Pregnancy viability hell

knottie4c208ae2ad892f9e

Hi everyone, I'm just having a really hard time and looking for some kind of hope or comfort I guess. We had our first fet November 22nd after 2 retrievals that yielded only 3 normal embryos. This was supposed to be our highest quality one, since the transfer I've just been in like different stages of "hell." It feels like the worlds longest miscarriage. We started with a low beta of 15.8 at 9dp5dt, then the betas doubled well and we were given a tiny bit of hope but still told to prepare for the worst- the next week we had an u/s and we were measuring behind and told the odds are against us but we were "still in the game", then the next week we had another u/s and there was a sac and yolk but no fetus (this would be at exactly 7 weeks) and AGAIN we're told the odds are against us but there is a very small chance for a miracle but mostly it sounds like we'll just be confirming the inevitable at the next u/s or worse it'll be dragged out even longer. It's just been the most exhausting/depressing month and I can't keep having these small amounts of hope and am just trying to rebuild even though we haven't been confirmed for mc yet. So I guess what I'm wondering is did anyone have success on a second FET after a pgs miscarriage? 

cseley321

I didn't have PGS, but I did have an early MC on my first FET. The third FET was one of my lower quality ones, and it stuck. Best of luck to you and sorry for the rough month

tinjp78

I'm sorry you're having a tough time. Please hang in there. I have no experience like yours to share because I just had my first failed IVF cycle last Nov, but I'll keep on hoping and praying that things will get easier and that the news you'll receive would be better.

[Deleted User]

I am so sorry that not only this doesn't seem to be going well,  but it just keeps dragging on and on.  ((((Hugs))))  My first transfer ended in a cp, and we just attempted another transfer so we shall see.  But we didn't do pgs, either.

DecemberDoll27

Hi, I experienced something similar unfortunately. TW* I had a slow rising hcg, then we thought I miscarried because I bleed like crazy and nobody could not find the baby anywhere, after 3 weeks of tests and hcg being at 14k they finally found the baby in my tube and we had an emergency surgery. It was the worst 3 weeks in my life, I remember feeling guilty that I just wanted it to be over! The limbo sucks! Hang in there, it seems like a total nightmare right now but it will get better!  And there is still hope! Since then, we did IVF, I had a CP and my FET just ended in BFN. We are attempting FET#2 soon. Don't worry, sometimes $hit just happens, you will get through this. You will get your baby soon. I had the worst depression after my EP, took sedatives and lots of wine. It got better! Hang in there, you are not alone. We are all here for you. Be kind to yourself, and take time to heal. And don't lose hope! Hugs...

artemis618

I’m so sorry you’re going through this - my girlfriend lost her first PGS normal transferred two summers ago, and delivered her baby boy (from her second FET) this past summer.

*TW* About a month ago I had a very early miscarriage (5 weeks and a couple of days - or is that a chemical pregnancy?  I don’t even know) of my first FET of a PGS normal XX (fine betas, saw a sac), so I sure hope success is possible after losing one.  We actually only had one PGS normal after our first three IVF cycles (so you’re way more efficient - and I suspect younger - than we are , then we changed REs and got some more from a cycle with him.  Now that we’re down one, we’re going to do another retrieval before transferring again because of my age and our crappy luck.

Know that one way or another, the way you’re feeling right now can’t last forever.  Hang in there!

knottie4c208ae2ad892f9e

Thanks for all your responses, they really help ❤️

CourtRoseS

Following because I’ve just gone through something similar. (Hugs) to you, I know exactly what your going though, and can relate 100% on the way you are feeling.

 **TW - after a BFP, We had a low rising beta, and were told with each blood test that our prognosis was not good. At 6 weeks, my beta started dropping, and I misscaried. It was the longest waiting period of my life. With bad news at every doctors visit, but too early for anything to be certain, I tried my best to be hopeful. We did transfer a PGS tested embryo. I too, would love to hear stories of a successful second FET after a genetically tested embryo ended in a MC. END TW*

@DecemberDoll27 I agree, limbo is the worst! And I’m sorry for your loss. I hope your most recent transfer is going much better. @Artemis0685 Good to hear about your friends success! I’m so sorry for your loss. Good luck with your upcoming treatments, I’m hoping for a happy outcome for you!