Still waiting for my clinic to call & set up my first ultrasound appt. Other than that, first prenatal on Nov 22.
Rants/Raves/Questions?
I just want to fast forward 4 weeks & feel more at ease.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)?
Haven't been doing too great this past week. I can't help but feel like this isn't real & won't happen for us. With my past two pregnancies ending in loss, that feels like the new normal and I hate that. I hate that I don't have any upcoming appointments to help ease my mind & I am honestly dreading that first appointment where they check for the heartbeat.. like I'm actually really really terrified for the chance that they won't find one.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? My favourite part of the day is when DH comes home from work. Bath time with DD in the evening and just being together as a fam.
1. 7 weeks 5 days 2. Had an us yesterday and saw a heartbeat 3. Next appt is the day before thanksgiving for the NT US. I told my office I had to be seen before thanksgiving bc DH wants to announce to his family that weekend and I need confirmation things are still ok before then. 4. I had book club at my house last night and I was so tired and just wanted everyone to go home lol. Pretended to drink a mixed drink in my tervis the whole night, wonder if I fooled anyone. 5. I think I'm doing better seeing the heartbeat yesterday, but still apprehensive. 6. My favorite part of the day is snuggling with DD in the morning! And afternoon snuggle too
@bkrahn that's frustrating that you haven't been able to have an appt yet I hope they call you back and get you scheduled soon so you can have a little relief.
We saw that heartbeat last Thursday, 8 wks. Neither of our losses made it that far. So everyday since then is like a new milestone.
Any appointments coming up?
Next OB apt next wed. I'll be a day short of 10wks, so begging for the Doppler.
Rants/Raves/Questions? I want to rant on how I feel. I shouldn't complain cause since wk 6 it's been so much easier then I've heard other people are. But I'm at a loss on what to eat. I'm losing my appetite for even the last few things I had going for me. I don't feel nauseated, but gross & don't want to put anything in my mouth.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? see my rant lol. otherwise, I'm ok. I feel myself allowing myself to accept that maybe this will happen and be ok. Then there's that little voice in my head telling me to cool it... I've had friends still lose it after a HB. And genetic tests aren't done yet.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? DS is a given. And reality tv lol
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@bkrahn I totally get what you're saying. I had that same 'is this the norm for us?!' feeling at a point when I felt out with this pregnancy. Our past 2 were losses also. With none before DS. Hope times speeds up for you.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Any milestones you would like to mention? I'm so much further than I was with my loss. We have now told all our family and close friends, and I'm officially excited. At this point, I figure if I MC again, I will tell everyone we've told, and there will be more people in the world that much more sensitive re: MC (they all knew about our first, but I think if we had a second it would be more.......significant? for them).
Any appointments coming up? I had my first ultrasound today! So no other appointments until the week of Thanksgiving.
Rants/Raves/Questions? I was seriously exhausted today after giving blood. I'm only starting to feel normal 10 hours later.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I'm doing really well. I just feel like what will be will be, I can't control it, I can't stop it, I'm just a passenger on this roller coaster ride. And right now I'm excited.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? Tea. Sheet masks. Naps. Netflix. When I didn't have this wrist issue, Pilates. Ice cream. "Belly time" with DH (I told him yeaaaars ago, that "belly time" was important lol where we press our bare bellies together. So if I'm feeling bummed or he is, and we're, say, watching TV, I'll be like, OKAY BELLY TIME, and we'll both stand up, and lift our shirts up, and just sort of hug pressing bellies for a minute. It helps, I swear!)
Any milestones you would like to mention? Well I'm technically past my day that my pp stopped developing. But since it was an mmc... I will literally get no solace until I get out of this first trimester or an u/s.
Any appointments coming up? No
Rants/Raves/Questions?
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I'm finding this week super rough. I want to go get an u/s but don't want to have a repeat outcome. Ugh. So that's pretty un fantastic.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? Keeping myself busy. Doppler are the devil btw. I really need to just bury it until I get past 11 weeks.
@bkrahn I completely know what you are feeling. I literally refuse to go in to see anyone until week 13 or 14 because I really just don't think I can handle another ordeal alone again.
Any milestones you would like to mention? I haven’t been an anxious mess in about a week. Our follow up ultrasound is coming up on Monday though, so I’m sure it will ramp up again soon.
Any appointments coming up? Follow up ultrasound on Monday. Hoping things have progressed since the last one.
Rants/Raves/Questions? I’ve decided I need to pause my keto diet for the time being. I’m disappointed because I worked my butt off to lose 61lbs before getting pregnant and I was hoping to continue with the lifestyle during pregnancy. Not necessarily to lose weight but not eating carbs is what works for my body, but with low blood sugar issues, it’s not possible for now.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? For now I’m ok. I’m sure the closer we get to monday, the more anxious I’ll get.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? Seeing how happy ds is when dh gets home from work.
@bkrahn I'm sorry you're feeling so uneasy. Sending good vibes your way.
@katie121209 That's the same day my NT US is scheduled! Sigh.
@catlady1215 I'm sorry you're having so many food aversions. That sucks. What about bland, hot soups? I know that's usually the most appealing to me when my stomach is upset, but I don't know if that's the same for everyone. I'm thinking a light, clear vegetable broth with some noodles.
@Dashaina I know you're nervous about having a similar outcome, and I totally get that (and I also know that your situation is somewhat unique, and getting an ultrasound is more complicated), but the only counterpoint I'll make is that if it were me, I would want to know sooner than later if it was another MMC. It can take a really long time for your body to notice a MMC (if it ever does? I'm not really sure how that works without intervention), and I can't imagine thinking I was so much further along but really it hadn't progressed. I know at some point the doppler will be an option, but if the baby has a placenta placement that makes it nearly impossible to use the doppler, you're going to drive yourself nuts. I guess what I'm saying is, ultrasounds don't cause MMCs, and knowing bad news sooner won't make it worse. And everything is probably fine! Knowing will just get rid of that anxiety and stress. Just my two cents.
I am not past my loss point yet so nothing on that but seeing the little flicker on the ultrasound screen last week gave me extra hope.
Any appointments coming up?
Next week I have another scan and appointment.
Rants/Raves/Questions?
I feel so so tired and loopy and the nausea hit full blast last week. I started the diclegis and it’s really helping.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I don’t know how to put into words how I’m feeling. I wanted my last baby so bad that I feel like my brain won’t let me even want this baby because wanting it ended in a nightmare? I feel very very detached. It’s the weirdest feeling. No jumping for joy and excited screams. I just cry. Cry at the positive test. Cry at the scan. Cry when I tell my husband. I should be screaming with joy and I’m crying. I really feel like the joy is not here and I don’t know how to get it.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? The sun!
I just had my family history/educational appointment this morning, I have an ultrasound in two weeks.
Rants/Raves/Questions? Why does food that sounded so good one day always make me gag the next day? This is getting old. My fridge is filled with takeout boxes.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I’m doing pretty well, I was a little nervous over the weekend when my symptoms tapered way down. But the nausea is back with a vengeance, I’m ready for it to fade away again.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? Candles, Target, candles at Target.. @doxiemoxie212 DH and I do belly hugs too, it really does the trick!
@doxiemoxie212 I totally get what you are saying. I'm so back and forth on this entire ordeal. I might just have to bite the bullet and pack as if I'm going to have another bad news situation and then go. Because it would be worse if I went again totally unprepared for it. Idk. Ugh.. I'm such an internal mess right now. And you're totally right about the doppler thing...because I have no idea where the placenta is located or anything. The only difference I've noticed this time VS last time is I have symptoms. The last time I didn't. Not really..and I'm also not convinced that the symptoms mean anything. I'm just so uncertain about what to do. But ultimately you're right. I know they don't cause it and it would be worse to just prolong the not knowing when something will have to be done about it I think? I mean does the body eventually do something about it? What about many bazillion years ago when we didn't have D&C? As you can see I really don't want to go... Mostly it's because of the level of difficulty it is to get there. Grrr.... Thanks for reading.
@Dashaina I think all the time about how our bodies dealt with this stuff centuries ago! Like, wut. But then I remember, oh right, we died a lot sooner, and death due to pregnancy stuff was sooo much more common. And from what I understand, the situation with a MMC is that you often continue to have all the symptoms of pregnancy -- I don't want to create more panic or anxiety, I just think if it's possible for you to get a first trimester ultrasound, it'll put your mind at ease. Also, if something bad happens again, you might want that data sooner than later re: RPL testing. Obviously all your choice, and I hope you feel more at ease either way soon.
Any milestones you would like to mention? I'm past the point of my second loss (5w3d) but not past my first (7w5d)
Any appointments coming up? u/s on Friday. I can;t wait til Friday and yet I'm scared to death of getting bad news on Friday
Rants/Raves/Questions?I have book club at my house tomorrow night. I plan on serving beer and wine and I'll just make sure I get a dark coloured beer bottle and dump it out and fill it with water and drink from that all night
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I'm seriously a nervous wreck. I've pretty much convinced myself that this one will end in a loss as well, it;s just a matter of when. I have very few symptoms and I've also had some very faint spotting that comes and goes since Sunday. My OB said it can be normal but I feel chances are fairly good that it's a bad sign. I'm trying so hard to stay positive but it's not easy.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? My DH wakes me every morning with a nice long foot squeeze. I know I'm spoiled rotten and he's amazing for doing that, literally every week day.
@bkrahn and @Dashaina I'm sorry you ladies are having crappy weeks as well, PGAL is a horrible roller coaster
@tammy574 With my first loss, I was so excited and madly in love and then so quickly heartbroken. So then with my second loss, I didn't connect with the baby growing inside of me as I didn't want to let myself fall in love again because I thought it would break my heart more if I did end up mc'ing. When I lost the second one, I really regretted not connecting. And it turns out your heart breaks anyway. It's a weird mind game. So with my third pg, I've decided to try my hardest to connect once again. I've been talking to my belly and rubbing it and sending it so much love. I know that if the worst happens, my heart will break once again but right now I'm going to send as much love to that baby as I can
@40momma I am also sorry you're struggling too. It is such a freaking mind game this pregnancy thing. Grrr. @doxiemoxie212 it's moments like this where I wish I could just be back at our old home in the states near comfort and easy medical access. I honestly don't even know what testing stuff they offer/do here. Literally I have no idea about the pregnancy process here. I think perhaps I'll see about going in to the hospital next week. Idk. I'm like not stressing about it daily or anything.. But then all of a sudden it hits me and I'm just like my baby could be dead right now and how would I even know?? ...dammit.
@Dashaina yeah, your situation is definitely unique. Maybe there are more Panama-specific pregnancy sites online that have info? I have to imagine someone has posted something on Youtube lol. (Am I the only one who watches crazy birth videos on youtube?)
@40momma how funny we were both hosting book club this week lol. On a serious note though I hope Friday comes soon and you get excellent news @napqueen your username is me every day now lol!! Sorry about your nausea, our fridge is also packed with lots of random food that fits my current appetite. @tammy574 hugs to you
Apparently I'm not allowed to tag anyone. But -- I love the idea of belly time-- husband said not a chance! Haha. I have seen far too many crazy birth videos on YouTube. You can find anyyyyyyything!
How far along are you? 7+5
Any milestones you would like to mention? I am technically past my loss mark for both losses, but one was a MMC that went undetected until nearly 10 weeks. No relief in this department as of yet.
Any appointments coming up?
Another ultrasound next Wednesday. Praying for a nice strong heartbeat this time. At 6+2 the heartbeat was detected at 90, so not strong enough for my doctor to feel confident we were on the right track.
Rants/Raves/Questions?
How can one be starving AND on the brink of vomiting, at the very same moment?!?! Ugh. So annoying.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)?
I'm still a little numb, more than i thought I was. Just found out a good friend is due within a couple days of me & the absolute joy I felt when she told me she was expecting just kind of amplified my nerves and hesitation to be excited about a baby that might not be.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? Tea. Snuggling my girl. Sleeeeeeeeep. I am just exhausted lately.
@Dashaina before we had our first loss, I didn't even know missed miscarriages existed. And I think knowing that, and experiencing that, is really messing this pregnancy up for me. Because we found out at 12 weeks that I had lost it early on, and now that I'm drawing closer & closer to 12 weeks.. idk, it just scares me. The closer I get, the more anxiety & flashbacks I get. Plus I've been having loss nightmares, and those are awful.
Any milestones you would like to mention? My milestone is taking it day by day. It’s making me anxious Day by day cuz I had a MMC at 20 weeks... It still haunts me thinking of that 20 week appt to go find out the sex, only to hear absolute silence and see no movement in the US... so just waiting on this first US is scaring me quite a bit
Any appointments coming up? next week is my first one
Rants/Raves/Questions? I finally got over my sickness I had about 2 weeks ago!
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I was finally able to go back to my workout classes this week and although I’m a little scared to be working out, I feel better.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? it’s a love hate relationship, but the little bouts of sleepiness and the super sore boobs make me feel better. When I had my MMC I did notice some symptoms weren’t as noticeable, but figured it was the second trimester bit of relief...
DS: born Feb 2012 BFP #1 Aug '15. EDD 4/25/16, MMC Dec '15, D&E Dec '15 BFP #2 Sept '17 EDD 6/18/18 praying for our rainbow baby
- 5+3 - I had my pregnancy confirmed at the hospital on base (just a urine test) so I was able to schedule my first appt which is an ultrasound on Nov 15 - Nov 15 for ultrasound then I have to do a group appt on the 22nd. I really don’t know what that will entail but honestly I hate being around pregnant women who haven’t experienced a loss because that have that blissful ignorance that I will never have again. So I’m hoping I can sit in the back and not talk to anyone. - I’m finally getting over this cold I’ve had for like a week. I’ve been terrified something would happen to baby because of it so I’m glad it’s almost over - I’m doing ok. I say my mantras to myself every morning and I am trying to convince myself it’s ok to look at baby names and get excited. But I still have moments of anxiety and fear that I will face another loss. - GTKY- talking to my family makes my day better. I am currently living in England and they are all in the states so we can’t talk as much as I like.
Me: 27 DH: 27 Married 6/15/13 BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks ~In our hearts forever~ BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
@doxiemoxie212 and @bkrahn I woke up this morning and decided to call my driver to take me to where I go to take the bus to go to the hospital with the equipment to look at me (u/s). So I'm going today. I packed for worst case scenario and am praying for best case. I also didn't know about mmc so either until last time at 10wks and found out had lost at 8wk 2/3 days. I'll be 9wks tomorrow. So I am hoping to catch it early or be totally in the clear. It's totally messing with my mind.
Keep me in your thoughts today ladies. I'll post as soon as I am able.
I could tag and write to everyone on here, but it'd all be the same thing practically... cause this shit sucks! so so bad! I hate that theres so many of us on here dealing with this. sending hugs to everyone.
@dashaina thinking of you today and keeping everything crossed. I think its a good idea to just make the trip and see how its all going.
@doxiemoxie212 thanks for the suggestion! I was actually doing soup broth a few weeks ago. it gave me bad after tastes and I haven't wanted it since, grrrr. but I had DH pick up a quart of potato soup from a local place yesterday.. potatoes, the only thing sounding half way decent right now. tasted amazing, then I burped it up for an hour. I will be finishing it today though lol.
me:35 DH:34 DS: born oct 2012 TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16 BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17 BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18 fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@twelvetwosomeonenew@Dashaina@bkrahn I so understand all of your feelings. Do whatever you need to do to ease your minds. @twelvetwosomeonenew My first loss was a blighted ovum/mmc suspected at my first u/s a little after 7w, and confirmed at 8w. Before it happened to me I didn't know what a blighted ovum/mmc was. I was really angry with my body at first for getting my hopes up and not telling me something was wrong. However, after a couple weeks of grieving I decided to try to change my perception a little on the loss and my body. The fact that the pregnancy wasn't viable wasn't my fault, wasn't my body's fault, it was bad luck. I realized my body REALLY tried to hang on to a pregnancy that was not viable. I mean, really went the extra mile and hung onto an unhealthy pregnancy for three weeks past when the embryo stopped developing. I decided to be thankful for my body for trying so hard, so stubbornly, to protect that pregnancy. And I decided to believe that my body WILL hang on just as fiercely to a healthy pregnancy. I hope that is this pregnancy.
How far along are you? 5w1d
Any milestones you would like to mention? If we see anything more than an empty sac at our first appt, I will feel like that is a huge milestone to pass, even though my actual milestone won't be for a while longer. I am also past where I lost my second pregnancy, a CP.
Any appointments coming up? Next Friday, Nov. 3, will be our first u/s and I am hoping so hard to see good things. I am trying to visualize that little flicker.
Rants/Raves/Questions? Not really.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I had some rough days Sunday and Monday. I got another beta Monday and the numbers were still doubling. It helped a lot to know that.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? Couch cuddles with our puppers and DH, making dinner, drinking tea.
@Dashaina Welcome back! Seems like it's been awhile since you posted! I'm so glad you're going in today to get an u/s. FX everything is perfect and you get to see that beautiful heartbeat and can stop worrying so much!
It sounds like it's been a rough week for everyone around here. Can we all do a big creepy internet group hug? PGAL is awful. Like @profmcgonagall said, we don't have that blissful ignorance that we once had. It's so hard to be positive after these losses, but I feel like it's so important to be positive. And I know, easier said than done. I love that you @40momma give your baby love every day! What a great idea!
Hang in there ladies! Today, WE ARE PREGNANT! Let's embrace that and celebrate each day that we get to spend with these precious little babies.
How far along are you? 8+2
Any milestones you would like to mention? Our last loss was at 9 weeks, about a week after we heard the heartbeat, so I kind of feel like I will be on cloud 9 once we make it past that.
Any appointments coming up? November 9th
Rants/Raves/Questions? None at the moment
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I have been doing well. Symptoms come and go and I much rather they go, as weird as that sounds. I'm a baby and absolutely worthless when I don't feel well. After seeing the strong little heartbeat last week, I have been more calm and confident about this pregnancy. Still scared about the PPD and PPA part of things as I mentioned in a post yesterday but will be more proactive about things this time. And DH and I actually talked about some names yesterday with DD at supper so that was really fun!
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? I love getting home from work and being greeted by the kiddos and DH. Not much beats big smiles and hugs from everyone (most days I get one from DH but not all) as soon as you walk in the door.
BFP #1 October 2008 | m/c Thanksgiving weekend | November 2008 | 7 weeks 2 days BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
Testing on mom and dad for possible reasons all came back normal.
BFP #3 8/4/2009 | DD born 3/28/10 @ 38 weeks
BFP #4 5/13/11 | m/c 6/15/11 | 8 weeks 6 days
BFP #5 2/13/13 | CP 2/19/13 | 4 weeks
BFP #6 3/21/14 | Heard the HB on 4/16 | m/c 4/21/14 | 9 weeks
Testing results all returned normal and baby was a GIRL.
More testing on mom and dad for other issues all returned normal results. BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
"Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap & tell them about you, but since I didn't get the chance, would you please hold them on your lap & tell them about me?" All are welcome!
Aww ladies it seems like all of us are having a really bad anxiety week. FX for everyone- Hopefully we are all able to find heartbeats during all of our u/s and doppler tests. I wish I could say something that would be comforting- but unfortunately we all know that nothing really calms down the pgal brain. Keep doing whatever you need to get through the day.
How far along are you? 8w2d
Any milestones you would like to mention? We just got back from our first appointment. New doctor/ practice and I feel much better. I liked the doctor and didn't feel that any of my fears were being dismissed. We were able to see the little bean on the u/s and seeing that little flickering heart was comforting (if only for a brief moment). Unfortunately, our first pregnancy had an initial u/s at 8 weeks and before the week was over the heart stopped and it took us another 4 weeks to find out. My second pregnancy had u/s at 7 and 9 weeks (I had some bleeding) and both those ultrasounds looked find too- but at 10 weeks we lost that one too. Getting through the next month will be the hardest for me, but I'm not above lying to my doctor about some bleeding if it means I can get in for another u/s and see first hand that little heartbeat again.
Any appointments coming up? I have to schedule our NT scan & AMA testing along with the next dr appointment. I am going to call our health insurance tomorrow and confirm all of the testing she wants done is covered before I schedule. Hoping to have everything schedule for the week of Thanksgiving so I can go into the holiday with some confidence in telling my family.
Rants/Raves/Questions? I saw the heartbeat today. Really nothing beats that for a rave.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I covered my anxiety in my milestones
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? The pictures I get of DD throughout the day help make the day better. Also Ginger Ale helps with the nausea.
@bkrahn I too wish the first trimester would go by more quickly. I find that if you plan something fun to do on the weekends it really helps the week go by faster. @katie121209 Congrats on seeing the heartbeat! @catlady1215 When I was pregnant with my DD, my GP found the heartbeat with a doppler at ten weeks. So it's possible. As for food, I feel nauseated after I eat, but I have found that snacks or food that have no smell go down a lot easier. @doxiemoxie212 I'm so glad you are starting to feel excited about this pregnancy. I'm with you on telling family earlier, it's nice for them to be happy for you. @kbrown2385 FX everything goes well on Monday. Can you plan anything fun this weekend to keep you busy? @tammy574 The joy will come, just give yourself some time. The way you are feeling is completely normal and it's ok to feel that way. FX your next appointment goes really well! @40momma I really hope your US goes well tomorrow! @napqueen Hopefully your nausea fades away soon and you can start eating normally again. @twelvetwosomeonenew FX your US next Wednesday goes great! @profmcgonagall I miss that blissful ignorance too. @zamora_spin I am crossing all my fingers and toes that your US goes well next Friday! @Dashaina Sending you positive thoughts! @PatientlyWaiting10 It's great that you are feeling good about this pregnancy and talking about names. @jsl82 That's great that you saw the heartbeat! Could you ask your doctor to schedule more ultrasounds to help calm your anxiety?
AFM,
How far along are you? 5w4d
Any milestones you would like to mention? I passed the date of cp earlier this week. I still have 1.5 before passing my other one.
Any appointments coming up? I had betas checked yesterday and was waiting until I got the results before commenting. My hcg is doubling every 35 hours!! I'm really happy that number. Next appointment is on November 7th, and it's an ultrasound.
Rants/Raves/Questions? Nothing at the moment.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? I'm doing ok right now. When I was pregnant with a blighted ovum I was so sick at this point, but I didn't have any other symptoms. With this pregnancy, I have similar symptoms to when I was pregnant with my DD. So I'm trying to remain positive and take that as a good sign.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? Cuddles before bed with my DD, hot tea in the morning, and hitting all the green lights on my way to work.
@chloandcoco You rock at tagging everyone!! Thank you!!
BFP #1 October 2008 | m/c Thanksgiving weekend | November 2008 | 7 weeks 2 days BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
Testing on mom and dad for possible reasons all came back normal.
BFP #3 8/4/2009 | DD born 3/28/10 @ 38 weeks
BFP #4 5/13/11 | m/c 6/15/11 | 8 weeks 6 days
BFP #5 2/13/13 | CP 2/19/13 | 4 weeks
BFP #6 3/21/14 | Heard the HB on 4/16 | m/c 4/21/14 | 9 weeks
Testing results all returned normal and baby was a GIRL.
More testing on mom and dad for other issues all returned normal results. BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
"Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap & tell them about you, but since I didn't get the chance, would you please hold them on your lap & tell them about me?" All are welcome!
Any milestones you would like to mention? With both losses, betas had started dropping earlier than 8 weeks. So seeing baby on ultrasound past the 8wk mark felt great
Any appointments coming up? My first OB appt and 3rd ultrasound was on Monday, so now not again until 11/20
Rants/Raves/Questions? Something I have really been wondering about.. any other STM have a textbook healthy first pregnancy, and then go on to have progesterone deficiency in subsequent pregnancies? I was started on supplements less than a week after my BFP as it had already started to trend down. I’m now fairly certain my 2 losses were progesterone deficiency related too.
How are you doing (Dear diary posts welcome)? Over the weekend I had convinced myself that I wasn’t progressing, but ultrasound on Monday showed baby measuring 2 days ahead and HR 170s! What a big change from my 5w5d ultrasound with a HR of 92 and 8 days small. So I think I’ll be able to keep riding this wave of relief for another week or so, and then probably be straight up anxious until my 12 week appointment comes along.
GTKY: What are some small things that make your day better? DD (2) latest thing when I ask her a question is answering “You bet!” Not sure where this came from but it cracks me up every time!
@ChloandCoco the dr actually wants me to do quiet a few extra u/s but they are all later in the pregnancy. I have a doppler at home and should be able to start picking up a heartbeat next week (if not by week 10), so I'm sure I'll be using that daily. If I get really anxious I can call. She seems like the kind of doctor to try to squeeze me in to calm my nerves- but I'm hoping the doppler will do the trick. I'm also prefectly fine being annoying AF with multiple calls and straight up lying about bleeding if it gets me in the door when I'm freaking out.
Also, I got my BFP my 2nd week of work, so I don't want to have too many doctor appointments or announce my pregnancy yet. With DD I let me boss know early into the pregnancy because I was going to take any and every extra appointment I could get.
@lisa2589 That's great that baby was looking so good and measuring ahead!
I was not on progesterone with DD but was with DS and am again this time around. She was pretty much a perfect, textbook pregnancy (outside of a little spotting around 7 or 8 weeks). They did not check my progesterone with ANY of my previous pregnancies until I advocated for myself with DS. I don't know where my levels were with any of the losses or anything, even though with loss #5 I asked, but they didn't check it and my next appt was already too late because I had already lost our baby girl. I'm chalking DD up to being a complete miracle. With DS is started out good but then dropped 10 point within a few days, started supplement and it bumped back up and went on to have a healthy baby boy!
BFP #1 October 2008 | m/c Thanksgiving weekend | November 2008 | 7 weeks 2 days BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
Testing on mom and dad for possible reasons all came back normal.
BFP #3 8/4/2009 | DD born 3/28/10 @ 38 weeks
BFP #4 5/13/11 | m/c 6/15/11 | 8 weeks 6 days
BFP #5 2/13/13 | CP 2/19/13 | 4 weeks
BFP #6 3/21/14 | Heard the HB on 4/16 | m/c 4/21/14 | 9 weeks
Testing results all returned normal and baby was a GIRL.
More testing on mom and dad for other issues all returned normal results. BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
"Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap & tell them about you, but since I didn't get the chance, would you please hold them on your lap & tell them about me?" All are welcome!
@Dashaina Thinking about you girl!!! Hoping everything is going well!!
BFP #1 October 2008 | m/c Thanksgiving weekend | November 2008 | 7 weeks 2 days BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
Testing on mom and dad for possible reasons all came back normal.
BFP #3 8/4/2009 | DD born 3/28/10 @ 38 weeks
BFP #4 5/13/11 | m/c 6/15/11 | 8 weeks 6 days
BFP #5 2/13/13 | CP 2/19/13 | 4 weeks
BFP #6 3/21/14 | Heard the HB on 4/16 | m/c 4/21/14 | 9 weeks
Testing results all returned normal and baby was a GIRL.
More testing on mom and dad for other issues all returned normal results. BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
"Dear Lord, I would have loved to have held my babies on my lap & tell them about you, but since I didn't get the chance, would you please hold them on your lap & tell them about me?" All are welcome!
Re: pgal check in week of 10/25
My favourite part of the day is when DH comes home from work. Bath time with DD in the evening and just being together as a fam.
2. Had an us yesterday and saw a heartbeat
3. Next appt is the day before thanksgiving for the NT US. I told my office I had to be seen before thanksgiving bc DH wants to announce to his family that weekend and I need confirmation things are still ok before then.
4. I had book club at my house last night and I was so tired and just wanted everyone to go home lol. Pretended to drink a mixed drink in my tervis the whole night, wonder if I fooled anyone.
5. I think I'm doing better seeing the heartbeat yesterday, but still apprehensive.
6. My favorite part of the day is snuggling with DD in the morning! And afternoon snuggle too
@bkrahn that's frustrating that you haven't been able to have an appt yet I hope they call you back and get you scheduled soon so you can have a little relief.
I want to rant on how I feel. I shouldn't complain cause since wk 6 it's been so much easier then I've heard other people are. But I'm at a loss on what to eat. I'm losing my appetite for even the last few things I had going for me. I don't feel nauseated, but gross & don't want to put anything in my mouth.
see my rant lol. otherwise, I'm ok. I feel myself allowing myself to accept that maybe this will happen and be ok. Then there's that little voice in my head telling me to cool it... I've had friends still lose it after a HB. And genetic tests aren't done yet.
DS is a given. And reality tv lol
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@bkrahn I completely know what you are feeling. I literally refuse to go in to see anyone until week 13 or 14 because I really just don't think I can handle another ordeal alone again.
@katie121209 That's the same day my NT US is scheduled! Sigh.
@catlady1215 I'm sorry you're having so many food aversions. That sucks. What about bland, hot soups? I know that's usually the most appealing to me when my stomach is upset, but I don't know if that's the same for everyone. I'm thinking a light, clear vegetable broth with some noodles.
@Dashaina I know you're nervous about having a similar outcome, and I totally get that (and I also know that your situation is somewhat unique, and getting an ultrasound is more complicated), but the only counterpoint I'll make is that if it were me, I would want to know sooner than later if it was another MMC. It can take a really long time for your body to notice a MMC (if it ever does? I'm not really sure how that works without intervention), and I can't imagine thinking I was so much further along but really it hadn't progressed. I know at some point the doppler will be an option, but if the baby has a placenta placement that makes it nearly impossible to use the doppler, you're going to drive yourself nuts. I guess what I'm saying is, ultrasounds don't cause MMCs, and knowing bad news sooner won't make it worse. And everything is probably fine! Knowing will just get rid of that anxiety and stress. Just my two cents.
8 weeks and 3 days
Why does food that sounded so good one day always make me gag the next day? This is getting old. My fridge is filled with takeout boxes.
I’m doing pretty well, I was a little nervous over the weekend when my symptoms tapered way down. But the nausea is back with a vengeance, I’m ready for it to fade away again.
Candles, Target, candles at Target..
@doxiemoxie212 DH and I do belly hugs too, it really does the trick!
@bkrahn and @Dashaina I'm sorry you ladies are having crappy weeks as well, PGAL is a horrible roller coaster
@tammy574 With my first loss, I was so excited and madly in love and then so quickly heartbroken. So then with my second loss, I didn't connect with the baby growing inside of me as I didn't want to let myself fall in love again because I thought it would break my heart more if I did end up mc'ing. When I lost the second one, I really regretted not connecting. And it turns out your heart breaks anyway. It's a weird mind game. So with my third pg, I've decided to try my hardest to connect once again. I've been talking to my belly and rubbing it and sending it so much love. I know that if the worst happens, my heart will break once again but right now I'm going to send as much love to that baby as I can
@catlady1215 and @katie121209 Yay for seeing a heartbeat!!!!
@doxiemoxie212 it's moments like this where I wish I could just be back at our old home in the states near comfort and easy medical access. I honestly don't even know what testing stuff they offer/do here. Literally I have no idea about the pregnancy process here. I think perhaps I'll see about going in to the hospital next week. Idk. I'm like not stressing about it daily or anything.. But then all of a sudden it hits me and I'm just like my baby could be dead right now and how would I even know?? ...dammit.
@napqueen your username is me every day now lol!! Sorry about your nausea, our fridge is also packed with lots of random food that fits my current appetite.
@tammy574 hugs to you
But -- I love the idea of belly time-- husband said not a chance! Haha.
I have seen far too many crazy birth videos on YouTube. You can find anyyyyyyything!
I am technically past my loss mark for both losses, but one was a MMC that went undetected until nearly 10 weeks. No relief in this department as of yet.
Tea. Snuggling my girl. Sleeeeeeeeep. I am just exhausted lately.
DS: born Feb 2012
BFP #1 Aug '15. EDD 4/25/16, MMC Dec '15, D&E Dec '15
BFP #2 Sept '17 EDD 6/18/18
praying for our rainbow baby
- I had my pregnancy confirmed at the hospital on base (just a urine test) so I was able to schedule my first appt which is an ultrasound on Nov 15
- Nov 15 for ultrasound then I have to do a group appt on the 22nd. I really don’t know what that will entail but honestly I hate being around pregnant women who haven’t experienced a loss because that have that blissful ignorance that I will never have again. So I’m hoping I can sit in the back and not talk to anyone.
- I’m finally getting over this cold I’ve had for like a week. I’ve been terrified something would happen to baby because of it so I’m glad it’s almost over
- I’m doing ok. I say my mantras to myself every morning and I am trying to convince myself it’s ok to look at baby names and get excited. But I still have moments of anxiety and fear that I will face another loss.
- GTKY- talking to my family makes my day better. I am currently living in England and they are all in the states so we can’t talk as much as I like.
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
Keep me in your thoughts today ladies. I'll post as soon as I am able.
@dashaina thinking of you today and keeping everything crossed. I think its a good idea to just make the trip and see how its all going.
@doxiemoxie212 thanks for the suggestion! I was actually doing soup broth a few weeks ago. it gave me bad after tastes and I haven't wanted it since, grrrr. but I had DH pick up a quart of potato soup from a local place yesterday.. potatoes, the only thing sounding half way decent right now. tasted amazing, then I burped it up for an hour. I will be finishing it today though lol.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@twelvetwosomeonenew My first loss was a blighted ovum/mmc suspected at my first u/s a little after 7w, and confirmed at 8w. Before it happened to me I didn't know what a blighted ovum/mmc was. I was really angry with my body at first for getting my hopes up and not telling me something was wrong. However, after a couple weeks of grieving I decided to try to change my perception a little on the loss and my body. The fact that the pregnancy wasn't viable wasn't my fault, wasn't my body's fault, it was bad luck. I realized my body REALLY tried to hang on to a pregnancy that was not viable. I mean, really went the extra mile and hung onto an unhealthy pregnancy for three weeks past when the embryo stopped developing. I decided to be thankful for my body for trying so hard, so stubbornly, to protect that pregnancy. And I decided to believe that my body WILL hang on just as fiercely to a healthy pregnancy. I hope that is this pregnancy.
How far along are you? 5w1d
It sounds like it's been a rough week for everyone around here. Can we all do a big creepy internet group hug? PGAL is awful. Like @profmcgonagall said, we don't have that blissful ignorance that we once had. It's so hard to be positive after these losses, but I feel like it's so important to be positive. And I know, easier said than done. I love that you @40momma give your baby love every day! What a great idea!
Hang in there ladies! Today, WE ARE PREGNANT! Let's embrace that and celebrate each day that we get to spend with these precious little babies.
BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks
BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
All are welcome!
How far along are you?
8w2d
We just got back from our first appointment. New doctor/ practice and I feel much better. I liked the doctor and didn't feel that any of my fears were being dismissed. We were able to see the little bean on the u/s and seeing that little flickering heart was comforting (if only for a brief moment). Unfortunately, our first pregnancy had an initial u/s at 8 weeks and before the week was over the heart stopped and it took us another 4 weeks to find out. My second pregnancy had u/s at 7 and 9 weeks (I had some bleeding) and both those ultrasounds looked find too- but at 10 weeks we lost that one too. Getting through the next month will be the hardest for me, but I'm not above lying to my doctor about some bleeding if it means I can get in for another u/s and see first hand that little heartbeat again.
I have to schedule our NT scan & AMA testing along with the next dr appointment. I am going to call our health insurance tomorrow and confirm all of the testing she wants done is covered before I schedule. Hoping to have everything schedule for the week of Thanksgiving so I can go into the holiday with some confidence in telling my family.
I saw the heartbeat today. Really nothing beats that for a rave.
I covered my anxiety in my milestones
The pictures I get of DD throughout the day help make the day better. Also Ginger Ale helps with the nausea.
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
@katie121209 Congrats on seeing the heartbeat!
@catlady1215 When I was pregnant with my DD, my GP found the heartbeat with a doppler at ten weeks. So it's possible. As for food, I feel nauseated after I eat, but I have found that snacks or food that have no smell go down a lot easier.
@doxiemoxie212 I'm so glad you are starting to feel excited about this pregnancy. I'm with you on telling family earlier, it's nice for them to be happy for you.
@kbrown2385 FX everything goes well on Monday. Can you plan anything fun this weekend to keep you busy?
@tammy574 The joy will come, just give yourself some time. The way you are feeling is completely normal and it's ok to feel that way. FX your next appointment goes really well!
@40momma I really hope your US goes well tomorrow!
@napqueen Hopefully your nausea fades away soon and you can start eating normally again.
@twelvetwosomeonenew FX your US next Wednesday goes great!
@profmcgonagall I miss that blissful ignorance too.
@zamora_spin I am crossing all my fingers and toes that your US goes well next Friday!
@Dashaina Sending you positive thoughts!
@PatientlyWaiting10 It's great that you are feeling good about this pregnancy and talking about names.
@jsl82 That's great that you saw the heartbeat! Could you ask your doctor to schedule more ultrasounds to help calm your anxiety?
BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks
BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
All are welcome!
Ultrasound clinic FINALLY called and we scheduled my first ultrasound for nov 1 (9w1d).
I'm so nervous, I could puke.. and that's not ms talking..
Also, I got my BFP my 2nd week of work, so I don't want to have too many doctor appointments or announce my pregnancy yet. With DD I let me boss know early into the pregnancy because I was going to take any and every extra appointment I could get.
BFP#4- 9/26 edd 6/5/18
I was not on progesterone with DD but was with DS and am again this time around. She was pretty much a perfect, textbook pregnancy (outside of a little spotting around 7 or 8 weeks). They did not check my progesterone with ANY of my previous pregnancies until I advocated for myself with DS. I don't know where my levels were with any of the losses or anything, even though with loss #5 I asked, but they didn't check it and my next appt was already too late because I had already lost our baby girl. I'm chalking DD up to being a complete miracle. With DS is started out good but then dropped 10 point within a few days, started supplement and it bumped back up and went on to have a healthy baby boy!
BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks
BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
All are welcome!
@lisa2589 awesome news from your ultrasound! You must be breathing a little easier!
BFP #2 February 2009 | m/c March 2009 | 4 weeks 3 days
BFP #7 10/15 | DS born 6/4/16 @ 36 weeks
BFP #8 9/28/17 AHHH!!! | EDD 6/6/18
All are welcome!