Due date check in (week of 12/18): fourth week of may 5/20-5/26

bwow615

This is a weekly check in for people who are due the first week of May - 5/20-5/26. 

How far along are you? When is your due date? What size is baby?

What's going on this week? How are you feeling, any rants or raves? 

Any upcoming appointments?

GTKY:  What names do/will your parents and in-laws go by as grandparents? 

bwow615

How far along are you? When is your due date? What size is baby?
18 weeks today, due 5/22.  Sweet Potato!

What's going on this week? How are you feeling, any rants or raves? 
I got in a minor car accident yesterday, a lady rear ended me on the way to work.  I'm fine, baby is fine. Thankfully DS wasn't in the car.  Now we have to deal with taking the car to the shop and getting a rental.  At least the lady has decent insurance, or any insurance. 

Any upcoming appointments?
Heard baby's heartbeat yesterday on the doppler while getting checked over at the hospital.  Next appt is 1/3 for AS.

GTKY:  What names do/will your parents and in-laws go by as grandparents? 
Grandma and Grandpa... nothing unique, DS calls my mom Grandma Karen and SO's mom is Grandma Debbie.  My dad is the only Grandpa living, so he has the sole title of Grandpa no first name needed. 

suchaglencoco

@bwow615, glad you're alright! Was his carseat in the car? If so, check the manual. Most of them require a new seat after any accident, no matter how small. Damage can also occur inside the seat and not be seen easily. Insurance will cover it.

How far along are you? When is your due date? What size is baby?
18w2d

What's going on this week? How are you feeling, any rants or raves? 
Feeling good. Not really feeling pregnant at all, which is good. 

Any upcoming appointments?
I had a checkup yesterday. I kind of hate those useless appointments, but I get it. Not everyone has their own bp cuff and doppler at home, haha.
I see a team of obs so each of them ask me if I want to attempt vbac. Each has said that I'm great candidate for it which is good. Obviously, it's not a guarantee and if I need a c section, I honestly don't think I'd mind much. Whatever keeps both of us heathy and safe.

GTKY:  What names do/will your parents and in-laws go by as grandparents? 
Our twins are numbers 4 and 5 on my side and numbers 5 and 6 on the other side do the names were already kind of established. Although organically, my mom has kind of become grammy to me and the kids. And my nephews have started to call her that on and off too.
For DHs side, his dad married his long time gf when our twins were 6 months. We sat them down and I asked her if she would mind if we began to refer to her as grandma with our kids. To me, step grandparents are just as good as blood grandparents (if they're good people, obviously). I grew up with 3 sets of grandparents and didn't realize 2 weren't "real" grandparents until I was in school and heard most kids only have 2 sets. So it is important to me that our kids feel the same. Anyways, SMIL was more than happy to be referred to as grandma. I told her that since the kids didn't talk yet and since we were the first to bring it up out if, now was the time to decide on her grandma name. She did choose grandma, even though I pushed for super fun names like zsa-zsa or meemaw, haha. I think she missed out on a fun opportunity! 

bwow615

@suchaglencoco thanks for the tip on the carseat! It's a graco, and they do say to replace after any accident.  
Are you thinking of the trying the VBAC if all lines up?  With a repeat c-section they usually schedule those in advance, right?  

suchaglencoco

@bwow615, different insurance companies do it differently and it can cause issues. I'm part of a local mom group and this happens and lot. If they refuse to replace it, explain the manual situation, send them documentation and let them know they're liable if they refuse to replace it.
I'd love to do vbac just to avoid a surgery. Plus I'd love to have a vaginal birth so I can experience that as well. The reason I needed a c section with the twins was kind of a mixed bag. I had preeclampsia so they wanted me to deliver that day. DD was at the bottom so she would be delivered first. The way she was positioned that day, they were worried when I started to push, she would go into distress and we'd need a crash c section. Several obs and my mfm discussed it just so they had different opinions for me. They left it up to me and my ob said she'd support me if I chose to try vaginally. I didn't even look at dh and said a "c section it is". She asked if she should step out for us to discuss and I said it was my body, my choice and DH agreed it was the best option. She legit sighed with relief because they all thought I should do a c section, but she wanted to give me the option to try. 
Our first OB meeting they warned a c section was possible so I always had that in my mind. I wasn't disappointed at all when I needed one. It was the safest option on my opinion. 

bwow615

@suchaglencoco she has progressive insurance so hopefully they are one that will just cover it without a fuss.  SO has to talk to them today since the car is registered in his name.  
That's great that you had such a strong support team of OB's and your MFM around you who were supportive of whatever decision you chose.  

suchaglencoco

@bwow615, definitely have him bring it up to them. A lot of times they'll have you go get a new one and send or email a copy of the receipt for reimbursement since it's faster for you to get a carseat that way.
I'm sure your seat is fine, but I just wouldn't risk it more than a few drives if they're necessary. 

sandbar517

I rear ended someone a year and a half or so ago, and then got rear ended a few months later.  Both times as soon as I said "the manual recommends replacing the seats" that's all they needed to hear.  No argument, no proof necessary, they just told me to get new seats, send them a copy of the receipt so they could reimburse me and one of them asked me to send a picture of the old car seats with the straps cut (I think that might have been for the person who rear ended me that had different insurance).  I don't have Progressive, but I would imagine as soon as you mention the manual recommending the seat be replaced, they won't take the liability of refusing to replace them.  Good luck!

theletlers

@bwow615 glad everyone is alright!
@suchaglencoco I'm glad they give you the option and are open to vbac!

How far along are you? When is your due date? What size is baby?
17 and 5 days, May 24. I actually don't know what fruit or vegetable we are this week!

What's going on this week? How are you feeling, any rants or raves? 
Just getting ready for holiday plans and trying to figure out when things are happening. And DH will not be able to be at most of it because he did not ask for the dates I told him to months ago so he works the 23rd during his dad's extended family gathering, Christmas Eve during his mom's side's gathering, and then will leave during his dad's immediate family gathering on Christmas day. And then I have to drive four hours with DS and he will miss my family's Christmas on the 30th and two birthday parties on the 31st. Don't worry the one moment that I will get to see him, Christmas morning his mom and her husband and his grandparents decided they will come to our house for breakfast. You better believe I am telling them like 9:30 or 10 because I want a couple of hours with just our family on Christmas. Rant over.
Also I'm so sick of the BH contractions. I'm dreading them lingering for another 22 weeks.

Any upcoming appointments?
Jan 4 is AS. 

GTKY:  What names do/will your parents and in-laws go by as grandparents? 
My parents are just grandma and grandpa. Dh's dad is papaw but DS has started calling him "pops" because he always gives him popsicles. lol. DH's mom really pushes grammy, but DS usually calls her gram or grandma. He actually just started calling her anything a few months ago. He could talk, he just never called her a name and refused to call her grandma or anything. Papaw has had a live in girlfriend for about a year but we just call her by her name. And MIL husband we also just call by name. I'm not opposed to calling step-grandparents by a more formal title per se because that is a relationship deserving of recognition. But in our own circumstance at least with MIL those people tend to come and go and I feel it would be more hurtful for my kids if "grandpa" is no longer around for them than "Don" won't be around. (he's husband five and there have been many many boyfriends in between)

suchaglencoco

@theletlers, I'm sorry dh won't be around for most of it!  That sucks. I would lose it I had to drive the twins 4 hours each way all alone. I'd go mad! Even with 2 of us we try to plan trips to see his family (2 hours away) around their nap or bedtime times so they mostly sleep in the car. 
I completely get sticking with a name instead of grandpa in the case of your mil. That seems excessive!  Fil had been with smil for like 10 years when they finally got married so I'm not too worried about it. 
I also love that he calls your dad pops because of popsicles!

theletlers

I also love that he calls him pops. He woke me up Sunday morning and told me he needed to call pops and go in the car and get a coffee and take a walk with papaw and have pops at papaw's house at 3 4 in the day. Also that is now always the time at our house. 3 4 in the day. 
DH had three sets of grandparents and called them all mamaw/papaw but like yours they had all been married for a few years before he was even born and are all still alive now. But my MIL is a unique situation to say it nicely!

bwow615

@theletlers soo funny your son says it's 3 4 in the day.  when I ask DS what time it is he always tells me it's 45. I Love It!  

sandbar517

Everything for Hannah is "on Sundays".  Her birthday is on Sundays, she fell and hurt her knee on Sundays, it's hilarious.  

fraufarbissina

How far along are you? When is your due date? What size is baby?
17+4 due the 26th.  Baby is a pomegranate 

What's going on this week? How are you feeling, any rants or raves? 
I'm feeling ok.  The only consistent symptom I have is when I forget that I can't get up from sitting as fast as I used to and get some pains from that.  I was feeling like my bump was growing a few weeks ago but now I feel like there's nothing there again.  I'm looking forward to actually popping.  

Any upcoming appointments
Im waiting in my midwives office as we speak.  It should be a quick and uneventful appointment. 

GTKY:  What names do/will your parents and in-laws go by as grandparents? 
my mom's nickname has been Nonny ever since she was a kid so that's what the grandkids call her too.  My dad is Pop Pop but my daughter has just started calling him Bubba..I kinda wish she was the first grand kid so that would stick.  

My FIL is grandpa and his fiancé is Mimi.  They live far away and have never met my daughter yet so we'll see if any new nicknames evolve once they finally meet in January.  

@bwow615 glad everyone is ok and good luck with all the insurance stuff!  I know that can get annoying

@theletlers you have a busy holiday season!  I hate that extended family forgets about the fact that you may want to spend some time alone with just your husband and son during the holidays.  Definitely make sure you get that time if you can!  

nhardler

How far along are you? When is your due date? What size is baby?
I just read a little fun fact today that the babies (we are having twins) are the size of a dollar bill!  The Bump said they're a mango at 19 weeks.  I love their fruit and vegetable comparisons!   Our due date was originally May 21 but when we found out it was twins, they adjusted us for May 7!
What's going on this week? How are you feeling, any rants or raves? 
No rants or raves, just getting overwhelmed by all the stuff we have on the "baby prep" list that needs to get done!  My brother is moving into a new house and is cleaning out his basement.  Which means we got boxes upon boxes of hand me down baby clothes and they are sooooo stinking cute!  
Any upcoming appointments?
Our next ultrasound is January 3 but we already found out the gender: boy and a girl!!
GTKY:  What names do/will your parents and in-laws go by as grandparents? 
My mom and stepdad go by TMa and TPa (their last name starts with a T).  My dad and stepmom are Grandpa Don and Grandma Mary.  My in-laws wanted Grandma H and Grandpa H!