Anyone change practice after second opinion? (Child mentioned & loss mentioned)

lrauch01

Wondering if anyone changed fertility practices after a second opinion and their feelings about that decision? Little background my DH and I had our DS 2.5 years ago after our second natural cycle IUI. I have low ovarian reserve and my husband has decreased sperm count. We were in the city at that time and have since moved to the suburbs and started with a different doctor. We’ve been with our current practice the past 18 months and have had 6 IUI, 1 miscarriage, 1 FET (BFN) and 1 IVF with no viable eggs. We met with a second practice yesterday and the doctor had some really interesting ideas how to make my next few rounds of IVF successful, but I feel like I’m somehow “cheating” on my current doctor. Anyone else been in the same position?

JamieH2000

Yes, I have actually been treated by 3 REs (consulted with an additional two), and it took me until my third RE to find the right protocol for my DOR. I went from having a cancelled IVF and then only retrieving 2 eggs on second IVF (at a nationally well known clinic with amazing stats) to a new RE that got me 8 mature eggs on my third attempt. I would absolutely reco second/third opinions and switching clinics! You are not cheating at all, and clinics are used to patients switching and won't take it personally. We like to think they are super invested in us personally, but the reality is we are just one patient of many to them...

radmom27

Yes!  I'm currently on my 6th RE and I finally feel like this one is the one.  I've found it really hard to find an RE with a good bedside manner and one that will be honest about my chances of conceiving.  In the end of the day, medicine is a service industry and if you're not happy with your service, go elsewhere!!  

lrauch01

Thank you for your feedback! It’s been really helpful, we are going to make the switch in January! 

ReesaAnne16

I would absolutely switch. We had 6 failed IUI's with our first clinic, and our only next option was the standard IVF protocol. We consulted with a different clinic, and had the option to try a mini IVF with several modifications that fit our needs; it was a much more personalized plan and I'm SO thankful we made the switch. Do it!

cryssieaddis

You have to do what is best for you and your husband and your future family. It is not wrong at all to get a second opinion. If you feel at peace with what the second doctor is saying, then go for it girl! Praying for you guys! 

cseley321

It's about doing what's best for you. If you aren't getting results, there is no harm in trying somewhere else.

dragonette505

I’m currently with my third clinic for treatment and consulted with an additional two. I say move... sometimes a different lab or protocol or insight can make al the difference.

artemis618

I used one clinic for egg freezing five years ago, another for my first three IVF cycles this year, and (after taking the summer off) a third for my last IVF and first FET.  My first three cycles yielded one PGS normal from 36 eggs retrieved (total, not all mature - 0+5+3 blasts), and my 4th cycle with the new RE and new protocol yielded 4 normals from 10 blasts (33 eggs retrieved).  Protocol and lab do make a difference.

It was much easier than I thought it would be to switch - I had all of my records from my previous clinics, and the timing (natural start, no priming) was such that our initial consultation with the new RE was on 8/31 and my egg retrieval was not quite a month later on 9/28.  I agree with previous posters that you have to look out for yourself and do what’s best for you.

Incidentally, my old RE is joining my new RE’s practice next month.  One of the nurses suggested that that might be awkward for me, but honestly it didn’t even cross my mind.  I think I had even talked to her (my first RE this year) before about looking into other doctors/clinics/labs since it wasn’t going so well for me.  I think it’s very reasonable.