FFFC | 12.22

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lainikins

I have never seen Elf. No idea why. I would probably love it. I love Will Ferrell. 

lainikins

Ok a real one. I have not been coming in because I am terrified that there are going to be more posts in the birth announcement post any day now. I am still in deep denial that this kid is coming soon. Isn’t is still June? How did time go so fast. I am not ready. I am freaking out a bit. 

eggplantface

@lainikins 1) This might be a UO but Elf is only OK. It has its moments and quotable lines but I like other Christmas comedies. 2) The past few weeks have been flying by, it is getting real up in here.

My FFFC: H asked me if I wanted his parents to stay in a hotel when they come to see the baby after he's born. I said yes. H kind of flinched and asked why, and I said some stuff about how I'd have to vacate the guest bathroom (which I use exclusively) and that would be a pain after a c-section and I need access to everything in my bathroom (for some reason H has a problem with my using the same bathroom as his parents when they visit, it's odd). I also said they'd be more comfortable in a hotel at night because they wouldn't be woken up by the baby. But the real reason is, when I mentioned the "sleep better without a baby" thing to MIL a while back she said it's not a problem because she'd "get up with the baby" and that scares the crap out of me. I picture her barging into our bedroom in the middle of the night every time the baby cries and whisking him away. I know that won't happen (ok, I HOPE that won't happen) but I can't shake this feeling that it's still a remote possibility and I don't want to make it a reality. And if I say this to H he may commit me to a mental ward.

babymakes9

Fffc: i am very happy i have to be sitting in a cold 40 degree building today,  because that means i Don't have to deal with my mother all day.  But i am also highly annoyed i have to be sitting in a cold 40 degree building today because that means i don't get to make my dh's birthday cake,  or see my Kids when they get home from school for break.

ldawngirl781

@eggplantface I don't really like Elf either. I don't hate it, but I don't understand the big appeal as I have friends who must watch it every year. And a big N-O to anyone staying after the baby comes. As if you don't have enough to worry about? 

@mamaof5already Why are you sitting in in a cold building today? 

babybro218

@eggplantface I am in the SAME situation, only my ILs are planning to rent an apartment  in our building again for 3 weeks.  Last time they were in the apartment  right next door (the bedrooms shared a wall) and we could hear their TV at night.  My MIL has already said that she plans to sneak over at night to take care of the baby.  I do not  want her hearing every cry.  It's already stressing me out thinking about it. I've repeatedly told DH that I love his parents, but I'm going to need space those first few weeks.  They are still staying in our building, but I am going to talk to the building manager about not having any available apts. on our floor (let alone next door).  If that doesn't work, I thought about what you said a few weeks ago and I'm going to put together a list of things my MIL can do to help and give it to DH so he can mention them to her. That way she feels useful and I don't freak out or seem like a bitch.  

SarahFoley725

I pretended not to hear DD wake up this morning. 

ETA DH is off so he got to deal with her 

jenniferjoy37

 So glad my parents and IL’s live in the same state and WANT to go home every night to their own beds. I’m sorry you guys are going through the IL troubles @babybro218 @eggplantface

clc515

I kinda of (translation: truly) don't want to leave my mom unsupervised with my kiddo. First, I truly HATE that smug/incredulous look she gets when we were talking about our baby basics class saying a number of rules have changed since our parents were raising babies. "When you were babies, I did x and you turned out just fine." Cool, mom, cool. Second, I remember my brother saying to not give his 1-yo any of the food we had for dinner, and as soon as he left she's like, 'lets try this...' and it gave my nephew a rash. So uh no. My brother did say overall she was incredibly helpful and good watching my nephew (though a PITA), but at this moment I just don't wanna. 

eggplantface

babybro218 said:

@eggplantface I am in the SAME situation, only my ILs are planning to rent an apartment  in our building again for 3 weeks.  Last time they were in the apartment  right next door (the bedrooms shared a wall) and we could hear their TV at night.  My MIL has already said that she plans to sneak over at night to take care of the baby.  I do not  want her hearing every cry.  It's already stressing me out thinking about it. I've repeatedly told DH that I love his parents, but I'm going to need space those first few weeks.  They are still staying in our building, but I am going to talk to the building manager about not having any available apts. on our floor (let alone next door).  If that doesn't work, I thought about what you said a few weeks ago and I'm going to put together a list of things my MIL can do to help and give it to DH so he can mention them to her. That way she feels useful and I don't freak out or seem like a bitch.  

Yeah, it's these comments that freak me out. I'm like "Is she joking, or is this a joking tone to hide that it's the truth?" Because I wouldn't put it past her, while at the same time I'm trying to think the best of her. Get your locks changed!! We told everyone (friends and family) that we need two weeks with no visitors, but ILs will be there as soon as those weeks are up. I'm grateful for the two weeks alone, but that doesn't mean that after those two weeks I want ILs in the house 24/7.

I keep picturing that scene from Melrose Place (showing my age) when Kimberly kidnaps Jo's baby and starts to breastfeed it all creepy-like.

babymakes9

@ldawngirl781 because someone (my dd) turned the heat off last night at our store and it takes 2-3 days to heat the building up.  Today should have been the nice warm day! I've been rotating infront of the heater like a rotisserie chicken all morning. 

mooses77

I'm glad I'm not the only one who is worried about my in-laws. My mom has worked with kids longer then I've been alive I need her around, my in-laws had nannies and know nothing about kids. I just hope they treat my kids better then they treat my husband. 

Starynightsky24

@clc515 when my in laws said things like “we did XYZ and my kids turned out fine.” I was a brat and responded with, “ do you want us to skip the car seat and paint the room with lead paint as well?” 

 It got the point across. Things change. 

clc515

@Starynightsky24 Lol that'd be great to say to my mom! Saving that for the next time lol.

ldawngirl781

@Starynightsky24 Oh, I love that! I'm going to use that next time too. 

chucksmom15

Starynightsky24 said:

@clc515 when my in laws said things like “we did XYZ and my kids turned out fine.” I was a brat and responded with, “ do you want us to skip the car seat and paint the room with lead paint as well?” 

 It got the point across. Things change. 

I wish this worked on my mom.  If I hear that same phrase one more time I think I'll scream

soulcupcake

clc515 said:

I kinda of (translation: truly) don't want to leave my mom unsupervised with my kiddo. First, I truly HATE that smug/incredulous look she gets when we were talking about our baby basics class saying a number of rules have changed since our parents were raising babies. "When you were babies, I did x and you turned out just fine." Cool, mom, cool. Second, I remember my brother saying to not give his 1-yo any of the food we had for dinner, and as soon as he left she's like, 'lets try this...' and it gave my nephew a rash. So uh no. My brother did say overall she was incredibly helpful and good watching my nephew (though a PITA), but at this moment I just don't wanna. 

This is my MIL. I like her in small doses, because she can be quite smothering and obnoxious with her "This is how I did things with T..." yeah, 39 years ago. We get it. That's not what I/we do, and shit has changed A LOT since your kids were babies. What made it even more irritating was her unsolicited advice like I really give a damn. She'd tell stories of FIL giving H peanut and honey sandwiches before a year or how she didn't breastfeed "as long" back then. Uh huh. Cool beans.

My mother has always been fantastic and doesn't give unsolicited advice because she dealt with that "grandma knows best" nonsense when she had my sister. When it came to breastfeeding and solid food and other practices that my grandma just didn't quite understand. I also took on many of the same practices that she did with my sister (co-sleeping, baby-wearing, breastfeeding for 12+ months, delayed solids, etc.) that were just normal to me, so I did them with my own children. Those practices weren't the norm almost 23 years ago, but it was what I saw and knew to be normal. 

It took some time for MIL to get used to boundaries. Dd3 is her first grandchild and she'd been "waiting so long" that she was just so excited. But yeah, just know when to temper the passive-aggressive bullshit and smugness because things are different now and we have our way of doing things that has worked well for me for 13 years and multiple kids.

smorzandoj

I took my dying Christmas’s tree down today, Saturday, Dec 23rd. 

3plus1equals4

smorzandoj said:

I took my dying Christmas’s tree down today, Saturday, Dec 23rd. 

Ours is fake. 

3plus1equals4

I still need to get gifts for 8 people... its 4:15am on Christmas Eve. Luckily, only 3 of those need to be by tonight & tomorrow. The otherS are a late celebration on the 27th.

Starynightsky24

Maybe this is an UO.... but I’m SO GLAD Christmas is over (for us! 11pm here...). I’m so exhausted from hosting both families and excited, over tired kids. Def have to change things next year when we will have a 10 mo old, 3 year old, and 5 year old! I won’t do all this again! 

magnolia305

I’m with you @Starynightsky24. I’m glad it’s over—we put everything away yesterday and starting digging out baby stuff. Christmas isn’t always enjoyable when you have tons of running to do with kids. 

3plus1equals4

@Starynightsky24 and @magnolia305 I am counting down to packing it all up. We have one more Christmas celebration on the 27th, so it's all coming down the 28th!

BrittaniLC

I’ll probably be taking down my Christmas crap either today or tomorrow.  I need the space for DD’s new toys....

Starynightsky24

@magnolia305 and @3plus1equals4 YES! I need to do baby things too. I’m too tired to even think about putting the Christmas stuff away though. Lol

jenniferjoy37

Christmas stuff was intentionally thrown into the dining room because DH and FIL are painting the family room and kitchen. Yay for a messy house again! Ugh. But the colors are awesome and I can’t wait until it’s all done. Now the kitchen cabinets need to cooperate and stop bleeding yellow through the white paint! 

Chawk17

jenniferjoy37 said:

Christmas stuff was intentionally thrown into the dining room because DH and FIL are painting the family room and kitchen. Yay for a messy house again! Ugh. But the colors are awesome and I can’t wait until it’s all done. Now the kitchen cabinets need to cooperate and stop bleeding yellow through the white paint! 

What color is the family room? 

BrittaniLC

Woo hoo!!! Christmas crap is put away for another year!!!

jenniferjoy37

@Chawk17 They’re painting one wall and the kitchen a lighter navy “sophisticated” blue, and the other walls a sandy white color. We’re paining the kitchen cabinets white, so that blue will be toned down a little with all the white. The other people had this baby blue and nasty poop colored brown on the walls, and after living here for 2.5 years, it was time for a change. Especially with the baby coming so soon. 

Chawk17

jenniferjoy37 said:

@Chawk17 They’re painting one wall and the kitchen a lighter navy “sophisticated” blue, and the other walls a sandy white color. We’re paining the kitchen cabinets white, so that blue will be toned down a little with all the white. The other people had this baby blue and nasty poop colored brown on the walls, and after living here for 2.5 years, it was time for a change. Especially with the baby coming so soon. 

That sounds beautiful. I love the blue/ white together. My brain always thinks nautical with those colors.

TattoosandLace

I don’t understand the Rae Dunn obsession. The font drives me up a wall. 

3plus1equals4

TattoosandLace said:j

I don’t understand the Rae Dunn obsession. The font drives me up a wall. 

I had to Google what font that was. I agree. 

SarahFoley725

TattoosandLace said:

I don’t understand the Rae Dunn obsession. The font drives me up a wall. 

They sell the font and other vinyl people have been banking!

jenniferjoy37

3plus1equals4 said:

TattoosandLace said:j

I don’t understand the Rae Dunn obsession. The font drives me up a wall. 

I had to Google what font that was. I agree. 

Ditto. I’m surprised @TattoosandLace knew the name of it! Ha.