UO Thursday

doxiemoxie212

Let's hear 'em

krash_

I was literally just about to start this. I want some good ones today! 

krash_

I think your kids names should fit with you and your SO names. I think its weird when you have really normal names and your kid has a unique one. 

sunshineandwhiskey

I like boy names for girls

doxiemoxie212

I think parents should double check that the name they choose for their kid fits their kid's personality once it's born. I get having a plan, but like, if the baby is born and is CLEARLY not a Jessica, just do a different name. 

BurlapandLace

Ok. This might be better suited for FFFC, because I am sure I am going to get flamed for this one - but I hate when people get offended when people use the term “natural birth” in reference to an unmedicated vaginal birth. 

It always seems to be mom’s that have had c-sections who get most offended by the term “natural birth” and they say that all birth is natural. I’m sorry, but there is nothing natural about having your abdomen cut open and your baby removed from you. 

Am I saying that c-sections or medicated births are any less of a birth than a natural birth? Absolutely not. All types of birth are birth and it is all hard as hell and in fact c-section Mommas usually have a harder recovery. I am taking nothing away from their experience or saying their birth is any less than a natural birth. I have absolutely nothing against medicated births or c-section births. They all exist for a reason and I know they can be 100% necessary. I would have a c-section or a medicated birth if I needed to. I almost had a pre-term c-section with DS. So this is NOT me bashing on those types of birth. And I don’t think that Mommas who have natural births are any better than Mommas who don’t. At all. 

I am just saying that medicated and c-section births are not natural. Sorry, not sorry. I should be able to call non-medicated vaginal birth “natural” without people getting offended that i am somehow diminishing their birth experience by stating it isn’t natural. 

doxiemoxie212

@BurlapandLace yeah, I get annoyed when people think "natural" = better. Arsenic is natural! 

LaceyBee522

@sunshineandwhiskey Me too! All the girl names I like have very obvious boy nicknames (which I plan to use).

sunshineandwhiskey

@LaceyBee522 yes!  I got flamed on my last BMB, and still get comments because my DDs name is Carter Ava.  It fits her, and if we have another girl, 99% chance her name will be Kennedy.  #sorrynotsorry

katelynrae86

@doxiemoxie212 I agree in theory,  but I don't think day old or even week old babies show much personality. They sleep, eat and poop. Maybe I'm cold hearted but when my baby was born, I loved him, but I don't think his "personality" was apparent yet. I've never understood when parents say, he just didn't seem like a "Johnny"...just my two cents

doxiemoxie212

@KatelynRae I have spent very little time with babies, so I am by no means an expert, but I think a sign that a name is wrong is when neither parent actually calls them that name at all. Like, my nephew's name is Abraham, and his parents have honestly never called him that. They call him "the baby." Like even nicknames like Abe or Al don't fit. They never have. But alas, they wanted to name him after a dead relative, so, whatever. 

catlady1215

@burlapandlace I've never heard anyone get offended by that personally. but can totally understand what you mean. no flame here!

@sunshineandwhiskey me too. love Charlie but its so over done around here. and really like ray as a middle. but ex bil's name is ray, which would feel weird.

krash_

@catlady1215 we have been toying with the idea of Charlotte for a girl and calling her Charlie. 

napqueen

@LaceyBee522 @sunshineandwhiskey
I also love boy names for girls right but can’t seem to find any names for boys that I like! 
& our girl name is also Kennedy, it’s FIL’s step dad’s last name (his bio dad was a POS). 

dinodna3

I needed to see my kids before committing to a name. It just doesn’t feel right to give them a name without seeing them face to face. 

mytinc

OU - I'm not a fan of girls having boy names.  Maybe it's because I've had two boys and names I've picked out/liked didn't fly because they now sound feminine to my husband (too many girls with those names). 

For example, Morgan.  I think of Morgan Freeman.  I've met 3 or 4 Morgans in my life and only one was a girl (I met her in college and thought it was odd she had a boy name).  I didn't realize how much of a girl name it is now.  That makes me sad because I only like it as a boy name.

Lolalipsy

dinodna3 said:

I needed to see my kids before committing to a name. It just doesn’t feel right to give them a name without seeing them face to face. 

I second this.  

momlyfe29

UO I hate it when people refer to their kids age in months after they have turned two. “My kid is 47 months old”. Like no your kid is almost 4. Call them an effing 4 year old. 

doxiemoxie212

boymama29 said:

UO I hate it when people refer to their kids age in months after they have turned two. “My kid is 47 months old”. Like no your kid is almost 4. Call them an effing 4 year old. 

THIS! Don't make me do math. I'm not a pediatrician; I don't know the nuanced differences between a 26mo and a 28mo.

galactickates

I don't find it cute when adults reenact what their kids say in baby talk.  I just don't care and it hurts to fake smile while they do it

doxiemoxie212

@galactickates DH hates it when I reenact any conversation with an accent of any kind. Like, if I'm mocking someone who has an annoying voice he gets mad when I try to imitate it, but I'm like HOW ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO KNOW HOW ANNOYING THIS WAS FOR ME IF I DON'T PUT YOU THROUGH THE SAME HELL???? 

napqueen

@boymama29 YES. Once my son was past 16 months I said “he’s almost one and a half.”

@galactickates 100% agree. I still have to remind my mom of this. I’m guilty of constantly repeating what my son says (just turned 2), but instead of saying it how he does I translate it into proper English. 

galactickates

@doxiemoxie212 - I actually really enjoy accents and renactments. I find them hilarious,  it's just the baby talk that grates on my nerves.  None of my siblings do that when talking about their kids, so I always forget that's something people do.  It's usually a friend or acquaintance but it physically hurts trying to pretend I care.  

MoonOverGoldsboro

@BurlapandLace I do get what you're saying, and I am also firmly in the camp of "natural does not equal better." (I happened to have a nonmedicated vaginal birth, but it wouldn't have mattered to me what actually ended up happening, as long as I had a healthy baby.) But also...I feel a lot of empathy for mothers who really wanted a nonmedicated vaginal birth but had to have an emergency c-section, because it seems like many of them feel really sad about that reality (whether or not we would feel the same way). So if someone told me it sort of hurt their feelings to hear their birth termed "unnatural," I guess it wouldn't really bother me. As a general rule, if someone tells me some kind of terminology hurts or bothers them, I feel fine about not using it. I don't feel particularly passionate about defending my type of birth as "natural." 

Also, I think there ARE a lot of women who had "natural" births who are totally f*cking smug about it, like it was all a result of their heroics and not complete and utter chance--and I think those are the kinds of people these women may be reacting to.

LaceyBee522

UO: The clear (pineapple flavor) gummy bear is the BEST gummy bear!

icecubeinthedesert

@boymama29, same about months old, but also weeks old after, maybe, 3 months? A Facebook acquaintance keeps posting weekly posts...50 weeks today. Can you believe he will be one year in two weeks?...51 weeks, can you believe he will be a year old next week?

Yes, I can. Because you told me last week too.

Edited because I posted too soon.

bkrahn

Kennedy would be SUCH a cute girls name! @sunshineandwhiskey

ffw0617

i hate when ppl get in a relationship or get married and think everyone is suppose to adjust everything to couples.

krash_

@icecubeinthedesert we have a friend that does the same thing! And every week he is in the same spot in the same stupid brown lazy boy recliner! Not only that but she also post every month on this “birthday” so there’s a post every Saturday and every 19th of the month. I would like the pictures of your kid more if I didn’t see them so often. 

Also do I have no problem if you want to document his growth and changes but you don’t have to post them on FB. 

katykat03

@icecubeinthedesert and @krashke I have a FB friend that still does the monthly pics with signs for her four and a half year old...still using months. Drives me crazy!

icecubeinthedesert

@krashke, exactly! These are always on top of every daily event picture as well. Way overshare.

BurlapandLace

@MoonOverGoldsboro ~ I agree with what you are saying. I know birth can often go differently than planned. I’ve personally known many people who have wished for one outcome for a birth and had another. And I have sympathy for them because I understand how they feel robbed of a certain experience. 

What I am speaking of is when someone walks into a conversation where people are discussing natural birth and they get offended by the term. I’m not talking about someone who had a natural birth walking into a room full of c-section Mommas or medicated birth Mommas a an saying “your birth was unnatural”. That’s completely rude, insensitive and unnecessary. And I agree a lot of women who have had a natural birth can be very “holier than thou” about it and I do not agree with that mentality either. At all. 

But if two women are having a conversation about birth and, say for example, that one hopes she has a natural birth, and someone “overhears” (or sees in case of an online convo) this conversation and barges in offended saying “all births are natural”, it frustrates me. That’s all.  

ffw0617

@katyka03 that is annoying AF. I have a fb friend who reposts and reshares every picture of her daughter everyday. Everyday you will see at least one picture of her daughter as an infant, one at age one, and one at age 2, and one current picture. EVERYDAY. We've seen all her daughter's pictures at least 7 times.

sabby2

I agree about the months/age

I do not like boys names for girls but I figure you do you. No one is forcing me to use those names for my girl. *shrug*

I love the pineapple gummy bears. Now I must have them!  I have been on the brink of puking my guts out all day and those sound good!

marcus7676

Given all this love for pineapple gummies - my UO is I think pineapple is disgusting. 

Miz_Liz

@marcus7676 *gasp*

bearmoons

@sunshineandwhiskey Kennedy! Like the MTV VJ! She was cool! I say name your kid whatever you want, people who feel the need to comment on what you name your kids should just put a sock in it. 

@doxiemoxie212 my little brother was “Grant” for like 2 days, but not officially on his birth certificate. My parents decided it didn’t fit and he became an official “Jacob”. So I understand what you’re saying. 

@LaceyBee522 pineapple 4-eva!

My UO is that I think blow dryers are stupid and a waste of time. At least for me. My hair does whatever it wants, I gave up many years ago. 

krash_

@marcus7676 you are entitled to your opinion just know that you are wrong

MoonOverGoldsboro

@BurlapandLace Agreed on all counts. I think we are both arguing for people to be generally reasonable human beings...which is probably a pretty popular opinion. 

MoonOverGoldsboro

I need to stop reading these boards before bed. I’m gonna dream of Haribo gummies.

May14th2011

@BurlapandLace I agree about natural births. Why do people make it such a big deal? I had an emergency csection, it's not natural. Big whoop. Lol