DS this morning who threw a huge fit till halfway to the sitter. He woke up grumpy so Dh put on cartoons (i never turn the tv on before leaving) so when i had to turn it off to leave the fit got worse. Plus i woke up with a headache.
I took my 2 year old to the doctor yesterday for the croup. She started showing symptoms Friday and we waited until Monday to take her (it wasn't bad enough for urgent care). They prescribed her for an inhaler, but said we would need a spacer to use it for her (she's a toddler, good luck without it). Turns out that they forgot the spacer prescription and the office was already closed when we found out. I even double checked before leaving the office and they assured me that everything was called in. Soooo frustrating
My coworkers checking on things I should or shouldn't do - too bad they do not have the full picture of what my job is and there is a very good reason for me to do it not do certain things. Even one of my vendors emailed me about a project that wasn't even approved because it wasn't named correctly in the system. Chill out, people!
Mine is patients and families that treat nursing staff like shit. Cursing and screaming at us. Sorry no one came in 3 min. To answer a light- we can not just stop in the middle of giving someone else medications or getting them cleaned up.
mine is the tire on my car that went out on the way home from the grocery store and than didnt want to come off.. thank God my husband came to help and took dd home to nap and work so that I could go get a new one before i have to go to work this afternoon. I still feel frozen though and the new car smell of the waiting room is making me nauseus. booooo
People feeling entitled while driving. This lady almost hit me because she was pissed my lane was ending and I had to merge into hers or else I'd run over construction workers. It was 10:45am! What was SO important you couldn't let me get ahead of you! And then we got stopped at the light. Choose kind, people!
My husband emailed me a letter telling me how he is done trying to get me in the mood and done being romantic. So of course I was a crying mess this morning.
Mom of 3 (Ginny 4 yrs old), (Miles 2 yrs old), and (Mason due June 15th)
@stlmegs it was sort of out of the blue. We have had rough spots here and there. Birth control really made me not in the mood most days. But we always pull out of it. He knew I was having a bad week as kids are terrors, and my mom is in the hospital. Then all day yesterday I was crying. It's just keeps adding up. Plus, this baby was a complete surprise.
Mom of 3 (Ginny 4 yrs old), (Miles 2 yrs old), and (Mason due June 15th)
My stepdad last night telling me I should be wide eyed and alert all the time being pregnant instead of tired all the time since the baby is still so tiny it can’t possibly be taking up that much energy from me
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@rachelsogo oh my, I would lose my mind, or at the very least force him to read any number of my pregnancy books that describe how growing a human being can be very exhausting. Men just should never assume they know anything about pregnancy, and they definitely shouldn’t tell a pregnant woman how she “should” feel.
I remember being pregnant with my first child, I was in labor, and my contractions were all on top of each other with no break in between them. Needless to say I was in a lot of pain, and I was just trying to breathe through it and have my husband talk to me to distract me. Well he decides to inform me that the nurse (who has never given birth herself) said that all the pain is in my head and I was making it out to be a lot worse than it actually was! I almost kicked them both out of my hospital room
The website/app BabyCenter is a twatwaffle. I'm shocked at some of the idiotic articles they publish. That place is just full of fearmongering and stupidity IMO.
@emsnedds I had the same crap happen to me, and I don't think the nurse believed me either at first. The epidural didn't work so I was feeling all of the back labor and most of the front. She had to basically call another nurse and they got it figured out... it didn't help the pain, but at least someone freaking believed me, lol.
Another one to the person who crop dusted me and i could get away eww and then another guy who kindly moved over on the train so i can sit an said “left it warm for ya!” Why would you say that lol
@thediarywithin I always had a higher sex drive than my husband....until I got pregnant. Pregnancy takes a toll, man! Having been on the other side of this, I get his frustration, but talk to someone before you go issuing ultimatums and saying any sentence containing "I'm Done." I'm sorry, that would have been a hard letter to get. Counselling helps so much, though! Mismatched sex drives was one of the biggest challenges in our marriage and getting help was the best thing we ever did.
Mine goes to my MIL and SIL who are obsessed with throwing us a gender reveal party even though I’ve said multiple times I don’t want one. They act as though turning them down makes me a complete bitch. Funny thing is, they are (partially) the reason I don’t want one. I actually think gender reveals can be cute, but everyone in my family openly prefers that this baby is a boy which takes all the fun out of it. On my side there’s 3 children including DD and all are girls. On DHs side, 8 including DD, and 7 are girls. I literally could not care less though. And every time they make boy comments it feels like they’re (1) attacking DD and (2) attacking the baby. I swear next person who brings up a boy, or a gender reveal party is getting an earful. If this baby has a vagina, and that upsets you, well you can just get the F#*$ over it!
ETA: I actually love my in laws overall, but this one thing is about to send me through the roof!
Woke up late and had to go to an appt for my bf, didn’t get a chance to eat until 4:30 PM and then went to the fridge to see that my bf ate all of our food (left the celery and 3 apples) last night because he couldn’t sleep lol. Granted we were almost out, but then I had to wait longer while he went to the store. Maybe I’m just being a brat.
Mine goes to my MIL and SIL who are obsessed with throwing us a gender reveal party even though I’ve said multiple times I don’t want one. They act as though turning them down makes me a complete bitch. Funny thing is, they are (partially) the reason I don’t want one. I actually think gender reveals can be cute, but everyone in my family openly prefers that this baby is a boy which takes all the fun out of it. On my side there’s 3 children including DD and all are girls. On DHs side, 8 including DD, and 7 are girls. I literally could not care less though. And every time they make boy comments it feels like they’re (1) attacking DD and (2) attacking the baby. I swear next person who brings up a boy, or a gender reveal party is getting an earful. If this baby has a vagina, and that upsets you, well you can just get the F#*$ over it!
ETA: I actually love my in laws overall, but this one thing is about to send me through the roof!
This is one of my fears! We have 2 boys and there are 3 grandsons (no granddaughters) total on my In-laws side. Before we found out we were expecting, MIL mentioned that we should have another so she could hopefully buy some cute girl clothes. Of course, I know it was just a random comment and that she will love our child no matter what, but I'm just nervous that other people will be disappointed if we have another boy - even thought we won't! I think we would actually be more nervous about a girl bc it's uncharted territory for us.
@AlyLynn07 I’m so sorry you’re worried about that too! I’m the same as you, I know that they will love the baby either way. It’s just that the nonstop comments get so old. Even if I had a preference (and I genuinely 100% do not), I have no control over the sex of the baby!
Last one i promise. This time it’s DH. So i found the heartbeat on our Doppler. Yay! I was excited since i didn’t get to hear it yesterday (only see) and I’ve been having a hard time connecting with this pregnancy. So anyways DH has is asleep on the couch and and i yelled out to come if he wants to hear it. I yelled a few times (I’m in the bedroom) no response. I put it all away and go tell him he missed out and asked if he heard me. He’s on the couch with his face under a pillow (like you do to not hear something) and he say uh-ha (yes he heard me). I’m bummed. I wanted to share it with him. Still happy i heard the little bean.
@tarheelgirl8@AlyLynn07 I have not told my parents or my in laws yet but I'm pretty sure - now I'm hoping- they won't have a preference. DH and I are both only children so this is the first grandchild. My mom is remarried and my stepsister has a girl but this one is the first of her own. I'm hoping for a girl but only before I stupidly think that I would be a bit more confident in what I'm doing, l know, I'm delusional
Our baby is the 30th grandchild/great grandchild for my boyfriend’s grandparents so I’m actually nervous that they just won’t care at all that we are having a baby/will be disappointed because we are not married yet and weren’t planning this. They are really lovely people and I don’t want them to not like me anymore or not love our baby. Anyways, we are leaving this weekend to visit with them for 2 weeks and we are not telling them I am pregnant yet, but I am so nervous it will come out somehow. I wish I didn’t care so much about their opinion.
@tarheelgirl8 I’m sorry they’re making it so stressful! I was at a gender reveal on Sunday and everyone there was so anti boy that it made me really uncomfortable. They don’t know I’m pregnant yet but it’s a weird feeling to know that people won’t appreciate (or act like they won’t) your baby if it’s not what they want.. Having boys isn’t not a bad thing, and dressing them up can be fun too. (Telling that to myself- I have one of each already)
@hillbillywife I love dressing my son up like a little gentleman! He likes it too- especially his "papa shoes" (old man loafer things). It's the sweetest, I'm hoping for a girl this time but I have a feeling it's another boy- which I'm also okay with, I just want a variety
@hayhay93 sorry you're going through that, I was the same with my 1st, my DH and I weren't married yet (but we had been living together over a year). I told my mother on Thanksgiving when everyone says what they're thankful for around the table- she sobbed into her plate because she "didn't want this for me." She was putting on a show for her Christian boyfriend at the time. *eye roll* So she put a damper on our happiness for a while but she came around full circle. I'm not sure where I was going with this but I know some people won't "approve" of the baby but I almost guarantee you they'll love the nugget given a little time. I was more worried about telling my grandmother than my mother and she ended up being so happy for us, sometimes people surprise you for the better too.
@wildtot yayy for finding the hb!! Sorry your hubbys being such a dud, mine is afraid to use the Doppler in case we don't find it because he's such a worrier.
@kissableviv I hope my fears about it didn't add to yours!! In my experience, I think most people are generally happy with either sex when you're having your first. It's when you start having more that some assume that you are trying for the other sex or say lame things like your family is "complete" once you have one of each. Having a girl would be a fun, new experience, but I love being a boy mom and am just praying for a healthy baby.
@thediarywithin, I hope things get better for you. What a crappy e-mail to have gotten, and sorry to hear your mom is in the hospital. Not stresses you need while pregnant!
@AlyLynn07 I am pretty quick of dismissing people making lame comments, haha! Pregnancy is such a complicated topic, I feel so lucky to have gotten pregnant and that things are good so far I can't imagine why the sex would even be something people have to make comments about. With that said I am too curious to wait and I'm so excited to find out this week I hope!
@acunamatada Thank you for understanding! It helps to hear other people’s stories of what happened before they were married. My bf and I have been living together for a little over a year and have actually talked about getting married before we have the baby just so that we don’t offend people and then realized how insane that is! We aren’t ready to get married, some people think that’s crazy that we are having a baby but not ready to be married, but we both know and can say without a doubt that we will love the baby no matter what, even if things didn’t work out with us. We can’t however say that we are ready to make a legal contract that binds us and is expensive to break. I’m so sorry that your mom acted like that! It’s crazy how some people that are Christian act about being pregnant before marriage, I think it’s more about image than anything. I have some friends that are Christian that I worry about with the judgment factor. I totally expected my mom to be upset because I haven’t finished college yet and she had me when she was young and never ended up getting her degree and had to work really hard jobs my whole life, but she reacted in a totally different way and has been my totally supportive rock through this whole thing, even though she lives 900 miles away from me. Whereas my, now not so, best friend told me she wasn’t happy for me and couldn’t support me and that she couldn’t stop crying because she was so sad... lol. “Thanks, friend...” Sorry for this novel I wrote.
@hayhay93 my mom was a single mother and had me at 17 and I would be going into my last year of college, so she wasn't happy with me. I don't know if religion was a huge factor, but the boyfriend being present definitely escalated her reaction. She's just that kind of person. I get it, but I was 23 and had a 34 yr old boyfriend that I had already lived with for a year. Two very different situations. But it was my life, and we tried for 6 mo before we got pregnant (didn't tell her of course ). In the end I finished school with honors, so poo poo on all the haters, it's possible. My not so best friend anymore also had a similar reaction- thought he was "helping me" by "telling me like it is" and that I was basically ruining my life. Jokes on him, I'm pretty sure he was jealous.
Our baby is the 30th grandchild/great grandchild for my boyfriend’s grandparents so I’m actually nervous that they just won’t care at all that we are having a baby/will be disappointed because we are not married yet and weren’t planning this. They are really lovely people and I don’t want them to not like me anymore or not love our baby. Anyways, we are leaving this weekend to visit with them for 2 weeks and we are not telling them I am pregnant yet, but I am so nervous it will come out somehow. I wish I didn’t care so much about their opinion.
@hayhay93 I’m so sorry you’re worried about that! I definitely hear you. It’s hard with family who can be judgemental. It’s hard not to care what they think. When I have moments like that, I just try to remind myself that I’m a grown woman fully capable of making my own life choices and living with them (for better or worse). I’m thinking about you. No matter their reaction, you have a bundle of joy coming into your life to be thrilled about! ❤️❤️
I was talking to DH after he finally woke up this morning, 1.5 hours after me (and yes, we both work 8-5 / 9-6 jobs). He said (as a “joke”) - “Remember when you used to make me coffee in the mornings to wake me up?” to which I replied “Remember my first pregnancy when you got up before me just to make me toast so that my stomach was settled enough for me to get up and get moving?”
I am dealing with the same amount / type of sickness as last pregnancy... so it’s not like this wouldn’t be an absolute wonderful, helpful, nice thing for him to do. I would have never said anything to him about NOT doing it because I’m perfectly capable of getting up and heading straight downstairs to eat a piece of toast first thing, but the coffee comment just REALLY irked me considering how exhausted/sick I’ve been feeling 24/7 and I’m trying my hardest to keep up with everything (including our one year old!) - or at least the most important things.
Lab Mom (x2): Sept/Oct 2014 Married: August 2015 DS: Nov 2016 (36w) Baby H #2: July2018 (Team Pink!)
@djh513 that comment would have gotten to me too. Like I probably be would have been all kinds of ragey. But I think that sometimes (lot of times) guys really do just say things without thinking and he may not have meant much by it.
@djh513 uh my husband would of been on fire with the stink eye I’d give him with that comment.
we didn’t have a wtf today so I’ll add it here. DH has no respect for routine. We have a bedtime routine and DH likes to skip steps when it’s his turn for his own convenience. I take my time brush teeth, suck boogers, read a book, and rock a bit. He’ll gladly skip all that and it screws things up sometimes. Dh has a gross habit of not brushing is teeth at night most nights and he occasionally does that with DS. NO!!!!! Wtf! Don’t start him with those gross habits. Especially with #2 coming! I’m a routine person and I’m gonna depend on it more with a baby and toddler. He better get with the program!
@acunamatada Yay for proving haters wrong. You made it work. I feel encouraged now, like I can go back to school. I’ve heard that having a baby sometimes motivates you more to accomplish greatness. How many kids do you have now? If you don’t mind me asking. I feel so bad to say this but my not so best friend was most likely jealous as well, probably not jealous about the exact situation, but I know she wants kids and has PCOS and was told that she may not be able to have them, which is obviously so awful and regardless of any hard feelings with her, I would never wish that on her or anyone. I was just so sad because we were best friends since we were 13 and we always said that when we had kids, we would be there for each other no matter what, even if it was the worst possible scenario. So I guess it just hurt that after all we have been through, she decided not to support me. Granted, she didn’t like my bf, but she never would because she never thought anyone was good lol.
@tarheelgirl8 Thank you so much for the encouragement! It really helps to have this community of such amazing women that are here to support each other. It means a lot that people respond and take time out of their days to speak words of wisdom and love to one another. Ok, pregnancy emotions are making me sound like a Hallmark card. My point is: I appreciate you and everyone else here.
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday
DS 11.8.12
Baby GIRL! due 7.4.18
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
I remember being pregnant with my first child, I was in labor, and my contractions were all on top of each other with no break in between them. Needless to say I was in a lot of pain, and I was just trying to breathe through it and have my husband talk to me to distract me. Well he decides to inform me that the nurse (who has never given birth herself) said that all the pain is in my head and I was making it out to be a lot worse than it actually was! I almost kicked them both out of my hospital room
ETA: I actually love my in laws overall, but this one thing is about to send me through the roof!
Here’s to HEALTHY babies!
This time it’s DH. So i found the heartbeat on our Doppler. Yay! I was excited since i didn’t get to hear it yesterday (only see) and I’ve been having a hard time connecting with this pregnancy. So anyways DH has is asleep on the couch and and i yelled out to come if he wants to hear it. I yelled a few times (I’m in the bedroom) no response. I put it all away and go tell him he missed out and asked if he heard me. He’s on the couch with his face under a pillow (like you do to not hear something) and he say uh-ha (yes he heard me). I’m bummed. I wanted to share it with him. Still happy i heard the little bean.
@hayhay93 sorry you're going through that, I was the same with my 1st, my DH and I weren't married yet (but we had been living together over a year). I told my mother on Thanksgiving when everyone says what they're thankful for around the table- she sobbed into her plate because she "didn't want this for me." She was putting on a show for her Christian boyfriend at the time. *eye roll* So she put a damper on our happiness for a while but she came around full circle. I'm not sure where I was going with this but I know some people won't "approve" of the baby but I almost guarantee you they'll love the nugget given a little time. I was more worried about telling my grandmother than my mother and she ended up being so happy for us, sometimes people surprise you for the better too.
@wildtot yayy for finding the hb!! Sorry your hubbys being such a dud, mine is afraid to use the Doppler in case we don't find it because he's such a worrier.
I’m so sorry that your mom acted like that! It’s crazy how some people that are Christian act about being pregnant before marriage, I think it’s more about image than anything. I have some friends that are Christian that I worry about with the judgment factor.
I totally expected my mom to be upset because I haven’t finished college yet and she had me when she was young and never ended up getting her degree and had to work really hard jobs my whole life, but she reacted in a totally different way and has been my totally supportive rock through this whole thing, even though she lives 900 miles away from me. Whereas my, now not so, best friend told me she wasn’t happy for me and couldn’t support me and that she couldn’t stop crying because she was so sad... lol. “Thanks, friend...”
Sorry for this novel I wrote.
*Edited to change wording
My not so best friend anymore also had a similar reaction- thought he was "helping me" by "telling me like it is" and that I was basically ruining my life. Jokes on him, I'm pretty sure he was jealous.
I am dealing with the same amount / type of sickness as last pregnancy... so it’s not like this wouldn’t be an absolute wonderful, helpful, nice thing for him to do. I would have never said anything to him about NOT doing it because I’m perfectly capable of getting up and heading straight downstairs to eat a piece of toast first thing, but the coffee comment just REALLY irked me considering how exhausted/sick I’ve been feeling 24/7 and I’m trying my hardest to keep up with everything (including our one year old!) - or at least the most important things.
Lab Mom (x2): Sept/Oct 2014
Married: August 2015
DS: Nov 2016 (36w)
Baby H #2: July2018 (Team Pink!)
we didn’t have a wtf today so I’ll add it here. DH has no respect for routine. We have a bedtime routine and DH likes to skip steps when it’s his turn for his own convenience. I take my time brush teeth, suck boogers, read a book, and rock a bit. He’ll gladly skip all that and it screws things up sometimes. Dh has a gross habit of not brushing is teeth at night most nights and he occasionally does that with DS. NO!!!!! Wtf! Don’t start him with those gross habits. Especially with #2 coming! I’m a routine person and I’m gonna depend on it more with a baby and toddler. He better get with the program!
I feel so bad to say this but my not so best friend was most likely jealous as well, probably not jealous about the exact situation, but I know she wants kids and has PCOS and was told that she may not be able to have them, which is obviously so awful and regardless of any hard feelings with her, I would never wish that on her or anyone.
I was just so sad because we were best friends since we were 13 and we always said that when we had kids, we would be there for each other no matter what, even if it was the worst possible scenario. So I guess it just hurt that after all we have been through, she decided not to support me. Granted, she didn’t like my bf, but she never would because she never thought anyone was good lol.
@tarheelgirl8 Thank you so much for the encouragement! It really helps to have this community of such amazing women that are here to support each other. It means a lot that people respond and take time out of their days to speak words of wisdom and love to one another. Ok, pregnancy emotions are making me sound like a Hallmark card. My point is: I appreciate you and everyone else here.