I wanted to create a space for expectant moms who are experiencing the journey of pregnancy along with the highs and the lows of being in a non-traditional relationship (as typified by cultural norms). For example, those who might not be married at the moment, sexual orientation, etc.
My motivation behind this thread is that I am not currently married to my SO and although we are BEYOND excited about our little bean, my pregnancy was not planned. We planned to have children, but just not at this very moment. Lol. Although a blessing, the pregnancy has put additional pressures on the both of us. For example, I will admit I do feel a bit strange not being married and pregnant. I know there are tons of women who make that choice, and I think that is amazing! I think my slight discomfort comes from the fact that I did not make the choice. It just happened in spite of other plans. I always say, “we make plans and the universe laughs.” Anyways, my SO’s family has already begun to discuss with us the need to get married ASAP **insert eye roll**. I do not want to get married while I am pregnant. I’d rather wait until after the baby is born. That is my personal preference. Yet, his mother is making a case for why we should go to the justice of the peace and get married beforehand.
Wow, I guess that’s my vent right there! Hahahaahaha!
So yea, I just wanted a space for those of us who are not in “traditional” relationships to be able to vent and discuss the pros, the cons, and our experiences being pregnant while being in a non-traditional relationship. I would ask specific questions, but I thought it was best to allow folks to share (or not share) freely as they feel about their experiences.