Mine is, I've been having SO many dreams recently involving The One That Got Away, and I don't really feel guilty about it.
Me. Too. Except it’s not the one that got away. It’s the one I ran as fast as I could away from. I only have these dreams when I’m pregnant. The last one involved him telling me he was leaving his wife and we could raise this baby together and me agreeing. It TRIPS ME OUT. And then I feel guilty because I was married to this guy. And I love DH more than anything in this world.
And I haven’t ever told anyone about these dreams ever and I feel so much better to get this off my chest.
We didn’t sleep train until 15mo. This time will be different. I was against it for me personally (not for others). I was up every night 6 times at a minimum and it would take a lot of time to get her back to sleep. I was a zombie. Finally my husband did modified Ferber - checking in every so often. First night was not great, second night she woke once, third she STTN for the first time. She still will wake once a night every so often but will go right back to sleep once comforted for a minute.
Our pediatrician recommends sleep training at 6mo so we will do that. Until then, she will sleep in our room and I’ll manage around feedings. I think sleep training too early is not right. But I do believe kids need help learning how to sleep.
@Ceridwen21, my ped is pro sleeping training after 6 months. Most of what I've read is after 6 months. We've actually had to semi sleep train several times after stupid sleep regressions! And then we had to majorly redo the training when we took away pacis at 21 months, but it was majorly worth it. We have a niece who up until almost 2, needed someone to sleep with her alllllll night. They had almost mattress on the floor and would sleep with her. I don't know if it's because they didn't sleep train, but I think that's a big part of it. Yes, children need us and need to feel safe, but they also need to learn to sleep alone. That's a valuable life lesson.
@suchaglencoco we are about to paci wean this week. I am DREADING it. My kid is obsessed with her bink. She was never attached to her bottle or anything else, but this is a downright need for her. I don’t want to do it but I know it’s gonna mess up her teeth if we don’t. I guess we’ll be training all over again.
@Ceridwen21, at 18 months we weaned from everything but bed or nap time. So no more in the car, no more in public and no more around the house. That wasn't too hard. We did the sleep weaning over Labor Day weekend. The first night was awful. DS was up almost 3 hours past bedtime. I ended up putting him in the car and he fell asleep before I left the block. DH wanted to give up and I refused. We were told it would take 3 nights and the first would be the worst. The second night was only 30ish minutes of fighting I think and the 3rd night was a breeze. So my biggest suggestion is to stick with it, even if it's awful.
@Ceridwen77 we still need to take the binky away from DS too. Hes super attached to it, and he now has 2 blankies he carries everywhere with him. We said we were going to start weaning him from his binky at 18 month, here we are almost a year later and still have not fully weaned We will get there one of these days, just not sure when.
@suchaglencoco we did something similar and have only allowed the binky during sleep and in the car. She wants it all the time though, and if she’s at daycare or with a family member they do give in to her. But I think that first step will at least help. Not looking forward to this weekend!!
@bwow615 it’s tough but you’re right - you’ll get there!!
When I was in Denmark there was this tree in the middle of Copenhagen where parents would take their kids and tie a ribbon to the pacifier and then hang it from a tree. It horribly translates to being called "the sucky tree." But they tie little notes to it telling the pacifiers bye and thank you and stuff and make it a special parting instead of a negative one. Sort of a neat tradition!
My kids traded their pacifiers for a special toy and that the pacifiers would go to babies who need them. For my older, we just gave the bag to the clerk at the store. It was a small local store. For my younger, we told her the pacifier fairy was taking them. The pacifier fairy left her encouraging notes.
My younger was very obsessed with it. We started on a Friday where she was completely exhausted. She cried for a long time but then slept through the night. The next day she was like a drug addict in withdrawal. Then it was fine.
We took out away way too late. She was close to 4. There were a bunch of reasons, but I know way better than to have allowed that.
My 20 month old loves his binkie (paci) and his bunny. He grabs them and goes right to sleep. I tried to not give him the binkie last week (at bedtime) and he screamed and screamed. I finally gave in and he goes “night night” and went right to sleep. It’s just one of those battles I don’t want to fight, and I am too selfish to sacrifice him sleeping 12 hours to get rid of the pacifier. He won’t go to high school still using it right?!?!
My DD who turned 2 a few weeks ago still uses a paci while sleeping and riding in the car. I long ago restricted it to those locations, but I am dreading dropping it altogether. DH thinks she’ll sleep better without it, but I’m not sure. She’ll definately be pissed about the process
The toddler will be 3 in February and uses his paci when he is sleepy or in the car like @Pearlvirus . We are potty training over Winter Break (teachers) so with that and a new baby coming soon, we will start the process of dropping that later next year.
@cups4 right? The new baby coming makes me feel a little like Now or not for a long time about the paci because I don’t want to take it away and a short time later she sees New baby with one.
@Pearlvirus that’s why we decided to wean the binky now (over our thanksgiving vacation). Then we will attempt potty training over Christmas vacation. I just want to get through these two hurdles before the new one comes along. I feel like if the baby has a binky when we try to wean her it will cause a whole load of problems.
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And I haven’t ever told anyone about these dreams ever and I feel so much better to get this off my chest.
Our pediatrician recommends sleep training at 6mo so we will do that. Until then, she will sleep in our room and I’ll manage around feedings. I think sleep training too early is not right. But I do believe kids need help learning how to sleep.
We've actually had to semi sleep train several times after stupid sleep regressions! And then we had to majorly redo the training when we took away pacis at 21 months, but it was majorly worth it.
We have a niece who up until almost 2, needed someone to sleep with her alllllll night. They had almost mattress on the floor and would sleep with her. I don't know if it's because they didn't sleep train, but I think that's a big part of it.
Yes, children need us and need to feel safe, but they also need to learn to sleep alone. That's a valuable life lesson.
We did the sleep weaning over Labor Day weekend. The first night was awful. DS was up almost 3 hours past bedtime. I ended up putting him in the car and he fell asleep before I left the block. DH wanted to give up and I refused.
We were told it would take 3 nights and the first would be the worst. The second night was only 30ish minutes of fighting I think and the 3rd night was a breeze.
So my biggest suggestion is to stick with it, even if it's awful.
We will get there one of these days, just not sure when.
@bwow615 it’s tough but you’re right - you’ll get there!!
My younger was very obsessed with it. We started on a Friday where she was completely exhausted. She cried for a long time but then slept through the night. The next day she was like a drug addict in withdrawal. Then it was fine.
We took out away way too late. She was close to 4. There were a bunch of reasons, but I know way better than to have allowed that.