Looking for some advice: Recently, both of my children's grandmothers have moved into town. Before this spring, they were plane-flights away. We visited, they visited, always staying in each others' homes. Now that they are here, they are up the road, in their own places.
Both have started to ask about having kids stay over. I have a 2.5-year-old and a 7-month old. It seems the invitations have only been extended to the older child (for now). I've deferred mostly, saying the kids are not old enough, not ready, etc. But the grandmas keep pressing. I know their requests arise from their love for my kids, and I am so grateful they are here.
Is 2.5 too young? I can say I don't think my oldest is ready, but I am afraid my judgment is clouded by my own, maybe irrational, fear. I trust both grandmas and know they would care for kids. I have fond memories of staying with my grandparents, but not until I was 4 or so.
Am I being overly cautious? When did you/would you start to allow sleep-aways at Grandma's house? What cues did you rely on to determine when a kid was ready?
Re: Sleepovers with Grandma(s)
I'm super jealous of this arrangement.
My vote is that unless you think the grandparents in question are incapable of caring for your children at all, you should take advantage of their offer and try it, at least a few times.
My oldest stayed with my MIL when I was having #2. He was 3 at the time. I was comfortable with that.
Alternatively, start with a long day and work your way up to over night's.
My parents didn't want him to stay over on his own until he was sleeping through the night regularly.
You might be surprised at just how awesome it is to have your older child away for one night - and they might LOVE it.
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