UO 7/27

Nxy

It's Thursday again, that means it's time for some unpopular opinions! 

SpotConlon

I kind of hate how a sports-themed fabric gets tossed into baby boy sets of stuff. Here's a solid color, some stripes, some chevron, and randomly baseballs. It might be that I'm just not that into sports, but I never buy a pack of something for the sports equipment print. 

morgy_bee

@SpotConlon I completely agree and refuse to buy it. 

I love having visitors when I have babies. I get so bored being by myself and love having people over to love on my baby. No one ever takes advantage of it or does things to annoy me. I asked my pediatrician about it with DD and he said just to watch out for the toddlers that will sneeze on the baby. Everyone else is fine lol. 

littlebug2010

@SpotConlon I hate the sport stuff as well.  DH and I are not sporty, but DH does like to play soccer, and hes a runner, so I have looked for things more related to that, however, we really havent found anything. We did get one jersey for our local football team (Patriots), but I truly do not care about football.  Ill probably put the onesie on him once, take a photo and he will never wear it again.  

Nxy

@SpotConlon me too! DH is a huge "car guy" and I just assumed there would be more sets with little cars on them but mostly it's been sports crap and fire trucks.

and_peggy

@Nxy don't forget tools. If I get another onesie with a jackhammer, I'm going to lose it.

DeansGirl14

The gendered patterns (sports, tools, etc) technically bother me too, as girls can be just as interested in that stuff. But, I'm a hypocrite who's going to dress my girl in pinks and ruffles. Because the really girly stuff is just too damn cute for words. 

smallbutmighty77

I just got a robot sleeper for my DD...i love some of those patterns and they are always on the boys stuff. I did find a 'girly' dino onesie so got that asap. DH likes the space/ alien/ robot/ monster stuff and all of it is on the boys stuff and only in boy colors! Let's mix it up people! I also got a pink onesie that says 'don't call me princess, call me President' but I would love less girly patterns in still girl colors or ruffle.

emmeline714

Girl's clothes have girly stuff and that is why I refuse the color pink. The surprise baby shower my mom threw for us that is what I mostly got for clothes. So much Pink that I now dislike the color but since she got like over 100 outfits I refuse to go exchange them because at this point I don't even want to leave to go grocery shopping. 

lewliv

DeansGirl14 said:

The gendered patterns (sports, tools, etc) technically bother me too, as girls can be just as interested in that stuff. But, I'm a hypocrite who's going to dress my girl in pinks and ruffles. Because the really girly stuff is just too damn cute for words. 

+1 for being a hypocrite!
I'm team green and one of the reasons is that I don't want my baby to have a heavy gender specific wardrobe but yesterday I was at Nordstrom Rack and had to buy this dress! If I have a boy I'll give it to my niece. 

DeansGirl14

@lewliv
That dress is adorable and I'm a friggin' sucker for Kate Spade. I'm going to pretend I didn't see that and I'm also going to try very hard now not to stalk the KS website sale page and buy little moto jackets and tutus. Damnit. 

ETA: who was I kidding, I went to the KS website. So much baby/toddler cuteness. 

littlebug2010

+1 to being a hypocrite, if I had had a girl.  However, I made it pretty clear that the nursery would be exactly the same as it is now if this kid had been a girl.  I also kept telling DH about all the alien/nerdy stuff that our little girl would have had.  I have no problem shopping in both sections for clothes, but I draw the line a ruffles on my boy.  My mom really wanted me to have a girl, and she kept looking at the ruffle butt diaper covers, and wanted me to get them for him.  There was no way that was going to happen! 

SpotConlon

I always see ads for Princess Awesome dresses on my Facebook. It's a little on the spendier side (I am a cheapskate), but I like that it's dresses with dinosaurs and rockets and stuff.

DeansGirl14

SpotConlon said:

I always see ads for Princess Awesome dresses on my Facebook. It's a little on the spendier side (I am a cheapskate), but I like that it's dresses with dinosaurs and rockets and stuff.

These are so great! I agree it's a little pricey for kids that grow so quickly but I love the intent. 
Pinned it to Pinterest so I don't forget. 

PinkPrincessPiper

I will admit that I dress Piper in very girly clothes, but it's because I'd been shopping for boy's clothes for almost 10 years before she came along! 

In all seriousness though, I dressed DS2 in typical boy clothes with fire trucks and dinosaurs, and it certainly didn't effect his choice to pick more "girly" things as he got older. He's still not even to the age where he cares too much about his clothes, but he definitely chooses tv shows/movies aimed for girls, and would rather color my little pony art than play sports.

My point is that what we dress our babies in doesn't seem to have much impact on their perceived gender as they grow into their own. Thank goodness for that.  

PinkPrincessPiper

Also, my UO: It doesn't matter what gender you identify with. If you want to serve and defend this country, you should have every right too. 

re-worded for clarity 

Nxy

My dislike of the sports stuff has less to do with gender or anything like that and more to do with really not being into sports lol

knottie0d8cc4d43bacc09f

It's funny I bought all these super cute dresses and onesies for DD, and since she's been home she lives in about three different Kimono style tops that are super easy to put on and off. I quickly stopped caring about what she was wearing when I was changing her so often!  I'm sure once she gets a little older I will start putting her and all those cute outfits

SouthernMama15

@secicc12 I love those kimono tops. That's what they put DS in at the hospital and I bought some this time for LO. 

SouthernMama15

The kimono thing makes me think,  I actually hate onesies. I know they are necessary when they are little, especially in winter to keep tummies covered, but I prefer rompers or t shirts. The bigger and wigglier DS got, the more I hated onesies, especially in the car. They caused his diaper to scrunch up and he would leak. As soon as I stopped putting him in onesies, I noticed the leaking stopped.  He's always been in bigger sizes as he's a big boy, now in 3T/4T at just over 2 so he outgrew them, but when I see pics of babies from my last BMB at 2 wearing them I cringe. DS is a pain to change as it is and I can't imagine that extra step of trying to snap those. 

shyviolet-2

I was amazed at how soon DS showed a preference for "boy" things.  As much as we tried to give a balance of toys he always gravitated to the car and truck toys.  At 18 months he pulled a fire truck shirt out of the laundry and has had strong opinions about his clothes ever sense.  And at the same time we have a lot of friends with little girls who refuse to go without a tutu or dress on.  

and_peggy

Let me ruffle some feathers by saying the pink starbursts are disgusting. If friendships were based on this, I'd be even lonelier.

littlebug2010

@aehogan90 we can be BFFs!  I HATE the pink ones.  Im all about red and yellow! 

and_peggy

shyviolet said:

I was amazed at how soon DS showed a preference for "boy" things.  As much as we tried to give a balance of toys he always gravitated to the car and truck toys.  At 18 months he pulled a fire truck shirt out of the laundry and has had strong opinions about his clothes ever sense.  And at the same time we have a lot of friends with little girls who refuse to go without a tutu or dress on.  

Isn't it so interesting?! My daughter is 15 months but has been loud, rough, and wild from the beginning. We have a wide range of toys that she plays with. She loves being outside, playing in the dirt, throwing and kicking things, etc. Within the past 2 weeks or so, she has decided to carry her baby doll around everywhere. It's SO sweet because she'll push the baby in the stroller, put her in the swing...but I certainly didn't encourage it over any other toy. Hoping she will be sweet like that to her brother. But it also proves that kids are the way they are biologically, from birth (even beyond the gender/sex topic), and that it's probably a lot more of the biological makeup than environmental (even though I know environment plays a role too). DD will be a tomboy, i'm sure.

kvh22

My UO is I HATE pink. We're team green which has just always been what I wanted but one plus I see to that is no pink until after the baby is born if it's a girl. We do, on the other hand, love the sports stuff so I have burp cloth sets and things with baseballs and footballs already. I have a super tiny newborn onesie that says "little slugger" that I gave to DH when I told him we were pregnant and if this LO comes out small, I might use that as the coming home outfit, even if we have a girl. I'm hypocritical in that I think girls can wear boy things but not the other way around (although toys are fair game). DH has said he's raising a boy either way - I know he'll love a daughter so much and she'd have him wrapped around her finger but he is at a loss with anything remotely girly. I think it's great he wants to play sports and all that with either gender (I do, too).

and_peggy

@littlebug2010 I could sit here and eat an entire bag of red ones. Those are the best!

imwithbaby

@aehogan90 YES red starburst for life

DeansGirl14

@kvh22 DH was hoping we'd have a boy because he had grand visions of taking a son to baseball and football games. I told him, even before we knew we were having a girl, that he could do those exact activities with a girl too. As soon as we found out this baby was a girl he immediately got on board with grand visions of spending Sundays watching football with his daughter. It's sweet. (That also means if they watch sports together I get "me time" because I don't really watch sports on TV!) We were gifted tons of local sports team onesies for her too. 

I love pink starburst! Actually I love all starburst. Now I crave starburst. 

littlebug2010

@kvh22 your UO is funny, becuase its the complete opposite of my mother.  She LOVES pink, way too much.  When I was born, I was always in pink, bows attached to my head, etc.  But as I got older, I gravitated towards blues and greens for color, and refused to wear dresses for a long time.  I wasnt a tom boy, but I wasnt the girly girl my mom hoped for.  My sister is way more girly, but she is so much like my mother, that a lot of the time, they dont get along! I feel like kids do what they want, even if the parent tries to get them to do the opposite! 

cmmiller531

I'm definitely a pink and ruffles type for this girl and she has some super cute name brand outfits (DH's cousin got her some Kate Spade outfits) and they'll be fabulous for photos but otherwise I've just gotten onesies or tshirts with little shorts or leggings (I did refuse to buy anything that said "cutie" or anything like that -- makes me uncomfortable for some reason). We bought pretty much anything if it had a dog on it or pertained to puppies lol We did also find girl's dinosaur tops and PJ's so my DH grabbed those immediately (he genuinely loves himself a dinosaur lol). I personally CAN be girly and I do enjoy it from time to time, but sometimes you just can't beat a comfy tshirt and jeans or leggings. If she wants to stray away from pink and ruffles as she gets older then so be it as long as it's not low cut v necks and short shorts we're solid haha. I went through a phase where I refused to wear skirts or dresses and I wore the same old navy sweatshirt every day. Wasn't a tom boy by any means just learning to be comfortable in my own skin. It took me until college/adulthood to get there. 

kvh22

@DeansGirl14 Glad your DH realized he can watch sports with his daughter Some of my best memories with my dad growing up are going to Red Sox and Bruins games. He would take me and my older brother on our own in equal proportion which I give him serious credit for.

@littlebug2010 100% yes to this. It amazes me how different I am from my mom and my sister, but the 3 of us are so close so it's great at the same time. Despite hating pink, I'm a lot more girly than them, but I'm also more of a tomboy than either of them, too. They don't care about clothes/hair/makeup...or sports...like I do. I always wanted to wear dresses (never pink) and play with the boys at the same time. My mom didn't know what to do with me. I actually think I hate pink because it looks godawful on me (red hair with slightly pink undertones in my skin). Anyways, to your point, I will probably end up with a daughter who loves pink . At least the odds are she'll look like my husband (tan with dark features) so pink will actually look good on her.

tova24

I love popping pimples. I know it's gross, but it's just so satisfying!!!

bumpybump

Re: Clothes geared at one gender or the other
I've been pleasantly surprised with Carter's/Oshkosh and how much dinosaur stuff they have for girls. DD has multiple dinosaur shirts from there. She also wants to wear her "Dino Expert" shirt every day which we bought at a Children's Museum. We also had a space shirt from Oshkosh that she out grew. Yet, she says her favorite color is pink and blue is for boys. We have not ever told her this so she must just naturally pick it up when we are out and about?