This might get little long but bear with me cause I could really use some tips or advice. When my DH and I decided to start trying we had agreed that he would plan to be a stay at home Dad, or at least cover daytime childcare. His job is contract in nature and occurs mostly in the evenings or on weekends, while mine is a rather standard full time job and provides our health benefits. While we're not opposed to daycare, the costs would entail either he switches jobs or we take out a loan from our parents (who all live out of state). Either way the daycare discussion seemed unnecessary, since he seemed genuinely happy about the prospect of being the primary care giver.
Jump to today. I am due in October and we are now beginning to meet with pediatricians. While meeting one yesterday, they inquired about our childcare plans. I smiled and looked at DH, who hesitantly and with not much enthusiasm said "I think I am". Now to be fair DH is a rather shy person who tends to be very quite around new people. Regardless though I was sort of shocked. While it had been a little while since we had discussed it, he had not hinted that he was having second thoughts, or was unhappy with the planned arrangement. When we got home I asked if he was having second thoughts about staying home and he said he was still good with the arrangements. When I asked about the response specifically he said "Well just cause I'm staying home doesn't mean I'm going to be good at it." I know I should have tried to keep the discussion going, past reassurances that I thought he'd be great, but I was so surprised that I didn't quite know what to say.
Do any of you out there have any recommendations or advice on how to boost DH's confidence? Any books, blogs, or online Dad groups that might be helpful? I truly and honestly believe he will be a great Dad and very good at all of this, but equally googling "nervous stay at home dad" brought me to numerous articles about depression in stay at home dads (google honestly needs a positive response filter). Maybe I'm overreacting, or maybe once the baby's here and he gets into the swing of it we'll be fine, but at the moment I'm not quite sure what to do, if anything. Thanks for any help you all can give.