Here’s one: being pregnant / having a newborn does reduce a woman’s productivity and / or Work quality. I mean I’m not saying employers should be able to discriminate but it is legit going to inconvenience them.
When I was early 20s, I was on a very small team at my job and my boss had a baby. It created a ton of extra work for me and I remember feeling some resentment about how often she had to stay home sick with her kids for years after she came back.
I’m mid thirties and on my third kid now, so I have a bit better perspective than in my youth. I do think the whole ‘village’ should take on some of the work of children. But I also think it’s kind of naive / rude to think or act like it doesn’t impact your company / coworkers. And I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable switching jobs during pregnancy unless is it was a most desperate situation.
Here’s one: being pregnant / having a newborn does reduce a woman’s productivity and / or Work quality. I mean I’m not saying employers should be able to discriminate but it is legit going to inconvenience them.
When I was early 20s, I was on a very small team at my job and my boss had a baby. It created a ton of extra work for me and I remember feeling some resentment about how often she had to stay home sick with her kids for years after she came back.
I’m mid thirties and on my third kid now, so I have a bit better perspective than in my youth. I do think the whole ‘village’ should take on some of the work of children. But I also think it’s kind of naive / rude to think or act like it doesn’t impact your company / coworkers. And I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable switching jobs during pregnancy unless is it was a most desperate situation.
I already wish I could quit for the rest of the school year because my time management skills have flown out the window and my temper is far too short for dealing with children... I was honestly such a bitch to pregnant women before I ever got pregnant I hate everything about myself from that time period.
You shouldn’t be vilified if you don’t like being a mother. You can still love your kid, and not enjoy how much everything changes after it happens. We also need to stop perpetuating the myth that every woman should have a child that is in the fence about it because “they’ll love it afterwards.” (And not every woman is GOING to be a good mother, so stop assuming they NEED to procreate.)
@ivyvines6@Pearlvirus oh my gosh yes to everything. I seriously feel like a failure sometimes because I have yet to perfect the high pitched mommy voice I hear from some ladies when I take my son to the library. They all seem so INTO being a mom. It’s like it’s not in my dna.
obviously motherhood adds a lot of positive to my life but there’s definitely some negatives too.
We also need to stop perpetuating the myth that every woman should have a child that is in the fence about it because “they’ll love it afterwards.” (And not every woman is GOING to be a good mother, so stop assuming they NEED to procreate.)
So much yes to this. I completely changed my mind on this once my daughter was born. But now that I know how hard it is, I think if you have doubts about having kids, don't do it. It isn't for everyone and that is fine. I also think that anyone who has kids to save their marriage is nuts.
We also need to stop perpetuating the myth that every woman should have a child that is in the fence about it because “they’ll love it afterwards.” (And not every woman is GOING to be a good mother, so stop assuming they NEED to procreate.)
So much yes to this. I completely changed my mind on this once my daughter was born. But now that I know how hard it is, I think if you have doubts about having kids, don't do it. It isn't for everyone and that is fine. I also think that anyone who has kids to save their marriage is nuts.
Oh because having a life altering event makes everyone so happy, right? That’s why people get married, right?
@pearlvirus Totally agree being pregnant does effect productivity, I've been definitely doing the minimum since I got knocked up. But I also think it's just one of those things that society needs to suck up because literally everyone needs to be born, so.
You guys are freaking me out a bit because I have had my fair share of doubts about becoming a mom! Hopefully that doesn't mean I'll hate it. I truly believe MH will be an equal partner in parenting/housecare/etc though, since he already is on house stuff now, which I hope will help.
I agree with everything so far today. And I totally agree that parenting should be a more shared responsibility (why should it always be the mom who has to take the day off if the kid is sick?) so that other than the actual pregnancy/maternity issues of taking off work, those discriminations should apply to anyone who's a parent. Not that they should exist at all, but since they do, let's make it equal, hmmm? Parents who haven't been pregnant still have a newborn at home waking up at all hours of the night, so they-in theory, anyway-*could* be as tired and distracted as the mother, impacting their productivity as well.
ETA- +1 for LOVING my kids, but not necessarily loving being a mom 24/7. I dealt with a lot of guilt after my girls were born because I had wanted to be a mom since I was 7 years old, and then I was just so.....underwhelmed with what motherhood is actually like. And yet, here I am, 3.5 years later doing it again
I can't think of any of my own yet today, I'll be back.
Me, 35 Hubs, 32 Married June 2012 BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013 BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014 BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@thunderberry ah no! I was hoping no one would take it that way. My point was more that women shouldn't feel bad about not wanting kids. You're going to love it... and hate it at times...but you're going to be great at it!
@thunderberry I have days where I’m like “wow. J is so lucky because I totally rock this mom thing, and I’m amaze balls!” Then other days where I contemplate what ever made me think procreating was a good plan to begin with, let alone leaving me in charge of it 80% of the time. (Sahm problems right there)
I’m 1000% not cut out for the workforce though, so this has to work for now
I agree with everything today! I have for sure been less productive at work since getting pregnant and you just end up having to take more time off when you are responsible for someone other than yourself. But lucky for me, my boss is being a champ about all of this and also has young children with his husband, so he's very empathetic and never gives me any type of grief about it.
+1 for also not always loving every part of parenthood. There is no way I could stay home, but that doesn't mean I don't love my son. I enjoy my time I get with him and I also enjoy my job. And we would not be able to provide a lot of "extras" if only one of us worked. And parenting is a shared responsibility! I end up staying home with DS if he is sick most of the time because it is easier for me to miss work than DH. But one days when it is more inconvenient for me to miss, DH stays home. I feel like the balance is harder in the beginning, at least it was for us, because of breastfeeding.
@ivyvines6 I swing on that pendulum a lot. Sometimes I feel like I am the world's most amazing mom who totally has her shit together and then I have days where I feel like they should have made me take a test before I decided to parent.
My UO- I HATE when people call little girls "princess" as a term of endearment. I dislike the connotation it comes with. This morning's UO sponsored by my MIL, who is calling this baby a little princess already.
@mileswithmyles I refuse to call DD a princess. I told DH we are not starting with a sense of entitlement from the beginning.
Pregnancy is definitely effecting my job. I get a year maternity leave and my boss is already trying to figure out how they are going to deal with my position. I feel bad that this is now another thing for her to worry about. I also hate how I have to leave work for appointments now.
I thought I would love parenthood way more than I do. I mean don't get me wrong, it is great. But there is stuff I miss from my old life. I will be a SAHM after baby #2 comes. I am super nervous about leaving the work force indefinitely. I worked really hard for my career and I took a step back into a different role after DD so I could be more flexible with work. I don't know what I am going to do when I am no longer working in my field. I may try to find something super part-time.
@mileswithmyles 100%! I cannot stand the princess/prince stuff. I’m also so sensitive to the norms of what kids “should play with based on sex”. My son LOVES ago play with his kitchen (because guess what, that’s what he sees mom and dad do) but my in laws think it’s only for girls and we don’t want to make him GAY! It makes my H and I crazy mad. I cannot believe we’re related to people like this.
@mileswithmyles Exactly! I just imagine that if she is a princess then we are her "royal servants". I don't care if she wants to play dress up and pretend to be a princess, but it is not something that we use as a term of endearment. My MIL calls her "peanut" all the time and it totally drives me crazy, can we just call her by her name?
@thunderberry, from what I've seen from friends and family, if the husband/partner was an equal partner in housework and such before having a kid, they transition it into fatherhood fairly easy. And there will be some days where you HATE being a mother and question if you made the right choice. You'll question your motherly instincts. You'll question almost everything at some point and that's ok!! There will also be days where you question what took so you long to have the itty bitty. And days where you'll cry from happiness looking at their little face. And day days where you feel so much love that you'll refuse to put them down.
I love my littles with every piece of me, but some days DH comes home early because I've gotten to the point of losing it and need a break. And there are days when he's alone with them all day and I come home and he retires to our room to get away because they've driven him mad. Then there are some days where the time goes too fast and I can't believe how mature they've gotten. That's parenthood!
The only time you need to worry is when you constantly feel like you're drowning. If it gets to that point, or close to it, then you'll need to talk to a professional.
I’m actually much better at what I do now that I have kids. I’m a classical singer, and honestly, stage fright etc is gone for me. I also really, really need the money, so I bust my butt. Of course, I don’t work full time and I also don’t take maternity leave. I was singing again within a week of my youngest being born. This is not uncommon for singers as most conductors allow you to bring newborns to rehearsals....and rehearsals are usually 3 hours instead of an 8 hour work day! I often feel like a terrible mother. I’m so not sweet and patient with my children. I have friends like that and I’m always shocked at how nice they are to their kids! On the other hand, because I’m sort of strict, my kids are pretty well behaved, so they are generally fun to be around. The hardest thing for me, with regards to parenting, is the messiness. I know that sounds crazy, but I have an extremely low tolerance for messes, to the point where I am paralyzed by them and dont know where to start. It’s a never ending frustration for me, and I’m worried my kids will remember me as an uptight neat freak. One thing I’ve figured out over the years is that mommy blogs are the worst and are there to make us feel inadequate. Also, facebook. Moms on facebook can bite me. Stop with the perfect cookie baking pictures!
I guess my UO is we love nicknames around here. We call the twins princess/prince, we call DD peanut, DS newest nickname is Bubba, my mom calls them "the munchkins" to other people. They also have nicknames that revolve around their names. Some of them make no sense to anyone but us.
Yes we use their names a lot as well, but we just love nicknames and use them as terms of endearment. Our kids will learn they aren't entitled and that they aren't really a peanut or a prince, but cute little nicknames are only good for so long before they demand to be called their real names. So I am soaking it in as much as I can.
My brothers and I still randomly get called our childhood nicknames by family members and I think it's sweet. And it's nice to have a random piece of childhood brought up in a casual way.
@doraleigh35 I’m a strong advocate of moms always having some income and work outside the home. You never know what might happen. *trigger warning* my grandmother kept working one day a month when she had my mom. Her husband developed a degenerative brain disease and needed round the clock care. Luckily my grandmother was able to go back to work full time and support her family. End trigger warning Keeping one toe in the water is a very good idea. It also lets you get away from the kiddos and helps you keep your identity. Of course I think being a SAHM is totally great and valid and am in no way criticizing that choice!
@gildah I only took two weeks off after having J. I already told them I need at least four weeks this time though. I’m a dance instructor, so as long as I have coverage for my class, and my dances are done on time, they don’t care how long I’m away.
@suchaglencoco I'm with you on nicknames, I just really don't care what term of endearment people use for my kid(s). My SIL said she hopes nobody calls my oldest CJ (his initials) and I was like, wtf do you care? It's not your kid and maybe having a nickname makes him feel cool? I call her little girl Kenny and Kenny G (her name is Kennedy) and I think it really ticks her off. I don't have one right now. Maybe I'll be back later.
My UO (maybe not unpopular) i hate when people try to tell me remedies to "try" for morning sickness. Ive been vomitting daily for 9 weeks....i know how to google, too... none of that shit helps me...its as if they think i have lost 25 lbs in the last two months simply because i havent tried mint tea or ginger.
My UO is breastfeeding. I'm not into it and to me it just seems so unnatural. I'm not even going to try it as I'm going straight formula. I want my husband to be able to feed the baby, I don't want leaky boobs especially when I'm back at work and I most certainly don't have time to pump during the school day. My coworker breast feeds and her first day back from maternity leave her mom had to bring her son to school to get breastfed because he refused a bottle. I also don't want to lock myself in my room twice a day to pump because my boobs are killing me. Sorry, but I just can't.
My UO... I don't like threads with too many comments. If I encounter a thread that seems interesting up front but already has a ton of comments I will see how deep the convo is. If it looks like I'm just gonna interrupt something or I don't have value to add for where the convo ended up (if it's on a tangent from the initial post) I will back out and not say anything.
@gildah that's a great point. I am worried about taking 5 years "off" and coming back at 37/38 with a large time gap on my resume. I am an event planner and trends in the industry change so quickly. I am afraid that it will be hard to sell myself again. I hope to find some things I can do from home and worst case I'll see if I can work for another planner for a few events a year just to stay relevant. I feel fortunate to be able to stay home, but it's also scary when you've spent 10 years building a career.
@suchaglencoco I don't mind other nicknames, but for whatever reason, I really dislike that one. We call DS little monkey, buddy, etc. It probably grinds my gears even more because it comes from MIL. Whenever DS does something like hit, she says, "Boys will be boys," and that equally upsets me.
@mmb248 even though pumping was a lot of work for me when I went back to work, I kind of enjoyed the peace and quiet and privacy of it during my day. Maybe that is an UO.
@mileswithmyles I totally get what your saying about the princess thing.
I’m a little torn. I really hate gender normative stereotypes in general, but I’m fine if she wants to be a princess. Hell i’m fine if my son wants to be a princess... my goal is to make sure this little girl hears she is strong, smart and brave, as often as she hears she is a pretty little princess.
PS check out wire and honey store online... lots of good messages for both boys and girls. I plan to get my baby girl this one eventually..
@mileswithmyles, I totally get that. There has been more than one occasion where I've been upset or unnerved by something mil said or did and DH had to remind me my mother does the same and Im fine with it.
@holli0801 I guess I should clarify that I don't mind if she wants to dress up like a princess/play with princesses etc. I love those shirts! One of my favorites that DS has is one that says, "Strong like Mom."
My UO is breastfeeding. I'm not into it and to me it just seems so unnatural. I'm not even going to try it as I'm going straight formula. I want my husband to be able to feed the baby, I don't want leaky boobs especially when I'm back at work and I most certainly don't have time to pump during the school day. My coworker breast feeds and her first day back from maternity leave her mom had to bring her son to school to get breastfed because he refused a bottle. I also don't want to lock myself in my room twice a day to pump because my boobs are killing me. Sorry, but I just can't.
@mmb4532 I have no judgement on the topic, but: In case you're a FTM, make sure you're aware that your milk will still come in whether you plan to breastfeed or not, so have a plan for how you're going to deal with that! Sorry if TMI, but my milk came in after my loss, and I obviously couldn't breastfeed, so I became engorged. It was THE WORST pain of my life (and caused a ton of stretch marks on my boobs as a lasting reminder) and if you express any it just encourages more milk production. Cabbage leaves became my best but smelliest friend.
My UO is breastfeeding. I'm not into it and to me it just seems so unnatural. I'm not even going to try it as I'm going straight formula. I want my husband to be able to feed the baby, I don't want leaky boobs especially when I'm back at work and I most certainly don't have time to pump during the school day. My coworker breast feeds and her first day back from maternity leave her mom had to bring her son to school to get breastfed because he refused a bottle. I also don't want to lock myself in my room twice a day to pump because my boobs are killing me. Sorry, but I just can't.
@mmb4532 I have no judgement on the topic, but: In case you're a FTM, make sure you're aware that your milk will still come in whether you plan to breastfeed or not, so have a plan for how you're going to deal with that! Sorry if TMI, but my milk came in after my loss, and I obviously couldn't breastfeed, so I became engorged. It was THE WORST pain of my life (and caused a ton of stretch marks on my boobs as a lasting reminder) and if you express any it just encourages more milk production. Cabbage leaves became my best but smelliest friend.
I am a FTM and while I've thought about that and just trying to breastfeed at the start, I just can't. I definitely give the woman who can credit, I've heard it's tough. But for personal reasons, I'm just not comfortable with it. I guess I'll be googling a lot of ways to help with the discomfort.
My UO is breastfeeding. I'm not into it and to me it just seems so unnatural. I'm not even going to try it as I'm going straight formula. I want my husband to be able to feed the baby, I don't want leaky boobs especially when I'm back at work and I most certainly don't have time to pump during the school day. My coworker breast feeds and her first day back from maternity leave her mom had to bring her son to school to get breastfed because he refused a bottle. I also don't want to lock myself in my room twice a day to pump because my boobs are killing me. Sorry, but I just can't.
You don’t have to apologize for feeling the way you do about anything. Parenthood isn’t a competition. There are ways to work around a lot of those things you’re concerned with, but honestly you can do you. (Your boobs are still going to leak for a while though.)
My UO is breastfeeding. I'm not into it and to me it just seems so unnatural. I'm not even going to try it as I'm going straight formula. I want my husband to be able to feed the baby, I don't want leaky boobs especially when I'm back at work and I most certainly don't have time to pump during the school day. My coworker breast feeds and her first day back from maternity leave her mom had to bring her son to school to get breastfed because he refused a bottle. I also don't want to lock myself in my room twice a day to pump because my boobs are killing me. Sorry, but I just can't.
@mmb4532 I have no judgement on the topic, but: In case you're a FTM, make sure you're aware that your milk will still come in whether you plan to breastfeed or not, so have a plan for how you're going to deal with that! Sorry if TMI, but my milk came in after my loss, and I obviously couldn't breastfeed, so I became engorged. It was THE WORST pain of my life (and caused a ton of stretch marks on my boobs as a lasting reminder) and if you express any it just encourages more milk production. Cabbage leaves became my best but smelliest friend.
I am a FTM and while I've thought about that and just trying to breastfeed at the start, I just can't. I definitely give the woman who can credit, I've heard it's tough. But for personal reasons, I'm just not comfortable with it. I guess I'll be googling a lot of ways to help with the discomfort.
Sudafed can help, under your doctor’s advice of course
My UO is breastfeeding. I'm not into it and to me it just seems so unnatural. I'm not even going to try it as I'm going straight formula. I want my husband to be able to feed the baby, I don't want leaky boobs especially when I'm back at work and I most certainly don't have time to pump during the school day. My coworker breast feeds and her first day back from maternity leave her mom had to bring her son to school to get breastfed because he refused a bottle. I also don't want to lock myself in my room twice a day to pump because my boobs are killing me. Sorry, but I just can't.
You don’t have to apologize for feeling the way you do about anything. Parenthood isn’t a competition. There are ways to work around a lot of those things you’re concerned with, but honestly you can do you. (Your boobs are still going to leak for a while though.)
THIS! PARENTHOOD ISNT A COMPETITION!! LOVE! Something to keep in mind while we’re comparing sleep schedules, milestones and everything else. We are the best parents to our children and the decisions we make, we deal with, no one else. So feel strong and good about it and just do the damn thing!
@mileswithmyles, we got a few different sizes of the "Strong like mom" shirts because I love them so much. DH actually put the twins in 2 of them when them came to watch me do one of those mudder 5ks because he "wouldn't be able to do it, so they should look back on photos and see how strong their mom is". Still melts my heart!!!
Re- breastfeeding
We have no expectations this time. DH said he is behind me if I'd like to try again or if I say "screw it, let's do formula". Our twins were preemies, neither really latched (looking back, I know they both had lips ties thanks to their dentist), I was always pumping and never pumping enough, I was constantly stressed and feeling bad as myself as a mother. I felt like "this is the one thing my body should do- it should be feeding my children!" It was a very hard and long 6 weeks before I decided to just quit all together. I thought DH or my mom would be disappointed, but they were both so glad I stopped because it was making me so miserable!
Some babies just latch and it is extremely easy on mom and baby. Unfortunately, that's not most babies.
So I'll try a few times and if I'm not feeling it or not feeling the drive to keep trying, we'll do straight formula. Which honestly, isn't the worst thing. I mean, it made it so much easier for others to feed them so I could sleep.
@suchaglencoco I think I *may* call the toddler his actual name once a day. So many nicknames!
On the mom front, I get ALL of you. I get home and make dinner for H and DS and wait for them to come home to see his sweet face and then am hour into the night I'm waiting for bedtime, because toddlers. My whole day from my teaching job to being a mom at night is literally living for someone else. I get desperate for some time to myself and luckily H obliges and let's me take a bath by myself before I bathe the toddler.
Re: UO 11/16
When I was early 20s, I was on a very small team at my job and my boss had a baby. It created a ton of extra work for me and I remember feeling some resentment about how often she had to stay home sick with her kids for years after she came back.
I’m mid thirties and on my third kid now, so I have a bit better perspective than in my youth. I do think the whole ‘village’ should take on some of the work of children. But I also think it’s kind of naive / rude to think or act like it doesn’t impact your company / coworkers. And I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable switching jobs during pregnancy unless is it was a most desperate situation.
obviously motherhood adds a lot of positive to my life but there’s definitely some negatives too.
@pearlvirus Totally agree being pregnant does effect productivity, I've been definitely doing the minimum since I got knocked up. But I also think it's just one of those things that society needs to suck up because literally everyone needs to be born, so.
You guys are freaking me out a bit because I have had my fair share of doubts about becoming a mom! Hopefully that doesn't mean I'll hate it. I truly believe MH will be an equal partner in parenting/housecare/etc though, since he already is on house stuff now, which I hope will help.
ETA- +1 for LOVING my kids, but not necessarily loving being a mom 24/7. I dealt with a lot of guilt after my girls were born because I had wanted to be a mom since I was 7 years old, and then I was just so.....underwhelmed with what motherhood is actually like. And yet, here I am, 3.5 years later doing it again
I can't think of any of my own yet today, I'll be back.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
I’m 1000% not cut out for the workforce though, so this has to work for now
+1 for also not always loving every part of parenthood. There is no way I could stay home, but that doesn't mean I don't love my son. I enjoy my time I get with him and I also enjoy my job. And we would not be able to provide a lot of "extras" if only one of us worked. And parenting is a shared responsibility! I end up staying home with DS if he is sick most of the time because it is easier for me to miss work than DH. But one days when it is more inconvenient for me to miss, DH stays home. I feel like the balance is harder in the beginning, at least it was for us, because of breastfeeding.
@ivyvines6 I swing on that pendulum a lot. Sometimes I feel like I am the world's most amazing mom who totally has her shit together and then I have days where I feel like they should have made me take a test before I decided to parent.
@mileswithmyles I refuse to call DD a princess. I told DH we are not starting with a sense of entitlement from the beginning.
Pregnancy is definitely effecting my job. I get a year maternity leave and my boss is already trying to figure out how they are going to deal with my position. I feel bad that this is now another thing for her to worry about. I also hate how I have to leave work for appointments now.
I thought I would love parenthood way more than I do. I mean don't get me wrong, it is great. But there is stuff I miss from my old life. I will be a SAHM after baby #2 comes. I am super nervous about leaving the work force indefinitely. I worked really hard for my career and I took a step back into a different role after DD so I could be more flexible with work. I don't know what I am going to do when I am no longer working in my field. I may try to find something super part-time.
And there will be some days where you HATE being a mother and question if you made the right choice. You'll question your motherly instincts. You'll question almost everything at some point and that's ok!! There will also be days where you question what took so you long to have the itty bitty. And days where you'll cry from happiness looking at their little face. And day days where you feel so much love that you'll refuse to put them down.
I love my littles with every piece of me, but some days DH comes home early because I've gotten to the point of losing it and need a break. And there are days when he's alone with them all day and I come home and he retires to our room to get away because they've driven him mad. Then there are some days where the time goes too fast and I can't believe how mature they've gotten. That's parenthood!
The only time you need to worry is when you constantly feel like you're drowning. If it gets to that point, or close to it, then you'll need to talk to a professional.
I often feel like a terrible mother. I’m so not sweet and patient with my children. I have friends like that and I’m always shocked at how nice they are to their kids! On the other hand, because I’m sort of strict, my kids are pretty well behaved, so they are generally fun to be around. The hardest thing for me, with regards to parenting, is the messiness. I know that sounds crazy, but I have an extremely low tolerance for messes, to the point where I am paralyzed by them and dont know where to start. It’s a never ending frustration for me, and I’m worried my kids will remember me as an uptight neat freak.
One thing I’ve figured out over the years is that mommy blogs are the worst and are there to make us feel inadequate. Also, facebook. Moms on facebook can bite me. Stop with the perfect cookie baking pictures!
Keeping one toe in the water is a very good idea. It also lets you get away from the kiddos and helps you keep your identity. Of course I think being a SAHM is totally great and valid and am in no way criticizing that choice!
I don't have one right now. Maybe I'll be back later.
My UO (maybe not unpopular) i hate when people try to tell me remedies to "try" for morning sickness. Ive been vomitting daily for 9 weeks....i know how to google, too... none of that shit helps me...its as if they think i have lost 25 lbs in the last two months simply because i havent tried mint tea or ginger.
This is actually probably more of a FFFC. Whoops.
I’m a little torn. I really hate gender normative stereotypes in general, but I’m fine if she wants to be a princess. Hell i’m fine if my son wants to be a princess... my goal is to make sure this little girl hears she is strong, smart and brave, as often as she hears she is a pretty little princess.
PS check out wire and honey store online... lots of good messages for both boys and girls. I plan to get my baby girl this one eventually..
There has been more than one occasion where I've been upset or unnerved by something mil said or did and DH had to remind me my mother does the same and Im fine with it.
On the mom front, I get ALL of you. I get home and make dinner for H and DS and wait for them to come home to see his sweet face and then am hour into the night I'm waiting for bedtime, because toddlers. My whole day from my teaching job to being a mom at night is literally living for someone else. I get desperate for some time to myself and luckily H obliges and let's me take a bath by myself before I bathe the toddler.