PGAL / PAIF Weekly Check-in 8/1-8/8/17

NYTino24

This thread is for women who are pregnant after a loss and who have a history of loss or for women who have struggled with infertility and are now pregnant.

This thread is one huge trigger warning so if you just came to read, please protect yourself if you are not comfortable reading about loss.  This is a place where women can talk freely about their loss history.

*****PLEASE DO NOT post losses here. Start a new thread. *****

Hey PGAL / PAIF ladies, "Today you are pregnant!"   

1. How far along are you today?

2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing.

3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes?

4. How is your SO handling everything?

5. GTKY: Have is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby?

Abby7

1. How far along are you today? I thought it was 26w3d, but the Internet is saying 25w3d so I'm not sure. I need one of those tickers. Due November 12.

2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing. 2 missed miscarriages, both 10 weeks, both in October (2010 and 2016), one 5-year-old daughter born March 2012

3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes? I feel huge and unhealthy . I didn't get any stretch marks with DD and last summer was wearing a bikini from Athleta and was feeling like I looked really good at 38 - it was my consolation after 4 years of BFNs that at least I had a cute stomach still. Now I feel like my belly is way bigger than with her and I'm going to have a ton of stretch marks and probably wrinkly loose belly skin for the rest of my life. A sob story I know but I so want to control my body and I can't.

4. How is your SO handling everything? He's fine...I wish he would HELP ME get the nursery together rather than being distracted by his own home projects though.

5. GTKY: Have is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby? This time I'm going to get one of those cute pram-style carriages. I wanted one with DD but didn't get it. Also I want an armchair-style glider. With DD those were really only just getting started and so were super expensive and not as easy to find, but now they are much more accessible.

MKMandeville

1. How far along are you today?

26+2


2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing.

-August 2016 early loss 4+2
- September 2016 ectopic pregnancy 5-6weeks


3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes?

Tired and really sore. 
Struggles- I cannot sleep (mix of heat and crushing bone sensation). 
Successes- we were in the hospital overnight on Saturday due to preterm labor and we had an excellent staff that helped treat it and get it manageable before sending me home. 


4. How is your SO handling everything?

Better now. He was really on edge when we were in the hospital. We were both freaking out about having a nicu baby while taking care of our toddler at the same time. 


5. GTKY: What is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby?

Mmm good question. We pretty much have everything from DD1 as far as gear goes but I have been looking into a sit and stand stroller. 

dragonfly87-2

@abby7: I am almost 24 weeks tomorrow, due Nov 23...so my guess is you are 26 weeks lol.
@MKMandeville Oh no, sorry to hear about the pre-term labor. Glad you are home and hopefully all goes well for the rest of the pregnancy. Do they know what caused it?

1. How far along are you today? 23w6d

2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing. 
CP around 4.5 weeks in December 2016


3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes?
Pretty good. My feet swelling has gone done a lot, which is nice. I got new shoes (crocs that almost look like normal ballet flats) and I think they are helping since they have more space. I have also been feeling kicks more often, which is a huge relief and lessens my anxiety. My mind still floats back to our little girl having the choroid plexus cyst, but we won't know anything else until 28 weeks, so just patiently waiting.

4. How is your SO handling everything?
Pretty good still. We have set up most things for the nursery and need to finalize things like child care. He has been pretty involved, so that is nice.

5. GTKY: Have is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby?

Nothing that really comes to mind other than the basics...but I kind of want one of those kangaroo style hoodies where the baby can sit in the front pouch (no messing with a carrier). But they are so dang pricey (like $60+). So I am holding out.

MKMandeville

@Abby7 I am due Nov 6th and currently 26+3. I hope that helps. 

@dragonfly87-2 thank you! It was definitely scarier this time than it was with DD. With her it was at 30 weeks and this time at 25+5. All they could really pin point is that I have a very irritable uterus. After a cocktail of meds and pain reliever they stopped. I go back on the 14th to see my actual doctor and hopefully they can shed a little more light on the fact. 

Abby7

OK, I just added a ticker so I will finally keep track a little better, and it's saying 25 weeks, not 26. So that's that. I'm actually relieved.

NYTino24

1. How far along are you today? 24w6d

2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing. NMC in Jan. at 7w6d

3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes? My upper back hurts and both my chiro / massage therapist are out today. Don't have time for PT because of a daytime bachelorette party. I've been super emotional the last few days and can cry at the drop of a hat.

4. How is your SO handling everything? 
He is getting me upset with wanting to paint the room and change the theme I've been working on. He's trying to cheap out with dressers and a monitor and not only did I not expect it, but it's frustrating. We did finally go to a bunch of stores to look at, but it feels rushed and I'm glad I've been doing my research and going out by myself before taking him so I can speed up the process. If you wanted to be involved, buddy, a few months ago would have been a good time and not when I'm 26 weeks in! 

5. GTKY: Have is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby?
I want DH to get the crib from his mom's house and I really want to buy some nice dressers he can use until he's old enough to move out.

DungeonTrollMel

Hi everyone. Long time lurker but didn't feel comfortable joining in for a while given my history and some ttcal anxiety 

1. How far along are you today?  23+2

2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing.

4 losses in 2016. MMC @9 weeks, 2 CPs and MC @ 6 weeks. Then went trough IVF with PGS testing that confirmed poor egg quality. We started with 32 eggs and ended with 4 healthy. Transferred 2 and have 1 on board 

3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes? Woke up to lots of kicks and my anxiety is getting better with viability day right around the corner. I've been pretty much the mind set of "there is nothing to complain about as long as he's growing" and I think it's helped me prepare for aches and pains. Still running which is my huge success 

4. How is your SO handling everything? He struggled with worry all first trimester, but loves seeing me getting bigger. He has wanted kids his whole life and is great about being involved in prepping and signing up for classes 

5. GTKY: Have is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby? A BOB jogging stroller. Before IF and IVF I was running 3-4 half marathons a year and can't wait for my new running buddy to arrive 

dragonfly87-2

@MKMandeville Not sure if you know what stand and ride stroller you want, but I just saw this good deal:



https://www.amazon.com/Graco-Roomfor2-Connect-Stroller-Gotham/dp/B00Y285QUA//ref=as_li_ss_tl?&th=1&linkCode=ll1&tag=piroma-20&linkId=d94f6c43d4b2b7b06a5610ba721fb9c0

angbaby83

1. How far along are you today? 24w1d

2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing. early mc 4/16 and mmc at 12 w in Nov 16.  

3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes? had my 24 week appt today and it went well which relieved some anxiety.  I woke up at 2 this morning crying and feeling anxious about the appt.  I also have not been sleeping well in general. But on a positive note looking forward to going home to Iowa next week to see family. And my friend will be giving me a bunch of baby clothes.  

4. How is your SO handling everything? he is great. Even though he was pretty much asleep this morning he hugged me and rubbed my back until I calmed down.  He is so supportive.

5. GTKY: Have is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby? I don't have one item I absolutely must have.  I am excited to start organizing the stuff we have though. 

missrekaeagle

1. How far along are you today?
23 weeks 2 days according to some sources and 23 weeks according to others. 

2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing.
MC at 6 weeks 11/2015.

3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes?
My 23 week appointment went well today. I have a tentative repeat c-section date of 11/27/2017. Earlier this week I had a dental emergency, that my dentist didn't see as much of an emergency. I'll be having the problem rectified in about 2 weeks. I decided to finally schedule my wisdom teeth removal for during my maternity leave, since I'll have time off from grad school and work. I may be a glutton for punishment, but I may as well recover from two procedures at once. 

4. How is your SO handling everything?
He's doing swell.

5. GTKY: Have is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby?
I really wanted the Graco Modes travel system, and I purchased it last month, so everything is right in the world. 

MKMandeville

@dragonfly87-2 thank you! I just saw someone share this on Facebook. I still cannot decide. I like the Graco ones because we have a Graco infant car seat that should attach but I found a Baby Trend I'm leaning towards. Decisions decisions! Since we will be having a fall/winter baby I highly doubt we will be out walking until spring so I may even change my mind again lol

fishakris

I'm technology impaired so excuse my inability to try and respond.  


1. How far along are you today?
 
I am 25w3d. 

2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing.

struggled wth infertility and trying for 18mo. MC in October of 2016 at 5 wk. We were doing IUIs and had one or two tries left before IVF. Succeeded on an IUI. 

3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes?
1st trimester was super hard. Kept thinking the baby wouldn't stay again.  Now,  I'm feeling movement and getting excited.  


4. How is your SO handling everything?

He's starting to get excited,  but for a long time it wasn't real for him.  He felt movement the first time a couple of days ago which helps.  I don't feel like he really knows how to relate when I'm uncomfortable.  

5. GTKY: Have is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby?

Gosh, hard one.  I'm still trying to figure out what she'll need.  Ha ha.  

cwalker042

• 1. How far along are you today?
  24 weeks today! 
  
  2. Share any part of your history you feel comfortable sharing.
  Oct 2016 MC at 11 weeks. Baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. 
  
  3. How are you feeling today?  Struggles?  Successes?
  I feel okay. My feet have been swelling quite a bit so I've been trying to keep them up as much as possible. That is hard for me because I'm not the type to just sit and relax. I need to be up doing things. My body is starting to ache more and more. Back pain is horrible, especially my upper back between my shoulder blades. However, I believe that's due to my boobs growing significantly during this pregnancy. I started at a 36DDD and none of my bras fit so I have no idea what size I am now. We started painting the nursery and will finish up this weekend! That's a success for me because I'm a huge procrastinator. 
  
  4. How is your SO handling everything?
  He is still calm and cool. That's his personality though. He just goes with the flow. 
  
  5. GTKY: Have is the #1 baby gear item you really want for this baby?
  I really want a double stroller but I'm hesitant. My son who is 2 refuses to be in a stroller most of the time so I'm not sure if investing in one is a good idea. Plus, I'm not sure if I want a tandem or side by side. I know I want a side by side when she is older but as as infant I'd like a tandem. Decisions decisions. 

NYTino24

@cwalker042 I'm with you on the upper back pain. I can usually get the bottom to crack myself, but not the top. The one chiro I trust while I'm pregnant isn't in until Monday. Boo!
@missrekaeagle I hope both surgeries go well and that recovery is smooth. Going to be a busy leave for you!
@fishakris Most places you'd register have checklists that might help.
@angkay711 I'm glad your appointment went well. The anxiety is not fun.
@DungeonTrollMel you are always welcome here.
@dragonfly87-2 You have a lot of your nursery done. Good job!
@MKMandeville Everything still okay?
@Abby7 I feel the same with the nursery, except there are other things we need to get done around the house, too.

dragonfly87-2

@NYTino24 Thanks! We only have one break (September labor day--and we will be traveling) between now and the due date, so we figured we would get a lot done over the summer. 

I hear you on the issues with DH having "opinions" on decor and ideas. I feel like I have spent months researching and being invested in a look...and then DH will say, "eh, I don't like it" or "can we find something else?" It makes me so mad that he won't put the time in ahead of time, but will blurt out his thoughts at the last minute. Men...