Bitchfest week of 12.25

GoogleMD

I did not see one for this week, did  we really make it through chrstmas without bitching

GoogleMD

My bitchfest: my 2 y.o has decided that telling us he has a wet/ dirty diaper is boring and is now just stripping quietly and presenting us with his diaper as he runs away laughing  WTF kid!?!?!?

2. This is probably petty but I am still annoyed. We got DS a play kitchen for Christmas, which my son tild everyone about at dinner that evening. My aunt looks confused and asks why we would get that for a boy... then follows it up with “well I guess it’s ok... I suppose he will need to know in case he never gets married” excuse me? 

eggplantface

@GoogleMD *eye roll* at the outdated gender stereotypes. And that she thinks he'll actually learn how to cook from a toy, but that's a whole other thing.

ash0625

@GoogleMD lots of side eye at your aunt. 

babymakes9

@GoogleMD my boys love to cook in the kitchen! Such a weird thing to say. 

SunflowerMama428

I think it’s funny when people stereotype about cooking because for a long time it was only acceptable to have male head chefs...it doesn’t  make any sense. 

gingermama29

@GoogleMD ugh I hate those gender stereotypes. DH does 95% of the cooking in my house (though I'm fully capable. He just likes to cook and is damn good at it).

chucksmom15

My friends got their two year old son a play kitchen for Christmas and he loves it.  I don't see why it's a girls toy @GoogleMD.  

ldawngirl781

gingermama26 said:

@GoogleMD ugh I hate those gender stereotypes. DH does 95% of the cooking in my house (though I'm fully capable. He just likes to cook and is damn good at it).

Same. (Except for the part about me being fully capable!) DH actually went through culinary school. If it wasn't for him, I'd be living on frozen dinners and takeout. 

@GoogleMD I think your aunt needs to be reminded that we're entering 2018 in a few days. 

Chawk17

GoogleMD said:

My bitchfest: my 2 y.o has decided that telling us he has a wet/ dirty diaper is boring and is now just stripping quietly and presenting us with his diaper as he runs away laughing  WTF kid!?!?!?

2. This is probably petty but I am still annoyed. We got DS a play kitchen for Christmas, which my son tild everyone about at dinner that evening. My aunt looks confused and asks why we would get that for a boy... then follows it up with “well I guess it’s ok... I suppose he will need to know in case he never gets married” excuse me? 

I'm going to second everyone on eye roll....my brother's a chef...what's wrong with boys cooking....its not the 50s. 

But died laughing at DS and diaper.
@ldawngirl781 I'm not capable in the kitchen either! 
 

SarahFoley725

DH made a stupid comment last night that is STILL rubbing me the wrong way more than 24 hours later. DD and I were snuggling and he was like “yeah better get your mama snuggles while you still can”. Ummm why would you say that to her? She doesn’t know what you’re staying but still! I will ALWAYS have time for her no matter how many other children I have. He says he didn’t mean it that way but I can’t stop being irritated about it. 

alemarie1

My BF is I'm so sick of my job! My assistant manager has been on maternity leave so it feels like everything falls on me! Work has been a shit show with never ending turnover and drama... Anyone else in managment? Counting down the weeks until maternity leave... 

rainafire77

Two guesses what mine was today. Also boss blamed me for this woman. So I am writing a procedures book that is going to have a freaking table of contents and divided by topic and if she can't follow THAT then I can't help her anymore. 6 weeks from tomorrow until I'm out of there. So done.

GoogleMD

My aunt is stuck in the 1940’s she makes her own husbands plate and cuts his food like a toddler still. She would likely be horrified to know we got him a baby doll too (which he loves). I try to ignore most of her comments however, pregnancy is limiting my BS tolerance.

@SarahFoley725 I would be pissed too. I feel like kids understand more than we realize. It should not have been brought up.

@rainafire77 that sucks, however, if you wrote this and she still screws up I don’t see how it can be blamed on you. At some point it has to fall on the replacement. 
+1 for being sick of work and counting down to baby. Although I can’t complain much as I am on PTO until Tuesday next week

Megzb510

@alemarie1 I’m in management too and my manager went on maternity leave about 6 weeks ago so it’s been a shit show since. I’ve been working crazy hours just to stay afloat. I feel your pain!

chucksmom15

That would make me mad too @SarahFoley725.  It's not like you are going to abandon her!!

You've done all you can do @rainafire77.  If you write that and she is still a shitshow it's not your problem.

eggplantface

@rainafire77 The sad thing is that where I work they would STILL not blame the bad hire, because by blaming the bad hire they're blaming the person who hired the bad hire, which is the manager, and we can't have that, can we?? Meanwhile, in my opinion the best managers are the one who recognize when they've made a mistake and work to correct it, rather than ignore it or blame someone else for it. Sadly, those managers are few and far between where I work I really hope that's not the case with your manager!

ldawngirl781

@rainafire77 How are you to blame for this? I think this should be your new mantra.

magnolia305

@ldawngirl781 I love that saying! I actually use it a lot when referring to my inlaws 

GoogleMD

ldawngirl781 said:

@rainafire77 How are you to blame for this? I think this should be your new mantra.

Stealing this! Officially my new work mantra

rainafire77

ldawngirl781 said:

@rainafire77 How are you to blame for this? I think this should be your new mantra.

Actually that is my motto! That and the Adams Family creed: 

rainafire77

@eggplantface Oh my god! The manager made a mistake? Blasphemy!

@chucksmom15 Sadly, I'm thinking this woman has amnesia since she forgets that she has a binder of her own notes that she's taken each and every day and can't even figure out how to use an online banking site without being told how to click on a link. It's like Groundhog Day with her. I honestly think I'm in a time loop.

gingermama29

@rainafire77 ahhh I don't know how you do it! I don't think I'd have the patience to deal with that level of incompetence. Hang in there! 

wal2017

SO I gained 5 pounds in 2 weeks, and a my appointment today the doctor got an attitude w me and was very snooty and judgmental about it. MAde me super annoyed and also feel a little bad about myself. 34 weeks, have gained 25 pounds- plus it was Christmas so yeah I had some extra sweets. Her attitude really wasn't welcome 

3plus1equals4

@wal2017 I'm at 24 lbs up at 32 weeks. My doctor hasn't said a single negative thing about it. Don't let them make you feel bad for enjoying the holiday!

alemarie1

@wal2017 sorry to hear your doctor was judgemental about the weight gain, that's awful. I've read U.S. in one of the few countries that weigh pregnant women regularly... Dont feel bad about your weight gain, everybody is different, and your baby is going through a growth spurt as well! 

babymakes9

wal2017 said: ji

SO I gained 5 pounds in 2 weeks, and a my appointment today the doctor got an attitude w me and was very snooty and judgmental about it. MAde me super annoyed and also feel a little bad about myself. 34 weeks, have gained 25 pounds- plus it was Christmas so yeah I had some extra sweets. Her attitude really wasn't welcome 

I think I've gained 40#s so far at 35 weeks.  My Dr.  Isn't concerned, and if i remember correctly i gained arround 50 with each of my other pregnancies.  I think your Dr.  Was being an ass and you are fine for your weight  gain. 

babymakes9

My current BF is dh. He let all the sheep out to pasture after the neighbor told us he'd seen/ heard coyotes. Our ram went missing,  then he didn't do a head count when putting the sheep in and missed a ewe. so we are down 2 sheep and have a pack of coyote knowing where to go for their next meal.  I have told him no one is allowed out of the coral until the problem is solved.  I shouldn't have had to tell him this its common sence,  but he's annoyed at my now that i want him to keep the cattle in as well so they don't get a $1k calf...

Ds and his buddy went out last night to try and count the coyote after finding the ewe in the morning, they spotted at least 5, and heard more,  so are now trying to cone up with a plan. 

BrittaniLC

@wal2017 all Drs are so different with this topic and I just hate it! My OB is relaxed and I wish they all were! I gained 60 with my first and now I’m at 18 with this one (32 weeks). No idea how this time around!

Please don’t let your OB make you feel like crap. Your body is doing an amazing job, making a baby and all. 

3plus1equals4

BF: Woke up with a sinus cold.

If anyone remembers from Thanksgiving,  we skipped inlaws because MIL said FIL was sick then tried to claim allergies after we said we wouldn't come. Well, Christmas, my SIL mentioned she had been sick for the past 2 weeks but only had allergies now... cue DD and I both catching colds mysteriously.

rainafire77

@wal2017 This last visit yesterday was the first visit where my doctor mentioned weight and it was because he was surprised that I haven't gained more than the 14 pounds I've gained. (I was overweight to begin with and gained over 50 lbs when I had DD so I was being very careful in eating right for the most part.) I said I still had 6-7 weeks to gain weight and he said "don't go overboard but I would be fine with you gaining up to a total of 20. We like weight gain to be between 15 & 20 pounds so you're perfectly fine. Plus your blood pressure is normal, you passed your glucose test with flying colors and the baby is growing at a consistent rate. You're doing something right so don't stop." He was very casual about it so not all doctors are judgemental hardasses about it. 

I've seen a lot of posts about weight being an issue with doctors bugging patients about weight gain in pregnancy and I've noticed that the majority are female doctors. I don't know if that's just a coincidence in the sample I've seen or if maybe female doctors are projecting onto their patients? I don't know.

ash0625

@wal2017 I've gained 25 lbs with this baby (32 weeks) and no one has said a word to me about my weight. I have extra fluid and baby consistently measures ahead and no one seems to be concerned with my weight. I seriously would not let it bother you. I get that we all want to be healthy, but dear lord you'd think we'd cut ourselves some slack when it comes to creating life. 

Megzb510

@rainafire77 that’s nice to hear your doc was just matter of fact and causal! With my son I never got any feedback on weight.  I started out overweight so I got a very stern lecture about only gaining 5-10 lbs. then when I met another dr, the recommendation became less than 10 lbs. I ended up losing about 8 lbs during first tri due to nausea. I am still 6 lbs under my starting weight and I got a lecture at my last appt that I need to gain and end the pregnancy slightly positive. I’ve been focusing on drinking water (they recommend between 120-140 oz) so I am just not super starving. I’m gonna keep making healthy choices and what happens happens. 

psm2462

The negative weight feedback from doctors really grinds my gears.  Everyone's body seems to respond to pregnancy differently and your weight gain can be heavily (no pun intended) impacted by prepregnancy weight, nausea and food aversions, how active you're able to be, etc.  Not to mention the fact that 25-35 is the recommended range for women who are neither overweight nor underweight, so 25 pounds at 34 weeks actually sounds right on track to me! The most important thing is for baby to be healthy and as long as that holds true, the weight is just a number on the scale as far as I'm concerned. 

mooses77

My dr mentioned weight gain and how much is reccomended since I'm overweight at my first appointment but none of the doctors have said anything about my weight. I lost weight at first but I'm up 11lbs from my pre pregnancy weight 

atalante

rainafire77 said:

I've seen a lot of posts about weight being an issue with doctors bugging patients about weight gain in pregnancy and I've noticed that the majority are female doctors. I don't know if that's just a coincidence in the sample I've seen or if maybe female doctors are projecting onto their patients? I don't know.

It might be just practice culture? All but one of the practitioners in my practice are female and no one's said a word either way about my weight gain. I have no idea what my gain is on their charts since they weigh me in clothes and shoes, but my scale at home has me up about 18 or 19 pounds from the start (I lost a little in the first tri I think from eating better and cutting alcohol). The only time we discussed weight was when I had a question about where I should be gaining - at the end of the first tri, I was a little alarmed by the tummy 'donut' pooch that formed because the mantra is usually that belly fat is bad. But they reassured me that's not true in pregnancy.

I do have a friend who had a very different experience at her practice with one specific midwife who apparently really upset her, to the point that she didn't want any more appointments with that person. 

I figure if there's a concern they'll bring it up. I come up with enough other things to worry about on my own

ldawngirl781

I refuse to look at the scale at home or at the doctor's office. At my last appt, I asked how my weight was without wanting to know the number (i.e. am I doing ok?) and she said it was perfectly fine and not to be concerned, but the most important thing was what I was eating. If I am gaining a lot of weight from eating apples and broccoli, she's not worried. lol

eggplantface

ldawngirl781 said:

I refuse to look at the scale at home or at the doctor's office. At my last appt, I asked how my weight was without wanting to know the number (i.e. am I doing ok?) and she said it was perfectly fine and not to be concerned, but the most important thing was what I was eating. If I am gaining a lot of weight from eating apples and broccoli, she's not worried. lol

^^This. I don't look at the scale either (don't even know what my pre-pregnancy weight was), and my doc just says it's fine. I assume if something changes she will mention it. I have a tendency to obsess over a scale number so that's why I ignore it. I also assume if baby isn't growing well enough she will mention that too.

Chawk17

mamaof5already said:

My current BF is dh. He let all the sheep out to pasture after the neighbor told us he'd seen/ heard coyotes. Our ram went missing,  then he didn't do a head count when putting the sheep in and missed a ewe. so we are down 2 sheep and have a pack of coyote knowing where to go for their next meal.  I have told him no one is allowed out of the coral until the problem is solved.  I shouldn't have had to tell him this its common sence,  but he's annoyed at my now that i want him to keep the cattle in as well so they don't get a $1k calf...

Ds and his buddy went out last night to try and count the coyote after finding the ewe in the morning, they spotted at least 5, and heard more,  so are now trying to cone up with a plan. 

Was the ewe alive?

wal2017

Thank you all for brightening my spirits! I know i should just focus on eating well so the baby gets the nutrients he needs, and not be overly concerned about the numbers on the scale. I was just caught off guard with her attitude (she was very shaming about the damn 5 pounds), especially because I started at a low body weight anyway. My main issue w this kind of doctor approach is that it could really trigger someone to feel shameful or nervous about their weight, to the point of cutting calories -- which is NOT a good thing and definitely not a healthy mindset. 3rd trimester hormones are bad enough without some doctor heaping on the guilt and shame!
with that said, I'm off to eat my lunch 

GoogleMD

The Dr was a bit concerned a few weeks ago because apparently I lost 1lb. Otherwise, they don’t really say anything. I have gained 19 lb so far.
I think it is ridiculous Dr make such a big deal about it. Obviously you should not use pregnancy as an excuse to go crazy, but as long as you follow cues then the body knows what to do