My grandmother says I'm to big

knottie170195ea3f929846

I'm 21 weeks pregnant with pcos. I am overweight and before I knew I was pregnant I was working out and on a diet. When I found out I was pregnant I decided to just walk instead of doing big exercises. The past few weeks my belly has grown outward and has harden. My grandmother told me I need to get a gym membership as soon as this baby pops out and to stop eating so much. My heart broken. I have been having issues with my weight for years and was told I couldn't have children. So for her to say that to me broke my heart. I'm constantly upset saying I'm to big and fat. My husband is so supportive and tells me I'm pregnant. He has to tell me that everyday because my grandma just won't stop insulting my weight. I don't eat heavy, I never have. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't even want to be around her period.

meggyme

knottie170195ea3f929846 said:

I'm 21 weeks pregnant with pcos. I am overweight and before I knew I was pregnant I was working out and on a diet. When I found out I was pregnant I decided to just walk instead of doing big exercises. The past few weeks my belly has grown outward and has harden. My grandmother told me I need to get a gym membership as soon as this baby pops out and to stop eating so much. My heart broken. I have been having issues with my weight for years and was told I couldn't have children. So for her to say that to me broke my heart. I'm constantly upset saying I'm to big and fat. My husband is so supportive and tells me I'm pregnant. He has to tell me that everyday because my grandma just won't stop insulting my weight. I don't eat heavy, I never have. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't even want to be around her period.

Tell your grandma to shut the F up. Seriously. If this is not a one time occurrence that you can chalk up to senility or ignorance of your feelings then you need to speak up for yourself. And if your grandmother can’t keep her trap shut then maybe it’s best for your own mental and emotional health to not be around her. Maybe your absence in her life will be the wake up call she needs to know you’re serious.

If your doctors are ok with your weight then there is no reason for anyone else to mention it. It sounds like your husband is very supportive and it can be hard to believe them (husbands in general) sometimes when they compliment, but he is telling you the truth.

Your body is morphing from a woman to a mother, creating a new life cell by cell. That is an amazing thing your body is capable of doing, no matter what size or shape it is. And once your baby is here, they will not care what you look like. They will care that you love and nurture them.

Sorry, that got long and ranty but I hope it helps.

lovesclimbing

"Grandma, you have repeatedly critized me about my weight. I don't like it, and I'm asking you to stop."

If it happens again, "Grandma, I told you to stop critizing me about my weight. If you can't do that I'm going to leave." 

Then do so, if it happens again. 

knottie170195ea3f929846

Thank you for your support it really means a lot. I plan on talking to her the next time she says something about it.

stillcozy

and you say to grabdma mind your own business 

WeLiveInMaine

 Women's doctors used to be awful about "excessive"  weight gain, times have changed however. She must just not be aware that's she's still living in the dark ages.  I'd be honest with her both about being wrong and how she's hurting your feelings spouting nonsense.