" all I can think is "oh, wow, I'm surprised you're broadcasting that you're so irresponsible and/or stupid that you either neglected birth control or didn't understand it". 

jhjocelyn

@spottedginger I wish Dd would eat 7 munchkins!! She doesn’t do sweets. Literally licks at frosting and is done.  She needs a high calorie, high fat, high protein diet, and accomplishing that w o milkshakes/desserts/cookies(aka bribes) means lots of cheese and processed meat crap and mental effort that I am not enjoying handling these days! 

My fffc: DD discovered the games on the disney channel app, and now we sit together while I play them for her... I don’t evem wanna know how much screentime we’ve been doing lately...

AdmiralKitty

@ashh2018 there is one just north of SFO off the 101. Go early on a weekend and the drive from the south bay shouldn’t be so bad! I think there are 1 or 2 in the east bay also! 

prpl11butterfly

@MandyMost I'll pass that judgement based on their lifestyle, but generally I agree.

ashh2018

@AdmiralKitty ooh field trip!! Thanks! I just read that they opened one in Fremont but that’s about a half hour north of me. Might be worth the trip haha. 

adirat

@mandymost lol ded. I try not to judge but I definitely have had the same thought before.  

megnwingate

@MandyMost @prpl11butterfly

I’m one of the people who have stated we weren’t trying. Obviously it doesn’t mean we don’t love this baby any less. Our situation came as a complete shock to us, as in we have no idea how this baby was conceived because we were using BC. Granted I wasn’t on hormonal BC and using NFP. 

stothi

@southernlady07 I'm 39 and the vast majority of my friends are in that similar late 30's to mid 40's range. I get really annoyed at how many people still do potlucks where they provide like 2 bottles of water and a bag of chips and expect their guests to BYOB and the bulk of the actual food. Really? If you are that lazy or that broke just don't have the party. At this point in our lives I feel like people should have it together enough that if they throw a party they provide most if not all of the food. It doesn't have to be fancy. I'm cool with cheap pizza or hotdogs and generic soda, but you threw the party so I think food should be on you. I don't mind at all when it's the side dishes that are potluck OR it's BYOB, but when it's bring your own everything plus toilet paper, a chair and $10 towards gas and electricity, I get judgey and I usually won't go.

megnwingate

This pregnancy I’ve been surviving on anything but water. 

MandyMost

@megnwingate I will absolutely concede that my statement does NOT apply to anyone who was using birth control correctly and it failed! It's very rare, but it does happen. 

@prpl11butterfly  I don't see a lifestyle judgement in my statement--care to explain? My judgement is on saying that you "didn't mean to get pregnant" when you were having unprotected sex. No judgement on having unprotected sex, just on acting like you had no idea that it would lead to pregnancy. THAT is a judgment, yes. I judge people who don't know that unprotected sex leads to pregnancy. 

nlc8424

@southernlady07 I also hate that and would prefer not to go. I have a family member who regularly does this and even did it for her H's birthday party, I think it's so incredibly tacky. 

My FFFC: I lied to my DH about not having time to run to urgent care before picking up DS early from daycare because I just want some uninterrupted me time for 2 hours before dealing with my toddler. I suspect I have a sinus infection and feel terrible in the morning and evening, but feel decent in the afternoon. I will actually go if I need to, but I don't want to be exposed to even more germs.

megnwingate

@MandyMost I understand. The only reason I even mention that we weren’t trying is because I’m still completely confused on when we conceived. Lol. Obviously we know how pregnancy happens but when you avoid your fertile window and use condoms it’s a total head scratcher. 

MandyMost

My confession: I had no idea how hurtful it was to women with fertility issues to hear about how easy it is for other women to get pregnant. I am embarrassed I didn't recognize this before--it's like I knew, but never realized. With a history of loss myself, I'm so sensitive to women who are just so blindly joyful about their pregnancies--partially jealous they can feel that, partially fearful that they'll be so devastated if something happens. But I've never really thought about how women must feel when other women are so flippant about how easy they got pregnant. I'm going to be more conscious of this.

southernlady07

@stothi Preach!! I never mind bringing a dish a party, because typically the hosts provide a good portion of the food and in our friend group we all trade off hosting holiday (Memorial Day, 4th of July, Labor Day, etc.) parties and it evens out. We really enjoy hosting, always provide plenty of food and drink and tell people they are welcome to bring a dish if they want, but it's not necessary. This couple is just tacky all around (not just related to their food stinginess). 

@nlc8424 Birthday parties should DEFINITELY be covered by the person throwing the party, especially if the expectation is that you are to bring a gift! 

Perhaps another FFFC: I've decided that for Lent I'm giving up forced interactions with people who take up my energy and don't add value to my life and instead I'm focusing on relationships that are life-giving and meaningful to me. 

stothi

For years I utilized the time honored pull and pray method and had no unplanned pregnancies. After my fairly traumatic last pregnancy I decided I needed the Cadillac of birth control and got an IUD. Totes got knocked up unexpectedly with that bad boy properly in place. I feel like I no longer have anything to say judgemental or otherwise about when and how people get pregnant cause I'm still real confused about how me being irresponsible worked out just fine but me being as responsible as thought I could possibly be wound up pregnant. 
For the record, I'm VERY happy to have another baby, but I was trying pretty damn hard for it to not be right now. I just keep thinking that my emotions and baby fever must have been stronger than my logic and IUD.

prpl11butterfly

@megnwingate you are not included in my side-eye. You were trying not to get preg. I really just mean those who were not taking any preventative measures at all other then hope.

@MandyMost I meant passing judgement as whether I think they were being irresponsible or just not caring . Like my cousin is in NO position to have kids but irresponsibly had 2 (and she no longer has custody so.....) while my BFF was perfectly equipped and just didn't care whether it happened now or in a few years so I don't see her as irresponsible/negligent.

@stothi I have a friend who was the same way. Pull out method worked well for years and then her body had to go and ovulate almost immediately after her cycle, giving her baby #1. After that she decided BC was a better choice. Then her Nuvaring fell out and surprise, baby #2

And I hope no one takes my comments as saying that just because you were not trying to get pregnant doesn't mean you don't want/ are not excited for baby. To be honest I wouldn't expect to find many people on a forum of this nature if they were not at least a little happy/excited to be pregnant. 

smsaulino

@megnwingate I saw your message around 10:30 and it was too late by then.. The tech was super surprised with how clear my ultrasound. She said next time not to just accept the first appointment they give you.. in my circumstance, I'll need to be sure to be scheduled as one of the first of the day. Also.... with that copay today, we are so close to meeting our deductible.. we may be only paying 10% of the delivery fee.. which got me very excited! 

megnwingate

@smsaulino amazing! This year I’m trying to get as much done with me and the girls since I know I’ll be meeting my deductible this year.

I was also going to suggest scheduling first thing in the mornings. 

spottedginger

Super flameworthy. My BFF is getting a Honda Odyssey this weekend and I am pretty jealous. I’ve had my eye on it and am waiting until after maternity leave (and months no income) to pull the trigger.

arcticseal-2

I'm a surprise pregnancy one...   Yes, we knew it was a possibility, maybe, but not likely...  We have three Clomid kids and have used no birth control or protection until after the last one (so for roughly 5 years).  We were avoiding during my fertile period until one (!!!) month we didn't and here I am...  A bit of a surprise and shock to us.

Redpuma119

@prpl11butterfly How did the Nuva ring "fall out?" I used that for years and if I didn't insert it far enough in I had the feeling like you would if you didn't put a tampon in far enough. Sex wouldn't even pull it out. 

prpl11butterfly

@Redpuma119 I used it for years without fail to. She is a kinky one so god only knows what her foreplay was.....her SO found it in couch cushions a few days later lo

stothi

prpl11butterfly said:

@Redpuma119 I used it for years without fail to. She is a kinky one so god only knows what her foreplay was.....her SO found it in couch cushions a few days later lo

Damn it. Now I'm going to be trying to imagine what happened. Ugh. My brain feels dirty, lol!

nackie

stothi said:

prpl11butterfly said:

@Redpuma119 I used it for years without fail to. She is a kinky one so god only knows what her foreplay was.....her SO found it in couch cushions a few days later lo

Damn it. Now I'm going to be trying to imagine what happened. Ugh. My brain feels dirty, lol!

Seriously!  That sounds very... adventurous.  When I had the ring it never budged.

ellbeedee

Just to add for kicks, my sister had nuva ring and she found it under her bed one day... her ex pulled it out in hopes of knocking her up and she didn't even know

starla

ellbeedee said:

Just to add for kicks, my sister had nuva ring and she found it under her bed one day... her ex pulled it out in hopes of knocking her up and she didn't even know

Umm what. That's not cool. 

ellbeedee

Yeppppp long story short they are divorced now.

prpl11butterfly

Oh man @ellbeedee that's crazy. Her SO at the time  (now ex for soooo many good reasons) didn't even know what it was, thought it was a bracelet