My DH likely destroyed his engine on his car because he has literally not even checked the oil in it in 15 months. I had to drive it today and got to deal with it crapping out on me while I was out driving with my client in the car. He's not a moron either, he knows how to change the oil, and do minor repairs on cars. But even when I told him his oil light was on the last few times I've had to drive it he just ignored me. So yeah, an hour of his time and twenty dollars could have saved his car. Now it's at the mechanic shop, costing 100 to even find out how badly damaged it is and we will have to see if it's even worth fixing at this point. I might not be a mechanic, but I can tell you a car needs oil and his was bone dry.
Reheated Chinese food gave me an upset stomach. Good thing I only need to take the kids to their ped office today followed by going to DHs office to announce we'r expecting again. **eye roll
@theletlers Oh no!!! I would be so pissed! Mine is just starting to discuss the "whose house are we doing what holidays at this year". It's always a shitshow trying to figure it out between me, my little sister and my MIL. My little sister has in-laws who like to come from Nebraska for Christmas (sometimes with very little notice), so I like to have Thanksgiving at my house so she doesn't get stuck hosting both, and my MIL refuses to come to my house if we do Thanksgiving at my house (because she's ALWAYS done it at her house), but then gets all passive aggressive about not seeing her grandbabies on Thanksgiving. I've finally drawn the line the past few years when I got fed up. Today I said Thanksgiving is at our house, your mom can suck it, and then we'll split Christmas like we always do, Christmas Eve at my house, Christmas morning (after presents,etc) at my sister's and your parents in the afternoon/evening. For a season that's supposed to be full of love, being thankful for what you have, happiness, and cheer, it shouldn't be this hard!! LOL
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@sandbar517, holiday schedules are the worst! DH's parents are divorced so we have to try and figure it out for 3 houses. Luckily, his mom doesn't have a set thanksgiving tradition so we do nothing with her. Sorry, but traditions mean a lot to me and I like to have things like this figured out more than a month in advance. Especially because they live 2 hours away. We have always done my family thanksgiving in the past. Last year we split it since his aunt hosts his dad's whole side and they're an hour from us, but it was too much. So I said we'd spend the whole time with his family. It's the only time of the year we will be able to see most of his extended family. Christmas is a little easier, but still I end up with new grey hairs after January rolls around.
@sandbar517 I hear ya! Last year my MIL was so mad because she kept trying to FaceTime us while we opened presents and had breakfast on Christmas morning. She just moved back in to town a couple years ago and we said straight up if you want to see us come over. But she decided to go to Texas the week before Christmas and then mad because we wouldn't just FaceTime all morning for her to see DS open presents. No that's not happening. Be here or miss it.
Also I've not been in much of an angry mood most of this pregnancy. Nauseous and annoyed at pregnancy but not really bitchy. Today, I'm straight up pissed and will let all my pregnancy rage fly at anyone who even steps a toe on my bad side.
@suchaglencoco I think that's been the hardest part. Everyone has their own traditions, and it's hard to combine them, especially now that we have kids. Sometimes you have to let go of your own traditions and make new ones, and that's hard for everyone. One of MH's favorite traditions was going to his mom's house late on Christmas Eve and exchanging gifts with his mom's best friend. They've done it since they were little, and once he got older they finally told him it was because they always asked her to come over and entertain him and his sister so they could be upstairs wrapping their gifts! But after we had kids, it was one of those things that just didn't work out anymore. There was no way I was dragging my kids out of our house at 8, 9 o'clock (or later) just to go over and exchange gifts with a family friend (that lives two blocks away from his mom and we see quite often).
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I was on hold with the ultrasound scheduling people for 36.5 minutes. And the hold music was horrible. But I get to see my baby for the first time tomorrow so at least there's that.
@sandbar517, my big issue is feeling guilty for not attending everything. And I hate to leave my mom alone on holidays, but it got to the point where I was getting myself too worked up. And my brothers have no problem leaving my mom alone, and my mom is ok with it, so it was all me on myself. She is more than welcome to come with us to his side's thanksgiving and she is choosing to see her brother instead. So I am trying to not feel bad about our decision.
And if my mil demanded to Facetime like that, I'd laugh in her face. It's different if they'e states away and ask to Facetime for a few minutes with everyone opens their gifts, but the entire time is ridiculous!
@sandbar517 I'm with you. I am out of fucks to give about hurting people's feelings about our holiday schedule. hate the holiday logistics with our families. MIL always acts like it is brand-new information that we won't be at there house for every holiday. We are doing Thanksgiving with the ILs the weekend before because it is when BIL has his kids. MIL is butthurt that we aren't also coming over on Thanksgiving. Sorry, but I am going to see my grandparents who are in their 80s and not going to hang out with you again just because you want us to. She also makes me so mad because she wants us to come for holidays, but then doesn't do anything. We had lasagna one year for Thanksgiving with them and I was so mad because I love Thanksgiving food. Last year, she wanted us to come over to there house right away Christmas morning. We finally put our foot down and said we weren't leaving our house Christmas morning because DS is entitled to have Santa and play with his toys. She was a total B about it and then refused to come over at the same time my mom was there because she didn't want to have to compete for DS's attention. It makes the holidays so unenjoyable. My mom is always so nice and accommodating about whatever works for us or is easier to us and MIL is not.
I called in sick today because of a bad sleep, headaches, and just simply not wanting to deal with work lol. My new employee takes initiative at the worst times and decided to revamp a site visit I schedule I had set for this week, so now I'm working for home to undo what she did ughhhh!!! Ask questions first please!
My son's school just called to check on me because he told them this morning that I died last night..... I'm too tired for this crap...
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I have another one to add. We finally got DH an appointment with the cardiologist for the life insurance policy. We had to cancel our tour of another daycare and ask MIL to pick up DS today so he could go. The doctor called at 2:30 today to cancel and wants to reschedule tomorrow. Why is this so hard!?!!
@theletlers WTF! You have every right to be pissed.
I am with everyone else who has lost their fvcks to give. About the holidays, about the old lady at the gym who stopped on her way out of the parking lot to chide me on my parking, “You might want to try parking again so other people can get in.” I was too busy getting the girls out of the car to argue and just said, “Okay”, shut the door and went inside... But I was well within my lines and was parking based on the crappy parking job of the guy on my right (no one was parking to my left) so I could get the kids out. And the parking lot was almost empty. Basically, LAY OFF, LADY!
@sandbar517 I'm already so over christmas this year and I usually LOVE christmas. Too much drama and feeling sick makes me not want to even celebrate which is really sad
I’m just full of bitches today. Now I’m mad because MIL wants to pick DS up today anyway and tomorrow. Which basically means that I will get to see him one night this week because I have to work late tomorrow and Thursday. I‘m pissed that DH told her that was fine.
OMG I am with everyone else about not caring about feelings for the holidays. DH's extended family and his ILs who has pretty much treated me like crap since we got married wants us over for every holiday but I am sorry why would I be miserable on days that are supposed to be enjoyable. We have now decided Thanksgiving is at our house that way we invite the ILs and they have a chance to spend a holiday with us and Christmas at my sisters or Grandma's house. DH's family throws a christmas party the weekend after and we decided to keep our marriage intact it is healthy for me to go to one family gathering a year. His cousin got married this summer so that was my one event for the year lol. DH's family bitches that they cant spend time with their great niece which is apparently their only connection to MIL who died last year but they literally only want to play with her or hold her when I am not around and I dont play that shit.
I know last pregnancy I was moody but I dont remember being soooooo angry. I feel like I am always bitching but it has to be the hormones. I feel like I am moody most of the day but when my ILs are brought up it is straight up rage. Its like the busiest time for work right now for the rest of the year and I am dealing with lots of frustrated students who take their anger out on me so thats fun.
I never realized just how often toddlers get sick. I nursed DS through April of this year and he didn’t get sick much while nursing. This fall I feel like he is catching one bug after another. This time it’s diarrhea and I’m praying it goes away quickly and without vomit. We have a 5 hour flight home in 2 days and I’m praying it will be uneventful.
And oh yeah, we had a wedding for DH's cousin this past weekend. I didn't realize my DH or MIL had never told one of his grandmas that we are pregnant and she had a look of complete shock when I said something about how I wasn't about to shell out a bunch of money on a dress I won't fit into in a few weeks so I got one that would. Her jaw dropped. And I said "oh yeah we're pregnant again!" She said well no one told me and then walked away and wouldn't speak to me the rest of the time.
And then at the reception DH's other grandma (his grandpa and grandma divorced and both remarried before he was born) so yeah the other grandma and MIL and her new husband started to throw dinner rolls at the first grandmas head during the meal and we're missing and hitting other people's chairs and coats. It was so embarrassing and the one random couple at our table (who were caught in the fires of bread) just stopped talking to us because it made them feel so awkward. When my MIL and her husband went to look at the desert table I thoroughly apologize to them and said how I felt terrible because it's not appropriate and just rude. The lady asked why they were doing it so I had to explain DH's extremely crazy family drama. And during the bread throwing I had to deal with a tantrum from my two year old DS because he wanted to throw bread too and we wouldn't let him. Sorry it was long but it was so frustrating and embarrassing!
I’m all the way with you All! Holidays are stressful. I love the food but my DHs family are horrible cooks. Everything is boxed, canned, and crappy and covered in mayo. I always feel SO sick after celebrating with them. The best year was right after our son was born, we stayed home and were lazy just us 3. It was blissful. I should have planned this pregnancy around a holiday again ha! *as if it were that easy* Second, My DH loves to start projects... organize the garage, paint the coffee table, do the yard... but literally CANNOT COMPLETE IT! The stuff from the garage is all over the backyard, the coffee table is in pieces from 3 weeks ago (with the worst paint job..) and the yard is always half done. He’s out of town tonight and i almost just hired a Gardner today and threw all the stuff back in the garage and go buy a new table. I hate loose ends and feeling like I’ve always got something to do and it’s not even my to do list!
@theletlers Oh my gosh. That’s something that would be funny on a tv show but the fact that someone would actually do that is ridiculous. And then it causing a tantrum from your 2 year old...oh I would’ve been fuming
My toddler has the stomach flu and idk wtf to do. Literally crying in Walmart to escape for a few minutes. DH is being a dick about the whole thing. And I’m terrified to catch it. So yeah. Monday’s.
Wow. All of these stories are making me rather grateful for my own level of drama. I once read a quote that I haven't been able to find since and it was something along the lines of, "If everyone in the world put all their problems in a pile, which then had to be split into equal parts for everyone to take back, most people would be content to take their original problems and leave." This is so true for me after reading these stories! @theletlers I would barely be speaking to MH, let alone nookie. There would be none of that for a very long time. And I'm pretty sure you won the crazy in-law contest. Wowsers. @ladystinson I, too, am laughing harder than I should. Where do kids come up with these crazy stories?? @poppy0419 I'm so sorry your little one is sick. I hope they feel better soon, and that you are able to avoid it.
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@Poppy0419 I feel for you. I don’t handle DS being sick well, ESPECIALLY the stomach bug. I’m sorry your husband isn’t being helpful. Hoping your little one recovers soon and that you don’t get sick
@sandbar517 oh believe me, I am too lol but still, I do not have the energy for this crap
@justsuzie it doesn't surprise me. he's 6 so I get it, but wow.... let not go killing off any family members for attention lol
Angel Babies 1&2 2/14/09 DS born 3/11 Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!! divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started) Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!! Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18 TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
Re: Monday Bitchfest
Mine is just starting to discuss the "whose house are we doing what holidays at this year". It's always a shitshow trying to figure it out between me, my little sister and my MIL. My little sister has in-laws who like to come from Nebraska for Christmas (sometimes with very little notice), so I like to have Thanksgiving at my house so she doesn't get stuck hosting both, and my MIL refuses to come to my house if we do Thanksgiving at my house (because she's ALWAYS done it at her house), but then gets all passive aggressive about not seeing her grandbabies on Thanksgiving. I've finally drawn the line the past few years when I got fed up. Today I said Thanksgiving is at our house, your mom can suck it, and then we'll split Christmas like we always do, Christmas Eve at my house, Christmas morning (after presents,etc) at my sister's and your parents in the afternoon/evening. For a season that's supposed to be full of love, being thankful for what you have, happiness, and cheer, it shouldn't be this hard!! LOL
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BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
DH's parents are divorced so we have to try and figure it out for 3 houses. Luckily, his mom doesn't have a set thanksgiving tradition so we do nothing with her. Sorry, but traditions mean a lot to me and I like to have things like this figured out more than a month in advance. Especially because they live 2 hours away.
We have always done my family thanksgiving in the past. Last year we split it since his aunt hosts his dad's whole side and they're an hour from us, but it was too much. So I said we'd spend the whole time with his family. It's the only time of the year we will be able to see most of his extended family.
Christmas is a little easier, but still I end up with new grey hairs after January rolls around.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
She is more than welcome to come with us to his side's thanksgiving and she is choosing to see her brother instead. So I am trying to not feel bad about our decision.
And if my mil demanded to Facetime like that, I'd laugh in her face. It's different if they'e states away and ask to Facetime for a few minutes with everyone opens their gifts, but the entire time is ridiculous!
@sandbar517 I'm with you. I am out of fucks to give about hurting people's feelings about our holiday schedule. hate the holiday logistics with our families. MIL always acts like it is brand-new information that we won't be at there house for every holiday. We are doing Thanksgiving with the ILs the weekend before because it is when BIL has his kids. MIL is butthurt that we aren't also coming over on Thanksgiving. Sorry, but I am going to see my grandparents who are in their 80s and not going to hang out with you again just because you want us to. She also makes me so mad because she wants us to come for holidays, but then doesn't do anything. We had lasagna one year for Thanksgiving with them and I was so mad because I love Thanksgiving food. Last year, she wanted us to come over to there house right away Christmas morning. We finally put our foot down and said we weren't leaving our house Christmas morning because DS is entitled to have Santa and play with his toys. She was a total B about it and then refused to come over at the same time my mom was there because she didn't want to have to compete for DS's attention. It makes the holidays so unenjoyable. My mom is always so nice and accommodating about whatever works for us or is easier to us and MIL is not.
My new employee takes initiative at the worst times and decided to revamp a site visit I schedule I had set for this week, so now I'm working for home to undo what she did ughhhh!!! Ask questions first please!
DS born 3/11
Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!!
divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started)
Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!!
Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18
TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!
also just got the call. Our car is damaged beyond repair as the mechanic said. So there's that. Last night's nookie might be it for a while...
@theletlers I’d be so furious. He’d be lucky if I even talked to him that night.
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EDD: 6/12/20
I am with everyone else who has lost their fvcks to give. About the holidays, about the old lady at the gym who stopped on her way out of the parking lot to chide me on my parking, “You might want to try parking again so other people can get in.”
I was too busy getting the girls out of the car to argue and just said, “Okay”, shut the door and went inside... But I was well within my lines and was parking based on the crappy parking job of the guy on my right (no one was parking to my left) so I could get the kids out. And the parking lot was almost empty. Basically, LAY OFF, LADY!
I know last pregnancy I was moody but I dont remember being soooooo angry. I feel like I am always bitching but it has to be the hormones. I feel like I am moody most of the day but when my ILs are brought up it is straight up rage. Its like the busiest time for work right now for the rest of the year and I am dealing with lots of frustrated students who take their anger out on me so thats fun.
And yes, please to all the details.
@theletlers I'm sorry about the car.
@sandbar517 And that is why I hate the holidays.
And oh yeah, we had a wedding for DH's cousin this past weekend. I didn't realize my DH or MIL had never told one of his grandmas that we are pregnant and she had a look of complete shock when I said something about how I wasn't about to shell out a bunch of money on a dress I won't fit into in a few weeks so I got one that would. Her jaw dropped. And I said "oh yeah we're pregnant again!" She said well no one told me and then walked away and wouldn't speak to me the rest of the time.
And then at the reception DH's other grandma (his grandpa and grandma divorced and both remarried before he was born) so yeah the other grandma and MIL and her new husband started to throw dinner rolls at the first grandmas head during the meal and we're missing and hitting other people's chairs and coats. It was so embarrassing and the one random couple at our table (who were caught in the fires of bread) just stopped talking to us because it made them feel so awkward. When my MIL and her husband went to look at the desert table I thoroughly apologize to them and said how I felt terrible because it's not appropriate and just rude. The lady asked why they were doing it so I had to explain DH's extremely crazy family drama.
And during the bread throwing I had to deal with a tantrum from my two year old DS because he wanted to throw bread too and we wouldn't let him. Sorry it was long but it was so frustrating and embarrassing!
Second, My DH loves to start projects... organize the garage, paint the coffee table, do the yard... but literally CANNOT COMPLETE IT! The stuff from the garage is all over the backyard, the coffee table is in pieces from 3 weeks ago (with the worst paint job..) and the yard is always half done. He’s out of town tonight and i almost just hired a Gardner today and threw all the stuff back in the garage and go buy a new table. I hate loose ends and feeling like I’ve always got something to do and it’s not even my to do list!
@theletlers I would barely be speaking to MH, let alone nookie. There would be none of that for a very long time. And I'm pretty sure you won the crazy in-law contest. Wowsers.
@ladystinson I, too, am laughing harder than I should. Where do kids come up with these crazy stories??
@poppy0419 I'm so sorry your little one is sick. I hope they feel better soon, and that you are able to avoid it.
Married June 2012
BFP June 2013- blighted ovum, D&C Aug 2013
BFP Oct 2013- twins! A&H born May 2014
BFP Aug 2017- EDD 5/8/17
@justsuzie it doesn't surprise me. he's 6 so I get it, but wow.... let not go killing off any family members for attention lol
DS born 3/11
Angel Baby 3 6/28/11 9/5/17 BFP!!
divorced October 2014 9/6/17 hCG 88 progesterone 9.1 (prometrium started)
Married DH 10/15 DH's DS born 6/09 9/8/17 hCG 242!!!
Not preventing since 11/15 EDD 5/8/18 Adjusted 5/15/18
TTC since 1/1/16 9/27/17 we have a heart beat!