So.. I'm a librarian in a public library.. over the past month we have given out close to 400 eclipse glasses and ran out last Thursday. If ONE more person calls and yells at us for not having enough for the entire community I am going to bring out the pregnancy hormone rage on them! I actually had a lady tell me that it was very rude to only hand out 2 pairs per family and what are we supposed to do let her other child go blind?!?!? UGH this day can't end soon enough!
I am too tired and nauseous to deal with the shit head neighbor kids. Their parents send them out to play unsupervised and they act like little thugs towards younger kids like my son. I am tired of having my kid ganged up on by older and bigger kids!
My old boss is out of my life now. We were friends and kept in touch after I left the her agency last October. She has always been kind of bitchy but it's never bothered me until upon finding out I was pregnant texted me "Congrats on your condition". Then this weekend she said a bunch of shit about me to a mutual friend. She is 60 something years old and has been acting like a 13 year old. I don't need her in my life anymore.
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
One of our new neighbors, who I've never met, keeps sending her 6 year old daughter out to play by herself. She has come over uninvited every single day this past month. Wanting to come and play, wanting snacks, and she's one of the most obnoxious kids ever. Honestly I feel bad for her that no one seems to care where she is. I'm raging at her parents though, I'm not a free babysitter!!
I'm tired of people shaming those that send their 3 year olds to pre-school. "They're too young. They don't need to go to school. They have their whole lives!"
Okay, yes, young and they have their whole lives, but in my case our daughter really gets no other interaction with kids. She will be there 3x a week for 2 1/2 hours and the rest of the time with me. I'm already enough of a mess sending my baby off because I know she's going to have a tough time at first. One of these mom's shaming was a daycare provider. What's the difference in sending a kid to daycare from 8-5? Geez..
@chasingroygbiv OMG i can relate! I'm going to be a single mom by choice and i've been shamed ALREADY about having to put my child in day care because I have to work. People have told me that I should have thought this through before being selfish and having a child with no help. I do have plenty of help, this is my choice! UGH.. ignore them.. Pre-school is great for children, she will get a great start and be ahead of those in kindergarten who didn't go to pre-school!
@heatherdubrow That's insane! Are you going to go over there and ask them to quit being bums? Or maybe send your kids over there and let them eat all their food.
@chasingroygbiv I thought sending 3 year olds to preschool was something everyone did. I'm a FTM so I don't know these things. I don't think anyone should give you a hard time with that, she will be learning! That's so rude especially coming from a daycare provider.
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
I don't have a bitch fest today but I had my u/s and they measured me at 13w 3d, not 12w 4d like I thought. that makes my DD 2-23-18 and I don't want to leave you march mommas!!
@heatherdubrow I would walk over and be like HELLO are there any parents here!?
@chasingroygbiv daycare vs 2 hr preschool is probably no difference just no food no nap
mine: I'm a dental assistant and I had 4 patients cancel because they "don't want to drive during the eclipse" so I'll be twiddling my thumbs working until 8 tonight because my boss doesn't believe in sending people home early
@chasingroygbiv I've never heard of shaming for 3 year old morning preschool! Like @muggle621 , I thought everyone did that. That's ridiculous. Kids have so much fun at preschool. My DS goes to daycare 3 days a week, because I work part time, but back when I wasn't sure I would get a job right away in our new town I was all prepared to send him to part-time daycare anyway just because he loves hanging out with the other kids! I'm sorry someone said that to you.
@crossfitbabybump there could still be a good chance you end up having baby in March! This happened to me with my first. I was bumped up a week and then she ended up being over a week late so she was closer to original due date. At my last appt. they measured this baby a week bigger as well, but I'm keeping my original DD because I have a feeling the same thing will happen!
@chasingroygbiv that's so weird to me, I would never think that would be something to shame! My youngest is almost 3 and starting preschool and she's so excited!
@muggle621 - it went really fast to be honest! I still get kinda nauseous here and there, especially when I'm hungry but this weekend was the first time I've felt semi-normal in weeks! I think I'm gonna stay for sure! You guys are just too sweet to leave! Plus, I am kinda hoping my baby is a few days late. My SIL's due date is 2/22/18 ... one day before mine and I want them to be spread out a bit, lol. My MIL is of course losing her shit. I told her to relax, it'll all be okay!
@chasingroygbiv OMG i can relate! I'm going to be a single mom by choice and i've been shamed ALREADY about having to put my child in day care because I have to work. People have told me that I should have thought this through before being selfish and having a child with no help. I do have plenty of help, this is my choice! UGH.. ignore them.. Pre-school is great for children, she will get a great start and be ahead of those in kindergarten who didn't go to pre-school!
@chasingroygbiv We couldn't afford to pay for preschool so my son didn't get that head start. Although we worked with him at home, he's a bit behind academically. If you can afford preschool - go for it! I think anyone who shames you for getting a head start on your child's education has serious issues!
I have another BF- I think I have an UTI so I'm waiting to give my pee sample to the lab. It was empty when I got here 15 min ago and I chugged water in the car so now I have to pee so effing bad! They need to hurry up and call me now.
Me: 36 DH: 37 Married: 5.27.16 Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
I spent all weekend at the hospital with my 2 year old. She was diagnosed with cdiff and norovirus. I'm now feeling miserable and vomiting all while trying to keep up with the endless amounts of poopy diapers. My whole body hurts and my doctor still hasn't called me back to tell me if they want me to come in or not. I just want to curl up and sleep for a month.
So.. I'm a librarian in a public library.. over the past month we have given out close to 400 eclipse glasses and ran out last Thursday. If ONE more person calls and yells at us for not having enough for the entire community I am going to bring out the pregnancy hormone rage on them! I actually had a lady tell me that it was very rude to only hand out 2 pairs per family and what are we supposed to do let her other child go blind?!?!? UGH this day can't end soon enough!
I would have told her to cut them in half then each kid can still have one good eye.
Which is why I no longer work in customer service.
@chasingroygbiv OMG i can relate! I'm going to be a single mom by choice and i've been shamed ALREADY about having to put my child in day care because I have to work. People have told me that I should have thought this through before being selfish and having a child with no help. I do have plenty of help, this is my choice! UGH.. ignore them.. Pre-school is great for children, she will get a great start and be ahead of those in kindergarten who didn't go to pre-school!
@chasingroygbiv We couldn't afford to pay for preschool so my son didn't get that head start. Although we worked with him at home, he's a bit behind academically. If you can afford preschool - go for it! I think anyone who shames you for getting a head start on your child's education has serious issues!
This just proves that mom life is a life is constant shaming. My son is turning 2 next month and I hear a lot crap from random about how we might not send him to preschool if I'm not working yet.
I've told the shamers they are welcome to pay for his preschool.
But seriously...Mom life is shame life and that plain sucks.
I'm so over this weird cold and hacking cough. It's a huge training week at MH's job so he's going to be working more than usual and I have no energy to stop the toddler from destroying my house.
I spent all weekend at the hospital with my 2 year old. She was diagnosed with cdiff and norovirus. I'm now feeling miserable and vomiting all while trying to keep up with the endless amounts of poopy diapers. My whole body hurts and my doctor still hasn't called me back to tell me if they want me to come in or not. I just want to curl up and sleep for a month.
Oh my, that sounds really awful. I hope you're both well very soon.
I feel miserable today and I'm blaming the eclipse and not the pregnancy. My head and neck is killing me. I feel totally drained. I feel like I do usually on a full moon. Bleeeehhh.
@chasingroygbiv Do you know my MIL? Because she tells me, basically word for word, that every time she sees me right now. My 2 yo DD will be going part time beginning on Thursday.
I'm tired of hearing it. I don't even care to defend our choice anymore. I generally tell her that she's our daughter and we know she'll love it. My SIL (her DD) has the children 3 and under with the fourth on the way and they all thrive being at home ALL day. We don't. I wouldn't send her if I didn't think she'd love it and excel.
@mylovelittlelove My toddler has been insane today and I'm totally blaming the eclipse. It's basically my way of making myself believe it has to be better tomorrow...
I feel miserable today and I'm blaming the eclipse and not the pregnancy. My head and neck is killing me. I feel totally drained. I feel like I do usually on a full moon. Bleeeehhh.
Same here! I have been blaming my misery today on the eclipse. It makes me feel better.
Thanks everyone for the pre-school reassurance. I didn't know if I really was in the right to think it's OK to send her a couple times a week or if it's the educator in me. My son went both years of pre-school for the socialization aspect and I don't think he's any worse off. I was at work at that point anyway so I figured it was that or daycare because I couldn't put all of that on Grandma. This go around I'm home, but her separation anxiety makes me believe this is something we truly need to do for her, but also for me or Kindergarten could be a true nightmare. I know my heart is going to shatter on the first day when I drop her off, but I'm trying to prepare by habit DH take a late lunch and meet me there. Ha!
Also @heatherdubrow I don't have a neighbor like that, but there is a lady in town here that has 4 kids and 3 of the 4 are that exact way (4th isn't old enough yet, then I'm sure she will be equally as obnoxious). Mom doesn't help matters any. She basically would go to the pool, hang with a friend and tell the kids (7, 5, and 3) to have a blast. The lifeguards were furious and my best friend saved the little boy (5) from drowning— TWICE. Mom had no idea, she wasn't even in the same area of the pool (main pool, baby, splash pad, and diving areas are all separated. She's always posting on a Facebook asking if anyone would like her kids to come over, too. Like, what? Don't have kids to pawn them off, please. Ugh.
Minor MBF: the woman who took my blood today must've been having a bad day. 1) it shouldn't hurt like that; 2) I shouldn't have a bruise like this
@heatherdubrow we have a family like that and their 3 kids are always at other people's houses unbeknownst to their parents. The youngest, a girl age 3 (!!), walks INTO other people's homes and plays with their toys. What?! I worry for their ability to discern strangers from safe adults, and it just totally freaks me out how oblivious the parents are when they come looking for the kids at a meal time or when it's getting late. I keep worrying that one of them is going to get hit by a car, abducted, etc. and it could have been prevented!
@tirola what a pain!! I am sorry you have to go through that!
@brettanomyces +1 for the best response to that complaint!!!
@crossfitbabybump I'll most likely deliver in February since I have a history of shoulder dystocia so my ob doesn't want me to go past 39 weeks. I'm still staying here!
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My old boss is out of my life now. We were friends and kept in touch after I left the her agency last October. She has always been kind of bitchy but it's never bothered me until upon finding out I was pregnant texted me "Congrats on your condition". Then this weekend she said a bunch of shit about me to a mutual friend. She is 60 something years old and has been acting like a 13 year old. I don't need her in my life anymore.
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
"Congrats on your CONDITION"?!?!?!?! wow that is quite the interesting statement. It never ceases to amaze me how people react to things.
Okay, yes, young and they have their whole lives, but in my case our daughter really gets no other interaction with kids. She will be there 3x a week for 2 1/2 hours and the rest of the time with me. I'm already enough of a mess sending my baby off because I know she's going to have a tough time at first. One of these mom's shaming was a daycare provider. What's the difference in sending a kid to daycare from 8-5? Geez..
@chasingroygbiv I thought sending 3 year olds to preschool was something everyone did. I'm a FTM so I don't know these things. I don't think anyone should give you a hard time with that, she will be learning! That's so rude especially coming from a daycare provider.
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
@chasingroygbiv daycare vs 2 hr preschool is probably no difference just no food no nap
mine: I'm a dental assistant and I had 4 patients cancel because they "don't want to drive during the eclipse" so I'll be twiddling my thumbs working until 8 tonight because my boss doesn't believe in sending people home early
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
Married: 5.27.16
Baby Boy Due: 3.18.18
Which is why I no longer work in customer service.
I've told the shamers they are welcome to pay for his preschool.
But seriously...Mom life is shame life and that plain sucks.
I'm tired of hearing it. I don't even care to defend our choice anymore. I generally tell her that she's our daughter and we know she'll love it. My SIL (her DD) has the children 3 and under with the fourth on the way and they all thrive being at home ALL day. We don't. I wouldn't send her if I didn't think she'd love it and excel.
Suck it, MIL.
Edited to fix typo.
Also @heatherdubrow I don't have a neighbor like that, but there is a lady in town here that has 4 kids and 3 of the 4 are that exact way (4th isn't old enough yet, then I'm sure she will be equally as obnoxious). Mom doesn't help matters any. She basically would go to the pool, hang with a friend and tell the kids (7, 5, and 3) to have a blast. The lifeguards were furious and my best friend saved the little boy (5) from drowning— TWICE. Mom had no idea, she wasn't even in the same area of the pool (main pool, baby, splash pad, and diving areas are all separated. She's always posting on a Facebook asking if anyone would like her kids to come over, too. Like, what? Don't have kids to pawn them off, please. Ugh.
@heatherdubrow we have a family like that and their 3 kids are always at other people's houses unbeknownst to their parents. The youngest, a girl age 3 (!!), walks INTO other people's homes and plays with their toys. What?! I worry for their ability to discern strangers from safe adults, and it just totally freaks me out how oblivious the parents are when they come looking for the kids at a meal time or when it's getting late. I keep worrying that one of them is going to get hit by a car, abducted, etc. and it could have been prevented!
@tirola what a pain!! I am sorry you have to go through that!
@brettanomyces +1 for the best response to that complaint!!!
@crossfitbabybump I'll most likely deliver in February since I have a history of shoulder dystocia so my ob doesn't want me to go past 39 weeks. I'm still staying here!