I was up late last night thinking about how frustrated I am with some of my Canadian neighbors. Idk if I’m being overly sensitive or if they are just complete jerks.
We moved to Canada from the US last year because of my husband’s job. For the most part, a lot of the people I’ve met are really nice and helpful. Some neighbors even brought us food when we moved in. But there have been multiple occasions where my neighbors cannot stop themselves from mentioning their opinions on American politics or how Canadian health care is so much better than the US.
I do not typically like to discuss religion, politics, or any other confrontational subjects during casual conversation. But I cannot escape the “proud Canadians” who want to express how much better their country is than mine. It’s just so extremely rude!!! What am I supposed to say to someone who has started a rant about how they hate my president or that our vaccination schedule is faster and therefore less safe for children?!? Can’t you foresee that I might disagree and therefore be offended? Like please stop talking
I have a car loan through a Credit Unit union. I have the funds direct debited from my regular checking account to go to the Credit Union. Two months in a row now it says the payment wasn't made due to insufficient funds; however, my bank account reflects a sufficient amount of money to make the payment. I'm so friggin' annoyed and confused! I don't feel like spending the day on the phone with people trying to figure this out
@emsnedds maybe they expect you to share their opinions (since I think a lot of Americans prob. do share those opinions re healthcare and our president), or are trying to make you feel good about moving to a better (in their opinion) place. I would be up front and tell them you do not share those views and would prefer not to discuss politics.
My WTF is just to today in general. Woke up not feeling well, so much traffic coming into work, someone left some rotting food in the office fridge that smells like garbage, and the building finally changed the light that was out in my office only to replace it with this horribly bright fluorescent light that is giving me a migraine. Now I have to go prepare for a trial that will probably end up settling at the last second, but I still have to fully prepare because the city is too bureaucratic to do anything about a case until the eve of trial, putting me through hell for no reason. I just want to run away to my bed and hide from work and responsibilities. Sorry, this was more of a bitchfest than a WTF
WTF to DH. Within seconds of waking up he told me that he has been up since 3 am because of me and wasn't able to go back to sleep. Umm cry me a river, I've had countless sleepless nights because of him and the only reason I woke him up last night was to get him to scoot over from the middle of the bed and to get off my pillow. I tried not to say anything but he knew something was upsetting me before he left and I told him all this. Come on man really, you can't come to your pregnant wife and complain about sleepless nights when you 99% of the time he is snoring away as I lay awake.
wtf dh i appreciate you wanting to install our stair tread lights.. I do not appreciate you starting this at 9:30pm waking dd because you turn the circuit off to dd's room turning off her night light and sound machine. Dude I dont want to be up until 11 with a tired grumpy toddler.... not cool!
Well, I have the same issues with my boyfriend’s grandparents. They are ultra conservative and get all of their news from Fox and there’s nothing wrong with that, but they tend to bash on people who don’t agree. The cranky grandpa also bashes on anyone who gets government assistance. It just gets old. I just try to let it go but it’s hard when you don’t share views with people. Maybe you can try to start a friendly debate with them on some of the topics they bring up. @emsnedds
@emsnedds do they know you only moved for your husbands work? They might be just trying to connect with you, thinking you moved because you like their country better too. If you’re not into debating I’d just politely say you don’t follow politics or whatever the issue and change the subject.
@wildtot ugh men are such babies sometimes. It’s one thing to complain about being up half the night but telling your pregnant wife it’s her fault is definitely a no no!
@lindsayleigh1989 oh that sucks. I’m sorry. I will say kudos to him for taking initiative though. Mine would probably just wait until I bagged him to death to do it lol
My WTF goes out to nausea. Doesn’t it know I’m about to hit 12 weeks tomorrow and that’s the magic number for it to go away for good!?! Seriously though, it’s rearing its ugly head somethin terrible today and I have sooo much to do at work. I don’t have time to feel like crap!
WTF to school. Last class I need to get my RN-BSN because I’ve been taking my sweet time. I do not want to do this at all! No motivation. But it has to be done ( actually it doesn’t I’m just doing it before they mandate it)
add to the issue - they went and changed the whole system they use for online classes a week before school starts . It is not user friendly at all.
There are 4 big assignments on top of the regular weekly assignment. Boo!
WTF to the guy in my meeting sitting right across from me SLURPING his beverage for a full hour. Like are you 6? Drink like an adult. This probably would not have bothered non-pregnant me but I was just so irritated and it was distracting.
Wtf bump... you can't just appear out of nowhere with no warning! Yesterday I looked like I maybe it the sweets to hard over the holidays.... today full fledged preggo bump. Hello maternity clothes!
@zande2016@hayhay93@acunamatada Thank you! Yes they all know we moved here because of work. For the most part I just try to change the subject. There was a particularly frustrating neighbor that was trying to go out of his way to start an argument and was basically bashing all of America, but I just told him as politely as possible that I was not interested in talking about that stuff.
It’s hard for me because I’m passionate about most of the things they are bashing (like the health care, because even though they think it’s free here they are still paying for it in taxes, and the hospitals have 8 hour long waits 24/7), but I hate confrontation and I don’t want my neighbors to hate me. So I’m kind of just hoping they all get it out of their systems and then never bring it up again.
@moguippy People who are loud eaters/drinkers are always my pet peeve! ughhh
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
WTF to the housing market in my area. We were planning on moving anyway, but now that we’re expecting twins we’d like to move sooner rather than later. The houses here are either crappy or way too expensive. There’s no middle ground. So frustrating!
My WTF goes out to nausea. Doesn’t it know I’m about to hit 12 weeks tomorrow and that’s the magic number for it to go away for good!?! Seriously though, it’s rearing its ugly head somethin terrible today and I have sooo much to do at work. I don’t have time to feel like crap!
Same @ashbub714! I'm 14 + 3--when does the friggin' "golden trimester" start????
WTAF dog who has to lay down right next to me and then continues to fart like a man the whole time and THEN hears a mysterious noise and has to bark like a lunatic for 5 minutes.
@sm05-2 Right!?! Oh gosh 14 weeks and still having nausea? I’m so sorry for you and also terrified for myself! Also, where’s all this energy I was promised at 12 weeks? I better wake up tomorrow and feel like running a freakin marathon or I’m hunting down everyone who told me that and slapping them.
@powellgirl feelin your pain in the Seattle market. DH and I are looking for our first home and it’s just wacky here. Houses posted on a Monday have accepted offers by Tuesday (over asking). Seriousky even out in the burbs where we’re looking $600k won’t get you much. So discouraging.
@kinny512 We are putting an offer in today on a house built in 1978 and it has never been updated! Brown showers and toilets, orange shag carpet, carpet in the bathrooms and kitchens, so ugly! But it’s well maintained so we won’t have to do any repairs. There were seriously no other decent houses on the market. All the other houses we looked at have all sorts of problems and need major repairs. I keep telling myself it’s bigger than our current house, so it will be better lol Best of luck to you on your house hunt!!
Jeez can I move to Seattle? I’m here stressing out about needing to offer all cash for anything under $1M (the houses aren’t even huge or nice TBH) where we want to move outside NYC in a year-otherwise well have to go up to about $1.2/1.3M. New York real estate is absurd, I paid $500k for a 500 sq foot studio 4 years ago-I guess that’s a constant, 7 days a week WTF...we do consider moving somewhere like at least moderately affordable a few times a year but our families are here, we grew up here, and I love my job. Guess that’s how people get stuck paying these prices for nothing!
@sm05-2 Right!?! Oh gosh 14 weeks and still having nausea? I’m so sorry for you and also terrified for myself! Also, where’s all this energy I was promised at 12 weeks? I better wake up tomorrow and feel like running a freakin marathon or I’m hunting down everyone who told me that and slapping them.
@ashbub714 I am lacking energy, too, especially in the afternoons and evenings. Ugh!
@kinny512 and @devilcat139 Oh my goodness! 600k!?! 1M!?! Y’all are making me love the housing market in SW Virginia. We bought our 2600sq ft house a year ago for 260k! It’s crazy to me how cost of living/ housing prices are throughout the country.
Jeez can I move to Seattle? I’m here stressing out about needing to offer all cash for anything under $1M (the houses aren’t even huge or nice TBH) where we want to move outside NYC in a year-otherwise well have to go up to about $1.2/1.3M. New York real estate is absurd, I paid $500k for a 500 sq foot studio 4 years ago-I guess that’s a constant, 7 days a week WTF...we do consider moving somewhere like at least moderately affordable a few times a year but our families are here, we grew up here, and I love my job. Guess that’s how people get stuck paying these prices for nothing!
I can’t even tell you what $500k would buy you where I live. You’d be ballin’
@kinny512 and @devilcat139 Oh my goodness! 600k!?! 1M!?! Y’all are making me love the housing market in SW Virginia. We bought our 2600sq ft house a year ago for 260k! It’s crazy to me how cost of living/ housing prices are throughout the country.
@kinny512 and @devilcat139 Oh my goodness! 600k!?! 1M!?! Y’all are making me love the housing market in SW Virginia. We bought our 2600sq ft house a year ago for 260k! It’s crazy to me how cost of living/ housing prices are throughout the country.
It does depend where in SW VA. I gasped a little at the high prices when we first moved to Blacksburg
@kinny512 and @devilcat139 Oh my goodness! 600k!?! 1M!?! Y’all are making me love the housing market in SW Virginia. We bought our 2600sq ft house a year ago for 260k! It’s crazy to me how cost of living/ housing prices are throughout the country.
It does depend where in SW VA. I gasped a little at the high prices when we first moved to Blacksburg
It does. But usually you can find reasonable housing within 30 mins of any unreasonable housing in SW Virginia. For example, just 30mins to an hour from us you can find houses nicer and cheaper than ours as well as golf course mansions that are crazy expensive. It’s so crazy.
@devilcat139 and @kinny512 You’d be living in a mansion on the lake with 20 acres in my area with those prices! Of course, I’m in rural Ohio We just found out that someone else put an offer in today too, and they accepted their offer over ours. Ours was contingent upon sale of our home so they rejected it. We are shocked because they’ve had two open houses and no one has shown up, and only one other couple has even toured the home since it was put on th market in September. Back to where we started
@runsomewhere ditto.... East Bay Area here...1M is about the baseline for any decent house in a decent neighborhood.
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
14 weeks 6 days and I’m wondering when I’m going to get this boost of energy everyone’s been talking about?! Still 100%, fall asleep sitting up, EXHAUSTED. Plz send halllppppp.
I’m 15w3d and felt energized for a total of one day. During free time I’m lying around acting helpless, eating things I shouldn’t, and binge watching tv shows. I completely get it lol. @samjjorgensen
Re: WTF Wednesday 1/10
We moved to Canada from the US last year because of my husband’s job. For the most part, a lot of the people I’ve met are really nice and helpful. Some neighbors even brought us food when we moved in. But there have been multiple occasions where my neighbors cannot stop themselves from mentioning their opinions on American politics or how Canadian health care is so much better than the US.
I do not typically like to discuss religion, politics, or any other confrontational subjects during casual conversation. But I cannot escape the “proud Canadians” who want to express how much better their country is than mine. It’s just so extremely rude!!! What am I supposed to say to someone who has started a rant about how they hate my president or that our vaccination schedule is faster and therefore less safe for children?!? Can’t you foresee that I might disagree and therefore be offended? Like please stop talking
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
My WTF is just to today in general. Woke up not feeling well, so much traffic coming into work, someone left some rotting food in the office fridge that smells like garbage, and the building finally changed the light that was out in my office only to replace it with this horribly bright fluorescent light that is giving me a migraine. Now I have to go prepare for a trial that will probably end up settling at the last second, but I still have to fully prepare because the city is too bureaucratic to do anything about a case until the eve of trial, putting me through hell for no reason. I just want to run away to my bed and hide from work and responsibilities. Sorry, this was more of a bitchfest than a WTF
@lindsayleigh1989 oh that sucks. I’m sorry. I will say kudos to him for taking initiative though. Mine would probably just wait until I bagged him to death to do it lol
My WTF goes out to nausea. Doesn’t it know I’m about to hit 12 weeks tomorrow and that’s the magic number for it to go away for good!?!
add to the issue - they went and changed the whole system they use for online classes a week before school starts . It is not user friendly at all.
There are 4 big assignments on top of the regular weekly assignment. Boo!
Thank you! Yes they all know we moved here because of work. For the most part I just try to change the subject. There was a particularly frustrating neighbor that was trying to go out of his way to start an argument and was basically bashing all of America, but I just told him as politely as possible that I was not interested in talking about that stuff.
It’s hard for me because I’m passionate about most of the things they are bashing (like the health care, because even though they think it’s free here they are still paying for it in taxes, and the hospitals have 8 hour long waits 24/7), but I hate confrontation and I don’t want my neighbors to hate me. So I’m kind of just hoping they all get it out of their systems and then never bring it up again.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
And WTF to my dog who suddenly needs to go out at 3am every single day for the last 3 weeks? Grrr
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.