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July 2018 Moms
SmashJam
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STM+ Check In Week of 1/31
SmashJam
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It's almost February! Hadn't had one of these in awhile, so hopefully we didn't decide not to have it one week when I was trying to stay caught up, lol!
How far along are you?
How old are your other kids?
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?
How far along are you?
How old are your other kids?
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?
Re: STM+ Check In Week of 1/31
How old are your other kids? 2.5 years
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? Potty training, forever and always. Still plugging along, but forever plagued by him never really asking to go. I feel like he should be doing that. How many people's kids get up in the middle of the night to pee? Oh well, just gonna keep on keeping on. I've been sick, so that's keeping me from being up and around as much as I would want, and I have some mom guilt about the amount of TV we are watching. So much Moana!
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: He's so talkative. He went up to people and asked them to play with him on Monday at the bounce house, although I thought it was weird he started with adults not kids, lol. He's being mostly adorable and his little defiances are even new things he's picking up. There is just so much new stuff!
GTKY: I'll ask him when he gets up, but based on our current Moana obsession I would say he wants to be a princess explorer mountain climber. Last night he asked me to tie is towel around him like a princess dress then came in a swished from side to side for his dad, lol.
im 14.6
Sloan is 4 next month . Gah! Time flew by.
im worried how she will react once baby is here. Currently she doesn’t like me and won’t listen to me. Hoping baby doesn’t make it worse.
her strength is amazing. She got hurt on the rock wall at tumble but refused to quit and finished the class.
I think she will will be a nurse because she is so caring
16+5
How old are your other kids?
16 month old son
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
Okay, talk to me about toddler tantrums. This has just started in the last week and a half or so, but my toddler now regularly throws tantrums for no apparent reason. I mean, I'm sure there is a reason, but he can't really communicate so I can't figure out what sets him off. For example, the other day he was perfectly fine and happy at Target, then as soon as we got home it was like a light switch went off. All I can think of is maybe he saw something in the fridge he wanted while I was putting stuff away and freaked out because he didn't get it, but basically he just melted down screaming and crying. He lies face down on the floor and screams, and literally nothing makes it stop for like 20 minutes. This keeps happening, but only at home. We asked daycare and they said he's never done anything like that with them, though he could have learned it from one of the other kids because some of them do throw tantrums. My strategy has been to sit near him and talk in a soothing voice telling him it's okay every now and then, but also giving him space and kind of ignoring him until he stops. I have NO idea if it's the right thing to do. I thought we had like 8 more months until this stuff started!
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I love watching his personality develop more. He's very silly, and loves chasing our dog around (dog loves it too), spinning in circles until he falls over, and being tickled. He also started doing this adorable new laugh, it brings me such joy. Can't wait to see him playing with his little sibling some day.
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?
Probably Cookie Monster or Elmo or Mickey Mouse.
18weeks 1 day
How old are your other kids?
18 month dd
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
having energy and we all have colds so that has been kind of rough as we all just feel exhausted.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
It has been fun lately with her words just exploding and watching her personality shine
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?
no clue haha
How far along are you?
16+5
How old are your other kids?
21 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
Just getting DH to realize he needs to contribute more. I’ve been the bad guy recently with DS so he wants daddy all the time. Which is nice to see.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
Got this pic from the sitter the other day. Already practicing
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?
no idea. He like music and playing with balls but i think too early to tell lol
How old are your other kids? 2.5 yo
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? I am wondering when and how I should start really trying to make my toddler understand what is going on. I haven't really been trying to make her understand yet and figured I will wait until I am showing and know if it's a boy or girl.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up? Idk... an acrobat, and/or professional couch cushion jumper
How far along are you?
16+2
How old are your other kids?
DS turned 2 in December.
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
DS knows there are babies in mommies belly, but he also thinks he has babies in his belly and so does our dog lol Hopefully he understands what’s going on. We’re trying to move (if we ever find a house), so I haven’t been potty training hard core since I know moving will be a big adjustment for him. I was also hoping to have him in a toddler bed before the babies come, but I’m afraid moving, a new room, potty training, and a new bed, and two new babies will be too much at one time.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
My son is so sweet with his stuffed animals and baby dolls. He tucks them in and rubs their back and sings lullabies. He likes to try to give them bottles too. I’m excited to see him as a big brother.
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?
He’s probably going to be a paleontologist. The kid knows more about dinosaurs than any adult I know! I have a biology degree and I have to look up some of the stuff he tells me to see if he’s right!
@wildtot I was just telling DH we have to get a baby doll of DS here in a few month so he can get used to a baby sized lump being around.
How old are your other kids? 16m x2
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? - early wake ups the last couple days and we seem to be transitioning to one nap....I miss sleep. I’ve also had a couple wicked migraines the last little bit so Moana and Llama Llama have been baby sitting now and then (and the boys have been tearing the house apart while I lay on the couch waiting for meds to kick in.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: one of my twins keeps pulling up my shirt and kissing my belly which is pretty cute. I’m really excited to see them with a new baby. I also can’t wait to find out if we’re going to have a little band of brothers or if these two will have to figure out what to do with a sister.
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?: who knows! D is probably going to be an engineer or mechanic or something, he loves to try and figure out how things work. At this point I think M will be a comedian, he loves to make people laugh!
17+2
How old are your other kids?
He will be 2 in less than a month
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
How am I going to do this with two kids? I can’t even keep up with my house now.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
I am excited about my son having another kid to play with, I just hope he plays nice!
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?
He’s not old enough to really even know yet. I’m hoping for an engineer or pilot. Pilot I think is a high possibility. His favorite part about going to Disney was the plane ride there and back. Lol
17 +1. I think. Today is Wednesday?
How old are your other kids?
22, almost 23 months
Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
We've recently started potty training, though her school is taking the lead on how (since she's there the majority of the time). I need to talk to them about how long they think it will take her based on her response thus far. She's been in pull ups and sits on the potty 4-6 times a day both there and at home, but doesn't always go in the potty. They have said they "think she'll be easy" though. I'm just curious their average time based on their methods.
Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
She still loves to kiss and hug my belly, which I absolutely love. We're going to make sure to get pictures and video of it once my belly is a little bigger. We're buying her a baby doll for her birthday and I know she's going to be SO happy that it makes me happy!
GTKY: What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?
Beats me! She loves all sorts of very different things (reading, coloring, being outside, climbing) that there's nothing that immediately comes to mind.
@zande2016Does he have any words yet at all? Or baby sign language? Our strategy the majority of the time the instant the fussing starts is to say "Use your words. What do you want?" Early on it may have just been "eat" and now it will be "more orange" or whatever. If it goes into full blown tantrum and she's past the point of being able to listen and truly understand I usually just ignore her. I recently read some brain parenting book that helped but I don't know how applicable it is at 16 months.
As long as they are safe, let them work it out themselves and offer a big hug and kiss at the end of it. If they were mad about not getting something they wanted, decide before this point if you will reward their tantrum by giving the desired item immediately after they finish (not recommended) or waiting a period of time for them to forget that they were mad and then offering it later.
Ignore them as best as you can in public too.
@wildtot, I would continue the routine as best as you can. A new baby is enough of a change. Plus it gives you time alone with baby. When you go into delivery, have a couple friends on call willing to come over in the middle of the night or have your kid go to them. For DS our old nanny came over at like 4am to watch DD until my in-laws arrived.
@SmashJam don't put much pressure on yourself to get your son potty trained completely. Among my IRL friends and old BMBs the boys start much later than the girls, sometimes even after 3yrs old and that is still normal. If the moms wait before starting, the training goes way smoother and faster.
I am about 16weeks along.
Two kids DD 3.5 years old and DS is 2 yrs old in a couple of weeks!! Eeek!
My DS just qualified for some speech language therapy. It's minimal at 2 hrs per month but I will take what we can get.
My DD says she wants to be at a wedding when she grows up lol
@flockofmoosen3 I definitely try to ignore for the most part, but he's so young and seems sooo upset when it happens. Sometimes I wonder if he's in pain or something but then he's perfectly fine after it so over.
@cseley321 the more I think about it the more I agree its due to frustration over not being able to communicate. He sometimes points but not always. Then he gets himself so worked up that even if he gets what he wants, he's too upset to eat it. There was a very messy yogurt incident the other day lol.
@wildtot this is only my 2nd so I'm no expert, but if I had the choice I would still send my son to daycare. I am not being paid my full salary for leave though so I can't afford to keep him there during leave. I just think keeping their routines would be easier for everyone, plus being able to bond with the new baby without chasing a toddler.
How old are your other kids? 2.5 YO
Current challenges/concerns: trying to figure out exactly when/how to transition DD to her next bed. She’s still in a crib. I’m debating if I should wait and move her directly to the full size mattress when her new room is set up (April/May), or if I should take one side off her crib and put the crib mattress on the floor still in her nursery to ease her into it. Any suggestions?
Currwnt joys/successes: overall, I’m amazed at how kind and thoughtful DD is. When I’m not feeling good, she puts on her winter gloves and puts her hands on my head because it’s “medicine”. It’s so sweet.
What does she want to be when she grows up? I honestly have no idea. Based on her recent desire to care for people, maybe a doctor?
ETA: when she was younger, sometimes distraction pure and simple would work. I’d start playing with one of her toys like it was the most exciting thing in the world, then ask if she wanted to join.
There’s definitely no one way that works all the time. Or at least I haven’t found it! Just hang in there!
DD is such a good sleeper and I’m so scared to rock the boat by changing anything. I keep telling myself that it’s better to deal with any regression now than with a newborn, but the reality is I like my sleep too! If it weren’t for the baby, I’d be in no rush at all to move her out of the crib. I keep hearing my grandpas voice and an old southern phrase, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”.
I do also feel like its better to do this now though, than with a newborn! We picked end of Feb in hopes I will have the energy to deal with DS getting up in the middle of the night/not sleeping immediately, since it will still bet he magical 2nd tri lol.
Not always an option, I know. Just throwing it out there in case anyone wants to read up. Most recent place I remember reading it was the new Precious Little Sleep book.
@paytonpedro @flockofmoosen3 - I was in the Bump Feb 16 club too, but my DD was a week late and her birthday is 3/4!
@MichelleAG05 I’ve read that too. Honestly I think my DD is ready, and probably has been for a while. It’s my anxiety that’s getting in the way. I really like my sleep. (I realize that’s about to go completely out the window anyway, but I’d like to soak it up while I can!)
@SmashJam yes I’ve been thinking about the toddler proofing factor too. I just taught DD how to use doorknobs too...damn it! Plus her room is directly across from the play room so the temptation to get out of bed and sneak over there will be real.