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TFAS - week of 7/17
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Due to previous discussions, this thread will now be a weekly check-in!
***This is a check-in for those with babies/children at home. If you are having a hard TTC day or TTCAL day this post may mention children or issues specifically related to parenting or babies. Pregnancy may also be mentioned. Please feel free to lurk at your own discretion.***
What number are you trying for?
Cycle/Month?
WTO/TWW?
Ages of other child(ren)?
Any thoughts about this cycle?
Any questions?
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
***This is a check-in for those with babies/children at home. If you are having a hard TTC day or TTCAL day this post may mention children or issues specifically related to parenting or babies. Pregnancy may also be mentioned. Please feel free to lurk at your own discretion.***
What number are you trying for?
Cycle/Month?
WTO/TWW?
Ages of other child(ren)?
Any thoughts about this cycle?
Any questions?
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
Re: TFAS - week of 7/17
Cycle/Month? 8/7
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? DS is almost 2.5, DD is 9 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? Meh. Like every month, I know the timing was right and I got really hopeful, but I just don't feel it now. I could test tomorrow but I know I'll just be disappointed and I'm not sure I want to deal with that. I start IF testing as soon as my period appears, so at least there's a plan in place.
Any questions?
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
At heart I still feel like a college student, ha (though my hangovers now last two days), but there was a definite I'M AN ADULT moment a few years ago. DH and I were having a house renovated, and we jumped into the project only a few months into our relationship. Prior to him I'd been living out the remainder of my wild-ish days and not even thinking about home ownership. I remember standing in a granite warehouse, looking at hundreds of slabs of rock, trying to decide which one I wanted for our countertops. It was exactly then that I was like "woah, adults pick out granite countertops. I think I'm an adult."
Cycle/Month 1/1
WTO/TWW. WTO literally.
Ages of other children? 5,3,11 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? Since I just weaned my son this past week, I'm not sure if I'll actually ovulate this cycle. FIngers crossed.If I'm not fertile this cycle, I'm hoping full fertility will come back next cycle. Also, my thoughts range from, "I'm totally ready for another baby, let's do this!" to , "Am I really ready??". Since my last 2 kids took 6 months+, we're starting a little bit earlier.
Any Questions: Yes, how do I handle the annoying people who make assumptions about my family?I have two girls and then a boy and this is what I get all the time. "Good thing you got your boy! Now you can be done!" Um. No. Having a boy was not the end goal.
GTKY: Adulting. Buying our first house REALLY made me feel like an adult.
@kmalls Ha! That's funny I just read your response after I'd typed mine.
What number are you trying for? 2nd biological and 4th overall
Cycle/Month? 2/2
WTO/TWW? In limbo I believe I O'd two days ago but to early for FF CH's
Ages of other child(ren)? Almost 19, 15, and 2.5
Any thoughts about this cycle? Timing was good if I O'd when I think. If we are not successful this month though I'm going to have to start setting my alarm to temp. Temping is hard with a 2y.o. that wakes me at various times.
Any questions? Nothing comes to mind
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
I think for me it was getting married. Not because of the actual act of getting married but the getting married, and starting to help DH with raise his teenage/almost teenage children.
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
Tickers
#2
Cycle/Month?
5/7
WTO/TWW?
TWW, I'm not charting this month, but CM would indicate ovulated yesterday or the day before.
Ages of other children?
DS will be two on Sunday!
Any thoughts about this cycle?
We're benched until AF, which I think is actually coming on time- very happy about that! When I went off BC to TTC#1 it took 4 months to get regular cycles.
Any questions?
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
Probably moving out of my mothers house into DF's terrible bachelor pad with 2 other roommates (sounded like a great idea at the time) and then moving into our own apartment 3 months later.
@kmalls - FX this is your cycle, but if it isn't at least you have a plan for moving forward. **Creepy internet hugs**
@cm716 - Congrats on weaning your son last week. FX you ovulate!
@kindbytealikat - FX you O'd a couple of days ago!
@acunamatada - Yay for your cycle being on time!
Cycle/Month? 5/3
WTO/TWW? WTO, and waiting for AF to GTFO.
Ages of other child(ren)? 18 month.
Any thoughts about this cycle? We'll see. I'm a little nervous about how light my flow has been and my relatively short LP last cycle. I think the prolactin from breastfeeding is messing with my progesterone levels. I really really don't want to forcibly wean DD. It looked for awhile like she was weaning herself and I was taking the "don't offer, don't refuse" approach. But now 2 year molars are coming in and she wants to be attached to my boob constantly.
Any questions? Not at the moment.
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
I think it was when I moved into my apartment in residency and started having to pay regular bills and repay my student loans. When I was in school, I was in an apartment, but it was subsidized housing for students so very different.
Married DH: 2013
DD: Dec 2015
BFP 8/14/17 --> Due 4/27/2018
Cycle/Month? 1/1
WTO/TWW? TWW- 8DPO
Ages of other child(ren)? DS turned 3 in May
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm trying not to get my hopes up. I had a slight temp dip today, but I also temped really early this morning compared to the rest of my days.
Any questions? None. Just tell me I'll survive the 14 hour drive with DS today. He's been a handful today.
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!" When I put the down payment on our condo. I had never written a check for that much money before.
Also, as a kid I hated when my parents dragged me to look at model homes and now that's something I love to do!
@kmalls I'm sorry you're feeling down.
@cm716 I'm not looking forward to potential gender comments. There hasn't been a girl born in DH's family in a long time and MIL is the worst with the gender comments. How is three going for your LO? I feel like it is really challenging for us.
@kindbytealikat Welcome!
@acunamatada happy birthday to your DS!
@ChloandCoco Have your tried a wet brush? One of my friends uses one for her LO with curly hair.
@fishsticks-n-custard student loans might be the worst part of being an adult.
RE the gender comments. I'm actually not planning on finding out the gender when I get pregnant this time like I have the other previous times. I told my husband if he wanted to find out he could but we're not going to tell anybody that he knows. I'm hoping it will keep some of those comments at bay.
Cycle/Month? 4/4
WTO/TWW? tww
Ages of other child(ren)? 8& 5
Any thoughts about this cycle?
Getting discouraged. 5 year old was not planned (I was on BCP), and it seemed to happen so easily. (8yo is my step son). I wrongly assumed it'd be a short experience to get KU this time, and it's starting to get difficult to keep telling well meaning family "nope, hasn't happened yet". Got a lecture from my mom about how when I get KU i'll have to stop eating sushi... well mom, I'm not there yet, so I'm gunna continue to enjoy it with a couple glasses of wine. I wanted to give her the finger.
Any questions?
Been feeling fullness/pain similar to O-pain for a solid 5 days after O. It was really bad 4DPO, and is tapering off. Any one else experience this? Any one have thoughts on this?
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
I was living on my own by 18 and married by 20, so I don't really have that defining moment.
Married April 1st 2017
DS #1: May 2009
DS #2: Jan 2012
Cycle/Month? Cycle 21 I think?
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? DS is 2.5
Any thoughts about this cycle? This is our 2nd IUI cycle. I'm feeling extremely overwhelmed lately and have been sticking to hanging out with my friends/family who are either done having kids or only have 1 still. That eliminates a LARGE number of people in my social circle since most of my mom friends who have kids around my son's age either have their 2nd already or are pregnant. The ever-growing age gap is really getting to me too. And honestly it's a bit depressing to look on this board and realize how long I've been TFAS. I couldn't even dip my toe into the discussion from last week's thread because I'm already overwhelmed, but the part of me that's been dealing with feeling sad over DS not having a sibling anywhere close to his age really needs this board to commiserate. Sometimes it does get to me though to realize how long it's been since I re-introed here and how many cycles we've gone through. I had super high hopes that last cycle's IUI would be successful, so I know I'm riding the disappointment of that. I'm hoping that I can find some hope as this cycle continues. We are also opening the door to look into adoption as well so I'm looking forward to finding out more information about that.
Any questions?
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!" When DH and I paid off all of our debt the first year in our marriage! That was a good feeling.
@cm716 People really make annoying comments no matter what stage your family is in, I wish I had an answer for you and me. People have been asking us when we're having another for over a year now. I want to put a post-it on my forehead that says WE'RE WORKING ON IT - DON'T ASK ME.
@fishsticks-n-custard Deciding whether or not to wean DS was a really hard decision for me too. I decided to not offer and instead see if he would continue to ask for it. He did, up until he pretty much weaned himself. He cut down his own feedings and by 20 months, he wanted nothing to do with nursing anymore. It's a tough call to make, I understand.
Cycle/Month? 1/1
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 9 months.
Any thoughts about this cycle? Just geatful beyond belief to be here again.
GTKY? You'd think it would be something like getting married, or having my son, or maybe turning 30. Nope. It was very recent. For the first time in my life I folded a fitted sheet correctly. It was all smooth and pretty, in a perfect little rectangle, and I looked at it and thought: "Well. I just got my adult card."
@cm716 - FX for O this cycle. Yes to the annoying people comments! I have 3 boys so I get comments all the time about how I better have another so I can get a girl.
@kindbytealikat - Teenagers
@acunamatada - Happy Birthday to your DS! Two is a fun age
@ChloandCoco - When do you find out for sure about your DH's trip?
@fishsticks-n-custard - Teetheing (sp?) can be rough. Hopefully hers come in quickly and she goes back to weaning herself and your cycle sorts itself out soon.
@mileswithmyles - Hope your drive went well
@AliW220 - No one knows we are trying because I hate those nagging comments... I would have been tempted to give the finger too.
@travelingcouple - I am so sorry that you have been feeling so overwhelmed. I get you with the post its. I think I'd be covered in them after responding to all the comments - why can't people just keep their comments to themselves
@_darth - I will never be an adult in that area. My flat sheet folding skills are a hot mess!
What number are you trying for? 4
Cycle/Month? 1/1
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 10, 5, 3
Any thoughts about this cycle? Not really - it is my first off of BCP for a long time so I don't really know what to expect. Just temping and taking it day by day
Any questions? no
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!" Probably when I had to start paying my bills and I was living on my own.
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month? 3/3 after a couple losses
WTO/TWW? WTO... probable O yesterday though
Ages of other child(ren)? 4.5
Any thoughts about this cycle? O just happened and I already feel like it won't be our cycle. Even with great timing! Lol. Such a pessimist.
Any questions? Nope
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!" Probably when we bought our house. We moved in together, before being engaged, into my grams house that was sitting empty. But didn't deal with 'house stuff'. That responsibility is serious lol.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
Cycle/Month? 6/4
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 6 dd, 4 DS
Any thoughts about this cycle? Timing was great. I am trying to not get my hopes too high.
Any questions? None
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!" TW Honestly, a few months ago, during my brother's funeral, I couldn't get over the fact I was the responsible adult the funeral directors we're going to with important stuff. End TW
@cm716, we have gotten the boy/girl, you must be done comments a lot. I an certain we will shock a lot of people when we get pregnant too, since DD and ds are less than 2 years apart and this one will be significantly younger.
@travelingcouple, big creepy hugs...if you adopt, will you foster first? We had full intentions to adopt our 3rd child, we had planned to try and foster. But I didn't feel I could emotionally handle it after losing my brother, so now we are obviously TTC, I am not shunning the idea yet, considering I am not sure what lengths DH and I are willing to go to if clomid doesn't work. FX for you this cycle. While we didn't do an IUI, I just knew in my heart we would get pregnant on the first clomid cycle, obviously I didn't.
@_darth, I have never attempted to fold a fitted sheet. I roll them quite nicely.
DS: born oct 2012
TFAS: BFP #1 aug16. miscarriage sept16
BFP #2 nov16 MMC dec16. d&c jan17
BFP #3 sept17 EDD 5/31/18
fingers crossed for our rainbow baby
@kmalls I'm sorry you're to the point of testing, it sucks. I've cried at a few appointments just because I was there. I was getting bloodwork for the 3rd time that week or an ultrasound to check for follicles. It's overwhelming for sure but you got this. At least it's a step in the right direction!!
@acunamatada happy birthday to your son!
@mileswithmyles girl that's a long ride for anyone!! Good luck!!
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month? I think we're at 14/13 at this point. Cycle 15 seems to be coming in hot though
WTO/TWW? TWW/WFAF?
Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5 year old son
Any thoughts about this cycle? I was suuuuuuper hopeful that since my HSG cleared my tubes that this would be it. I started spotting over the weekend (at 8dpo which is like my motto, i did spot with my son but not until about 11/12dpo) so I'm just pissed. I'm on progrsterone bc as per the Re's office "there's implantation bleeding so you just never know." Insert eye roll.
Pregnancy announcements popping up left and right and none of them are ours. I'm with @TravelingCouple and just keep thinking ok, now they'll be 3 years apart, now almost 3.5 and it just hurts. I want him to have someone so bad.
So we will be moving onto IUI this month so we will get that ball rolling whenever AF decides to show. Unfortunately I'm being monitored so I still need to go in for bloodwork Wednesday as a pregnancy test. I hope I start my period before that bc I don't need to drive all the way down there and give blood to be told it's a negative.
Any questions?
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
Honestly...I don't even think I've had that moment yet lol
I mean I've done things...bought a house, paid off loans, been promoted, had a kid, wedding, etc...
but nothing has really done it yet. Maybe one day lol
(I'm not saying it was aliens... but it was aliens.)
@AliW220 we had the same situation with DS, and I am so stressed and anxious this time around! And my mom makes similar comments :eye roll: ugh
@holly321 so sorry for the loss of your brother
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month? 7/7
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? Almost 2!
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm not hopeful. o'd earlier than anticipated.
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
Taxes. The first time I did my own taxes. I loath this adult responsibility.
@50Wife we have very similar stories you and I. I remember you posting in another thread about your DS' birthday in Dec and my son is also Dec -Dec 21. My DH is Dec 23 so it's a busy busy week for us! I remember thinking after DS was born "we should try not to have another kid around Christmas..." Now I'd take twins on Christmas day, IDGAF. Funny how time skews things. I was hoping your hsg was it for you too.. Fx IUI is it. I'm trying to keep the hope for this cycle but it's hard.
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month? 6th cycle/month using OPKs. Been trying for over a year though overall.
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 3
Any thoughts about this cycle? Hopeful!
Any questions? Nope
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"
When DH and I bought our house last year. It was like, now we are responsible for all of this! Lol
What is this life
When I ovulated this year in April, it was a day off from when I ovulated when I got pregnant with him so I was all pumped like omg this has to be our month, it would be great timing. Ugh
I know you've got a lot going on lately, but we're all here for you...message me if you ever want to chat!
It sucks, and having that little one just getting older and older is a constant reminder of how long it's taking. I find myself comparing people I know that have kids 3.5 years apart and it's not as bad as I'm picturing. Yes, I obviously would have liked them closer, but I'm trying to just accept that I can't go back in time and this is what it's gonna be. At least we won't have 2 in diapers?
@kmalls sounds about right
I also have the age gap thing in the back of my head, plus complicated by my age and worrying that time may be running out. I'm so sorry for everything you're going through.
@kmalls Everything go smoothly this morning?
Married DH: 2013
DD: Dec 2015
BFP 8/14/17 --> Due 4/27/2018
...and then the moment we pulled back into our driveway, DS (2.5) dumped the entire bag of goldfish I had given him as a bribe to get out the door quickly alllllllll over his car seat. So our magically smooth morning went right back to normal quick AF.
That's awesome news! I swear everything I own is covered in a thin layer of goldfish dust.
Married DH: 2013
DD: Dec 2015
BFP 8/14/17 --> Due 4/27/2018
Re: age gaps -- I hate the thought that DSS will be at least 9 years older than any LO we have. He's great with babies and younger kids, but I also want him to be able to actually play with his sibling, not just take care of them before being a teenager and getting disinterested. I'm 24 and my oldest brother is in his late 30s, possibly early 40s at this point. We have an okay bond, but it's not great. I have a much closer bond to my younger-older brothers (one is 27, the other in his early 30s).
Re: gender comments -- Whenever people comment on us having a LO, they always say that we "have to have" a girl, because we already have a boy. As if the only way our family would be complete would be to have a little girl. I usually tell them that we'll be perfectly happy with whatever genitals a future LO ends up with, and not to be so concerned.
What number are you trying for? 2
Cycle/Month?
WTO/TWW? TTA for another month
Ages of other child(ren)? 8 years
Any thoughts about this cycle? Just glad to be off BCPs and charting! I'm probably going to end up temping vaginally from now on. My CPAP really seems to be screwing things up so far.
Any questions? None.
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!"? Paying my own bills, haha.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
What bamba looks like for anyone who doesn't know:
@izza2 If it makes you feel any better, my half sisters were teenagers when I was born and we still ended up being very close (despite the fact that my parents separated when I was a toddler and they lived with my dad, and I lived with my mom). The older one was an adult during the divorce proceedings and even ended up with her own visitation rights in the custody battle. So even when there's a big age gap, kids can still end up close depending on their personalities. I hope that story helps.
Married DH: 2013
DD: Dec 2015
BFP 8/14/17 --> Due 4/27/2018
What number are you trying for? #2
Cycle/Month? 1/1
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 20 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? just started trying this month so not optimistic
Any questions?
GTKY: What was the first event/moment that made you think "wow, I'm an adult!" I can't pinpoint a certain event, really I think it was recognizing the less-adulty-ness in some of my friends that made me think "wow I'm actually an adult"
@ChloandCoco I have curly hair and use either a wider tooth comb after a shower or they make detangling spray that works pretty well. my mom never knew what to do with my hair growing up so it was usually short!
@AliW220 funny you should mention about the fullness, I've been feeling the same way. I had some cramping but now I just feel full/bloated. not sure what it means but you're not alone!
age gaps - I have 2 younger siblings, 1 is 6 years younger and the other is almost 13 years younger. I can't say we were terribly close growing up but we are much closer now that we are older. The youngest one loves being an aunt and she's still a teenager
edit: forgot to tag!