BF, TW, WTF ~ Week of 1/22

becausescience

What is your WTF, BF, and or TW this week?

ladybugsamom

TW this week goes to my OB's NST nurse.  I went in for my first NST and within 5 minutes, she was sending me to the hospital!  Not because something was wrong or because the baby was in distress, but because she was putting the probe in the wrong spot so his heartbeat sounded faint and she was too impatient to wait and find a better spot.  Now, she's convinced my doctor that I need to go to the hospital WEEKLY for 2 biophysical profile ultrasounds.  Overreact/jump-the-gun much???  Ugh... I'm so irritated and can't wait to see my OB again tomorrow to complain about this.

becausescience

@ladybugsmum I get being cautious, but that does seem a bit much. I remember when I had those with DD I had to hold mine in place the whole time or it wouldn't pick her up, my nurse was very patient.

BrittnieMariee

Not sure which of these mine goes under but I’m so annoyed at the MFM I’m switching to?? My OB said I would be transferring my care around 36 weeks so the new doctor can get to know me, my case, and we can work together to get my VBAC. So my last appointment with my regular OB was on the 9th, and when I was there he told me I should just go ahead and transfer my care since I would be like 35 weeks the next time I was supposed to see him. So I waited for the new doctor to call me. For a week. They didn’t. So I called them and asked if they had received the paperwork. Apparently they hadn’t. So I called my OB’s office to find out why it hadn’t been sent. They told me they’d already sent it back in DECEMBER. So after a few days of phone tag I finally discover that my OB’s office had sent the paperwork under my maiden name. Ugh. And then I get a call from my OB’s office asking why I was transferring my care “so soon”. Uh, BECAUSE THE DOCTOR TOLD ME TO??! They didn’t believe me and checked his notes. When they saw I wasn’t lying they wished me luck and hung up. Ugh. Now I’m still waiting for the MFM to call and schedule an appointment! I’ll be 35 weeks on Thursday and have been having false labor for over a week now. So the fact that this new doctors office doesn’t seem to be in a hurry to fit me in is making me so stressed and nervous. 
Wow, sorry that was so long lol

ladybugsamom

@becausescience I would have gladly held it in place, but she didn't even allow that option.  She just said "I have to be able to pick up heart tones for 20-30 minutes, and this isn't going to work. You need to go to the hospital, right away."  Ugh...I've been through this 3 times before, so I know how it works.  I'm definitely not going to the hospital for every NST that can easily be done in the doctor's office.  The hospital is always the MOST expensive place to receive care.

@BrittnieMariee I'd be willing to bet that if the MFM knew you were having contractions (false or otherwise), they would stop dragging their feet.  Good luck to you!

mdfarmchick

TB... today has more glitches than usual. The app keeps kicking me back to the home screen. 

cford08

@ladybugsamom and I bet the nurse would have got an attitude if you asked her to try a little longer.... Here's hoping you are able to get your doc to see it's not as bad as the nurse is making it!

@BrittnieMariee I'm sorry you're dealing with medical personnel incompetence as well! They make it so much harder than it has to be!

BrittnieMariee

The MFM finally called me around lunch time today and informed me that their first available appointment isn’t until Feb 6th!! So since I’m not comfortable going almost a month between doctor visits I called my OB and they got me in today AND did a NST to check on Emma. She did wonderfully and I go back tomorrow for another BPP. Hopefully the MFM gets their shit together because I’m not in the mood to deal with their nonchalant attitude. 

ashleyf911

I HAVE ANOTHER COLD. WTF, immune system. I'm so over not being able to breathe through my nose.  I realize it's small potatoes compared to what other people are going through... but it's at least mildly irritating.

mdfarmchick

Um @ashleyf911 I can’t breathe either. It sucks.

sassypants2010

TW is my family member who thought that since my youngest cousin had her twins Sunday I would be jealous......... um she was due almost a month before me, she had twins so no surprise they came earlier, this is my third kid. Plus at 28 years old I feel I am mature enough not to get jealous over something like this.

stlbuckeye132

@ashleyf911 @mdfarmchick I feel your pain... I was wiped out with a cold last week, and even though it was  "just a cold" and I felt like a man whining over nothing, it was MISERABLE! It lasted right about a week before I started to feel slightly better, so hopefully the end is near for you ladies!

@sassypants2010 wait, why would someone be jealous over that? I'm guessing said family member is one of those that everything has to be about him/her? That's the only kind of person I can see getting upset over someone having their babies...

sassypants2010

@stlbuckeye132, no idea why she felt like messaging me about not being jealous over it. I am a grown ass woman with 2 older kids, I have no time to be petty over something like someone having their FIRST baby(ies). Totally blew my mind that she even thought that I would be anything but happy for my little cousin. 

vflux33

@ladybugsamom Well, that sucks. I wish I could lend you my NST nurse! I'm thinking of anonymously nominating her for this nurse award at my hospital because she is seriously that awesome, super patient, and fun to talk to (I have 2 hour long NSTs per week so that's a big plus for me!). 

@BrittnieMariee A month is ridiculous. Glad you got back in with your OB. 

@ashleyf911 So 6 months ago I was like, "yes winter pregnancy! better to wear more clothes and not get overheated all the time!" And then the gravity of this flu and cold season hit. NOT ideal. Feel better! 

@sassypants2010 Yeah, that's pretty weird. I guess better to know someone is assuming that than not so you can be careful what you say around them... doesn't make sense though!

My TW/late MBF/WTF is my sister. Please excuse the DD. A couple weeks ago I gave her a heads up that we were now considered higher risk, seeing a MFM, and will have a lot more appointments, monitoring, etc. due to growth restriction and low percentiles/weights (IUGR). I think most people would agree this is not ideal, but I'm not trying to get a bunch of sympathy for it or anything--it could be A LOT worse-- I just wanted to keep my immediate family informed because I figured if something like that was going on with one of them I'd want to know. Well, my sister's reaction--and I'm not joking-- was "that's great! now you'll get lots of extra appointments!" In her very needy for attention mind, I should want that...? (This is not how she would react if it was happening to her though, so suspicious.) Never mind that the hospital is half an hour away and I am now going there nearly every day instead of doing other things. Never mind the fact that I'm now worried about the babies in a way I was not previously worried. I actually had to explain to her how a a diagnosed problem with my unborn children was a bad thing instead of a good thing. Um, OK... So at that point she just stops responding to my texts. Which was fine because I was so weirded out by her reaction I didn't want to talk anymore anyway. Then we're supposed to talk the following week, she blows me off. We were supposed to talk yesterday, she blows me off again--says she has a work issue, etc. a big crisis, will call you in 2 hours, sorry just got worse will call you in the evening, keeps making excuses and never calls. I chatted with my mom at some point in the day, turns out they have been talking on and off all day (about not work stuff). So she's avoiding me. Because I have an objectively "bigger" problem than her right now (she's done this in the past, she always has to have the biggest drama in the room, you know, one of those). And this is why she was trying to pass off my pregnancy complication as "great". And funny thing is, I didn't need to just talk with her to get her support or anything for the pregnancy. I'd probably address it since we haven't talked since the diagnosis, but I'd also really like to see how my niece and nephew are doing and chat about a variety of other things. But we can't do that. Because it would require her to acknowledge that someone other than herself is dealing with something important right now. 

cford08

@vflux33 could you call her when she's not working? Like basically force her hand to talk? It sucks you can't just have a convo without her feeling she's gotta have more drama going on.

vflux33

@cford08 She makes her own hours/works from home, and works random hours of the day and night. She set the time we were supposed to talk yesterday, and then she set the time again, and again, and broke it every time. As for calling her, she almost never picks up and says it is because of her son stealing her phone to play games (which is often true, but definitely is sometimes a lie and other ppl in my family complain about it too).  

stlbuckeye132

@vflux33 she sounds like a piece of work. Sorry you're having to deal with her drama now too, on top of everything else you have going on! I'm not sure why anyone would think all that additional monitoring you're having to go through would be a good/fun/stress-free thing... 

mdfarmchick

@vflux33 wow. That sounds like fun. Not. No advice on how to handle it but I’m sorry she’s being such a TW. I know you are super worried about your babies and no one should minimize that, especially family. Sending creepy internet hugs your way.  

crossfitbabybump

Still super annoyed with MIL. She EMAILED me over the weekend but I never check my email.. just happened to see it last night. She emailed me about how she knows we're "mad" about her going to my SIL shower and not ours and then followed by a million excuses.
I emailed her back this morning saying, "First, we're not mad. Don't assume things. Second, this is not a conversation to be had via email. Third, we are HURT, but there's much more to it than that. When we've had some time to ourselves, we will discuss with you."

For the time being, I am just taking some time to calm down and think about what I really want to say. I am hurt.. my DH is hurt. But at the same time, it's been 10 years of this constant bullshit so it's like... why should we care anymore? If this is the way it's going to be and we've put in effort for 10 years now, why care? It's not going to change if it hasn't already. I go into what I like to call "Survivor Mode" where I will just cut you out if you treat me or my family this way. I have no problem doing it. I know it sounds cold hearted but I have to protect what is mine. And frankly, I don't care lately. Too many times have we been put on the back burner and hurt. I'm done.

kbiala

@vflux33 sorry you are dealing with added drama you don’t need. 

@crossfitbabybump way to be strong & stick up for your family! 

My TW is 99% of my office. I am so sick of them all feeling entitled and me having to put them in their place. I do oversee everyone, but honestly I feel like a Mom to 20 toddlers. They all need to grow up & just do their jobs. I’m also  much more impatient & bitchy pregnant. 2.5 more weeks till maternity leave, I can do this. 

mdfarmchick

WTF... to the STM/Facebook friend who has been bragging for three days that her two month old is sleeping through the night because she prayed for him too.

cford08

@mdfarmchick girl I though you knew,  you can pray the insomnia away 

stlbuckeye132

@mdfarmchick I just rolled my eyes so hard

BrittnieMariee

@mdfarmchick that must be why DS has been on a nap strike. I haven’t prayed enough. 

mmom3

@mdfarmchick - my daughter has been a great sleeper from about that time as well and then there’s my son who’s 3 and doesn’t always sleep through the night yet.    Can I send him to her???   Maybe I’m not praying enough or maybe karma will catch up to her.  

BrittnieMariee

@mmom3 just wait until that first sleep regression hits

ShawnnaO

@crossfitbabybump as someone who’s been there done that, serious kudos to you for being ready to cut ties with people who don’t better your lives. I know it’s hard but hopefully if that is the route y’all end up going, it leads to your lives being more stress free and overall happier. It did on our end when we cut ties with people. 

crossfitbabybump

@ShawnnaO - thank you lovey

It'll be hard but if it has to be done, then so be it. My child will always come first.

mdfarmchick

@cford08 man. I have tried. I must not be doing it right. Also, neither MH or my prayers have stopped the toddler from still waking up at night.

@BrittnieMariee @mmom3 that four month sleep regression is a b!tch.

cford08

@mdfarmchick And I saw you're not feeling well....that no bueno  I hope you can get to feeling better soon.

mdfarmchick

@cford08 thanks. It’s just a nasty cold so at least it’s not the flu. But I don’t wish sick and 8.5 months pregnant on anyone. 

BrittnieMariee

@mdfarmchick I legit thought I was gonna die of sleep deprivation when DS went through it lol that was also when we started bed sharing because I was just too tired!

mdfarmchick

@BrittnieMariee omg. Yes. Anything for sleep. I was such a zombie.