MBF - 1/1/2018

amylonghorn

I may not know how to GIF, but I sure know how to bitch. 

Let's hear 'em, ladies!!

amylonghorn

I started this thread specifically because I have a major MBF - my stepson moved out yesterday and didn't even THANK us for letting him live here for practically nothing for 6 months. I'm trying not to let it get to me too bad, but I'm all about "please" and "thank you" and after 6 months of him living here doing NOTHING (not in school, quit his job after 2 weeks here), I'm just so over the whole situation. And the lack of gratitude disgusts me. 

cford08

@amylonghorn SAME. I love my brother to death,  but we got no thank you in the way out. My dad tried to make him pay DH 100 for helping him move out. Haven't seen a dime and don't plan on it. Ungrateful is an understatement.

mdfarmchick

My never-been-pregnant sister who is a nurse but doesn’t work with L&D was lecturing me today on not walking briskly for 20-30 minutes a day. So I explained that when I saw my office’s PA last week she told me if I have more than 4 BH in an hour or my belly goes rock hard for more than 20 minutes I have to go In for monitoring at L&D. And walking has been giving me BH. So I’ve been trying to do more yoga/spinning babies. And also, I’ve been doing everything to avoid my belly going hard because it was happening every single night and we don’t have family in town to watch my toddler. 

Her response: How unusual. They don’t recommend bedrest or anything like that anymore because it’s very harmful. If you can’t walk you’re going to be constipated. Oh well. It will also be really hard not to put on weight without exercise. I would think you might want to see someone else.

Omg. Did you just call me fat?! Have you lost your mind? I can’t even vacuum today without being out of breath because someone has taken up residence in my ribcage and won’t move. I do walk. But you told me walking around my house doesn’t count. Well, walking “briskly” around the neighborhood gives me BH and a hard belly. So while the PA didn’t say “don’t walk” she said “if it happens I want you to go in for monitoring.” I don’t want to go in for monitoring because I don’t have anyone to watch DS. I am just trying to not overdue things because honestly that’s probably half of the problem to begin with according to MH. Nesting is still strong with this one and I want to clean the whole house. 

Also I have the top OB in my city and if he trusts his PA, then so do I. I will see him in three weeks and maybe he will say something different. Or maybe not. Then she’s all “you should call the nurse line”... I am 100% positive that the nurse’s line will tell me the same exact thing. And especially since the PA already told me that. Ugh. 

Best part? At the end of the conversation she tells me I should ask someone who was 5 years ahead of me in high school for a second opinion because she’s an OB nurse and “is really good at OB”. ((Roll eyes)). I am not asking Christy anything. 

StephBrim24

@mdfarmchick - I’m fuming with you. As someone who just got diagnosed with an irritable uterus (and your symptoms sound a sneeze away from the same diagnosis), I would have been seething if someone said that to me. I would have wished things on her that I would have later regretted (you know, like an insanely irritable uterus and all sorts of general discomfort). 
I’m generally super laid back but when someone tries to talk down to me about something I’m struggling with and they’re totally inexperienced, it gets to me big time. You have my sympathy!!

BrittnieMariee

It’s not Monday anymore but I’m 98% sure my DS has caught the stomach bug that’s been going around and I want to cry. He’s been sick 3 times today but is acting completely normal otherwise. I’m feeling kind of nauseous now and I’m gonna be pretty upset if I got what he has, if that is even what he has. Ugh. 

cford08

@BrittnieMariee I hope your LO gets to feeling better soon 

@mdfarmchick Your sister need to have several seats. I know you didn't mean to make the last part sound funny....but dang, what did Christy ever do to you?! I feel like her and Felicia need to go somewhere lol I hollered

paigew123

Not Monday, but mom in law just let us know she won't babysit for us when we go on vacation in 2 weeks. In her defense, she never said yes, but I'm still annoyed...
I just wanted one stress free vacation before the baby comes, and now it's got me all riled up and DH really upset at me....

cford08

When did y'all ask her @paigew123 ? That's terrible timing on her part to make up her mind not to watch your LO.

BrittnieMariee

@cford08 thank you! The hardest part is not giving him any milk. He is seriously addicted and won’t drink anything else! And he still likes to have some before he goes to bed. So it’s definitely gonna be a long night. 

paigew123

@cford08 she never actually said she'd take him, but she/her high school daughters are always complaining they don't get to see DS enough and that they love having him over. 
Dh also kept saying oh yeah they'll do it without a prob (it's only 4 days) but now she doesn't want to "tie herself down" he's in daycare all day, it's not like he'd Need to be entertained...
shes entitled to say no, but my hormones are outta wack and the timing isn't perfect for disappointment. 

baybeesunflower

@mdfarmchick Omg, I hate crap like that. Just because she's a nurse she thinks she knows... nope.

chasingroygbiv

@mdfarmchick Yeah, sister needs to quiet down. Irritable uterus here and the last thing you’re going to find me doing is something that triggers more contractions when I’m having too many/on the verge of having to be monitored. Hence the reason they suggest drinking water and laying down............... some people. If we were closer to 37 weeks, fine, but no. 

Hopd your LO feels better and you stay well @BrittnieMariee

crossfitbabybump

My mother had a double mastectomy last June and has slowly been on her way to getting fake boobs. She had scheduled her final surgery right around my due date, long after she knew the due date. Whatever, I didn't care then. Well now she told me she's moving her surgery out because of the baby. But the way she said it was like it was an inconvenience for her to do so.. like I never asked you to move your surgery? And it's for implants... they honestly can't wait? That just rubbed me the wrong way. She bailed on me on my last u/s appointment, too. I cried. Stupid hormones. But I feel like she's not here like I need/want her to be. The other day DH and I called her to see if she wanted to get lunch with us and she said no, she was going to the casino. K... Well, not much longer we'll have free time. But the casino is her go to and that pisses me off even more.

Don't get me wrong, I love my mother dearly. She's my best friend. But right now I want to be a little selfish and have her to myself. I've always been there for her, during all her cancer treatments, back surgeries, and not to mention that my DH and I have helped my parents out tremendously financially. So is it too much to ask for her to come to a f&$king appointment with me, or lunch and not the casino!? -_-

mdfarmchick

@StephBrim24 last night was the first half of our birth class since we are at a different hospital this time, and I thought it would be a good refresher too. Afterwards, I talked to the 16 year L&D nurse who teaches the class and has 6 babies and let her feel my belly. We had a sitter so I knew if I had to go get monitored, she would be fine with staying. She told me what I thought and what you were saying. I probably have an irritable uterus. In her opinion it isn’t a contraction that is going on for a long time or anything, so she said she didn’t think I needed to go in. Just to try not to do too much that irritates it and to do more yoga. I know the PA was speaking out of an abundance of caution, which is great and I appreciate. But my belly wasn’t doing it at my check up so it’s hard for her to know what’s going on. So I’m taking her advice for now and I’ll let the PA know that I did have an L&D nurse check me out at my appointment next week.
But geesh. How about you go walk briskly with someone squishing your lungs and separating your ribcage. Let’s not even talk about the SPD and pelvic pressure. #thirdtrimesterproblems

@BrittnieMariee oh no! I hope you don’t catch it. 

@cford08 lol! Christy got blocked on Facebook four years ago for asking too many questions about MH’s job and being nosey and annoying. Lol. 

@paigew123 that’s super annoying and very last minute. She should have at least told you with enough time for you to try to find someone else. How rude. 

@chasingroygbiv yeahhh. I was sure you’d understand. Nobody wants to go be monitored at L&D if they can avoid having contractions/etc. I love her but she was being especially annoying the past few days. 

@crossfitbabybump I’m sorry your mom isn’t being supportive in the way that you need. I know you have a lot of changes coming up and you just want a little time with her before things change. Hugs. Everyone copes differently and your mom may just be coping in her own way. 

crossfitbabybump

@mdfarmchick - thank you lovey

StephBrim24

@mdfarmchick - yeah welcome to the club! It seems like there’s a sliding scale of “irritability” so it’s hard to know how easy to take it. I second the brisk walking. I tried to walk briskly just around the corner of a building to get out of the -10 degree wind and nearly peed myself and started cramping up. No thanks to making that a habit!

vflux33

@mdfarmchick I'd be so annoyed if my sister said something like that. I think I mentioned I got a similar comment from MH's coworker (also never been pregnant) a few weeks ago and I was pisssssssed. Like, yes, I get it: women used to be told not to exercise at all during pregnancy and that wasn't great advice. But when you're in 3rd trimester (or any trimester) and your body tells you to slow down, you slow the fuck down. No questions. We're not in control anymore. We have to listen to our bodies' signals and respond correctly or else we end up in an ER all night, or worse, in actual preterm labor. It sucks because there are people who can be super active throughout their entire pregnancies, which is great and good for them, but it gives the false impression to people who haven't been pregnant that everyone can be super active and that we choose not to. Not my choice, dude! I'm not in control anymore!

mdfarmchick

Omg @vflux33 yes yes yes. Amen. I want to love this comment again. Ps, how are you feeling?

vflux33

@mdfarmchick I'm still pretty run down and no voice, but the worst has definitely passed. I'm really glad I got on tamiflu and sudafed!