About that Facebook Group...

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 I was curious so I went into the spreadsheet and selected the names that I recognize, being generous with people that I haven't seen recently (also I never look at the STM+ thread so if you only post there idk who you are) and I got 48. 

ETA: fix tag

doxiemoxie212

@krashke interesting interesting 

Austenista

@doxiemoxie212 good question, might be interesting to see if we sized ourselves up.

ETA: I went to check and D'16 is currently at 53 members and it doesn't feel very big at all so we might have more than we think. 

mytinc

LOL @Krashke - I purposely never gave my info on the spreadsheet as I've seen it become completely useless on every BMB I've been on.  So there may be other regulars that aren't listed there.

mytinc

Also @krashke - You tagged someone named doxiemommy instead of @doxiemoxie212.

krash_

@mytinc oops! Sorry about that @doxiemoxie212 typing too fast and not paying attention. 

izza2

@krashke - As @mytinc said, there are a few regs on here who aren't on the spreadsheet, so if you add 3-5 to whatever number of usernames you recognized on the spreadsheet, that's about the number of people that we have who participate in more than 1-2 threads (aka, people who don't stick to just the FTM/STM threads, or just to the weekly DD check-ins).

elsie42

Oops I never added myself to the spreadsheet either!

katie121209

Guilty Also! 

elsie42

Also despite the technical struggles of TB I really like the organization of it compared to Facebook groups. Some fb groups I'm in just have sooo many random posts every day, or lots of duplicate topics/questions. It's kind of nice to have only a few threads to read through/reply to here. 

jsl82

TB was so clunky yesterday, I tried to respond to this (and a few other posts) but just gave up.  I honestly cannot wait to get off TB because of the tech issues with this site, but while we do have a good group of fairly regular responders, I'm just not there yet with you lovely ladies.  As a STM I will also say that my FB consumption dropped along with the hours of sleep I consumed after having DD (and the more she let me sleep the more I was able to post adorable pictures of her on FB/ Instragram)- but I will never have the time or energy to comply with crazypant August 2017 Natzi Mom/ Identity thief's list of demands.  I think starting the migration around April should give us a good comfort level before we start to have and post pictures of our babies (as a first week of June EDDer I am expecting that I will actually have an end of May baby).  I also strongly agree on a camouflaged post name for our eventual FB group post. 

aharv77

I'm also not on the spreadsheet!

MLS6212

I'm also not on the spreadsheet. I think some of the more active members remember me from TTC, so I might be accepted into a FB group when the time comes, but I would understand if I'm not because honestly, I don't participate here that much.

ETA: The reason I'd want to join a June 2018 FB group even though I don't post much here is because I learned so much from the STM+ moms in my March 2016 group! I'd hope that as a BTDT mom I could be a resource to FTMs when our June babies are here and they're posting their struggles, questions, and vents.

krash_

In a somewhat related topic...I saw on another BMB that they were doing L&D buddies. If you want to participate you are assigned a buddy that you can get to know better with whatever level of commitment you want, keep it to PM's on TB, exchange emails, Insta DM's, or FB. Then when the time comes you have a support person to chat with through the hours of labor but also just one person you can let know how things are going and they can update the rest of the BMB. 

Again not something that needs to be done now but maybe before a shift to FB so that if someone isn't comfortable on FB they can still connect with the group. 

LaceyBee522

@krashke I think that is really lovely idea! 

rnielsen321

I too am not on the spreadsheet!!

sunshineandwhiskey

I just went a looked too.  July16 FB group has 31 members from the BMB.  We def started with 50ish, and have dwindled to this super close group.  

@krashke that sounds amazing. 

Austenista

@krashke we did labor buddies and it was a positive thing. Count me in if we decide to do them. 

doxiemoxie212

wait how does the l&d buddies thing work? Like, is it we both go into labor on the same day or...?

Austenista

@doxiemoxie212 if you and I were labor buddies. I would contact you during the l&d process and you would relay the information to the group so I wouldn’t have to. I’d text you like I would my sister or best friend. In turn, I would do the same for you. 

mytinc

I never did the labor buddy thing on my other BMBs.  To me it seemed that if sara321 went into labor her buddy lisa123 would keep the bump updated.  That never made sense to me as everyone has internet access everywhere these days - so there really isn't a need to have one person be a point of contact for you. 

Maybe I just never really understood it.

mytinc

@doxiemoxie212 - they're assigned/paired off in advance.

doxiemoxie212

Oh... I see, I see... but I like updating the group myself! lol is that weird? 

MLS6212

@mytinc I don't really get it either. It's a neat idea in theory, but I don't know that it's necessary. In my last group a lot of ladies posted something to the effect of, "I'm in triage/L&D! Baby's coming now!" I didn't post anything until after I was home because I was still very wary of stranger danger and didn't want anyone robbing my house while I was at the hospital (lol).

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 they also assigned buddies that didn't have due dates right next to each other. Unless you had a specific buddy in mind. You can obviously still update everyone on your own and of course we will all be sharing our own birth stories. 

marcus7676

@doxiemoxie212 my other BMB did labor buddies and assigned a buddy who was due at the opposite end of the month from you.  I didn't participate because we still hadn't progressed to FB so strangerdanger.  Also, some people like it because posting on TB or FB while in labor isn't the easiest to do with a quick labor.  There was no way I had time to tell anyone (we didn't even tell the ILs) because it was so quick.

doxiemoxie212

krashke said:

@doxiemoxie212 they also assigned buddies that didn't have due dates right next to each other. Unless you had a specific buddy in mind. You can obviously still update everyone on your own and of course we will all be sharing our own birth stories. 

I hope we all consider this actually mandatory because it's one of my favorite parts of other BMBs I stalk  

krash_

@doxiemoxie212 FFFC...I stalk the other BMB's birth announcements/stories for name ideas 

catlady1215

I like the idea of labor buddies. but with how accessible internet is anymore, I can't see it being any harder to update the board over updating one person through text message. but I'd do whatever! we did them in my other private group... but a lot of the babies came before internet was easily accessible and text worked better.

But i can't wait till its time for a private board, not that I'm ready. its just nicer with sharing.
I started on the knot with my wedding month girls.. then moved to thenest as a group. And sometime after we all got married, we started a private board on jcink.com (I think that's what its called?). it was so much nicer to be able to talk more openly. granted by that time, we had known each other from anywhere from 1 to1.5 years. We talked about doing a FB group but a couple girls didn't have/want a fb. obviously, since we all met 11 years ago (holy shit), they're all on my fb now anyway, we just keep our private board somewhere else. and still keep up with it!!
so after all that's said, I'm curious how a fb group even feels. i like having specific posts to reply to etc.

kmurdock925

not on the spreadsheet either...

sunshineandwhiskey - July 16- those of us that were on TB long after babes were born and didn't do the fb group (I didn't start until I went back to work after baby) started a private group on here maybe a year ago and I think there are 12 or 13 of us??

sunshineandwhiskey

@kmurdock925 I saw!! (That sounds creepy) I’m so glad the board didn’t die after the babies. I always wanted to jump back in but I struggled for awhile and by the time I came back y’all were so close  

hjungk84

@kmurdock925 are the private TB groups as glitchy as this one is sometimes?

My Feb16 FB group started off with a lot of people but I think we are down to about 55ish. There are definitely the more regular posters and we just called out a few we hadn't heard from in awhile. We do a daily random thread which keeps it a bit less cluttered. 

izza2

@kmurdock925 - In the past I never had issues with the private TB groups being as glitchy as the main boards, but I'm not sure if that's still the case.

Honestly if we were going to move off the public boards but not go to FB at any point, I'd suggest creating our own private forum on Proboards. No BGs to worry about, no rules saying they can use your posts/pictures however they want, and the Tapatalk app is virtually glitch-free.

ramblebee

The sooner we get off TB, the better imho. A comfortable place between this and fb would be great. I hate mobile TB so much I am going to be stepping away for a while.

izza2

@ramblebee -- You can always try using TB on the browser on your phone. It's still a bit aggravating, but it works while we're all here, and it works better than the app.

You'd think that in the past however many years of people complaining about TB app they'd eventually fix their issues, but I don't think they've even tried.
If anything, the last couple of updates they've done have made it worse.

shihtzumomma

I know I have only posted a time or two in this BMB (but I’ve been part of TB forever), but I like FB groups way more. I’m super interested in joining once the group is up and running. 

doxiemoxie212

shihtzumomma said:

I know I have only posted a time or two in this BMB (but I’ve been part of TB forever), but I like FB groups way more. I’m super interested in joining once the group is up and running. 

No offense, but I think you’re missing our point...

izza2

doxiemoxie212 said:

shihtzumomma said:

I know I have only posted a time or two in this BMB (but I’ve been part of TB forever), but I like FB groups way more. I’m super interested in joining once the group is up and running. 

No offense, but I think you’re missing our point...

This'll happen a lot between now and especially once we eventually move. No point in trying to get people to understand, because you'll be wasting your (metaphorical) breath.

megara5

The FB group for my last BMB uses the same format used here. Weekly  threads and such to organize posts. I mostly try to keep up with the random thread and check the rest when I have time. It works out really well. 

Also, I know I don't check in every day (bc I don't always have time), but I definitely want to be included when the move to FB happens!

kmurdock925

@sunsineandwhiskey - feel free to join- I'll vouch for you - it is a SUPER supportive group of gals

I haven't had glitch issues although I really only bump while at work on my desktop with the exception of using my phone to upload pics once in a while