I feel so sick everyday. I wake up sick and go to bed sick. I'm sick at work. Everyone says I should be happy, but I feel horrible. I just can't wait until my due date. I get so annoyed when people ask me how I'm doing... I FEEL LIKE I'M DYING! I wish there was some where I could go and come back in 7 months...away from everyone!!! To top it off, my friends (ages 34-40) are trying to conceive. I feel so bad, because my friends like so many other women want to have a baby and would probably love to be sick everyday. I cycle everyday, sad because I'm sick, mad because I wish this pregnancy was over, then guilty because of this "miracle" is a blessing and I should be happy but I am not happy. Counting the days until my due date, then I'm going to get my tubes tied so I WILL NEVER BE PREGNANT AGAIN!
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Re: Pregnancy and Depression
If your doctor knows you feel this way, he/she may recommend a therapist, too. Don't feel ashamed by how you feel because you're not the only one and it isn't really your fault. Good luck.
While this may also come off as unsupportive but from a mental health stand point we have a long way to go. So you really need to seek help out now and be active in that to start gettjng things better. i also strongly believe in actively challenging our negative thoughts. Yes there are days I feel like crap but when I challenge those thoughts and remember it isnt forever and yup i'm nauseus but im not actually dying and when everyone else here is going through the same thing it helps to temember that. We had a mom who lost her baby today and while yes your situation is valid and it sucks and is hard, sometimes you really have to work on keeping things in perspective
@williala Please seek out support. These feelings are temporary and very often hormonal. You can work through them with support. Feel free to PM me if you’d like. Hang in there and i hope you feel better.
@williala i hope you can locate a support system which doesn't consist of people just telling you to be happy.
That being said, I agree with @lindsayleigh1989 that this belongs in the symptoms thread. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, but not every anxious or depressed post needs it’s own board topic. We are a group of internet strangers, not OPs bffs.
Talk to your real-life-trying-to-get pregnant friends and OB about how you’re feeling. I’m sure they’ll have better advice to give you then us, having never met you before.
And also, must I say this again, your OB is also a good resource. Also the SYMPTOMS board.
Read the post again. She never asked for our advice or support. She just wanted to rant. The only sign of “depression” I see is her topic. Other than that anyone with morning sickness feels the same way. But she didn’t even ask if anyone does!!
This is why we have little sympathy. We were gentle in telling her she has somewhere else to post. She doesn’t need white knights.
That being said, we're not medical professionals and I recognize that if someone is really struggling they should be doing more than asking their BMP for help. But I also know that sometimes internet autonymity can feel safer than talking to people irl, so that's why I personally choose to err on the side of taking posts seriously, so we can point people to help and healing. If they are a one-off poster, in my experience that will quickly become apparent, and we can all gif and troll and move on. Or if someone is a known drama-queen, obviously it'll just be ignored. I'm not trying to dictate how anyone else reacts, or saying anyone here is right or wrong. I'm just saying I choose to take these posts at face value until there's a reason not to. Mental health is an issue dear to my heart and I just saw a bit of drama in a thread that could be legitimately asking for help, so I wanted to throw out my two cents.