TTGP After Dark...9/1

icecubeinthedesert

As promised, here is our after dark thread. I'll admit now that I'm not very creative with good questions to ask, so feel free to spice it up a bit!
And as always, feel free to answer only the questions you are comfortable with.

1) Read anything good lately? List your favorite books to get you in the mood.

2) Using a GIF, describe your best recreational sex experience in the last 1 or 2 months.

3) Try anything new in the bedroom lately?

MrsBunz

As promised, here is our after dark thread. I'll admit now that I'm not very creative with good questions to ask, so feel free to spice it up a bit!
And as always, feel free to answer only the questions you are comfortable with.

1) Read anything good lately? List your favorite books to get you in the mood.
Currently reading the Maiden Lane series by Elizabeth Hoyt...she is...steamy! I have a dedicated shelf in our bookshelf just for smutty romance novels...it in currently stacked 2 books high and 3 books deep. 

2) Using a GIF, describe your best recreational sex experience in the last 1 or 2 months. 

3) Try anything new in the bedroom lately? Biggest change lately is that it went from being a solo act to a duet (i.e. MH came home from deployment). Nothing new (but mostly because we've done pretty much anything that isn't part of a kink I'm not into). 

pebbledam

Yay!

1) I think my favorite erotic fiction was written by Rita Mae Brown that I discovered in college. Her first novel was Rubyfruit Jungle and I've re-read it a few times. 
2) ETA I found a gif!

3) Per @KristoKekerooni's suggestion we purchased some anal plugs. I can't say I love them, but I didn't hate it either. 

KariAnn323

I LOVE After Dark threads!

1) Read anything good lately? List your favorite books to get you in the mood.
I've liked the Montgomery Ink series lately and anything by Christa Wick is fantastic!

2) Using a GIF, describe your best recreational sex experience in the last 1 or 2 months.


3) Try anything new in the bedroom lately?
Ugh, no. We're definitely stuck in a rut. Any ideas ladies?

zamoraspin

1) Read anything good lately? List your favorite books to get you in the mood. I am deficient in this area. Interested to see the suggestions.

2) Using a GIF, describe your best recreational sex experience in the last 1 or 2 months. 

Because I squirt. Literally the only racy thing about me.

3) Try anything new in the bedroom lately? Not really we have our routines but to be honest they work pretty well for both of us. 

doxiemoxie212

1) Read anything good lately? List your favorite books to get you in the mood.
The Hacker Series has been my favorite of the genre, but I honestly just go to Literotica.com sometimes and skip the plot for the sex.

2) Using a GIF, describe your best recreational sex experience in the last 1 or 2 months.
You mean non-procreative? Uh....

Do people still do that? lol

3) Try anything new in the bedroom lately?
I mean, we decided this cycle we're going to bring vibrators back into our lives. I bought a bunch of fancy ones like... 8 years ago? when I super duper struggled to ever orgasm from sex, but then I found the vibrators made it difficult for me to orgasm without the vibrators... like at all... so I quit them. And I learned how to orgasm from sex. But it's still time consuming to get me off without them, and DH has decided to buy into the hype that I need to orgasm to get pregnant, so... here we are... using vibrators again... I really shouldn't complain. Orgasms are nice. It's nice to orgasm with a partner, I guess. But honestly it was way less stressful to only have to worry about his orgasm when we have to have sex. I can have orgasms (much more efficiently) during solo time when we're not exhausted. 

Oh god I am boring.

jrm_14

@pebbledam. I have a vibrating plug.  It is much more enjoyable than the regular ones.  
1.  My H's browser history to see what I can replicate.  Otherwise, I haven't read too many steamy things.  I am almost always in the mood to hop on it if he is!
2.  Uhhhh, I second @doxiemoxie212.  During non-fertile weeks, I try to play nice and let him do what he wants.

3.  I tried something I read in Cosmo or something about "softly blowing cool air"on his boys.  I'm here to say it was a lot more sexy in the magazine and ended up being more like blowing a raspberry on a belly as a child.  

MrsBunz

@jrm_14 I legitimately just laughed out loud and got a strange look from MH 

jrm_14

@KariAnn323. How long have you &H been together? Anything you used to do you both really liked? I took MH to the dirty store to sees hat he liked, the, ordered some top picks in Amazon to surprise him.  When, we got engaged, a few college friends got us a "grab bag" that was super fun & we still use.  They're a black sack for $20 that has random things in it from the dirty store.  Ours had a magazine, a video, 3 mini tongue vibrators, 1 vibrator, different types of lube, c*ck rings, and some other random things.  Surprise was the spice we needed back then!

pebbledam

@jrm_14 - Two questions. 1) What are tongue vibrators? 2) Is it common to call them "dirty stores?" I feel like I've never heard anyone use that phrase before, but I obviously know what you are referring to. 

doxiemoxie212

The sex shops I've been to are all super fem leaning, sex positive places that are cute and trendy not dirty little secrets. Shoutout to Babeland! 

pebbledam

@KariAnn323 - That gif tho 

lurvleybunchococonuts

1) Read anything good lately? List your favorite books to get you in the mood.
I love smutty books, but haven't read any lately. Ditto @doxiemoxie212  and skip to literotica and just get down to business  

2) Using a GIF, describe your best recreational sex experience in the last 1 or 2 months.


3) Try anything new in the bedroom lately?
Not really recently.  None ttc sex is usually butt stuff? Otherwise nothing "new".

zwink1

I'm with @doxiemoxie212. I haven't been to a sex store in years, but the only ones I have ever been in have been very, very clean, incredibly female friendly and sex positive places.... that said, I definitely know where I could find a few skeezie ones around here.

Also +1 for literotica. As far as actual books, the most recent series I read was the Driven series by K. Bromberg, and it was pretty good.

H and I haven't tried anything new in ages and that's a ok with me. Something about sex being associated with failure really puts a damper on things. 

KariAnn323

@pebbledam That's basically how I get laid on the weekends. I take a shower in the morning and lay on the bed naked "drying off" until DH notices.

@jrm_14 We've been together for 8 1/2 years. We've tried a few different things in the past, but nothing has really stuck.

lurvleybunchococonuts

Agree with @zwink1 trying new stuff is fun on occasion, but some things are better in theory/imagined than reality. Like in theory I'm totally down for dh to spank my ass and bend me over the couch, but in reality our height difference is too great, the back of the couch digs into my stomach, and it ends up being my hip getting whacked, not my butt. Awkward angles man.

doxiemoxie212

Yesss - most things I like in fantasy I do NOT like in real life. The best sex for me IRL honestly has some intense making out, and then just very very boring quiet sex in which the pace and rhythm and motion do not change at all the entire time. Lol 

jrm_14

@pebbledam. @zwink1. @doxiemoxie212 Yeah...regardless of the sex positive ones and clean &friendly ones, for some reason they are referred to as the dirty stores.  Like, get down & dirty not ew gross.  We live near a major interstate, though, and there are LOTS of the skeezy XXX toy stores & adult arcades.  

Eat:@pebbledam.  The tongue vibrators were these little soft jelly-like vibrators that looked & felt like a tongue, but could stick to the end of your finger or on your tongue.

lurvleybunchococonuts

@doxiemoxie212 I MISS making out. DH has been super anti make out recently. Like it was never his favorite, but like.... nothing but pecks recently. Ugh... stupid man. 

jrm_14

@lurvleybunchococonuts. I'm jealous of @doxiemoxie212's making out sessions! MH gave that up long ago.  

@lurvleybunchococonuts. I'm much taller than MH, so that whole scenario actually works out for us most the time.  

zamoraspin

@doxiemoxie212 I love vibrators (although I've always been happy with very simple ones) but I wouldn't let DH use one on me for a long while because I had an ex who could only get me off that way and never learned to do it the hard way so I hear you on the needing to learn to do without. DH had to master the old fashioned way on me before I let him use the shortcut.

doxiemoxie212

To be clear, DH also hates making out so I don't get to do it very often but it's still part of my ideal. Why do guys hate it so much? It's the best!!

KariAnn323

I love making out! I don't understand why guys don't like it. It's easy and makes us happy!

doxiemoxie212

I swear it seemed like guys (including my husband) thought it was fun when we were younger?!? Was I that gullible?? I seriously used to make out with my boyfriends nonstop for 3-hour movies at a time in high school. Couldn't get enough. I think I was duped!

MrsBunz

I agree, why so resistant to making out? Sometimes I want to pretend we are back in the early days of our relationship, when we weren't having sex yet (the 2 weeks that actually lasted) and making out was a thing that actually happened often. But alas, now it is a few quick kisses, and fingers are on/in my bits...

lurvleybunchococonuts

Right? We've totally been duped! One of the best parts of our past three-way was the copious amount of making out with her! Ugh...stupid men.

blackhottamales

*lurking from vacation /cabin where MH and FIL are both sleeping already. **
i just had to pop in and say this thread makes me feel awesome. All things! I miss making out so much and it's just nice to hear how other relationships are the same. 

MH got me a personalized romance novel our first Christmas. I'll read that out loud and sometime can get MH to roll play off the words. 

jrm_14

@blackhottamales. Personalized novel?! Does it just sub in your names for characters? That sounds cool.

icecubeinthedesert

Finally getting a chance to join in myself

1) Read anything good lately? List your favorite books to get you in the mood.
Nada. I'm not a romance or erotic novel type person. I mean, I've read 50 Shades, and that's about it.

2) Using a GIF, describe your best recreational sex experience in the last 1 or 2 months.
Omg, this gif made me laugh so hard I have to include:

Most of our non-TTC sex is morning sex, which is usually instigated by spooning, and hence the gif.

3) Try anything new in the bedroom lately?
I'm beyond vanilla. We've been doing the same things for years. And like someone else mentioned, completely satisfied with it. 

Also, totally team wish-we-would-make-out-more. I remember DH saying shortly after we started going out (maybe a month) "Wow, you really like making out." That quote replays in my mind to this day....womp womp.

And also, my FFFC/AD confession: I don't think we've ever used any toys. I've never used a vibrator. Nothing. The furthest we've gone is I got some flavored (strawberry cream), warming lubricant at one point, and we used it once and it wasn't great. I did at one point get a corset, but it isn't even laced, just an eyelet closure, and the fact that I got it when I was about 20 (omg, that's 10 years now) means I'm pretty sure there's no hope of that ever fitting again. 

pebbledam

FFSC/AD: I have to be in the mood to make out. 

Most vibrators are way too strong for me to enjoy. The fact that I have owned so many that sit unused is beyond my comprehension. 

thisnthat314

1) Read anything good lately? List your favorite books to get you in the mood.
I too like literotica. I also liked the sylvia day novels , "bared to you".... etc. similar concept to 50 Shades but I thought better.

2) Using a GIF, describe your best recreational sex experience in the last 1 or 2 months.
Havent mastered the gif yet sorry.... here is a meme 


3) Try anything new in the bedroom lately?
DH got me nipple clamps last week..... i dig em!!! Very much so- surprisingly.

offtoneverland

I'm just over here like, you guys are making me blush! 
And also DH and I are pretty boring compared to the rest of you. I'm okay with it and I think he is too, but I may have to find a way to awkwardly bring it up to make sure...

MrsBunz

@offtoneverland that gif!