Ugh....I'm back TW-loss mentioned . UPDATE-TW TW TW

justsuzie

Sadly I'm back. MC this weekend...actually still riding it out. I don't feel like posting on the loss board because I know you ladies much better. I'm gonna lurk for a while without posting until my body gets back to normal but I have a quick rant....

I told my my doctor on a Thursday that I felt like things were off and the pg was over and she shrugged it off and wouldn't give me a scan or betas. So I waited in limbo just waiting for this to happen and then it does at the most inconvenient (not like it's ever convenient) time in a fucking dog park. Long story short, I know there's nothing they could do for me if I did get the scan but they made me feel like I was an idiot and like I was wasting their time. Just frustrated. 

We are off to an RE after I recover from the MC and hopefully onto IVF because this is our third documented loss in less than a year. Frustrating but I know it means there was something wrong with the baby and my body was doing its job. 

I know this post is more for the loss board but you ladies have become my sad little loss family. 

UPDATE:

SOOOOOO Even with massive bleeding and clots there was a HB at 7 weeks.  We ditched my OB because she had told me over the phone that I was miscarrying and there was nothing I could do about it and she would check I passed everything on that Monday....We are still being cautious because I am still having spotting an bleeding everyday. Looks like I'll be one of those lucky ladies who gets to stress throughout the pg because of constant bleeding, fun.   I am sorry if I offended anyone (especially new posters who don't know my history.) I just didn't want to post and disappear.  I'm still lurking all you ladies and hoping for some bfps.  Thanks for the support and understanding, and again sorry if my post upset anyone. 

mrsjcrane

@justsuzie I'm so sorry to hear that. I was really hopeful for you (hopefully lurking that is lol). My heart literally sank when I read this post. 

jchpg

@justsuzie NO! I'm sooo sooo so sorry to hear this news. And I hate to hear that your doctors office just blew you off. You are so strong and will get through this- and we're here for you! 

I really am so sad for you right now. I'm sending so many positive thoughts your way right now. Take good care of yourself. 

sprkls8506

@justsuzie I am so sorry to hear this. Sending hugs your way. 

amberruka

Aw Jesus @justsuzie I'm so, so sorry....

Mack2342

NOOOOO @justsuzie. I'm so sorry.  I really was hopeful for you.  So many hugs to you.  We are here for you

vlagrl29

You are the 1 person I would like to stay away from the board @justsuzie

i agree about going to a RE. A specialist at this point would be best for you rather than an OB. If we move towards clomid in January I'll do it with an RE for monitoring.

take care and take it easy

vlagrl29

Honestly I'd look into a better OB when you get to that point again. That's just shady she wouldn't do betas.

justsuzie

Thanks ladies, just watching bad horror movies and eating junk food and getting hugs from the dogs.

Mack2342

@justsuzie I'm glad you are going to RE.  I hope they can come up with plan.  I'm just sick for you.  I hate that you are back here.  

shri929

@justsuzie I'm so sad to see you back here. After two other losses I would expect more of my dr to respond if I said I felt like something was off. 

aga31

@justsuzie I am so extremely sorry for your loss, hopefully you will find a great RE quickly and get a sticky baby in no time! Take care of yourself 

MooFish2364

@justsuzie I'm just devastated for you. I'm so sorry that you have to go through this again. My heart just sunk when I saw your name on a post. 

ELeighMay

@justsuzie I'm so sorry you're back.  I was just thinking about you the other day. *hugs*

zamoraspin

@justsuzie I am so sorry for your loss. I am also sorry that your dr didn't take you seriously. You are absolutely right, you know your body best. Take care of yourself and don't be afraid to ask for what you need.

dpjennifer

No no no no no!!!!   I hope the re can help you! Totally sucks.

robyn2201

Nooo! I'm so sorry!! I think you are right about seeing an RE and I can't believe your OB wasn't concerned. ::hugs::

fishee333

I'm so sorry. How frustrating your OB didn't listen to you. 

cseley321

@justsuzie sorry for your loss, but going to see a RE may be the best option. I have similar issues (multiple unexplained early loss) and my RE has been awesome at monitoring and keeping everything in check. 

mackorori

@justsuzie I'm sorry to hear about this, take care of yourself. Hopefully you have good luck with the RE.

GeekBeagle

So sorry for your loss, @justsuzie. Sending hugs!

BornReady

@justsuzie i'm so sorry you are going through this again. My RE was the smartest, most compassionate doctor I have ever encountered and I hope you have the same experience. I'll be thinking of you and hope you get your rainbow baby soon. 

40momma

@justsuzie my heart breaks with this news. I am so sorry you are going through this again. 

tosh24

Oh, I am so sorry I think it's a great idea that you will be seeing an RE. FX that you get your take home baby soon. 

ladipale

NOOOO! So sorry @justsuzie

Knottie1452742068

@justsuzie This sucks! I'm so sorry that you're going through this again. And that your doc didn't take your concerns seriously. I hope you find an amazing RE who is supportive, understanding, and does everything humanly possible to get you your take home baby! *hugs*

msstephanielynn

@justsuzie My heart sunk when I saw your name in the original poster. I'm so sorry that you're going through this again. Hopeful for you that the RE will find a quick fix for you 

dragonette505

@justsuzie so sorry! 

katie121209

@justsuzie so sorry for your loss  

tosh24

Amazing update! FX that your little bean hangs in there! A similar thing happened to me - I bled and spotted for weeks and was told I had a blighted ovum and was referred to the early pregnancy loss clinic at the hospital because I wasn't passing the pregnancy on my own. Got to the hospital for a D&C and they did an ultrasound right before and found a heartbeat. Unfortunately for me, my SCH just kept growing and did end up taking the baby, but I have a friend who bled for her entire pregnancy (like filling multiple pads per hour and ended up in the ER) who went on to have a healthy little girl. I don't know what your doctor has told you in terms of resting, but my doctor never told me to modify anything or go on pelvic rest and I have lots of guilt about being the cause of the growing SCH. Another mom on my June 17 BMB had a SCH and she was told to essentially go on bedrest and everything turned out OK for her. If a SCH is your diagnosis, I would maybe talk to your doctor about modifying your activity level. Good luck to you!!!!

MooFish2364

What?! That is such great news!!! FX for a sticky bean! I'm so happy that you got to hear a heartbeat. 

ELeighMay

@justsuzie OMG! That's awesome news!! What a huge relief, especially hearing the HB. I would switch OB's too, geez. Good luck and keep us updated.

aga31

upset anyone??!!! come on, I am so happy for you! This is pretty amazing story, hopefully you will stop bleeding soon and you will have uneventful pregnancy!

vlagrl29

wow @justsuzie !!!  such a relief although I'm sure it's still stressful with the bleeding.  I sure do hope it stops for you and doesn't come back.  I would have thought I was miscarrying too so don't worry about offending anyone.  And I'm super glad you are switching OBs.

I would assume you would have to be on pelvic rest until bleeding stops.  When I started spotting with my loss that's what they told me to do.

sprkls8506

@justsuzie that is awesome news!!! Best wishes for the rest of ur pregnancy! 

katie121209

@justsuzie wonderful news!! Best wishes!! 

Mack2342

I don't see your update but I did read it on grad board.  So excited for you!

robyn2201

That is great news about a HB! Praying the bleeding stops as I'm sure it is very stressful!

40momma

@justsuzie that's the most amazing news!!!! What a roller coaster of a ride. 

justsuzie

Thanks ladies.  It means a lot. Taking it day-by-day.

amberruka

That's wonderful @justsuzie. Hang in there girl!