PGAL Check In (Nov. 8)

justkeeptrying

This is a safe space for those who are pregnant after a loss. General TW for this thread.

How far along are you?

Any appointments coming up?

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy?

justkeeptrying

How far along are you? 20+2

Any appointments coming up? Had one yesterday. All is well. Next appointment isn't for 4 weeks now. 

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here): Hitting 20 weeks has been game changing for me. I feel so much more confident in this pregnancy now and am just feeling more reassured with baby kicks. I feel good, other than occasional heartburn. I'm definitely in the golden trimester right now and just loving it. 

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy? My DH obviously. And one of my friends from my previous BMB. She and I have similar stories in our losses and she's now 12 weeks pregnant too. So we chat on Facebook messenger pretty well every day. We've been a huge support for one another and I'm so thankful to have a friend who understands what I'm going through. Crazy how strong a friendship can be with someone you've never met. 

senora76

How far along are you? 19+4... 3 more days til half way...

Any appointments coming up? weekly Makena shot tomorrow - no OB for another couple weeks...

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) November is here - I have vowed everytime I get a flashback of Mars' death day to immediately think about his birth day since November is the anniversary of that - not his death...  and it's helping. As for the pregnancy, we have so much riding on it... everytime I let the cat out of the bag to someone new I get a little more nervous. I feel physically okay tho - I'm out of shape and fat but I'll take it.  I'm a lot more comfortable than I was in any of my other three.... and only a little bit of heartburn - nothing compared to the last times.

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy? DH hands down but I have other honorable mentions: a mommy from my Nov 2016 group who reached out to me when I lost Mars because she too lost her son to SIDS at daycare no less the prior year, she has become such a good friend, we are hoping to meet in person at some point in 2018 - shes in Boston and we are in LA...  can't leave out my BFF as well as my amazing sons.  My 14 year old has held our home up with his enormous strength... and my 11 year old, who was the first one to feel this baby kick other than me... and he was also the first one to feel Mars kick other than me...

BrittnieMariee

How far along are you?

24 weeks tomorrow!

Any appointments coming up?

I have a growth scan and follow up with my OB later this month. I also have another follow up with my endocrinologist to check up on my GD at the end of this month. So glad I don’t have to go weekly/biweekly anymore!!

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

I’m doing much better now that I can feel her kicking and rolling around. I can also see her kicks from the outside and it amazes me how strong she already is!

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy?
Mostly my husband has helped me. But I also have my mom and a close friend that has also experienced a loss before she got her rainbow baby! They all help in different ways and I appreciate them all so, so much!

ashtuesday

How far along are you? 22 weeks, 6 days

Any appointments coming up?  None until the week of Thanksgiving!

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)  I'm doing very well recently.  Like @justkeeptrying and @BrittnieMariee said, feeling consistent kicks is so reassuring!  My little girl seems to get more active everyday, and it makes me so happy.

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy?  My husband, hands down.  He has been there holding my hand and wiping my crying-boogers through every single up and down.  I can be an emotional nightmare, and he never issues a single complaint.  All I keep thinking is how lucky my daughter is going to be to live her whole life with the kind of love he's got to give!

@justkeeptrying Happy halfway!  I thought of it as a game changer too - life feels so much better on the other side!!!

chasingroygbiv

How far along are you?

25+2

Any appointments coming up?

Next week MFM and u/s

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

Doing well. Feeling large and a little achy. Heartburn and SPD. Tired due to two sick littles.. Tis the season, ugh. I love feeling baby move and I never get tired of it— even the jabs to my bladder. Makes me jump and nearly pee my pants, but hey, Mom life! 

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy?
my husband, my girls originally from TB with DD, and you guys. I’m truly grateful. No one else really knew about our pregnancy until 18+ weeks. 

bb3vj3n

How far along are you?
22wks today

Any appointments coming up?

next Friday with my OB ...17th. 

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

I'm doing okay. little girl has gone through a serious growth spurt this week and although I've been showing a while now - I feel like my tummy has really grown significantly this week. So far i still have an "innie" and I was hoping to make it ask the way. .... but now I'm not so sure.

Also - DH finally was able to feel the baby kick this week. it was pretty exciting to finally be able to share that moment with him. I kept trying and trying but he could never feel her. I'm so so glad he finally got to experience it. 

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy?

DH - hands down, no contest.  And my snoogle ...obv

@justkeeptrying yay! halfway!
@chasingroygbiv aww.... sick littles! I'm sorry mama. 

leilaquinn

How far along are you?

23 weeks 3 days

Any appointments coming up?

Early 1 hour glucose test. I was supposed to go yesterday, but my stomach is such a mess from 10 days tomorrow on antibiotics my OB agreed that I could wait until this coming Monday, mostly so I don’t vomit sugar water at quest diagnostics.

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

Mostly I’m doing well. I have been so physically ill, in so many varied ways, but I also feel like now that I am feeling so much movement I am just mostly happy. I didn’t feel anything much at all until after 21 weeks due to an anterior placenta (and also I think due to my belly being my chubbiest area even when not pregnant) and it wasn’t until the last couple of days that I started to feel movement other than thumps on my bladder and cervix. It just makes everything better.

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy?
my husband and my mom are both always amazing and as supportive as lovely as they always are. I am immensely grateful for them, but my best friend since I was six is the person happy and willing to text for hours every day about a swing vs a bouncy seat, our fears about raising new people and our fears about their vulnerability and mortality in general, and then the new skin tags I’ve grown since yesterday. We have lived most of our lives like this, I went through every moment of her struggles with infertility and then successful IVF, she stared at photos of my Opks and charts, and we were so happily both pregnant for a short time before I lost that pregnancy. Her daughter is now 16 months, she is also a college professor and has a an insane schedule, but she is still there to talk about nonsense and anything and everything else. I love her so very much.

SoraLk

How far along are you? 20+4

Any appointments coming up? Had my A/S on Monday - which went well. Next appointment is my OB followup in about 10 days.

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) Doing okay lately, I still can't catch baby's movement to have my fiance feel it. However, the more I feel my baby, the less I worry.

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy? Hands down, my fiance is the one who has supported me the most. He's learning to cook for me, he helps me when I'm having trouble walking, and does all the heavy lifting. He also encourages me to try and walk as much as possible.

mdfarmchick

How far along are you?

23+6

Any appointments coming up?

End of November plus I have to drink the sugar. Ew. 

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here)

So in prep for my aunt and sister to get here yesterday and some shuffling around to accommodate making the guest room a nursery and to be more prepared for 2.0, I’ve been doing a lot of cleaning and nesting and moving furniture or having MH move furniture over the past two weeks. Well Tuesday I completely overdid it. My hip has been out ever since then and of course it’s the last minute and we are driving them to Disney today so... last night MH went out and picked up some KT tape and taped me up today. I feel much better and my hip finally doesn’t hurt but I’m hoping it will be enough to get me through all the walking over the next few days. 

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy?

MH is really awesome and supportive, I have a friend from my previous BMB that messages back and forth with me everyday pretty much—she’s due at the beginning of January and had a miscarriage around the same timeline as mine so our journeys are pretty similar, just a few months apart. She’s been my best mom buddy for over two years now. And then I have three best friends from when we lived in England. We group message each other everyday. One of them is due in May and the other two are our BTDT moms who give us advice and commiserate.  MH takes off to go to all of my appointments and in general tries to pick up any slack where he can since I’ve been so uncomfortable this pregnancy with my hips/pelvic area/lower back. And of course I have you guys.

mdfarmchick

Oh and sorry to post and ghost today but it’s a big weekend with the family visiting so I’ll be in and out.

jessbruxanovaa

Hello ladies! I’ve been inactive for about a month already. My SO takes the laptop to work and The Bump is harder or mobile lol. But I wanted to see how everyone is doing!  


How far along are you? 21w4d

Any appointments coming up? Just had the anatomy scan yesterday

How are you doing? (Dear diary posts and venting are welcome and encouraged here) a little sad. My SO and I are separated for now for something that wasn’t my fault at all but his. 

GTKY: Who or what has been your biggest support throughout this pregnancy? SO’s parents, my parents and my Sept 2015 group ❤️

senora76

@jessbruxanova I am sorry to hear about your SO drama- I was a single mom (and still very much operate as one with my older children, not to mention co-parent with the most frustratingly idiodic difficult person) for many years so I understand. Wishing you peace in whatever path you may find yourself on... reconciliation, break-up, arrangement, etc. You deserve peace and a harmonious home.

PS I had major drama with my ex just yesterday... and am still raging with fury over that episode

jessbruxanovaa

senora76 said:

@jessbruxanova I am sorry to hear about your SO drama- I was a single mom (and still very much operate as one with my older children, not to mention co-parent with the most frustratingly idiodic difficult person) for many years so I understand. Wishing you peace in whatever path you may find yourself on... reconciliation, break-up, arrangement, etc. You deserve peace and a harmonious home.

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. And I admire you, being a single mom must be very difficult!

BrittnieMariee

Awwwww I’m one of those Sept 15 ladies  so glad your AS went well! Hope you and your LO are adjusting okay. We’re here for you!!

senora76

@jessbruxanovaa If it can be worked out - wonderful - I took my marriage very seriously and fought hard to make it work, but when I was beating a dead horse, by the time we separated, I wasn't even sad since I mourned the relationship while I was fighting for it. Being a single mom is really really hard... i feel its harder having my kids dad in their life, even for the 20% he has the kids, than if he wasnt around at all.  But what was hardest of all, was being in an unhappy home...with little kids... with a broken marriage and a broken husband...  I am 1000x happier now and with an amazing man I only thought existed in movies.

jessbruxanovaa

@senora76 yes it’s true. That’s what I always told SO. We don’t have to be in a miserable forced relationship if you don’t want to. I’m not the type of woman that would keep your kids from you. Sometimes it’s better for everyone to just end it. And I’m so glad you found someone much better. I’m happy for you ❤️