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STM+ Check-in 9/20

maplemom18maplemom18 member
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Someone else can feel free to start this any Wednesday, as I can really never log on until mid-afternoon (nap time!).

How far along are you? 

How old are your other kids?

Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?

Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
 
GTKY: TV show you're most looking forward to this fall?
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  • holli0801holli0801 member
    edited September 2017

    How far along are you? 
    Almost 5 weeks

    How old are your other kids? 
    DS turned two in August 

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
    i would love advice! (Sorry for the novel)

     I am constantly doubting myself on what is normal terrible-2 behavior and what is more... my son has been having some fits lately (mostly when I'm trying to clean up dinner, do dishes or something) where he pulls on my shirt and bites me. No redirection will help. Even if I stop what I'm doing to give him attention he just keeps going. The only thing that stops it is if I give him screen time (I hate using this too much) or taking him to his room to get ready for bed. 
    Generally he is a great kid. No problems with peers. Just takes out whatever this is on me. I stay home part time and work part time when he is at a toddler program... this happens mostly when DH isn't home (he works a lot). But is never directed at DH or anyone else. 
    im frustrated and I'm not sure what to do. When I ask his teacher or doctor for advice, I get a lot of surprise... "he is a great kid, you're doing great." Thanks? But I cannot handle the stress of this every night. I'm afraid giving a new baby attention will make it even worse... Any advice is appreciated... 

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
    thrilled to be KU after 9 months of trying. Nervous bc it's so easy. Just hoping for the best!!
     
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  • roomsuroomsu member
    How far along are you? 
    6w3d
    How old are your other kids? 
    2 boys - 4 and 2
    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
    My boys are getting so independent. I worry about how demanding a new baby will be. I want to make sure to find time to spend with each of them even if they don't "need" me. 
    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM:
    My 4 year is begging for a baby sister. I'm really excited to tell them. Also, I just can't wait to see them all form bonds!!
    GTKY: TV show you're most looking forward to this fall?
    We mostly watch Netflix. We are watching Shameless right now. I love a show that can still shock me!!

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  • cups4cups4 member
    How far along are you? 7 weeks 6 days

    How old are your other kids? 2.5 DS 

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now? he's a pretty chill kid. More independent lately which is appreciated. Struggling with getting him to eat a good meal at dinner and bedtime has been not great. I miss the 1 year olf days when he would fall asleep at bedtime without a fuss.

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: we have been asking him if he wants a baby and he always answers no lol. However, he is so sweet to the baby at daycare I know he will be excited once he gets it. Also, fully expecting a hard transition later on when baby is born,  but who isn't with a toddler?
     
    GTKY: TV show you're most looking forward to this fall? Brooklyn 99!!
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  • yesthisiskim0401yesthisiskim0401 member
    @JNCPro3130 my DH is a cop, so his schedule is never consistent so I feel you completely. DH had to go back to work the night we brought DD2 home from the hospital because they cannot seem to function without him. It's made me a super badass mom, though. Definitely find friends you can lean on when you need help. 

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  • holli0801holli0801 member
    @yesthisiskim0401 thanks for the reply. I definitely think there is a frustration with lack of language! I did bring it up at the ped but they said he is normal for his age and that boys often have their language develop later. They just suggest we keep reading lots and explain verbally everything we do. i totally agree with going with intuition, I just really can't decide if it's something or nothing! I go back and forth.. and no one else really sees it so it's hard to get someone to understand and back me. But if it doesn't improve much soon I will definitely ask for a referral to develop language!
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  • maplemom18maplemom18 member
    edited September 2017
    @hollieileen Have you tried time-outs? We started doing them early (maybe 18 months or so), but they've gotten more effective the older my DD gets (2.5 now).
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  • mommascircus3mommascircus3 member
    edited September 2017
    How far along are you? 
    7 weeks 3 days

    How old are your other kids? 
    I have a daughter who will be 4 in December and a 13 month old daughter.

    Current challenges/concerns about being a STM+ or questions about things your children are going through now?
    I’m nervous to have 3 kids in general. I don’t have much extra help from family and my husband works 12+ hours a day so when if comes to things like doctors appointments I have to bring them along and I don’t know how I’m gonna do that with 3 kids under 4 

    Current joys/successes/or happy thoughts about being a STM: 
    im happy that my kids will all be close in age 
     
    GTKY: TV show you're most looking forward to this fall?
    greys anatomy! 

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  • JNCPro3130JNCPro3130 member
    @yesthisiskim0401, oh my goodness! The day you got home from the hospital?! That's crazy! You are a badass mom! I will say that DS is getting more independent and at a stage where he wants to be a helper. I'm going to use that to my advantage!

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  • holli0801holli0801 member
    @maplemom18 yes we have done time outs, and they are semi effective when my husband is home to do them. But if I put him in time out he just keeps taking it out on me. I have to sit with him bc otherwise he just gets up and leaves. 

    @momo214 I'm really hoping it's just a phase! It's so frustrating! When did your daughter grow out of it?
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  • emilybmomtobeof3emilybmomtobeof3 member
    @JenniatONU I had that with my son since my husband works evenings. It was so easy to give in especially when I am exhausted. We got him a new bed and then really enforced that he sleep there. We also accept that that may mean someone sitting in his room until he falls asleep. Not as police, but because he likes the company.
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  • Ceridwen77Ceridwen77 member
    edited September 2017
     @mommabmb I hear you on the new car thing. I love my car and don't want to drive something bigger! Not sure how we're going to make it work though  :s 
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  • Poppy0419Poppy0419 member
    @mommabmb & @Ceridwen77 I feel y'all on the new car deal. I drive a big SUV and now I'm going to have to move to Suburban because of what I do and traveling home. I'm not looking forward to driving a bus  :#


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  • arteduc8arteduc8 member
    Ceridwen77 said:
     @mommabmb I hear you on the new car thing. I love my car and don't want to drive something bigger! Not sure how we're going to make it work though  :s 
    Ditto! We bought an outback when I was pregnant with our first. It will easily fit another car seat, but I'm worried about our dog when we all need to go somewhere and have the stroller in the back. Eek! 
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