CS/Q: I am an emotional mess right now. I felt some cramping and I'm sure I'm seconds away from AF. Convinced once again this was the month. I have a phone appt with my doctor next Tuesday (their recommendation since it hasn't been a year) I have so many questions but also don't know what to ask. WWYD/ask?
GTKY: If you could be any fictional character (book, movie, or TV) who would you want to be and why?
Dani from GOT. She somehow has amazing hair and skin even in those conditions. Plus, mother of dragons
@jamiem522 I'm sorry, it is a really frustrating process at times.
Real talk though, there is a reason drs tell us to have 12 months of well-timed BD (or 6 months if over 35) and that's because the vast majority of couples will achieve pregnancy within that time frame without intervention.
Unless there are known issues, I wouldn't contact a dr sooner than recommended. Known issues (to my mind) include things like: repeated an-O cycles/not O'ing at all; history of injuries to reproductive areas; known genetic issues; multiple losses, etc. Fertility related testing is expensive (frequently not fully covered by insurance) and time consuming. At this point, just give it time.
@jamiem522 your doctor is having you come in because you've been trying for 5 cycles? If that's the case then my only question to my doctor would be why? Do you have a preexisting issue that has you concerned? It can take up to 12 months for a healthy couple to conceive. It's perfectly normal.
Me: 31 Husby: 36 Married May 2014 TTC # 2 Since December 2021 Baby girl W born 2/2021 Our journey so far... (tw loss & infertility)
Diagnosis: Poor Egg Quality Working with an RE since March 2016 2 failed TI cycles 3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017 23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17 BFP 4.21.17 MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey: 12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted! 5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house! 1.1.20 Homestudy process started 3.14.20 First social worker visit 5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test! Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
@zamora_spin@tamalahoops Thanks for the advice ladies. I know a year is protocol and being patient is important.
Also, how to I make things pop up as SPOILER so people don't have to read if they would like to skip?
******TW******* Pregnancy mentioned
My DS is 22 MO and still BF pretty often, I'm concerned that my progesterone is low. We have TTC since AF came back. I have been charting CM/CP recently OPK and will temp this month. I was very lucky to only have 3 months of TTC before BFP with my DS. So while there is no medical condition, I would like to be aware of where my Progesterone levels are while I'm nursing and if that would be a concern. AF did come today so this is now cycle 6.
*lurking* @jamiem522 I'm not a doctor but if your progesterone levels are low due to BF what do you think your doctor is going to do? It was already mentioned that progesterone supplements are not recommended for women still BF. Quite honestly, I feel like your doctor will most likely tell you to cut down your BF sessions
Also, I know TTC can be hard and I understand wanting to be proactive but as others above have mentioned, there's a reason they suggest waiting a full year before seeing a doctor for possible fertility issues and quite honestly I wouldn't start freaking out until you're a bit closer to that mark.
ETA for future reference, the spoiler button is here and when you use it, please be sure to mention why it's spoilered/TW'd
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Me: 38 DH: 38 Married 6/11/16 TTC Since 6/2016 12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal 3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve 8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC 7/2018 Clomid+IUI 11/2018 Letrozole+TI 12/2018 Letrozole+IUI 2/2019 NTNP 5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
@lulu1180 Thank you for showing me how to add that!
I appreciate all of your advice. IMO speaking with my DR about TTC and concerns I have after 6 cycles isn't something wrong to do- really at any point. I am lucky to work really hard for good insurance and I want to use whatever resource I can if I have questions. Maybe because AF is here but I'm feeling really crappy about this but I'm sure I'm not alone. I just want to get as much information I can and keep trying until that BFP.
@jamiem522 I think you're missing the point. The first thing any doctor is going to tell you to do is stop breastfeeding. You cannot undergo any type of fertility treatment while breastfeeding, and many hormonal tests that they run to check for fertility issues will be out of whack because of the breastfeeding. If you aren't ready to stop breastfeeding, then there's really no point.
I know women here on TB with documented IF diagnoses who TFAS and their doctors said they had to stop BFing first. That's a documented diagnosis and they still had to stop BFing! Breastfeeding does affect many women's ability to get pregnant. Of course you can use any resource you want, but should you if they're just going to stay stop BFing? What's the point?
@jamiem522. With all due respect, you're being a TW.
<div class=" Spoiler">You have a kid. Who is almost TWO.
Want to conceive a sibling? Others have already advised you of the same: Stop. Breastfeeding. ??!?!??!?? and see if that helps you conceive! There is literally zero reason to think anything is preventing you from getting KU - on your specific timeline - except that you want to get pregnant while also nursing. Get over it. Either make a decision to stop breastfeeding in order to conceive, or make a decision to wait for a sibling until you feel your BF journey has run its course. It's that simple.</div> To insist on having your cake and eating it, too, in this case, is absurd. Absurd, I say!
There are many of us who have struggled to conceive, so to insist that you are somehow entitled to special treatment by a medical professional when there is literally nothing wrong with you or your husband is just.... I can't. <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/r2/n5od04cstkf0.gif" alt="">
I am lucky to work really hard for good insurance and I want to use whatever resource I can if I have questions
This statement really rubbed me the wrong way. The implication that people who don't have good insurance must not work hard enough is quite insulting and frankly just not true.
<blockquote class="Quote"> <div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/canucklehead123">canucklehead123</a> said:</div> <div class="QuoteText">What @BusinessWife said... also, <div class="Quote">I am lucky to work really hard for good insurance and I want to use whatever resource I can if I have questions</div>This statement really rubbed me the wrong way. The implication that people who don't have good insurance must not work hard enough is quite insulting and frankly just not true.</div> </blockquote> This, too. Lots of people work really hard at jobs they may or may not enjoy, for insurance plans that offer little to no infertility coverage. I am the first to admit, I have unicorn IVF coverage because, when I found out that was the only way we'd have a shot of meeting our biological children this side the stars, I got resourceful. And I was incredibly LUCKY enough to walk right into a position that orffered the coverage we needed. It's that simple. But my job is not particularly difficult, and I've only been there a few months. I fully admit I am no more deserving than anyone else, and it breaks my heart to watch people I care about continue to struggle OOP for expensive testing and treatment. To say flat out that you have good insurance because you work hard for it is arrogant as hell. You may work hard, but you're also *lucky* enough to work for a company that offers good coverage. Please don't get it twisted.
Insurance...ugh...I can see an endocrinologist but can't see a reproductive endocrinologist because it's "reproductive"....Whaaa? Insurance tends to hate our uterus
Edit because I wanted to add that I just noticed this was yesterday's tww and not today's...My bad
I hate to harp on you @jamiem522 because the other ladies have done a good job of explaining. But why are you convinced that your progesterone is low? You're not temping, you don't seem to have any unexplained spotting, your lp length looks really good. I think you should be honest with yourself and admit that your being impatient. Impatience =/= infertility.
And to add, I have worked my ass off at a job and a career that I love. But that doesn't change me insurance...? I'm not sure where that comment came from in your brain but it came off as saying those of us that don't have IF coverage aren't working hard enough for it. The tests might not be expensive to you personally, but the overall cost of unnecessary tests and appointments on the healthcare system as a whole is an ongoing issue.
Me: 31 Husby: 36 Married May 2014 TTC # 2 Since December 2021 Baby girl W born 2/2021 Our journey so far... (tw loss & infertility)
Diagnosis: Poor Egg Quality Working with an RE since March 2016 2 failed TI cycles 3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017 23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17 BFP 4.21.17 MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey: 12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted! 5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house! 1.1.20 Homestudy process started 3.14.20 First social worker visit 5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test! Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
Check out TCOYF...I think she mentions a but about breastfeeding and achieving pregnancy. Also check out kellymom.com It's a highly regarded breastfeeding site that may have info about weaning and hormones and such.
Night times feeds are the most important ones to wean from first because they stimulate prolactin more than any other time. If you have an early morning session, that one should be weaned next for the same reason, or at least shorten it gradually.
Weaning will definitely be their first suggestion as prolactin can definitely screw with ovulation. If you want to discuss further, my inbox is always open
My apologies for the random drop in ladies. I am TTGP and TTCAL. I stop in the TWW room on occasion to try and restore hope to myself when those BFP's come along. Seeing the announcement that someone finally had a great ending to a hard road not only brightens my day, but it reminds me that there are so many deserving women out there that have been waiting for that double line to appear and it's finally arrived for them.
With that being said jamiem522, you are so out of line to show up and whine that you are too impatient to wait for a BFP with absolutely nothing wrong with you, other than your impatience. So many of these women have been through hell TTC. I'm thrilled you have great insurance. I work my a$$ off at my professional job, which so happens to offer exactly zero benefits. My DH and I have been TTC for going on 20 months with only a loss to show for it. He suffers from IF issues and there is exactly ZERO that we can do about it because the cost for any sort of IF treatments that might help him are so astronomical it's not an option. So because you have the option of insurance coverage for treatment you're more deserving than we are? Are you telling me that because you happen to have a job that allows you to take the time from a medical provider where they could actually be assisting someone who NEEDS that appointment time that you should, simply "because you can"? We have to wait WEEKS to get in with medical providers here just to get test results. Sometimes for tests that are completed same day because they're so busy. People like you are taking the time away that I legitimately need and have to pay out of pocket for. Appointments that sometimes leave my DH and I in tears knowing that we can't just be patient a couple more months and it'll likely work out. Stop BFing. Stop whining. Stop with the impatience. You have NO IDEA how lucky you are.
I am lucky to work really hard for good insurance and I want to use whatever resource I can if I have questions
This statement really rubbed me the wrong way. The implication that people who don't have good insurance must not work hard enough is quite insulting and frankly just not true.
Of everything that you said and all of the replies, the fact that you have good insurance because you work hard pisses me off. You are spoiled, arrogant, and entitled. You know what you need to be doing to increase your chances of getting KU AGAIN because you mentioned starting temping and stopping BF, but you're just upset because this time it's taking longer this time. Boo-freaking-hoo.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
*lurking* @jamiem522 I'm not a doctor but if your progesterone levels are low due to BF what do you think your doctor is going to do? It was already mentioned that progesterone supplements are not recommended for women still BF. Quite honestly, I feel like your doctor will most likely tell you to cut down your BF sessions
Also, I know TTC can be hard and I understand wanting to be proactive but as others above have mentioned, there's a reason they suggest waiting a full year before seeing a doctor for possible fertility issues and quite honestly I wouldn't start freaking out until you're a bit closer to that mark.
ETA for future reference, the spoiler button is here and when you use it, please be sure to mention why it's spoilered/TW'd
First of all, I needed to take a break from all things media for a few days so sorry to not reply. I'm sorry if the insurance comment came off rude, but that's the shitty thing about internet. I meant that we have searched for work that allows good coverage PERIOD, not just if, for our family because we couldn't afford it out of pocket. I didn't think speaking to by OB means that I was looking for IF treatment. I wanted to have a conversation about TTC and BF/LP. Just because my child is almost TWO doesn't mean I need to stop. Also, plenty of woman get BFP while BF and then tandem nurse. I know these boards are used for a lot of compare/contrast/sharing stuggles and everyone is here for help and support, but trying to one up someone of their struggle doesn't help anyone, it hurts them. I'm sorry for anyone that has been TTC or had loss but that doesn't mean that my personal struggles aren't a lot for ME to handle. Yes, I am being impatient after 5 months but I'm concerned and scared and anxious. My OP was just if anyone had recs on questions and really the response was less what I had hoped and I personally felted attacked, maybe internet or just the memes? Hmm.. This doesn't really feel like my crew after all because I really don't like to attack people or harp on someone that has said they are emotional and upset. I do wish you all the best and hope you all move on to BMB soon!
First of all, I needed to take a break from all things media for a few days so sorry to not reply. I'm sorry if the insurance comment came off rude, but that's the shitty thing about internet. I meant that we have searched for work that allows good coverage PERIOD, not just if, for our family because we couldn't afford it out of pocket. I didn't think speaking to by OB means that I was looking for IF treatment. I wanted to have a conversation about TTC and BF/LP. Just because my child is almost TWO doesn't mean I need to stop. Also, plenty of woman get BFP while BF and then tandem nurse. I know these boards are used for a lot of compare/contrast/sharing stuggles and everyone is here for help and support, but trying to one up someone of their struggle doesn't help anyone, it hurts them. I'm sorry for anyone that has been TTC or had loss but that doesn't mean that my personal struggles aren't a lot for ME to handle. Yes, I am being impatient after 5 months but I'm concerned and scared and anxious. My OP was just if anyone had recs on questions and really the response was less what I had hoped and I personally felted attacked, maybe internet or just the memes? Hmm.. This doesn't really feel like my crew after all because I really don't like to attack people or harp on someone that has said they are emotional and upset. I do wish you all the best and hope you all move on to BMB soon!
QFP
Nobody minimized your struggle, but rather tried to put your struggle into perspective. And just because some women can get a BFP while BF-ing doesn't mean that YOU can. And I'm not attacking you, but trying to put it in perspective. No one is saying your child is too old to BF, but you can't be simultaneously be impatient about getting KU while refusing to to stop BF. That's called having your cake and eating it, too.
Me: 29 | DH: 29
Married 12/2016 DSS born 01/2016 TTC since 01/2017 Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
Re: TWW 9/5
CD/DPO: 29/ 11
Timing: -2-101
Typical LP Length: 14ish
Testing: TOO MANY I NEED TO STOP
R/R:
CS/Q: I am an emotional mess right now. I felt some cramping and I'm sure I'm seconds away from AF. Convinced once again this was the month. I have a phone appt with my doctor next Tuesday (their recommendation since it hasn't been a year) I have so many questions but also don't know what to ask. WWYD/ask?
GTKY: If you could be any fictional character (book, movie, or TV) who would you want to be and why?Dani from GOT. She somehow has amazing hair and skin even in those conditions. Plus, mother of dragons
Real talk though, there is a reason drs tell us to have 12 months of well-timed BD (or 6 months if over 35) and that's because the vast majority of couples will achieve pregnancy within that time frame without intervention.
Unless there are known issues, I wouldn't contact a dr sooner than recommended. Known issues (to my mind) include things like: repeated an-O cycles/not O'ing at all; history of injuries to reproductive areas; known genetic issues; multiple losses, etc. Fertility related testing is expensive (frequently not fully covered by insurance) and time consuming. At this point, just give it time.
Married May 2014
TTC # 2 Since December 2021
Baby girl W born 2/2021
Our journey so far...
(tw loss & infertility)
Working with an RE since March 2016
2 failed TI cycles
3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017
23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal
Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17
BFP 4.21.17
MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey:
12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted!
5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house!
1.1.20 Homestudy process started
3.14.20 First social worker visit
5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test!
Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
Also, how to I make things pop up as SPOILER so people don't have to read if they would like to skip?
******TW******* Pregnancy mentioned
My DS is 22 MO and still BF pretty often, I'm concerned that my progesterone is low. We have TTC since AF came back. I have been charting CM/CP recently OPK and will temp this month. I was very lucky to only have 3 months of TTC before BFP with my DS. So while there is no medical condition, I would like to be aware of where my Progesterone levels are while I'm nursing and if that would be a concern. AF did come today so this is now cycle 6.
@jamiem522 I'm not a doctor but if your progesterone levels are low due to BF what do you think your doctor is going to do? It was already mentioned that progesterone supplements are not recommended for women still BF. Quite honestly, I feel like your doctor will most likely tell you to cut down your BF sessions
Also, I know TTC can be hard and I understand wanting to be proactive but as others above have mentioned, there's a reason they suggest waiting a full year before seeing a doctor for possible fertility issues and quite honestly I wouldn't start freaking out until you're a bit closer to that mark.
ETA for future reference, the spoiler button is here and when you use it, please be sure to mention why it's spoilered/TW'd
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
I appreciate all of your advice. IMO speaking with my DR about TTC and concerns I have after 6 cycles isn't something wrong to do- really at any point. I am lucky to work really hard for good insurance and I want to use whatever resource I can if I have questions. Maybe because AF is here but I'm feeling really crappy about this but I'm sure I'm not alone. I just want to get as much information I can and keep trying until that BFP.
I know women here on TB with documented IF diagnoses who TFAS and their doctors said they had to stop BFing first. That's a documented diagnosis and they still had to stop BFing! Breastfeeding does affect many women's ability to get pregnant. Of course you can use any resource you want, but should you if they're just going to stay stop BFing? What's the point?
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
<div class=" Spoiler">You have a kid. Who is almost TWO.
Want to conceive a sibling? Others have already advised you of the same: Stop. Breastfeeding. ??!?!??!?? and see if that helps you conceive! There is literally zero reason to think anything is preventing you from getting KU - on your specific timeline - except that you want to get pregnant while also nursing. Get over it. Either make a decision to stop breastfeeding in order to conceive, or make a decision to wait for a sibling until you feel your BF journey has run its course. It's that simple.</div>
To insist on having your cake and eating it, too, in this case, is absurd. Absurd, I say!
There are many of us who have struggled to conceive, so to insist that you are somehow entitled to special treatment by a medical professional when there is literally nothing wrong with you or your husband is just.... I can't.
<img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/r2/n5od04cstkf0.gif" alt="">
@jamiem522, in case you missed it, you got some additional info Re: progesterone in the you're not pregnant thread in case you missed it.
Me: 30 | DH: 31
Met: August 2006
Married: July 2012
TTC #1 since June 2016
***TW***
BFP: 7/12/16 | MC: 9/12/16
BFP: 1/18/17 | MMC: 2/13/17
BFP: 10/7/17 | EDD: 6/21/17
MTHFR: homozygous A1298C
Dating: 2/2007 Married: 4/2011
TTC #1: 9/2016
*TW*
BFP #2: 3/9/2017 - CP: 3/10/2017
08/2017: DH's SA = normal
08/2017: Low progesterone (4.6) all other BW normal
11/2017: HSG Clear; Pelvic Ultrasound Normal; and AMH, FSH, and Estradiol normal
12/2017: 1,000mg Metformin
12/2017: 50mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: 100mg Clomid + TI = BFN
01/2018: RE Consult
03/2018: 5mg Letrozole + 50 units Gonal-F + 500 μg Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #3: 4/1/2018 - CP: 4/4/2018
04/2018: 5mg Letrozole + Gonal-F + Ovidrel + IUI = BFP #4: 5/2/18
TTC #2 - August 2016
MFI
IUI #1-3 BFN
BFP 4/21/18 MMC 6/11/18
<div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/canucklehead123">canucklehead123</a> said:</div>
<div class="QuoteText">What @BusinessWife said... also,
<div class="Quote">I am lucky to work really hard for good insurance and I want to use whatever resource I can if I have questions</div>This statement really rubbed me the wrong way. The implication that people who don't have good insurance must not work hard enough is quite insulting and frankly just not true.</div>
</blockquote>
This, too. Lots of people work really hard at jobs they may or may not enjoy, for insurance plans that offer little to no infertility coverage. I am the first to admit, I have unicorn IVF coverage because, when I found out that was the only way we'd have a shot of meeting our biological children this side the stars, I got resourceful. And I was incredibly LUCKY enough to walk right into a position that orffered the coverage we needed. It's that simple. But my job is not particularly difficult, and I've only been there a few months. I fully admit I am no more deserving than anyone else, and it breaks my heart to watch people I care about continue to struggle OOP for expensive testing and treatment. To say flat out that you have good insurance because you work hard for it is arrogant as hell. You may work hard, but you're also *lucky* enough to work for a company that offers good coverage. Please don't get it twisted.
Insurance...ugh...I can see an endocrinologist but can't see a reproductive endocrinologist because it's "reproductive"....Whaaa? Insurance tends to hate our uterus
Edit because I wanted to add that I just noticed this was yesterday's tww and not today's...My bad
And to add, I have worked my ass off at a job and a career that I love. But that doesn't change me insurance...? I'm not sure where that comment came from in your brain but it came off as saying those of us that don't have IF coverage aren't working hard enough for it. The tests might not be expensive to you personally, but the overall cost of unnecessary tests and appointments on the healthcare system as a whole is an ongoing issue.
Married May 2014
TTC # 2 Since December 2021
Baby girl W born 2/2021
Our journey so far...
(tw loss & infertility)
Working with an RE since March 2016
2 failed TI cycles
3 failed IUI cycles
IVF Feb - April 2017
23 eggs collected, 20 mature, 14 fertilized with ICSI, 4 day 3 blasts, 3 day 5 blasts, 1 PGS normal
Transferred 1 PGS normal embryo 4.12.17
BFP 4.21.17
MMC due to small gestational sac 6.8.17
Our adoption journey:
12.25.18 Agency picked and apps submitted!
5.1.19 Adoption on hold so we can buy a house!
1.1.20 Homestudy process started
3.14.20 First social worker visit
5.25.20 Homestudy Approved & Submitted to Agency
6.1.20 Surprise! Positive pregnancy test!
Healthy baby girl born 2/10/2021
Breastfeeding stuff in spoiler:
Night times feeds are the most important ones to wean from first because they stimulate prolactin more than any other time. If you have an early morning session, that one should be weaned next for the same reason, or at least shorten it gradually.
Weaning will definitely be their first suggestion as prolactin can definitely screw with ovulation. If you want to discuss further, my inbox is always open
My apologies for the random drop in ladies. I am TTGP and TTCAL. I stop in the TWW room on occasion to try and restore hope to myself when those BFP's come along. Seeing the announcement that someone finally had a great ending to a hard road not only brightens my day, but it reminds me that there are so many deserving women out there that have been waiting for that double line to appear and it's finally arrived for them.
With that being said jamiem522, you are so out of line to show up and whine that you are too impatient to wait for a BFP with absolutely nothing wrong with you, other than your impatience. So many of these women have been through hell TTC. I'm thrilled you have great insurance. I work my a$$ off at my professional job, which so happens to offer exactly zero benefits. My DH and I have been TTC for going on 20 months with only a loss to show for it. He suffers from IF issues and there is exactly ZERO that we can do about it because the cost for any sort of IF treatments that might help him are so astronomical it's not an option. So because you have the option of insurance coverage for treatment you're more deserving than we are? Are you telling me that because you happen to have a job that allows you to take the time from a medical provider where they could actually be assisting someone who NEEDS that appointment time that you should, simply "because you can"? We have to wait WEEKS to get in with medical providers here just to get test results. Sometimes for tests that are completed same day because they're so busy. People like you are taking the time away that I legitimately need and have to pay out of pocket for. Appointments that sometimes leave my DH and I in tears knowing that we can't just be patient a couple more months and it'll likely work out. Stop BFing. Stop whining. Stop with the impatience. You have NO IDEA how lucky you are.
Again, sorry for the intrusion ladies.
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
I'm sorry if the insurance comment came off rude, but that's the shitty thing about internet. I meant that we have searched for work that allows good coverage PERIOD, not just if, for our family because we couldn't afford it out of pocket. I didn't think speaking to by OB means that I was looking for IF treatment. I wanted to have a conversation about TTC and BF/LP. Just because my child is almost TWO doesn't mean I need to stop. Also, plenty of woman get BFP while BF and then tandem nurse.
I know these boards are used for a lot of compare/contrast/sharing stuggles and everyone is here for help and support, but trying to one up someone of their struggle doesn't help anyone, it hurts them. I'm sorry for anyone that has been TTC or had loss but that doesn't mean that my personal struggles aren't a lot for ME to handle. Yes, I am being impatient after 5 months but I'm concerned and scared and anxious.
My OP was just if anyone had recs on questions and really the response was less what I had hoped and I personally felted attacked, maybe internet or just the memes? Hmm..
This doesn't really feel like my crew after all because I really don't like to attack people or harp on someone that has said they are emotional and upset. I do wish you all the best and hope you all move on to BMB soon!
Nobody minimized your struggle, but rather tried to put your struggle into perspective. And just because some women can get a BFP while BF-ing doesn't mean that YOU can. And I'm not attacking you, but trying to put it in perspective. No one is saying your child is too old to BF, but you can't be simultaneously be impatient about getting KU while refusing to to stop BF. That's called having your cake and eating it, too.
DSS born 01/2016
TTC since 01/2017
Letrozole + TI = BFP 01/30/2018 | EDD 10/11/2018
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