I think I posted this somewhere... I can’t remember. This morning I found out I have an allergy to Kiwi. This has never happened to me before. Today I ate some and suddenly acquired a nasty after taste. I thought maybe it was just bad? Idk. A few minutes afterwards my throat started to itch. I’ve been scratching it with my tongue since this morning. I thank goodness it’s not more serious than that.
My WTF Wednesday- is I cannot concentrate on work at all. I have spreadsheets that need completing like yesterday and I’m over here like- oh let me check the bump, and Pinterest and oh it’s lunch time! Lol
WTF hospital- so I got a call from MFM which the midwives referred me to for my genetic testing, at least that's what I thought. They call and say that they don't need to see me til 18 weeks, but they will be happy to set things up with a genetic counselor. We have already seen one, so I don't need to do that, but I asked about the NT scan and bloodwork and it was my understanding they were doing that and that it needed to be done pretty ASAP. They were like, OH did you not already set that up with the midwives? No, they said you were going to see if any more intense testing was required. Oh, no, its not, so lets see....oh we have no availability for an ultrasound in the next two weeks, I'll have to call you back.
WTF!!>! How is that possible? This is a huge hospital and they are saying they have no time for me to come and be ultrasounded? Or have my blood drawn. I'm thinking I should call the midwives back BC maybe MFM has one set of ultrasound machines and midwives have others so I could get in if the midwives ordered it with their machines? Is that how it works? They still haven't called back and now I am worried I won't get an ultrasound until 18 weeks, which is frustrating when I haven't even heard the heartbeat for an extended period of time. Ugh. Sorry for the book!
@catftm2018 I’m completely with you on that one! I’m an accountant and I came back from vacation to year end close I’m struggling so much to get things done and stop being distracted! It’s ridiculous.
My WTF Wednesday- is I cannot concentrate on work at all. I have spreadsheets that need completing like yesterday and I’m over here like- oh let me check the bump, and Pinterest and oh it’s lunch time! Lol
This is so me! I have a HUUUUGE project to work on and I'm like ok I'll focus on that in a second lets just check the bump for three minutes really quick.
Everyone, I'm so with you about work. We have quarterly business reviews coming up with customers and I'm supposed to pull data and create reports but I'm on here or IG or Amazon most of the time, ugh!
Here's my WTF. Someone I know and used to hang out (she's a friend of my ex) announced she is pregnant on Christmas day. Then a week later her and her husband posted a picture of their US and a long post with an GoFundMe link. It says something like we're so happy to meet the baby but we are worried about finances and maternity leave. It's named "baby expenses/mat leave fund".
Now, I get it. I don't have paid maternity leave. I set myself up with supplemental insurance to cover those months. I tried my best to save. I'm still hoping we did enough to be ready.
Both of them have full time, decent jobs. Their families are close and they are very supportive. They traveled to Europe last summer and she went to like 3 uber-expensive concerts. All of this was carefully documented on social media.
I am trying so hard not to judge, but it just feels wrong to me to do something like that. I know a couple wanting another child and they are waiting to be a little more established financially. I know not everyone does that. I just...I don't get it. They chose to have this baby, they've been married 4 years.
I support GoFundMe for unexpected life events such as deaths in the family, illnesses, accidents, even fun projects or dreams people have! I am just not sure I can back this up.
@kissableviv I 100% support gofundme for all of the things listed- say something was wrong with the baby or mom- totally acceptable for a gofundme.. But she posted one right after her announcement? That’s a little much... What’s the point of a baby shower if she’s asking for money?
@kissableviv Yeah....... can't quite get behind that one. Seems greedy. Most of us have to plan and save for a child we are choosing to have, doesn't sound like they are special here.
@kissableviv no way, just no. You are being very kind. That kind of thing irks me so bad. You don’t start gofundme’s for yourself, period! (I can see very few exceptions to this). You start them to help others. Please fund our baby expenses?? No. I cannot take that seriously. So inappropriate.
@kissableviv yeah unexpected such as having to be on unexpected bedrest early, medical issues but to help with mat leave and expenses as soon as announcing nah i can't get behind that. way too gift grabby considering they will have shower too most likely.
I'm glad I'm not crazy...I totally agree if there were unforseen complications. This sounds like "I'm having a baby please pay for all the expenses"! Plus yes, if you have a shower and want to put stuff on the registry that you know you can convert to money, go do that instead! And in general, those shower gifts can take care of a good chunk of items you need.
The post came literally a week after the announcement, and I seriously thought something had happened/was wrong with the baby until I read the whole thing!
@kissableviv yeah that's kind of ridiculous. I could understand if there was a sudden loss of job or unexpected medical problem. Has anyone actually donated yet? I am curious to know how this pans out for them lol
My WTFW is the Bump app....again! Everytime I load the "product spotlight" thread, a spam Amazon message pops up and I have to close the app. SOOOOOOO OVER THIS!!
@kissableviv that’s pretty tacky of them in my opinion. Lots of people worry about this but as adults and soon to be parents it’s our job to figure it out not go looking for a handout. I doubt many if any will donate and they will end up looking ridiculous..
@kissableviv Whoa! I read your WTF then had to process before responding...my snarkiness would come in to play with this..."here's $50 however consider it your baby shower gift" or "isn't this what baby showers are for?"...good lawrdy...some people.
Another WTF...husband..you have a head cold, you can go to the store to buy some Robitussin DM. If you want to talk about no energy, let's talk about being pregnant and having a head cold. For reals dude...wtf...Off I go to get me and my manchild some medication.
@kissableviv Yuck! Agreed- majorly tacky. If I wasn't in a good enough place financially to raise a baby without having to ask for handouts, I would have waited & saved longer. It sounds like nobody is really buying into it, either haha
My WTF is that I went to the "community" section on my Ovia app for the first time since joining the bump recently just for giggles. There was this post about smoking weed while pregnant and was kind of irked by all the women replying saying they've smoked through entire past pregnancies and had no problems and are doing it again, etc. I mean...I live in Seattle and definitely partook in the occasional edible + movie night with DH in the past. But I can't for the life of me imagine taking that risk while pregnant. I understand some women continue just to get through nausea and think it's safer than rx meds...I can maybe sympathize there. But the women who just want to keep getting high potentially at the cost of a healthy baby is beyond me.
@kinny512 I just recently saw an article about women who continue to smoke weed through pregnancy and how its the new thing to do. I admit I am pretty ignorant on the side effects but like, it can't be good? And why risk it, even if we don't have the research to back up that its bad?
WTF to my feet. I'm wearing one of my favorite pairs of shoes that are always super comfortable but today I got 3 blisters.
I did get a pedicure this weekend for the first time in like, forever, so maybe my new baby fresh feet can't handle it. Which also means my feet were calloused and disgusting before.
I’m not sure if that was a thread here but I understand some people have hardships. I get that not everyone is fortunate enough. Money runs out. It happens. Maybe they were not financially responsible. Who knows? I’ve seen much worse on Gofund me. Much much worse. Someone wanted money for a weave. That’s not a need but a want. You can live without your yaki Brazilian in which you think is real.
Wtf kids... you’ve been in bed for an hour and a half and you’re both still awake. Gtf to sleeeeppp.
Also @kissableviv I also think it’s way tacky to start a go fund me for yourself especially when there’s not really a legitimate hardship. My financial situation is tricky since we’re a single income family and my H runs a small business but yeah, the decision to add another kid to our family was ours and by making that decision we need to figure out how to afford it.
On a similar but different note: my friend (I talk about her all the time it seems like, sorry) had someone offer to buy her travel system and she said “I’m just not sure whether to ask for the $300 set or something in between” good gracious. How about you ask how much they’d like to spend and be grateful! I think if you want the luxury whatever you need to buy it yourself.. that’s probably an UO tho.
@kinny512 i remember seeing those posts! Why would you even risk it?!?! My doc gave me a folder with info and it had a sheet saying that if they suspect the mom smoking pot, they will test the baby at birth. If it comes out positive they would most likely call CPS.
I am so sorry! That is beyond frustrating! Have you heard anything back from the woman? They are obviously not on top of things. @SmashJam
Regarding the GoFundMe, I wouldn’t start my own, that’s for sure, but I’ve seen people do it for things like that. It comes off as kind of tacky. One of my friends started one for her wedding and I remember thinking that was odd because it wasn’t like they had some strenuous circumstances. They just wanted help paying for it. Her family was pissed lol. @kissableviv
Disclaimer: I am under no illusion that my marriage is ideal but we are working on it and I love my husband he can just be a jerk.
WTF to my husband for just slamming a door on my face when I opened it yelling "I closed it for a reason". I instantly burst into tears which is not my normal reaction. Usually I get hella mad and tell him off. I had been talking on the phone with my grandma and I know I am not quiet talker and Husband likes to play chess to unwind but is very competitive about it and a little obsessive. I heard him close the door near the end of my phone call and figured I had been pretty loud and was going to apologize when I got that as soon as I opened it...
I sent him a text telling him off for being a jerk over chess and went upstairs took my unisom and plan to be on my phone until I fall asleep. just feel sad now
@hillbillywife I agree, unless they told me to get the most expensive set, I would definitely not ask for it. I would go with a safe, yet affordable one and save up for the fancy one if I really felt I needed it.
On my way to go shower i told DH to make hot chocolate for me. I come out and nothing. He said “oh you were serious?” Yes! when your pregnant wife says she wants something especially on your wedding anniversary - she ain’t joking?!?!? I’m not mad just disappointed i have to make it now. I’m sure he’s gonna ask if i left him some.
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WTF!!>! How is that possible? This is a huge hospital and they are saying they have no time for me to come and be ultrasounded? Or have my blood drawn. I'm thinking I should call the midwives back BC maybe MFM has one set of ultrasound machines and midwives have others so I could get in if the midwives ordered it with their machines? Is that how it works? They still haven't called back and now I am worried I won't get an ultrasound until 18 weeks, which is frustrating when I haven't even heard the heartbeat for an extended period of time. Ugh. Sorry for the book!
@runsomewhere I’m laughing out loud because- surprise here I am again! Doing the same thing!
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
BFP 2/2016 M/C 3/2016 @ 5 weeks
Trying for #4 since 11/2015
Here's my WTF. Someone I know and used to hang out (she's a friend of my ex) announced she is pregnant on Christmas day. Then a week later her and her husband posted a picture of their US and a long post with an GoFundMe link. It says something like we're so happy to meet the baby but we are worried about finances and maternity leave. It's named "baby expenses/mat leave fund".
Now, I get it. I don't have paid maternity leave. I set myself up with supplemental insurance to cover those months. I tried my best to save. I'm still hoping we did enough to be ready.
Both of them have full time, decent jobs. Their families are close and they are very supportive. They traveled to Europe last summer and she went to like 3 uber-expensive concerts. All of this was carefully documented on social media.
I am trying so hard not to judge, but it just feels wrong to me to do something like that. I know a couple wanting another child and they are waiting to be a little more established financially. I know not everyone does that. I just...I don't get it. They chose to have this baby, they've been married 4 years.
I support GoFundMe for unexpected life events such as deaths in the family, illnesses, accidents, even fun projects or dreams people have! I am just not sure I can back this up.
money?
The post came literally a week after the announcement, and I seriously thought something had happened/was wrong with the baby until I read the whole thing!
Edit: $20 out of $5000...
Another WTF...husband..you have a head cold, you can go to the store to buy some Robitussin DM. If you want to talk about no energy, let's talk about being pregnant and having a head cold. For reals dude...wtf...Off I go to get me and my manchild some medication.
My WTF is that I went to the "community" section on my Ovia app for the first time since joining the bump recently just for giggles. There was this post about smoking weed while pregnant and was kind of irked by all the women replying saying they've smoked through entire past pregnancies and had no problems and are doing it again, etc. I mean...I live in Seattle and definitely partook in the occasional edible + movie night with DH in the past. But I can't for the life of me imagine taking that risk while pregnant. I understand some women continue just to get through nausea and think it's safer than rx meds...I can maybe sympathize there. But the women who just want to keep getting high potentially at the cost of a healthy baby is beyond me.
I did get a pedicure this weekend for the first time in like, forever, so maybe my new baby fresh feet can't handle it. Which also means my feet were calloused and disgusting before.
That’s not a need but a want. You can live without your yaki Brazilian in which you think is real.
Also @kissableviv I also think it’s way tacky to start a go fund me for yourself especially when there’s not really a legitimate hardship. My financial situation is tricky since we’re a single income family and my H runs a small business but yeah, the decision to add another kid to our family was ours and by making that decision we need to figure out how to afford it.
On a similar but different note: my friend (I talk about her all the time it seems like, sorry) had someone offer to buy her travel system and she said “I’m just not sure whether to ask for the $300 set or something in between” good gracious. How about you ask how much they’d like to spend and be grateful! I think if you want the luxury whatever you need to buy it yourself.. that’s probably an UO tho.
Regarding the GoFundMe, I wouldn’t start my own, that’s for sure, but I’ve seen people do it for things like that. It comes off as kind of tacky. One of my friends started one for her wedding and I remember thinking that was odd because it wasn’t like they had some strenuous circumstances. They just wanted help paying for it. Her family was pissed lol. @kissableviv
WTF to my husband for just slamming a door on my face when I opened it yelling "I closed it for a reason". I instantly burst into tears which is not my normal reaction. Usually I get hella mad and tell him off. I had been talking on the phone with my grandma and I know I am not quiet talker and Husband likes to play chess to unwind but is very competitive about it and a little obsessive. I heard him close the door near the end of my phone call and figured I had been pretty loud and was going to apologize when I got that as soon as I opened it...
I sent him a text telling him off for being a jerk over chess and went upstairs took my unisom and plan to be on my phone until I fall asleep. just feel sad now