Confession: when women start complaining that baby isn't here yet and they haven't even gotten to 40 weeks, I roll my eyes so. hard. I'm a little shocked they don't pop outta my head. I get it at 39 weeks you're over it but until you're officially past due don't get all huffy that baby "is taking their time". Oh yea, goodness, how dare your baby gestate for the correct amount of time!!??
Confession two: I have ZERO patience left for nonsense. I'm sure people are going wow she's hormonal but I'm really just sick of all the stupid that keeps gravitating toward me. No it's not twins. No I'm not going to go into labor at the grocery store. Yes I'm tired. Yep im huge. No I haven't had this baby yet. How about a "hey, how are you doing?". Asshats.
@Nxy people just feel like they have to say something. At my last appointment, 2 different ladies, in the span of 30 seconds made differing comments. "You're so small." "You're about to pop". Um, excuse me...do either of you know me? Do you know what I looked like not pregnant? Nope. So shhhhh.
@Nxy Same here. I'm over here wishing really hard to make it to 40 weeks! As a FTM, I want to make it to my due date for baby to be ready, and for me to be ready!
My confession: I totally peed my pants in public yesterday. I nearly ran out of gas on the way home, and when I was pumping the gas, I suddenly had to pee so bad, I was pacing while my talk filled up. I went into the gas station, and started peeing the second I got to the bathroom, before I got to the toilet. I checked myself out in the mirror afterwards, and there was definitely a puddle around my crotch. Luckily I was going home.
@Nxy completely agree. Especially as a mom to be of twins, one of whom is IUGR. I was initially told I'd be lucky to make it to 30 weeks, and with a scheduled c section next week at 36 weeks, have been grateful for every day of baby cooking time. I get the urge to bitch, late third trimester stuff sucks, but I'm pretty sure prematurity related health issues suck a whole lot more.
@Nxy totally agree. I'm 100% glad that I know the exact date and have a light at the end of the tunnel, especially having a toddler to be taken care of, but with both mine being scheduled c sections I feel robbed of the labor experience. I cried and grieved that experience with DS, but now I'm feeling it again.
For my fffc it's dumb, but I'm just annoyed. I know I've mentioned my in laws being over the top with gifts and it makes me uncomfortable. MIL kept asking what we needed, but other than diapers and wipes, we really have everything. We bought a travel system that I found a great deal on because I'm frugal. I finally told her she could get us a lillebaby 6 in 1 when I found it on sale just so she could get something for baby. Well, yesterday she texts and asks me if we have a dockatot. I tell her no, they're too expensive. I'm thinking to myself we also don't need it. We have a mini and full sized pack and play, a crib, and a swing/bouncer combo. Our house isone story so it's not like I need all these things to put baby in. We have coslept with DS, but not till he was 9 or 10 months old at which point he was definitely too big for something like that. Her daughter got one because another family member (who she works for) swears by hers. SIL puts it in the halo bassinet and baby sleeps there. I don't think ours will fit in the pack and play, nor does it need to. I just am super uncomfortable with it and don't need or want it. I'd rather she spent her money on something else or save for retirement.
If I have an issue with a company or someone gives me the run around, I'll sic my mom on them. (Only as a last resort.)
I known I am a grown adult but sometimes people don't take me seriously because I look younger than I am. My mom is a shark and can get more out of people than anyone I know. It's amazing. We bought a car this weekend and I was missing a couple documents for my records. I called multiple times, multiple people, for several days. No responses. My mom stops into the dealership and walked out with everything I needed.
@aehogan90 preach! I'll always need my mama! So my FIL is notorious for making comments about baby's appearances. DS's ears are fused at the top in a very tiny place. He used to say, he's perfect except for his ears. He'd then tell me they were like that because I didn't give him enough room. My sister and grandpa have ears like that, but of course he can't comprehend genetics. Well SIL has her baby last week and wouldn't you know his ears are the same. FIL, her own dad, told her he had Spock ears. I have given my parents full permission to call him out if he says something in front of them like that.
My FFC- DH has been sick with a bad cold. I have politely kept my mouth shut when he mentions how it hurts to sneeze or cough because he pulled his obliques playing softball (and didn't stretch/warm up before playing). BUT- his illness means he's been sleeping in the other bed.
Sleeping alone right now is sooooo awesome. I'm sprawling all over the mattress with abandon.
I don't work Fridays so I didn't set alarms last night even though I have an appointment in a couple hours. I decided DH could wake himself up and if he was late to work, well I'm past the point of caring because I'm too tired for that nonsense. He has to be to work by 8 and woke up at 7:30 still needing to shave (military) and put his uniform together. Oh well.
ETA: he sets alarms starting at 5am and does t even move when they go off. I'm pretty sure the neighbors can hear them so if he's not waking up to them, I can't help that.
@Nxy yes!!! I was late with DS and I didn't complain. And I don't think people realize due dates aren't exact. I actually think (know) mine is off because I was tracking temps and using OPKs. I know my ovulation day was 3 days later than the standard. Just let the babies grow!
My FFFC - I am a teacher and I'm hiding all my favorite school supplies/stuff from my sub. Obviously not items that are owned by the school. But I have favorite markers, pens, etc. that I purchase. They are all getting locked up!
I'm guilty of wanting baby to come early, and it's for totally selfish reasons (I'm so uncomfortable! ) But I also know that pregnancy lasts 40 weeks, and Baby will come when it's ready, so I don't complain that it isn't here, just say that I'm eager for it to happen. I'm 37+6 today, which is when my water broke with DS, so I'm curious to see when this baby decides it's ready.
My FFFC: I made myself a turkey and cheese sandwich yesterday and didn't heat up the cold cuts. It was the most delicious thing I've eaten in nearly 9 months!
I'm all for girl power but I need my dad or husband (preferably dad) for negotiating anything car related. Car salesmen are notorious for taking advantage of women and I'd rather not have to deal with them. DH and I are buying out my lease this week and I am sad that my dad won't be available to help negotiate the price down. He is a salesman himself and knows how to work the system.
The first day May 2007 The yes day April 2012 The best day Nov 2013
I'm all for girl power but I need my dad or husband (preferably dad) for negotiating anything car related. Car salesmen are notorious for taking advantage of women and I'd rather not have to deal with them. DH and I are buying out my lease this week and I am sad that my dad won't be available to help negotiate the price down. He is a salesman himself and knows how to work the system.
Not sure if you saw my post the other day. I bought a car and took my dad because I don't know enough about cars to know if I'm getting a good deal or not. Dad knocked $6k off the price for us. It was amazing.
My Dad came with me the first time I ever bought a vehicle and he was so impressed he told my sisters to ask me for all car buying and negotiating advice
I very much side eye my sister that has four kids because she was induced around 38 wks with her first three kids and 39 wks with her fourth (law had changed) just because she wanted to be done. What about the well being of your children? If they come on their own, I have zero issues but forcing a baby to come early for your own sake, just no!
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
My FFFC, last night we went to the county fair. I'm wearing the same maternity leggings today to do errands which I'm hoping don't have cow shit or smell like it. When you barely fit in anything, you gotta do what you gotta do.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
@spotconlon good for you! I have had so many bad experiences with buying/leasing cars. I've basically given up. The last time DH and I went car shopping I was treated terribly by the Toyota salesman. I had so many questions about the car I was test driving but he basically ignored all of my questions and made me feel so dumb. I don't even think he made eye contact with me. I wrote Toyota a nice letter and told them that my experience at that dealership was so terrible that I would never buy a Toyota ever again (I had an old Avalon previously that I loved, and everyone in my family drives a Toyota) We had a much better experience at the Honda dealer down the street but it was nice to have DH there to negotiate the price and get free oil changes for me.
The first day May 2007 The yes day April 2012 The best day Nov 2013
I'm letting my 2 SDs play on their tablets right now....and then we're going to a movie. Then I'll probably let them play on tablets again. I'm burned out today and just don't care.
@nyx I keep getting comments from people who can't believe I am still doing so much. I will be 38 weeks tomorrow and have a 3 year old. It is not like I can stop my life and do nothing for 2 weeks.
@bumpybump I did laundry last night and I'm almost certain that I wore this outfit earlier in the week. At this point I really don't care!
@Nxy I have no patience for anyone!!! I told DH that for the sake of my career I think it's best that I start working from home until I deliver. I'm a b*tch to everyone at work and seriously just need people to stay out of my face!!!
@Nxy I can't stand anyone right now. I'm like oscar the grouch.
My confession is is that I fully intend on doing nothing at work today, nothing all weekend, and faking my way through next week. I have lost all motivation at work and give zero sh*ts.
My FFFC - I am a teacher and I'm hiding all my favorite school supplies/stuff from my sub. Obviously not items that are owned by the school. But I have favorite markers, pens, etc. that I purchase. They are all getting locked up!
YES!! I didn't even leave lesson plans. I left all my procedures and beginning of the year activities but what they do with those is up to them. This class coming up is dreadful. My sub needs to figure out what'll work for him. I truly give no shit about it until I arrive in November.
@shyviolet & @brookedeyo yes! From a purely logistical standpoint, I'd rather my maternity leave not end on Christmas Day - which it will if LO arrives on his/her due date - so I would like to go a couple of days past if all is well. Random people (yoga instructor, lawyer we're working on our will/trust with, etc.) are shocked I'm still working (I'm not even full term yet!). The lawyer was surprised I'm still "allowed to drive." Ummm, what? @Nxy Agree - I might be uncomfortable and say "I'm ready" but that doesn't mean I actually want the baby to come yet.
My FFFC: I'm doing all of the things to try to get baby to drop (walking, pelvic tilts, bouncing on a birthing ball, etc.). I don't care if they're old wives' tales - it makes me feel slightly more in control of my body. I'm having a ton of rib pain in my back and I'd love some relief. I know I'll be trading it for pelvic pressure/pain but I can't sit for more than half an hour without some serious pain right now.
@Nxy I agree, I cant stand when people complain when they arent 40 weeks. Im 38+3 and I just spent 2+ hours in the sun, for my company party, checking people in. People kept commenting about how I was still there, and that they couldnt believe he wasnt here yet. I will say Im ready when he is, but I am not going to force him out early. I did, however, use the pregnancy as an excuse to not show up at 9 to set up, and to leave early. The part goes to 4, but I left at 130, becuase I was hot and needed some AC.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@brookedeyo I will say I am glad I am not still working as hard as it is chasing a toddler around at least I can nap with him when I need it. But I agree, work until the very end. People keep asking when DH is going to start his leave and I am always tell them when I go into labor.
@kvh22 I hope you lawyer is either really young or really old. That is so funny that they wondered if you were still allowed to drive. I am surprised a yoga instructor would feel that way, I would think they would encourage being active until the very end.
@shyviolet@brookedeyo@kvh22 same here! I told my nurse Ibwoukd be hard to schedule the week of my due date because it's the first week of school and she asked why I was working the week I'm due. My hr made it very clear FMLA does not start until I give birth (unless my doctor sends a new note saying I need to be off sooner) I also have very little sick time saved, not even enough to cover half my FMLA leave. I refuse to use it before the baby comes!
@tova24 I'm in your work boat. I have the very real first world problem of having an employer who's not giving me work I can't finish (so nice of them) which is... resulting me in being bored off my ass. I've wrapped up nearly all my projects and trained a person for my recurring responsibilities so... Yesterday I worked maybe 2 of 8 hours? And spent the remaining 6 watching TV with my laptop open just in case I had an e-mail or instant message. I had a few meetings today but it's still like maybe 4 hours of actual work out of the 8 I'm on the clock. My Little Miss Work Ethic side feels bad but the pregnant side gives zero fucks.
@shyviolet re: the lawyer - nope, he's probably 35, has 2 young kids. Seems like he is not at all into being a dad. Told us to send the kid to the nursery as much as possible while at the hospital. His wife had pre-e with their first so maybe she wasn't allowed to drive? She had a perfectly normal/healthy pregnancy for #2 so I am at a loss unless she just told him that to get out of running errands since I have a feeling he wasn't at the appointments.
@kvh22 My DH is a lawyer too and there must be some kind of litigation or previous court cases regarding pregnant women and driving because he doesn't think I should be driving either! He is worried about the airbag and my bump but I sit so far back it is a nonissue. His boss also just had a baby last month and recommended that the baby sleep in the nursery. I think lawyers a just babies and don't know how to handle lack of sleep!
The first day May 2007 The yes day April 2012 The best day Nov 2013
I'm a day late here, but jumping in with the work related comments. I work from home on Fridays and yesterday I was able to take a 40 minute nap with my hand on the mousepad so that my inter-office messenger showed that I was "Active" the whole time. I never nap, never mind on a work day, but I guess I've officially reached that point and I was so proud of my "accomplishment" ha.
I am having a lot of pelvic/back pain sitting in the normal work environment and commute, but I am so bad at working from home it is going to be an interesting balance these next few weeks.
@donehue Wow! I'm impressed that you were able to nap and stay active. There's a setting on our office communicator that allows you select how many minutes you can be away before you turn inactive. I changed my setting to 60 minutes!
My FFFC is I still wish I was in August and complaining about going full term. Even though my November baby is on the way, I still struggle with the idea that mine won't be here in a few weeks. When people remark that it's great that I'm not super pregnant in summer, and I feel 0% bad telling them I lost a baby due in August. Hopefully they will speak more carefully with the next woman. Anyway, it has been fun to lurk occasionally and see how all of you ladies and babies are doing!
@Kudlica I am the same. I even bought extra school supplies for super cheap to sell to the kids who don't have them because I don't want them getting used to borrowing my stuff when I'm there and having it disappear when I'm gone. Rulers and scissors will be locked up!
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
@brookedeyo I'm with you! 37+5 now and someone asked me this morning if I'm just going to work until my contractions are 5 mins apart (she has 3 kids and is super sweet). I said yes, I'm not wasting any time at home without my baby even though I'd love to just stay in bed some mornings. I feel great generally, despite a few minor aches and pains. I just want to see what his little face looks like!
Re: FFFC 7/28
Confession two: I have ZERO patience left for nonsense. I'm sure people are going wow she's hormonal but I'm really just sick of all the stupid that keeps gravitating toward me. No it's not twins. No I'm not going to go into labor at the grocery store. Yes I'm tired. Yep im huge. No I haven't had this baby yet. How about a "hey, how are you doing?". Asshats.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
My confession: I totally peed my pants in public yesterday. I nearly ran out of gas on the way home, and when I was pumping the gas, I suddenly had to pee so bad, I was pacing while my talk filled up. I went into the gas station, and started peeing the second I got to the bathroom, before I got to the toilet. I checked myself out in the mirror afterwards, and there was definitely a puddle around my crotch. Luckily I was going home.
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
For my fffc it's dumb, but I'm just annoyed. I know I've mentioned my in laws being over the top with gifts and it makes me uncomfortable. MIL kept asking what we needed, but other than diapers and wipes, we really have everything. We bought a travel system that I found a great deal on because I'm frugal. I finally told her she could get us a lillebaby 6 in 1 when I found it on sale just so she could get something for baby. Well, yesterday she texts and asks me if we have a dockatot. I tell her no, they're too expensive. I'm thinking to myself we also don't need it. We have a mini and full sized pack and play, a crib, and a swing/bouncer combo. Our house isone story so it's not like I need all these things to put baby in. We have coslept with DS, but not till he was 9 or 10 months old at which point he was definitely too big for something like that. Her daughter got one because another family member (who she works for) swears by hers. SIL puts it in the halo bassinet and baby sleeps there. I don't think ours will fit in the pack and play, nor does it need to. I just am super uncomfortable with it and don't need or want it. I'd rather she spent her money on something else or save for retirement.
I known I am a grown adult but sometimes people don't take me seriously because I look younger than I am. My mom is a shark and can get more out of people than anyone I know. It's amazing. We bought a car this weekend and I was missing a couple documents for my records. I called multiple times, multiple people, for several days. No responses. My mom stops into the dealership and walked out with everything I needed.
You're never too old to need your momma.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
BUT- his illness means he's been sleeping in the other bed.
Sleeping alone right now is sooooo awesome. I'm sprawling all over the mattress with abandon.
ETA: he sets alarms starting at 5am and does t even move when they go off. I'm pretty sure the neighbors can hear them so if he's not waking up to them, I can't help that.
My FFFC - I am a teacher and I'm hiding all my favorite school supplies/stuff from my sub. Obviously not items that are owned by the school. But I have favorite markers, pens, etc. that I purchase. They are all getting locked up!
My FFFC: I made myself a turkey and cheese sandwich yesterday and didn't heat up the cold cuts. It was the most delicious thing I've eaten in nearly 9 months!
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
I very much side eye my sister that has four kids because she was induced around 38 wks with her first three kids and 39 wks with her fourth (law had changed) just because she wanted to be done. What about the well being of your children? If they come on their own, I have zero issues but forcing a baby to come early for your own sake, just no!
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
@spotconlon good for you! I have had so many bad experiences with buying/leasing cars. I've basically given up. The last time DH and I went car shopping I was treated terribly by the Toyota salesman. I had so many questions about the car I was test driving but he basically ignored all of my questions and made me feel so dumb. I don't even think he made eye contact with me. I wrote Toyota a nice letter and told them that my experience at that dealership was so terrible that I would never buy a Toyota ever again (I had an old Avalon previously that I loved, and everyone in my family drives a Toyota) We had a much better experience at the Honda dealer down the street but it was nice to have DH there to negotiate the price and get free oil changes for me.
@Nxy I have no patience for anyone!!! I told DH that for the sake of my career I think it's best that I start working from home until I deliver. I'm a b*tch to everyone at work and seriously just need people to stay out of my face!!!
My confession is is that I fully intend on doing nothing at work today, nothing all weekend, and faking my way through next week. I have lost all motivation at work and give zero sh*ts.
@Nxy Agree - I might be uncomfortable and say "I'm ready" but that doesn't mean I actually want the baby to come yet.
My FFFC: I'm doing all of the things to try to get baby to drop (walking, pelvic tilts, bouncing on a birthing ball, etc.). I don't care if they're old wives' tales - it makes me feel slightly more in control of my body. I'm having a ton of rib pain in my back and I'd love some relief. I know I'll be trading it for pelvic pressure/pain but I can't sit for more than half an hour without some serious pain right now.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
@kvh22 I hope you lawyer is either really young or really old. That is so funny that they wondered if you were still allowed to drive. I am surprised a yoga instructor would feel that way, I would think they would encourage being active until the very end.
I'm in your work boat. I have the very real first world problem of having an employer who's not giving me work I can't finish (so nice of them) which is... resulting me in being bored off my ass. I've wrapped up nearly all my projects and trained a person for my recurring responsibilities so... Yesterday I worked maybe 2 of 8 hours? And spent the remaining 6 watching TV with my laptop open just in case I had an e-mail or instant message. I had a few meetings today but it's still like maybe 4 hours of actual work out of the 8 I'm on the clock. My Little Miss Work Ethic side feels bad but the pregnant side gives zero fucks.
I am having a lot of pelvic/back pain sitting in the normal work environment and commute, but I am so bad at working from home it is going to be an interesting balance these next few weeks.
DD#1: 5/29/12
DD#2: 1/14/15
Baby #3 on the way due 8/19/17
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
My FFFC is I still wish I was in August and complaining about going full term. Even though my November baby is on the way, I still struggle with the idea that mine won't be here in a few weeks. When people remark that it's great that I'm not super pregnant in summer, and I feel 0% bad telling them I lost a baby due in August. Hopefully they will speak more carefully with the next woman. Anyway, it has been fun to lurk occasionally and see how all of you ladies and babies are doing!
@Kudlica I am the same. I even bought extra school supplies for super cheap to sell to the kids who don't have them because I don't want them getting used to borrowing my stuff when I'm there and having it disappear when I'm gone. Rulers and scissors will be locked up!
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility