Flame Free Friday Confession (FFFC) - 10/20

yogamamabear

.......andddddddd GO! 

krash_

I break a lot of the pregnancy "rules" I use my best judgement on what is safe for the lil' thing and try not to stress about it. I don't want to feel trapped in my body for the next 9 months. 

basemodel

I freaking hate that stupid tip line at restaurants where you wait in line to order at the counter, pay at the counter, get your own drink and silverware, seat yourself, handle your own refills/extra napkins, and bus your own table. WTF am I tipping you for? The ten steps between the kitchen and the table when someone else brings my food? And what's worse is that you're filling out the credit card receipt before you've even gotten your food or had any kind of service AND someone is right there watching you. I DON'T NEED THAT KIND OF GUILT IN MY LIFE. 

zamoraspin

I am probably the opposite of @krashke, I am glued to all the pregnancy rules and even some that are not really rules. I had a minor meltdown on Wednesday about an hour before my hair appt (which had been scheduled for seven weeks mind you). I usually have my roots touched up to cover grays and could not decide for the life of me whether I could accept the risk of the hair dye touching my skin, because every stinking article said "there's no evidence that hair dye causes harm, but maybe still don't do it, or get treatments that don't touch the skin, or use henna, or wait until after first tri". Jeeze. I even looked at the summary of a study comparing hairdressers to non-hairdressers which found no statistical difference between the babies born in the two groups. Despite all the evidence, those articles got to me, and I ended up only getting highlights, which my hair dresser thought was hella weird. I also want to say, I think people should make their own decisions about this stuff, and that I realize I am overly cautious. I read a book called Expecting Better at one point and it was great for breaking down the science and showing you how to make your own educated decisions on risk. 

Additional confession, I know two ladies IRL who are struggling with IF and who know we have had losses and testing and I don't want to tell them about my pregnancy this early. One of them is my hairdresser, which made my hair dye meltdown even worse because I didn't want to tell her why I was changing the routine I've had for six years. 

PatientlyWaiting10

I like lurking the other boards to read their UO and FFFC.    Although I find it hard to resist the urge to love-tits some of them.  I know I'm not the only one....or am I? 


ETA: GIF Fail

MoonOverGoldsboro

The last time I was pregnant, I ate soft cheese and smoked salmon, I used cleanser with salicylic acid, I drank an occasional half glass of beer, etc. All was well. I'm a bit more of a stickler about the "rules" in the first trimester, but after that, I find that surprisingly few of the traditional recommendations hold much weight, scientifically speaking. (Except for that whole cat litter thing, as discussed elsewhere. Scooping cat litter is definitely OFF LIMITS.  )

bkrahn

@MoonOverGoldsboro I'm the same way! First trimester I'm pretty careful of following the "rules," but afterwards I use my discretion. I was craving turkey sandwiches like a mad woman when I was pregnant with DD and the day I finally let myself eat one was pure heaven 

Miz_Liz

@PatientlyWaiting10 definitely.  And in lurking theirs I know that they all lurk ours too  

sandbar517

*lurking from May 18* 

PatientlyWaiting10

Hi Lurkers!  :P  

It did make me feel better when I read that the Gender Reveal thread from (May I think) was accidentally started in June because she was lurking.  LOL  

zamoraspin

@basemodel +1 on that tip line, everywhere I get lunch now has that stupid line, even if I'm just going to pick up my food at the counter. It's so annoying. In that context I just want them to price their food so that I don't have to worry about a tip. 
@MoonOverGoldsboro I hope I can feel relaxed enough in second tri to loosen up some, especially about stuff as dumb as hair dye. I eat soft cheese, including brie, it's just all pasteurized. I also don't think a little booze (like one serving every now and again) is in any way harmful and especially later in pregnancy could be beneficial to relax a little. In Europe it's very common to do. 
@PatientlyWaiting10 Same!

eggplantface

PatientlyWaiting10 said:

I like lurking the other boards to read their UO and FFFC.    Although I find it hard to resist the urge to love-tits some of them.  I know I'm not the only one....or am I?

*lurking from Feb18* I totally lurk too and love tit all over! Gotta spread the love!

MoonOverGoldsboro

@zamora_spin I bet you will feel better as you get further along. The first trimester feels very tenuous, and I think it can be scary. When we get to the second tri, we'll have a toast with our extremely moderate servings of alcohol!

buffalove1211

I DVR almost all the Housewives and a few other Bravo shows.... and I often let 2 year old DD watch Peppa Pig on the iPad so that I can catch up on my shows in peace.

kbrown2385

@buffalove1211 I use naptime to catch up lol

yogamamabear

@buffalove1211 i do the same. DVR Queen i get so excited about my line up while DS has tablet time its how i prepare for my next nap lol

RatParade

Guys.  My life is over.  I just sharted.  I've never sharted before.  And I'm at work.  I had to ditch my underwear in the feminine products bin in the bathroom and now I'm wearing my jeans commando.  I want to go home and never leave again.

Miz_Liz

@RatParade OMG that is hilarious.  Sorry to laugh at your misery, but seriously, thank you for sharing this with us!  P.S. - at least it was only a shart and not a full on s***!  Silver lining?

LaceyBee522

@RatParade I'm so sorry!! This has happened to me once in public (maybe another time at home...). I was much younger, just getting over a stomach flu. On our way to a friend's birthday we stopped to get tacos. I legit shat my pants en route to the club. Had to go through the security line to get to any type of bathroom and try to clean up in the public restroom. I share all this with you, so you know you are not alone. It is the worst and it is SO uncomfortable. 

MoonOverGoldsboro

@RatParade I am so sorry, but I am literally CACKLING in my office. I am sorry you are going through this, but also thank you for this gift, because I’m slogging through grading papers and really needed this laugh.

mimzgoy

@RatParade I am cracking up over here, I really needed a pick me up I think we get to a certain point in life as moms where we learn to laugh at things like this instead of freaking out. It's only funny because I would totally see this happening to me!  

RatParade

Haha I'm glad this never-to-be-mentioned incident could bring some joy

I feel like this will be me finally getting to leave work today

wabash15

Lurker from Dec***  we all lurk looking for some good drama and so far june has been a gem! 
@RatParade CONGRATS girl!! I'm glad to see you got your BFP! I hope this is one sticky bean. 

PatientlyWaiting10

@wabash15 Ha!  You got that right!  :P Hoping July comes in with a bigger bang than we did!  haha!!

sabby2

@RatParade I seriously just giggled uncontrollably at my desk.

I to lurk other boards and restrain myself from LT everything.  

As for drama, I seriously hope this board doesn't remain that way the whole time. Glad we can be of serve lurkers!

Miz_Liz

This is me looking at early ultrasounds (and some later ones):

llamamama14

@krashke @zamora_spin I hate the "There's absolutely  no evidence that _______ is harmful during pregnancy but to be safe, pregnant women should avoid it."  This logic could be applied to anything. I like the articles on the Pregnant Chicken blog about "is it safe." She's snarky and straightforward about the real risks and evidence of the pregnancy "no nos." Here's her article on hair dye: https://pregnantchicken.com/is-it-safe-to-dye-hair-while-pregnant/

llamamama14

My FFFC: I was POAS like a nutso this weekend after my faint early BFP. I was using the walmart .88 ones where you use a dropper. Today my 2 y.o. DS found a dropper with a few drops of pee still in it in the door of our car (why was it in the car? I think he may have put it there after finding in the bathroom trash is my best guess.) Anyways he says "mommy what's this?" He was sucking on it before I even had time to react. Noooooooo.

zamoraspin

@llamamama14 That an awesome resource! Yeah, the “oh it’s perfectly safe per science but also feel guilty if you do it” is so annoying.

LaceyBee522

@llamamama14


Edites bc screennames matter. 

bkrahn

@llamamama14 you are not alone! I left a pee stick on the bathroom counter on two seperate occasions (because apparently I don't learn my lesson after the first time) and caught DD sucking on them. They were the type where the tip turns bright pink after it's been saturated enough, so I guess I can't really blame her 

tepr14

Got back home late last night, dh is working the night shift, ds is asleep and I'm happily binging on Real Housewives. Letting dishes sit in the sink and laundry sit in the dryer and just enjoying some freaking silence.

FFFC: I enjoy reality tv.

=caenis=

I'm only 5-6 weeks along and still feel totally normal. But I milked it this morning for an extra hour of sleep, while my partner got up at the crack of dawn with our toddler. Sorrynotsorry.