My UO is that I side-eye anybody who tells me that my pets are "spoiled" and acts like they will be 100% replaced by the baby. To me, that's the same as telling me that older children will be replaced by the new baby. No. I also feel like that says that my ability to love is limited. Also no. Not to mention that it totally negates the fact that my pets saw me through the worst thing I've been through to date and gave my mama heart an outlet during my struggle with infertility and recurrent loss. Do NOT underestimate my ability to love my tribe. I'm adding to it--not taking away from the ones in it already.
AMEN @ryannenikole! Also adding I really dislike when people keep saying "Your life is going to totally change once you have this kid" 1) Thanks for reminding me, I guess 2) I feel like you are trying to tell me I can never do anything again and I don't like it. 3) I feel like I can decide how much my life changes by how we raise our child. Just because your life went to a rollercoaster doesn't mean mine has to.
For real, @conineml. Yes, your life changes, but that's a choice you make as your priorities change. And yeah sometimes the top priority is naptime, so no sorry guys I'm not doing things that start at 1:30pm any more. But not always, and not forever. Equally unhelpful is the "ohhhh two is so much different than one" and "ooooh two boys *shakes head*". That is not actually preparing me for anything, you're just being vague and ominous. Thanks for that.
Yes @bainidhedub it's not like they are offering me any advice with their comment just "Oh it's going to be lifechanging..." ok....thanks! @gusgus14 I'm with you. I mean I'll watch some and there are some events I like...but I'm not bingeing that. I might catch it randomly. When it was on 2 summers ago, we were on vacation at the beach and for some reason we could not change the channel...it was ridiculous!
With the whole "your life is going to change completely" thing I agree it's annoying when people say it because they act like you have no idea what you're getting into and that life is going to suck. But I'd just like to say that yes your life changes completely, but in the best way possible. You have this human who you will love more than you ever thought possible to love. And they will love you just as fiercly. It's pretty amazing. So I just assume in my head that's what they're saying so I don't punch them.
I'm with y'all on the whole your life is going to change comments. I'll also add the "you have no idea what you are in for" comments. Do I know exactly what it is like to be a parent? No, this is our first. Are we completely naive? Nope, stop assuming we have this Hallmark card image in our head. MIL just after seeing the baby bathtub had to come out to tell me that "despite what you think the baby will likely not like the first bath and there will be crying." I just looked at her and was like "yeah, I know. I've observed and given a bath to an infant before." She replied "well, you'll find out what I mean soon enough."
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Re: UO - 12/21
My UO is that I side-eye anybody who tells me that my pets are "spoiled" and acts like they will be 100% replaced by the baby. To me, that's the same as telling me that older children will be replaced by the new baby. No. I also feel like that says that my ability to love is limited. Also no. Not to mention that it totally negates the fact that my pets saw me through the worst thing I've been through to date and gave my mama heart an outlet during my struggle with infertility and recurrent loss. Do NOT underestimate my ability to love my tribe. I'm adding to it--not taking away from the ones in it already.
Equally unhelpful is the "ohhhh two is so much different than one" and "ooooh two boys *shakes head*". That is not actually preparing me for anything, you're just being vague and ominous. Thanks for that.
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@gusgus14 I'm with you. I mean I'll watch some and there are some events I like...but I'm not bingeing that. I might catch it randomly. When it was on 2 summers ago, we were on vacation at the beach and for some reason we could not change the channel...it was ridiculous!