Venting Board

mombump

Listen, I know it's a miracle. I love them (first pregnancy, and it's twins!) to bits already but let's be honest: some days,being pregnant just sucks. I know every pregnancy is different but we have more in common than our non pregnant counterparts, so... can we vent a little? 

So many sweet and well meaning friends keep telling me to hang in there, that it'll pass etc. I know. But right now I feel hungry, but nauseated, tired but more than well rested, awake but unable to focus on work. 

Some days I feel like I'm just waiting for bedtime to roll around so I can sleep through it all. And my partner is supportive but doesn't really know what to do (don't blame her). Giving myself permission to feel the rollercoaster experience this is right now... 

harpseal135

mombump said:

Listen, I know it's a miracle. I love them (first pregnancy, and it's twins!) to bits already but let's be honest: some days,being pregnant just sucks. I know every pregnancy is different but we have more in common than our non pregnant counterparts, so... can we vent a little? 

So many sweet and well meaning friends keep telling me to hang in there, that it'll pass etc. I know. But right now I feel hungry, but nauseated, tired but more than well rested, awake but unable to focus on work. 

Some days I feel like I'm just waiting for bedtime to roll around so I can sleep through it all. And my partner is supportive but doesn't really know what to do (don't blame her). Giving myself permission to feel the rollercoaster experience this is right now... 

Unfortunately, all we can do is suck it up.  If things are really bad, we can always talk to the doctor, but besides that, yes it is a rough course, but we just have to deal with it, as second and third tends not to be any better.  Once baby is born, well forget about everything  

magnolia305

I try to focus on the positives--I see the nausea as reassurance that everything is going ok. I also realize that right now (throughout pregnancy), is the easiest it will ever be to take care of this baby.  The time passes quickly, try to find a way to enjoy it 

mombump

Today was MUCH better and I will say that the hard days help me appreciate the easier days so much more. That being said, yesterday was particularly hard for me (I was also a bit sick on top of the pregnancy symptoms). Sometimes it's not really possible to "suck it up". Frankly, sometimes that's not even the most skillful response. We're all human and need permission to fall apart sometimes.

I am definitely grateful that everything is (mostly) going ok and I'm really looking forward to meeting them We even saw them on the ultrasound today which is always a very special experience *AND* pregnancy is still a hell of a biological experience. This is my first time and I'm pulling double duty to boot. I know that I'm not "special" and plenty of women have gone through this -- and I draw from everyone's strength -- but it's still my first rodeo.

Some days I'm riding that horse, and other days I'm hangin' on for dear life.