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knottieb9c458a1608807de

I have no family where I live, just my child's father's family! My mom always wanted grand kids. I have a one year old son and my daughter is due 11.13.17. I'm on the verge of losing everything, but I do want my kids father in their lives. But I know if I stay here we'll either end up on the street or at his relatives and I rather stay with my family out of state because I already know how living with someone else is. Should I go home with my family or take my chances with his relatives?

LoveDontCostAThing

@knottieb9c458a1608807de -I'm sorry for what you're going through.  How far away is your family from your kid's father?  I suppose it depends on how you think his relatives will react too...could it be awkward staying with them?  I don't know the situation, but would they "take his side?"  It could be a bad situation if things between you and him take a worse turn.  Good luck in whatever you choose!

kaitlinliz

What state are you in? Is the oldest his? Depending on the situation if he doesn't consent you can get charged with kidnapping. Also depending on the situation some judges won't grant you permission to move if you're moving away from one side of the family. My friend just went through this ..she was staying in state but moving an hour away for a better job. She'd be closer to her family but leaving all of his. He wouldn't consent and she had to commute until he did. Judge said she was taking the daughter from his family and that was illegal 

knottieb9c458a1608807de

We live in KY and my family is in NC. Yes, the oldest is his also. I just got back from visiting my family for 3 months, my mom mentioned that he could call the cops on me. But my thing is would you rather me stay and put my children in danger for sleeping on the street, or move with my family where I know we are welcomed and safe. We was in this situation with our oldest when he was first born because he got laid off and I had to stop working. We stayed with his sister for about 4 months until he saved enough to get our house. To this day she will not let me forget, she hated us there. Shelters are OUT! Because the shelters here are disgusting and unsanitary! We have our own spot now we're just about to lose it because his job now is cutting hours. I've been to every ministry that gives help with rent, and utilities. No luck. I've begged the companies to give us further extensions, I have my car listed for sale on let go! This is how bad things are! Monday, I'll just have to pawn all our belongings before I'm out on the street or living with people that dont wants around! Thank you guys so much, all I ask from this point is prayer! 

kaitlinliz

We are definitely thinking about you! I just didn't want you to move and then lose the kids after all this. Neither is a good situation. Obviously if he moves with you then there's no issue with moving or if he consents - even if its til you both get on your feet and then you can get back together. Have you talked to him about what to do?

knottieb9c458a1608807de

Yes, of course he wants us to stay because he loves his children and wants to be in their lives. He doesn't want to lose our house either but his job could care less what he's going through. Thanks, I didnt want to go to that route if it was gonna cause me to lose my children.