So you prob saw my lengthy check-in regarding my friend who had offered to be a carrier (I’ll call her Jane) but then my dr agreed to try IVF with me... well I had dinner with a mutual friend tonight and she told me that Jane was feeling empty after I found out about IVF and called another friend of hers who ended up adopting asking if she had any embryos left and wanted to try for a 3rd (she didn’t). While I haven’t spoken to Jane directly I am feeling so conflicted. I am not at all attached to pregnancy. I just desperately want a child. DH will not adopt. Is it selfish for me to ask Jane to be our carrier even though I could do IVF? I trust her body much more than my own and am terrified of only getting a limited amount of embryos and being SOL if none implant in me. I’m 39...my head is spinning. My only hesitations are that she has a family, career & im concerned about how it will impact her health...,but if this is something she feels she is being pulled to do... any input is greatly appreciated. I have trouble asking someone for a ride to he airport so this is on a whole other level for me.
TTC since May 2013
Mild PCOS, Compound Heterozygous MTHFR No Folic acid/pharmaceuticals/supplements (too many to list- private message me if interested), IVIL infusion